Due in June - Prostaglandin Smoothie Anyone??!!

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New thread!!

Morning! Its a lovely day isn't it? Was going to put the kids in the paddling pool already, til DS2 got naked and his rash is worse. How long do you think a viral rash should last Annobal? I was thinking 24 hours, but this is going on. Still, he's ok today otherwise (phew!)

BZ, perhaps that's your next novel? My dreams have, erm, perked up again. Had a rather passionate one about the actor who played builder Charlie Stubbs in Corrie last night.

hello ladies!! i'm getting v impatient now, want you to join me over on the PN thread!! Till you pop over there, let me bore you with an update from the Other Side:

Finding it really hard to decide what to do with that last little tub of Haagen Dazs in the freezer. I have to lose 4 more kg from my tum/arse but it just needs eating!!

S is finally eating more (3oz at one point! hooray!), though our nights are still very broken - last night she wanted feeding at 10:30, midnight, 2:45, 4:15, 6am, 7:15am.... so DH and I deal with it by dividing the night into shifts. He takes 8pm-midnight, then I'm on from 12-4am, then it's him again. Saves those awkward moments when you're half asleep tapping him on the shoulder saying, "should I get up? Or you?" Instead it's just "YOUR TURN!"

Not much else new here, taking DS to the playground loads and admiring the nice tan on the lads at the cricket grounds. Anyone else find Kevin Pietersen strangely attractive, or is it just all the caffiene, nurofen, and arnica doing my head in?

Why haven't I given birth yet?

ARSE!

I was up at 4am experiencing what I was convinced were contractions - pain across abdomen, moving down to lower back - lasted an hour, then I fell asleep, when I woke up again at 8am, then NADA!!

I am getting really quite narky/depressed/weary/angry now. My belly is so heavy and every day I get that little bit less mobile and the heat is really getting to me.

Ok, whinge over. And how are you today?

This is boring now. I'm sure I should have a baby instead of HB and being sick.

Just wondering (I was rudely taken from yesterdays conversation by a bad temper which meant I had to go to bed befoe I murdered someone) is your DS1 called "Sue" foxy? I had thought of another girls name to mention, but I've forgotten it.

Proper congratulations to Red Fraggle this time.

Don't worry Lilkel! We all want to be there with you

What are earth are you worrying about your arse and tum now for? You can't start worrying about all that for at least 6 weeks. OK, its not that I'm concerned about your well being as such, I'm just jealous! . Eat the ice cream Woman! What are you waiting for?!

Sounds like a good plan for the day. Not sure who Kevin Pietersen is - cricketer? I wouldn't know. I'm very lucky living opposite the common, every sunny afternoon I get to watch young men playing football with no shirts on!

Everything seems to be going pretty smoothly for you Lilkel! That is good news. Especially as I am pooing my pants as to how all this is going to work!

LOL Ria! Even we're not that mad!

He's a Jude.

TA, how many days over are you?

41 weeks today

Then by this time next week you'll either have your baby or be in labour!

Only one more week of freedom left! Go out to a lovely restaurant for lunch today.

Morning everyone. Hope you are all ok and that some will be having a baby soon!

Continuing the name thread I think I already mentioned my mum vetoing our boys name and asking why we can't call it Rory?! She was very upset about not having a choice.

After our little spat on Friday she proceeded to be a PITA yesterday on the phone. If we have a girl she has seen this rag doll in the White Company that she likes and she said "It will be be my doll for my baby", I said to her it's not your baby, this isn't like when I got me A levels and my degree ("they're my A levels, my degree", I said she has to understand it isn't her baby, but it is her grandchild "yes my baby..." Arrrgggghhhhhh.

Now that does sound weird (she is weird) and she doesn't mean in a psycho "I'm going to kidnap your baby" kind of way, but what sounds like a funny flippant remark is actually an undertone of her belief that she has certain "rights" and perhaps a control thing. Now I'm starting to get really worried that she is just going to try and take control of this child, esp if she has it on her own. She doesn't seem to realise that she will have to do things as DH and want, not her own agenda. (Need I remind you of the previous "I will come and see my gc if I want I won't be dictated by you" conversation?)

Starting to panic a bit now, esp as have asked her to come up for the birth, but my mum has a habit of making events all about her. She did it with my graduation and my wedding. Half an hour before my wedding reception she had a huge go at me about how she had made all this effort to get to our wedding (in Scotland) spent lots of money (she only had to pay to get there) and how I was really selfish and not everything had to be my way and to my rigid timetable (no, not even on my wedding day). Sorry for another long rant about by mother, I just don't need her stressing me out right now. I'm just panicking at all the battles I forsee in the next few weeks...

Oh Sweetie, she's really bothering you isn't she?

I don't know what to suggest, but perhaps she's a bit jealous? Or is having trouble adjusting to her new role in life? Mine wasn't ready to be grandmother. In fact she's backed off completely and we rarely have any contact. Instead she is totally focussed on my younger sister who is 21. Some sort of denial I guess.

Equally, you have to adjust to being the least important person in your mum's life, and GC always, always take precendence. And sometimes, we just want our mums to mother and take care of us. You are incredibly vulnerable at the moment, and probably need her to support you more than ever, but it sounds like she's thinking of herself and your child.

Ultimately, if she doesn't tow your line with your child, you won't be comfortable leaving them with her. And she will miss out. You make the decisions, not her. Remember that you are not answerable to her about your child. But also, she could be a great help and support when you need it if you let her in.

Thanks foxy. yeah, she really is bothering me. She just likes to be the centre of attention and hates the fact that we are so different and I don't deal with things the way she does. I am a planner, and organised, and I like structure, she is the complete opposite, but I can let her get on with her way, but she can't budge and do things my way even on days that are important to me. Also she is very into confrontation and expressing every feeling and I am so not.

I don't want to fall out with her. She is often fantastic. I just can't cope with her unpredictability and the fact that when she thinks she is right you just can't reason with her.

I just need to stop thinking about it. At least in labour I will have licence to say what I like and give her a a few home truths then blame it on the drugs!

Everything changes when you become a mum. I found I had a greater appreciation for mine, and could relate to her on a completely different level. We are definately more 'equals' now. In the early days she would try to tell me what to do, and it really pissed me off. Telling me I needed to drink milk to make milk, just stupid little stuff like that. She fed Jude some cream egg for easter when he was 4 or 5 months old, wanting to give him his first taste of chocolate! I went mental at her. She wanted to do 'firsts' with him. I found my MIL far more respectful and considerate of my way of mothering. When I was pregnant with DS2 she said "maybe I'll come to the birth this time". Not a farkin chance!

I'd like my mum to be more involved and take an interest in her grandchildren, but she doesn't. Perhaps I made it like that by pushing her away, or maybe I just don't need her (we've never been close), or it could be that its just more trouble than its worth. Whatever it is, it makes me sad for my children.

I suppose what I'm trying to say to you Bumper is that IME there is a conflict when we become mums and its normal. If not a bit sad.

Should say: My mum wanted to be at the birth, not my MIL. That would be going too far!!

Yeah I can imagine my mum being like that, the whole "firsts" thing. I should appreciate her more really. I think her problem is that she wasn't a very good mum to me and my siblings, but now she has grown up and done lots of counselling and child psychotherapy she sees what she could have done better and probably wants to do it through her gc. I'll stop whinging about her now, and try and thing nice thoughts about her!

It's our first wedding anniversary today and we got loads of cards from friends and family - and we didn't even buy each other cards! We decided we'd rather spend the money on B&J ice cream! We are so unsentimental!

Hiya

Just checkin in .....

Congrats to those with new babies! RF!! Welcome back Daisy (I defo want my LO to be as content as yours!!) and how funny was Mr Delor!? - Loved his post and defo want my labour to be a piece of piss!!!

Bumper our mums are very similar - I think tho I am now in a place where I can handle her (sounds like she's a dog or something!) - It's only taken me nearly 33 years!

My technique with my mum is to be very clear - assertive - and firm with her preferably pre empting situations rather than dealing with them after the event - as then there is usually no reasoning with her when her emotions are high.
I play her at her own game sometimes - before she can have chance to turn it around about her - which usually does involve expressing my own feelings in the language 'she' understands and uses - as she is useless at listening - I try and make it easier for her!!

I promised myself a few things years back regarding interactions with my mum they are -
She will NEVER make me feel guilty again, And I will NOT join in on her drama - even if she is yelling and screaming I will not join her in her moment of madness - I will just let her run out of steam! I've found Dealing with her when she's 'on one is a waste of time and only stresses me out!

Don't know if this helps or not Bumper?

Happy anniversary Bumper and Mr Bumper!

Thanks DKMA, yes that does help, I knew you'd understand too! (are we the same person? ), and what you've said is basically what DH says I should do, just refuse to get involved in arguments with her. When my mum and I were sitting there arguing he just kept saying "don't bite" and afterwards said that we will just have to nod our heads and let her think what she wants and then do things our way.

Sorry for dragging the mood down again with my whinging. Plus I know some of you would love to have your mothers around or close by. I've got one going spare if anyone wants to borrow her - plenty of mileage left in the old bag! One careful owner, may need a bit of servicing!

Happy Anniversary Bumper. Is it your first?

Feeling for you T/A . I'm 3 days over and woke up this morning thinking 'another day of waiting'. Will be tearing my hair out if nothing happens soon. Have you been given induction date?

Thanks for the congratulations. It is our first. But we've decide if we don't bother with cards or prezzies for a few years maybe in a couple of years we can afford to go away for the weekend. So, a year ago right now...well actually we were all having tea and cake in a little scottish town, then the footie was on (yes I had the audacity to get married during the world cup - when there was an England game on!) then we got married at 4pm. It was beautiful weather and we got married outside under a clear blue sky, then apart from a brief interval to go inside and eat we all (there was 10 of us) sat outside listening to music and getting squiffy!

DG sorry about your ILs, they are almost harder to deal with coz you have to balance your views for the sake of DH. My ILs are fairly ambivalent, not in a nasty way, they are just quite underwhelmed about things and don't make a huge effort, but that kinda of suits us so we just see them when we see them and there is no guilt trips on either side.

Feeling for all of you who are now overdue, but it really isn't long now.

I'm popping the shop to get some papers now, and something to clean m bathroom sink plug hole - bit gunked up. Is this nesting?!

Hello all - I've only gone and got myself a BABY!!
Thanks for all of your messages of congrats.
Well, last time i was on MN iwas well and truly shitting myself (didn't shit myself in labour, thank god!)
DH arrived home from london in lightning quick time and when we got to hospital they thought i would go home after examination and come back when in more active labour. However, when mw examined me they found i was 7cm dilated but that the baby's head was still quite high up. They broke my waters for me, then it all kicked of until i got stuck at about 9cm. Had oxytocin to speed things up and finally got to pushing stage at about 6.30pm. Had to be on the monitor throughout as baby's heartbeat kept slowing with each contraction, so in the end i had to have a forceps assisted delivery. Was ever so proud of myself for getting through it all on gas & air.....the my placenta wouldn't deliver so i had to have a SPINAL BLOCK and whisked to theater to have it "manually removed".
What a pisser after all that!!

Anyways, Sophia is tiny but GORGEOUS and even though i kept telling her she couldn't come early as she has a building site for a home, I am so happy and glad that she decided to pop out 11 days early...

CONGRATS to Daisy, Derlor & Redfraggle (any one else? - can't remember..sorry).
And Good Luck to all you waiting to go into labour.
Will be back on later to post some pics of my little darling.. [huge soppy adoring grin]

Grrr...I'm so pissed off! I feel like shit, I am so tired. I want to go and help dp with the decorating or play in the garden with dd, but I feel rubbish if I stand up or start doing anything. So we have cbeebies on..again! I feel really guilty about sticking her in front of the tv so often, but I suppose it won't scar her for life and soon she'll have a little brother to play with!

Re families, my parents are fab, as I've often said and I don't know what I'd do without them. I feel really sorry for dp as his mum died when he was 11 and his dad lives in oz. I know that he'd love his dad to be closer and not be a complete arse, but I guess he's learnt to live with it. His dad doesn't remember birthdays, bearing in mind dp is his only child, he never phones and rarely emails. I suppose he's too busy with his 26 year old cambodian bride to be interested in us!

TALLULAHBELLE - You are NOT a crap buddy!
Who was to know it would all kick off so early..

Hope you are doing all of the required activities to get your lo out.
It's about time, isn't it?!

Hey kittykit! Many congrats! How annoying after all that you had to have a spinal anyway, you poor thing! Oh well, at least it's all over now and you can relax and get on with being a mum! Glad you and sophia are well x

Happy anniversary bumper btw!!