May-ish 2019 - thread 2!

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Thought I'd get this started 7+5 for me today

*one not a lot.

You don’t need loads your midwife should send you away with a lot at the end of each appointment so you can bring a sample in the next time.

You are going to be carrying wee around with you fairly often over the next few months

Oh ffs 🤦‍♀️

I've lost track of topics/threads that I've been keeping an eye on, but I think this is the first time I've seen this one! I'm 32 and currently 8+2 going by my dates (or 7+6 according to a scan I had a week ago) with our third child. I literally feel like
I'm on a rollercoaster of emotions, symptoms, moods, appetite/cravings etc! Every day is different! But in general I am incredibly exhausted (especially today, because my youngest is unwell and has had us up during the night!), hungry constantly, nauseous and tearful! I literally cried on Sunday, because my husband got me a warm sausage roll (I asked for something from the shop that was a warm pastry) and I didn't actually want it! 😂 I don't really eat pork and I think I'd just envisaged him getting me a cheese& onion or a chicken & mushroom pasty or something, so when he came out with the sausage roll I was disappointed and irritated and I ended up crying and then laughing at the same time, because I knew how ridiculous I was being. I started the pregnancy overweight and I have already gained weight from constant snacking and too many carbs- dreading my booking in appointment next week when they figure out my BMI 😱 x

@thatshabbychick DH bought me crisps the other day, just a small bag of salt and vinegar. I ate some but was too tired to finish them, so had a nap. When I woke up, I realised he'd been cleaning up and had thrown the packet away, thinking it was empty.

I cried and laughed, too, while he looked totally bemused.

@Firstbornunicorn they’ve never asked DH to leave to ask me that question and have just done so in front of him. My hospital has lots of red stickers in the female toilets though and instructions of putting them on your hand, notes or unrobe sample pot if you are experiencing domestic violence and they will then find a way to get you alone and bring it up.

I have a sore throat and earache today. Still it’s much better than being sick.

I was never asked if DH and I were related!

I do think it’s a good thing they ask, so many women are DV survivors and they can help them.

When DH went with me for a booking appointment the midwife just asked me when she showed me to the toilet to produce my urine sample. Quite subtle. I can't believe some actually ask in front of the partner, that totally misses the point and could put a woman in danger.

DV often escalates because of pregnancy as well so the earlier they can help someone to get support in pregnancy the better.

Had my follow up scan today. Everything looks ok. I cried. A lot.

Great news @Pebblespony

Great news @Pebblespony :-)

Great news @pebblespony can’t wait for my first appointment to make sure everything is ok

@mynameisjune yes very good they ask.

Great news @Pebblespony!

That's great news @Pebblespony

I was just asked if I felt safe at my booking in appointment. I was alone though as my partner was away for work at the time.

Wonderful @Pebblespony, relief for you x

Great news @Pebblespony

I've had my flu jab this morning so something else pregnancy related ticked off the list to keep me going til 22 Oct and the 12 week scan.

Also found out this morning a friend is pregnant and is less than a week ahead of me! The temptation to tell her is overwhelming but I know DH wants to keep quiet til after the scan on 22nd so I need to keep strong! The only people that know in real life are those I've had to tell like medical professionals, personal trainer and Pilates teacher. My boss also knows (albeit unofficially, I've not actually informed work) and DH will have to tell his boss at end of next week to get the time for the scan.

I think the secret keeping is causing almost as much anxiety as waiting for scan!

So happy to hear that @Pebblespony

Hi everyone! Can I join?

I'm 7w today and EDD is the 22nd May. This will be our first DC and I am bricking it! I'm not so much worried about when baby is here but actually getting that far in the first place, I'm driving myself mad thinking about MC rates and chances of MMC.

Nausea has been pretty bad and has definitely gotten worse over the last week, very heightened sense of smell and lots of food aversions. I haven't actually thrown up but I've definitely had a few almost moments and gag at the slightest whiff of something unpleasant (I.e. everything right now)

Is there a point when I can expect to relax? The concept of enjoying pregnancy seems so alien to me because of my nerves!

Hi @Patapouf
I'm 8 weeks today with our first and you've described exactly how I feel! I think I'm driving my husband mad looking up every symptom!
Any advice anyone?

The only advice is step away from Dr Google! It causes more unnecessary worry than it helps. And eat plenty chocolate- I always finds that helps me when I worried 😂

@Patapouf I am 40, and 7 weeks tomorrow with my first. I know the MC stats but trying to be positive as it's still more likely all will be fine than not, but I'm finding it hard not to be constantly bricking it, knowing that if this one fails, my time is running out.

sjr I am trying not to freak DH out as much and have kept it to 'we will know if it is viable and really happening at the dating scan' but I'm pretty sure he's had enough of me saying I feel sick every 2 Minutes

@UntilTheVeryEnd it's too late! The damage has been done haha. Every day I wake up and remind myself that I am still pregnant until I'm told otherwise and I know that statistically I am more likely not to MC than MC but that doesn't stop the niggly thoughts about the hundred things that can go wrong. The worst of it is that even after the 12 week scan I am probably just going to worry about everything else like defects, disabilities and dramatic labour!

@Floofsquidge I genuinely cannot even imagine how I could cope mentally with a MC and any subsequent pregnancy would be 1000x more fraught with worry I think. I get what you mean about time running out, I've been saying to DH for a couple of years that I didn't want to leave it too late but I'm only 27 (and partial to being overdramatic). Let's hope we don't have to worry about it not working out this time

@zoClueless are you just waiting for the 12 weeks scan? Is this your first?

I'm 7 weeks tomorrow this is my first, two very early losses/cp previously. We have decided to wait until the 12week scan, don't have a date or even booking in appointment yet so feels like ages away. Everyone seems to be having early scans and I was so tempted would be great to hear of anyone holding out until the 12week one?

@sprinkleofsunshine
I am 38 years old and 8+2 (using my calculations) and have had the first half of my booking appointment but no early scan for me - I try to avoid Google and just think that right now I am pregnant and I hope it stays that way - only time will tell - it's not easy to not overthink everything but I am trying

Has anyone seen the news today about the new morning sickness pill that's been made available on the NHS? It's called Xonvea I think.