May-ish 2019 - thread 2!

[rosettesforjill]

Thought I'd get this started 7+5 for me today

So I'm back from EPAS and thankfully baby is healthy and they could detect a heartbeat. Unfortunately there is a big clot right above the baby so I have a Subchorionic Hematoma. I will need to get regular scans to check to see if it has reduced in size and to monitor the baby as the clot is right above it. I'm pretty worried but thankful as it is the best outcome I could have hoped for today. Thank you for all your thoughts.

So glad baby is well @Mcdonald234!

Hey. Just joined mumsnet. I’m 20, and about 8+3 currently. Been given a rough due day of 11th May. I just want to say I can’t believe how chill and together people seem be on here I’m freaking out a little about everything!

Some days you make good choices and others not so good! Off on a half day today and went to the almighty Bravissimo for a new bra. Gone up a whole cup size! Saves having the boob job ;) two comfy bras. Amazing!

You lot wound me up about pizza sufficiently that I had to go to my local pizza place to get the supersize one so me and Bean can gorge on our first meal of the day. Eating for two ;)

Today, I made good life choices :D

@Kylieemilyj welcome! I'm actually bricking it but there's only so much you can worry before you have to give yourself a break. With a lot of this stuff you can worry all day and sadly it makes no difference. Congrats on your news

@frankiefumbles I guess that's true:) I just feel like everyone has it all together where as I'm all over the place with my emotions and feelings.

Congratulations @Kylieemilyj! I certainly don't have it all together

Is there anything specific that's worrying you?

@rosettesforjill thanks:) it's just everything, needles, losing friends, labour, the baby being okay, morning sickness, money, work, sorting my house out. I just feel really alone too

@macdonald234 So pleased there is a happy bean. At least you know why there was bleeding and it can be monitored now. How are you feeling?

@kylieemilyj I think most of us are freaking out. Have you told many people in real life?
xxx

@Kylieemilyj I promise you that we’ve all felt like that at some point. You’re not alone, well not on here anyway.

Have you got your booking in appointment sorted?
If you have a phobia of needles, takevto your midwife about it, they’ll be able to help.

Morning sickness can be really bad, but also you could have it fairly mild. If it’s bad, Make sure you see a doctor to see what they can give you to help, if it’s manageable then just eat what you can stomach, even if it’s not the healthiest just now (I’ve just eaten McDonald’s chips on the way home because I NEEEDED them 😋).

Money, well we all worry about that. This will be our second and we have a lot less in savings this time around and I’m quite honestly nervous of that for mat leave. Start saving what you can and baby’s don’t need expensive things, there are great second hand items and even brand new doesn’t have to cost a lot.

Nearly everything else can be worried about another day.

@Kylieemilyj I don't know whether this will make you feel better but I'm worried about all the above. I told my family because my mum is awesome but DH then told him parents (who are older!! I am 27 and he is 51 so his parents are at the wrong end of their 80s!) which I wasn't happy about - to put this in context, I had an mc last time and MIL said to DH that it was my fault!!!! Cheeky git. I know it's not true but now I'm worried she's keeping an eye on me. Thankfully she doesn't live locally but FIL on our Facebook. So when I found out I was pregnant this time it was five days after I'd officially announced we weren't trying again and we were leaving things to settle. I was so emotionally unprepared for doing this I vaguely hoped for another mc. Very strange.

Mum is wonderful with me and I have one good friend I have confided in who also had an mc and she is super. DH is totally useless (bless him) and reliably says the wrong thing at every opportunity. Personally I do spend a fair amount of time on mumsnet because it helps me feel less alone to have others going through stuff at the same time. I believe the fears are natural and normal x

The friends that stay with you are the ones worth keeping. If you lose a friend over a baby it doesn't say much for the friend?!

By the time you get to labour you'll be desperate to get the damn thing out of you. It's all very temporary and a means to an end.

Agree with everyone @MimiSunshine says, I would add that everything seems worse when you are tired so it's well worth trying to sort out some naps or early bedtimes. Growing a baby is hard work.

Hello to the new folks!

@Mcdonald234 that's great news that the baby is doing ok. Sorry to hear you have this new worry about the haematoma though. Is the concern that it would affect blood flow to the baby? Is it the kind of thing that can resolve itself over time? Glad they'll be to keep a good eye on things.

@Kylieemilyj don't worry, I think we're all having our wobbly emotional moments! I remember how isolated I felt when I was expecting my first and I was the first of my friends to have kids. That feeling didn't last too long thanks to the new mama friends I made on MN. So don't worry, we're all with you!!

@Kylieemilyj

Just wanted to echo what everyone else has been saying too. I'm also worrying about the stuff you listed. Completely normal I think

I don't let myself think of labour as then I get scared about the pain (total whimp), worry about my work and whether I'll be able to return part time (there's another person in my small team who is due in Dec and she is coming back part time and I don't know if they'll approve it for both of us) and I seem to be constantly terrified that something will happen between now and my 12 week scan even though I saw a healthy little one last week at a private scan (if I didn't think it'd only reassure me for 24 hours I'd book another scan - but have to keep reminding myself that it's just 3 weeks til the NHS one!)

That’s great news @Mcdonald234 about the baby and I hope the clot doesn’t cause any problems. Are you being scanned again soon or is there any other follow up!

I find pregnancy really scary @Kylieemilyj and we are all in the same boat with worries etc.

@Mcdonald234 very happy that all is well with baby

I'm with you all on the McDonald's cravings. Had one this weekend but we forgot to get fries for one of kids and they ended up having half of mine. Not going to lie I cried because they are the best part aha. I'm not managing to eat a whole lot at the moment. I'm starved but everything makes me sick. I've gone off all my favourite foods. Pizza and garlic bread being some :(

@dreaminofholidays I'm feeling ok now that bleeding has stopped for 24 hours. Trying to be positive as being worried all the time will ruin pregnancy and most people go on to carry their babies to full term with this. I suppose that's easier said than done.

@seeingdots the main concern is that the clot is right above the baby so if it comes away it could rupture the placenta and lead to a miscarriage. It can lead to blood getting into the placenta which is also dangerous for the baby. Luckily, when you get it in the first trimester it generally either exits me through bleeding or is absorbed and disappears by 12 weeks. This is why they are going to scan me regularly. My next one is next Wednesday!

@SurfingOwl my next scan is on the 10th! They said they would scan every 1/2 weeks until they are happy it is gone. Until then I'm drinking lots of water and eating foods rich in iron as that can help. My midwife says there is no need for bedrest which many women are recommended by think it is because the hematoma isn't on the large side yet (35mm). I'm also cutting out the exercise I normally do but will just go on some walks instead.

You guys are so sweet thanks for the concern. Sitting in EPAS was pretty awful, especially as my partner is working away! My family were waiting in the cafe for me so I wasn't totally alone but I didn't want them in on the scan because I wasn't sure how it was going to go. I also want my partner to be the first to see our little bean. I don't think I have ever cried so much in such a short space of time! How are all you ladies feeling?

Hey everyone! There's too many replies to reply to but I've read every one. Just going to sum up my answers to everyone's in general.
I've told pretty much everyone (we told people at work and it got out)... then my partner though f this and got all excited. Family all knows and is super excited.
My morning sickness can only really be described as having the flu constantly but I'm still expected to work and do stuff as normal.i wish it was the flu at least I knew it would be ending soon..
I had a bit of a breakdown earlier and my sister came round and chatted to me and made me feel a little better and seeing everyone's replies here too has really helped! My partner bless him is really trying but he doesn't quite get what I'm going through.

@Mcdonald234 glad baby is ok. Really hope that everything goes well from here on out.

So I got a letter saying they're going to do the scan and booking in appointment all together. DH wants to come to the scan part of it, which is fine, but someone in his work has told him they're going to ask me if he beats me (he doesn't lol), so he's worried that they'll make him leave so they can ask that question and not let him back in to see the scan!

@Firstbornunicorn they will definitely send him out for that bit but the scan will more than likely be in a different room so he would be able to go back in!

Hi everyone, and welcome to those who have recently joined! Congratulations.

I’m 6+3 now. I posted a few days ago about going on a work trip and worrying the nausea would hit. Well it’s here and it’s horrible, I’ve also been having a bad stomach and I’m kind of worried I have a bug or something. Anyone have anything similar?

@firstbornunicorn they may send him out or they might just wait until they see you alone. My midwife waited until 16 weeks to ask as DH didn’t come to that appointment.

@rosettesforjill @MynameisJune I'm kinda surprised they ask that at all, although I can definitely see why they do.

He's such a big softy, he almost cried at the first scan and I'm certain he will cry at the next one if all is still ok. I think he's kind of mortified at the idea of anyone asking that type of question about him, but he knows that it has to be done.

@Beckyv88 I think it's just horrible. I seem to be over the worst at 9+2, but still get sick if I eat too much or eat the wrong thing. I wasn't prepared to feel as rotten as I did - people keep telling me it does pass!

@firstbornunicorn tell me about it! It’s feels like having food poisoning. Soo horrible I don’t know how I can face getting up and going to work all day with loads of socialising.

In response to your post - wow kind of makes sense they ask that but also can’t believe it! I think my husband will be insulted to know I’m being asked! I’ll have to prepare him

First timers be prepared that they also ask you if you and the father are related (and they don’t mean by marriage) 😱😂

I was so surprised first time around that I burst out laughing then felt like I was in school and I’d laughed at a head teacher or something.

Don’t forget your urine samples too otherwise you’ll have to do one there (your GP surgery should give you a lot if you need one).