May-ish 2019 - thread 2!

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Thought I'd get this started 7+5 for me today

Hello everyone! 7+6 Here with first baby 🤰 horrible sickness so far, but I've bought some sea bands acupressure bands for morning sickness and the essential oils stick for morning sickness and have actually found a huge improvement so far! X

Probably placebo but I would literally try anything! X

Hey everyone! I’m 9+6, and 38! This is my third pregnancy, I’ve got one 3 year old and had a miscarriage about a year ago.

I’ve tried not to tell anyone until I have a viability scan on Friday, but both my mum guessed immediately when I went to see her last week when I bought alcohol free beer! And my friends did when we went out for dinner and I had a coke! I can’t lie at all so grudgingly admitted it. I know it’s just because they all care about me after what happened last time, but I do think it’s a bit rude to just blurt it out like that!

I’m going for a harmony test on Friday, first pregnancy I had very high downs risk so for peace of mind this time we’re going straight for it and not thinking about the crazy cost of it!

Last tome I had really bad PND and anxiety, and I feel like I’ve got pre natal anxiety, I’m just a wreck! I never wanted such a big age gap - DS will be almost 4. I’m worrying every day I’ve made a huge mistake. :(

Hope everyone is doing ok today.

Welcome @Shantotto and full understanding here on the anxiety and wanting peace of mind with the harmony test. Hopefully you’ll get reassuring results from it. I think that all age gaps have their pros and cons.

Hello to all the newcomers 👋

Just had my booking in appointment. Midwife phoned to arrange this morning and came at half 11! Scan is the 13th November but I have my early scan on Wednesday after the panic last week.

Explained to mw and she didn't seem too concerned about it so fx all ok. I was doing ok before and not too anxious but ever since last week I've been really bad. I don't know if it's the scab approaching but I'm really on edge now and keep thinking the worst. I think I still have a gut feeling all will be well but the anxiousness is clouding it. Does anyone feel the same?

@Shantotto I'm 38 too and this is my first! Wanted to say welcome to the group. I was kind of forced to tell someone last week (they wouldn't let it drop that I hadn't applied for a job that they thought I'd be interested in). I kept saying that it just wasn't the right time for me and she pushed until I told her I was pregnant to shut her up - she then asked if it was a wanted pregnancy - I can't believe that people would ask that!!

I had a scan on sat at 7+4 and we could see a heartbeat but not much else. We were meant to go next weekend but dh couldn't make it :( dh teared up and got all emotional and now I feel bad that I didn't, either time! I just felt relief the baby's there and okay but that's it. Is that weird?

@Dimblebimble I don't think that's weird at all. Everyone deals with it differently. Especially if you couldn't see much!

Out of interest as my scan will be when I'm 7+7, did you hear the heartbeat? Or do they just tell you it's flickering and it's there? That might be a silly question- first baby!

I don't really cry when I'm happy only when I'm sad. Don't cry at weddings, etc. Still, I felt like a cold hearted cow 😂

You could only see it, not hear it, on the two I've had so far. It looks like a glowing/flickering. They couldn't tell us bpm but she said she could tell us by watching it was healthy.

Welcome @Shantotto I hope all goes well for you and it sounds like you’re a lovely age gap, your little boy will be sufficiently self sufficient but also young enough to be interested and play with baby.

Please give your gp surgery a call though if you feel the PND Symptoms coming on and mention the high anxiety, they will see you sooner to support you through it.

@sprinckleofsunshine I’ve never heard the heartbeat at the scan, not sure if it’s just a film myth as I don’t think the equipment is set up for audio.
Only ever heard it on the Doppler at a MW appointment, it’s didferent in every area but my MW only started to listen in well after the 20wk scan.

Some will do it much sooner but a lot don’t like to as it can be tricky to find earlier on with a Doppler and they don’t lime to freak you out if they can help it.
I recorded it on my phone as a voice memo for my partner to hear and still have it now

Anyone have any experience of spotting after vomiting? I was sick today and spotting now

@shantotto welcome to the group. DD will be just be 3 just under 3 1/2 which was not our planned age gap. We’d been trying for 19 months, also had a miscarriage between DD and this pregnancy. I can fully understand the age gap worries and the anxiety.

@sprinkleofsunshine we heard babies heartbeat at our early scan. And last time we heard them at the NHS scans too. Also just to let you know when you count weeks and days it only goes up to 6. So 7+7 is actually 8 weeks. Sorry if you know that 🙈

Haha yes @MynameisJune that was a mistake I meant to say at my scan I will be 7+6

That's fab, I thought some people did. Fx we will get too also, I've been banging on to dh about it.

Just catching up after quite a while, have been busy sleeping and throwing up and just been through a bit of a hectic time at work, so not posted much recently!

I've had my booking in appointment and have scan at start of Nov (ages to wait!). Loving hearing about all the early scans and everyone who has seen babies and heartbeats.

@Dimblebimble I'm totally emotionless about it all but still managing to cry at photos of kittens and the cats Protection ad. Not bad given I'm a dog person.

@sprinkleofsunshine you've got a good chance of seeing a little flicker heartbeat at that point, but don't worry too much because sometimes they still can't see it that early on. Mine came up as 7w I think it was and there was a little flicker.

I found this table about caffeine on a useful website and thought it might come in handy for everyone.

How is everyone managing the anxiety? I've been having spotting and cramping. (I think it's due to constant coughing and vomiting. My pelvic floor feels trashed). I had an early scan and saw a heartbeat but im still so worried. I'm having constant nightmares about miscarriage. Anyone have any tips? This is my second, first one was textbook but I was quite anxious too.

Hello!! Newbie here
I'm 32 and currently 8+6 with my 4th baby.. currently have dd1 10, dd2 8 and ds who was 6 yesterday... Little bit worried about have such a big gap. Will be nice to chat to others in the same situation feel a bit lonely as all my friends have finished having babies lol

Welcome @Filouise There are six years between my sister and I, and we're such good friends as adults

I haven't been for an early scan, and I'm really contemplating a NIPT. My booking in isn't until next week, at 10+5. I am away at the end of the month with work, and am concerned I'll miss the cut off for combined screening. Plus, I'm 37 and massively worried. My results were like 1:300 for DD, and that was more than 2 years ago. My partner will go with my decision, but it's not like I have £4-500 just lying around.. I don't know that we'd go ahead with a pregnancy if there were abnormalities, and I've convinced myself after 2 chemical pregnancies that my egg reserve isn't up to a great standard 😔

Hi @filouise. My dc are 15, 13 and 16months so I’m with you on the big age gaps!

@mayago I’m 37 too and was told by my midwife at booking that my odds of having a trisomy were already 1:149 just because of my age. I was considering the NIPT too but my trust have just started offering them on the NHS- I’m dithering a bit because I could do without having to pay the £££ and also putting myself through the stress and worry. At the moment I’ve kind of talked myself into waiting to see if anything is flagged on the scan/bloods but it changes day to day.

8+1

I've been booked for another scan on Thursday. Only 8 weeks and this will be my third. More spotting today with cramping. I'm trying to stay positive but.....

@Pebblespony I'm also really struggling with the anxiety at the moment so if anyone doe have any tips I'm all ears! I haven't had any spotting but lots of cramping and uncomfortable feelings (which the rational part of my brain says is just stretching but that part isn't in charge all that often).
I had an early scan at 8weeks and have my 12week scan in 2 weeks but still want to book another for reassurance but DH is currently firmly against it and just wants to wait it out.
I'm going away for a long weekend in Europe on Saturday til Tuesday and I just want to know everything is ok before I leave.

Ah thanks for that @halfboodprincess and @mayago that makes me feel a bit better my youngest is desperate for a little brother so I'm hoping he'll be my little helper and not be too disappointed if it's a sister 😂.. I just can't believe how tired and drained I feel at the minute ive obviously completely forgotten what it was like in my other pregnancies 🙈

@pebblespony I've got my fingers crossed for you that everything at the scan is ok xx

How has everyone's tiredness been? I have read loads about extreme tiredness and with my m/c years ago I remember the feeling of being unable to keep my eyes open at work. I don't have that this time. I've napped and been tired, I have insomnia through the night now & then but I have such low energy, since 5 weeks most weekends I've just sat around and have so little energy to do anything. Is this what they mean by exhaustion? I thought it was tiredness that was the normal symptom.

@Pebblespony I hope your scan on Thursday gives you some further reassurance.