May-ish 2019 - thread 2!

[rosettesforjill]

Thought I'd get this started 7+5 for me today

@Dimblebimble I didn’t do the 12 week scan photo fb announcement with my first.
No issue with others doing them, I just didn’t want to.

I did reference it when we were away on holiday along the lines ‘the soon to be three of us are having a great time’ but I was over 6 months gone by then so I’m sure some people were a bit surprised as I was only just starting to show so previous fb photos hadn’t given it away.

Some more distant family found out that way and I know they commented to my mum about me not telling anyone which wasn’t the case at all.

Try not to worry, with regards to in-laws, maybe wait to see if they offer to have baby but with your mum I’d just say ‘I’d love you to have the same relationship you do with sisters kids so if you could have baby 1 day a week then we’d really appreciate it’.

It’s up to your mum to decide how she wants to handle things from that point on

@DimbleBimble don’t feel pressured into doing the Facebook announcement! I did it with my first two but won’t be doing it this time. In all honesty you’ll tell your nearest and dearest - does everyone else and their mother NEED to know your business - absolutely not! There is so much pressure in pregnancy you don’t need that stress, if you don’t want it! I was chuffed to do it the first time but I was 23, young and a bit inexperienced.
Hey you don’t actually have to tell anyone til you pop! Which Jenner sister did that? Worked for her haha

Good luck Sprinkleofsunshine.

Thank you @Pebblespony

@Dimblebimble we won't be doing a Facebook announcement. We didn't last time and i preferred it. Only people I saw regularly knew. I remember someone doing one and their baby had the same due date as the baby I'd just found out I'd lost and I felt awful and actively avoided this person from then on and I wouldn't want anyone to feel like that.

Ill add that I don't dislike other people's Facebook announcements now. I like seeing them and don't judge any one who does them at all it's just personally those are my reasons for not doing one.

12 week scan this morning - all looking well pending test results! Baby moving around loads in response to being wiggled and all the bits seemed to be in the right place 

That’s a lovely picture

Lovely picture rosettesforjill It’s so nice seeing them wriggling around on the screen.

Lovely picture @rosettesforjill and I hope you aren’t waiting long for results.

I’m not going to announce or say anything on Facebook at all.

Just got back from scan, didn't go so well. Baby is now 6mm but still no hb. They seem to think that extra 1.5mm growth could just be him not getting right measurements last week and so no difference. Confirmed mmc.

However, they can't advise me on next steps as the dr was in theatre and they need him to sign off because the measurements aren't exactly the same. He may order another scan. I've had bloods to check hcg, can go back for more Friday or another scan next week to confirm. I'm leaning towards final scan- I know it won't change anything but I just want to be 100% in my head there's been no growth or anything.

I'm so sorry to hear that @sprinkleofsunshine x

@sprinkleofsunshine sorry to hear this 

So sorry @sprinkleofsunshine

I’m so sorry @sprinkleofsunshine

Sorry you've had bad new @sprinkleofsunshine

I’m so sorry to hear your news @sprinkleofsunshine. Be kind to yourself!

I'm so glad it's not just me that's not keen to announce on Facebook ASAP. I might put something on there eventually, maybe after the 20 week scan when I'm more confident that everything's okay and we know the gender. But 12 weeks feels so early! And everyone who needs to know will already know.

My other fear is baby showers 😖 I'm not keen, I hate being the centre of attention and would rather people just come see the baby when it's here. But I know my sil are going to make me feel like some kinds of mutant freak for not wanting one 😂 if anyone organises me a surprise one after I say no I will go nuts!

Lovely picture @rosettesforjill 💕

I’m sorry @sprinkleofsunshine and I think I would ask for both repeat bloods and a scan in your position. You’ll probably be given three options - waiting, medical or surgical management. Really it should come down to what you prefer and want. If you opt for medical management, check whether there will be a wait until you can ttc again as methotrexate is often used.

Thanks so much everyone. I guess this just isn't our time. Hopefully the next one will be.

@SurfingOwl she's sent me away with a booklet to read about it but can't advise properly until spoken with dr. I think that's a good idea about both, I want to steer clear of general anaesthetic if I can & my hospital don't do a d&v under local so I think I'll opt for it to happen naturally. It's just knowing when it will happen I guess. I've had a previous mc not sure how far along I think a bit earlier than I am now but probably not my much and I don't remember it being too bad so here's hoping. Just annoyed all my symptoms are still there even peaking this week it seemed and seemingly for nothing 

I am so sorry.

Really sorry to read this @sprinkleofsunshine xx

@sprinkleofsunshine I'm so sorry, this is a truly awful thing to go through. Definitely have all the tests, as then you don't have to live with the uncertainty and at least you can make decisions knowing where you are.

@sprinkleofsunshine I am so sorry. I hope you get another scan so you can be totally sure. xxx