Due In New Year - other thread got too big!

[pussycatmomma]

Hi ladies cant post a link to the other as apparantly it is too big to accept new messages....but this is the new one anyway. Will just copy and paste my last message on the old thread...hang on...

Argh argh argh argh argh!!!!!

Work is stressing me out SO much!

We've got a new project management system that's just come in, and it JUST DOESN'T MAKE SENSE!!!!!! Numbers don't add up, I can't work out how much budget I've got left on any of my jobs, and when I ring up our accounts people to try and get them to explain it to me, they talk to me like I'm a 5 year old with learning difficulties. I'm not good with figures at teh best of times, but I am on the verge of tears trying to understand this!

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHH effing work!!!!!!

Sorry for the rant, feel much better now.

Grats on good scans Housemum and Lilyloo

Anyone else wish their maternity leave could start tomorrow?!?!

;)

Yeah I do and would like it to last 2 years at full pay. I reckon I deserve it Great news on scan housemum

Argh and someone else has brought in their DD who's just over a year old and everyone is dropping hints that I should go round to that side of the office to "practice"! I'm on the verge of tears as it is, as well as feeling very sick - I know if I went round there within 5 minutes I would have burst into tears, vomited or both!

Not to mention the fact that I feel about as maternal as a brick. I'm feeling very protective and very maternal towards my bean, but other peoples' children just don't have that effect on me. I come over all awkward and feel overly scrutinised!

Cats on the other hand I'm great with - I always coo over other peoples' cats!

I'm like you - I prefer cats to other peoples children. Doesn't that sound terrible

Naetha and Plummymummy - I'm in your gang. I would be terrified to be handed a friend's little one as I would be scared I'll break it, however, hand me a box of kittens or a cat or dog with a sore paw and I'd sort it out no trouble. BTW are anyone else's cats seemimg more clingy and wanting to lie on your belly? My ginger cat Archie is very attentive to me at the moment.

Naetha... just remember to breathe when people stress you. It's so easy to forget as your adrenalin levels soar and you have to concentrate on not bursting into tears. Or go and have a cry in the loo, and tell everyone you're starting to suffer with hayfever which is why you have red eyes. That's worked for me before!

Congrats to all with scans - looks like we're nearly all there... fingers crossed til we all make it with our beans xxx

Rather a cat that an old bat at work! The old cow asked me if I was on a diet in front of everyone (because I've been bringing my own pg friendly lunches) and then said that I am too skinny and that it would be dangerous for me to loose any more weight!!! the cheek of her!!! I'm 10 weeks and definitely NOT loosing weight!!!! and I'm a normal size 10!!!!! not a 00!!!!! made my blood boil!

We have 3 cats and two of them, especially the youngest (10 months old) are being very very clingy to the extent of not leaving me alone for more than 2 minutes over a 4 hour period in the evening! I feel a bit sorry for the other one, as she used to be "mine" as it were but she seems very distant now, although I think its more because the other two are being so clingy rather than she doesn't like me any more!

Anyone got any tips of how to get my 3 very territorial very friendly cats (essentially our surrogate children) who have the complete run of the house (including our bed!) ready for a baby?

we've got 2 cats, and i was given lots of varying advice pre-ds:

1. fill cot with balloons, chuck cat in so balloons pop, cat won't go in there again
   [i didn't do that one....]

2. let cats have a good sniff, walk, feel of any new stuff you buy (buggy, crib, cot, clothes, toys) so they can 'place' it in the house, then keep them away from it

3. don't stress, they won't be that interested in going near a newborn cos they do cry rather a lot and cats don't seem to like the noise! (still don't and ds is 1)

4. get a crib net if you want but you prob won't use it more then twice so don't bother with a cot net, waste of money imo.

hth, kt

ps well done on todays scans

Quick question ladies.....does anyone getting a dragging type, achey pain in the pelvic area when lifting or bending down? I'm nearly 12wks and am a bit worried as have been fine till now, but sometimes experience this when picking up things which really aren't that heavy

Oh god, am feeling really weepy - head of chambers demanding I go drinking with him, advice on appeal to write tonight after hellish day at court, dh only been back 1 night and already I have snapped at him on the phone and will be back late and just found out friend who had planned would childmind my baby was pregnant with identical dates to me and miscarried at the weekend. She doesn't know I am pg. don't know how to cope - just want to sit at desk and cry. don't know how to avoid drink without causing offence/speculation/no time anyway. [sniff]

Beller - I am 13+5 by date of LMP, scan reckoned 14+1 but they won't adjust due date as so little difference. So you are not out on the dates!

Barristermum - is there any way you could ask DH to phone you with an "emergency" you have to go home for? Have you any pets that could need urgent medical attention, elderly relatives, anything that might need you personally to go home? Or you could go, and particularly as you have had such a bad day, just say you can't actually face drinking as you need a clear head? Or that you need to detox as your head is throbbing?

Solve the problem pinkelephant by asking someone else to pick it up for you
Had a lovely booking in appt. It wasnt with my midwife but the lady that did it was great. In fact we had a real laugh. Think we took a bit too long though as we got a few dirty stares from waiting mothers The best one was when we had finished she asked if I had any questions? I said 'yeah, will it hurt?'.
I have my second scan on Monday 9th July at 9am. I had a triple test with my last ds to check for downs but I was told they dont do this any more because the nuchal scan is more acurate. Just goes to show how quickly things change
Im 11+4 today.Fantastic news on all the scans today. Lovely new beings being cooked....lovely

thanks all , congrats on scan housemum glad it went ok will probably both sleep a little easier tonight. Wishing the time away for all you waiting for scans.

Oh yeah I know what I was going to ask I presume all you ladies will give breast feeding a go, if you dont does your hospital offer formula? The reason I ask this is because when I left my booking in appt the lady handed me a leaflet to say they no longer offer formula as a bid to promote breast feeding and if you want to formula feed your baby you have to supply your own. Now I breast feed my babys but I just wondered how far this policy went.

Glad everyone's scan went well today, Barristermum my heart goes out to you! I guess by the time you read this you will have solved the prob of how not to drink with the head of chambers, only things i've done are either offer to go to the bar with the kitty all the time and order yourself a tonic, you can pretend there's gin in it,or a soda water and pretend it's a spritzer, or say you're hungover from last night, or on a weird detox diet, or antibiotics or something? I imagine you've thought of something anyway. So sorry to hear about your friend, makes the childminding thing really hard, but you do have a while to come up with alternatives... hope you are feeling better by the time you next log on.
Naetha, sounds like you had a crap day at work too, know the feeling, had to tell a mum today there was no way she would ever again get custody of her daughters... i know it's the right decision but i felt really crap about it! Roll on Friday, guys.... xxx

Congratualtions Housemum & Lilyloo on your scans must have been fab to see your little ones!

had headache yesterday but no sickness.. and no sickness today a bit of a headache but not unbearable.

Had to eat a bagel last night at 10.30pm Bought some maternity clothes today.. going out to try and get some jeans tomorrow. Clothes are getting uncomfy.

Gingeme although i have and will breastfeed you have to provide your own here.
Anyone any idea of where to look for a nice wedding outfit at a reasonable price for August ? Really need some help as i have been told my white monsoon dress unacceptable on my 'wearing white to wedding thread'

you could wear the white dress with a bright coloured wrap and some nice jewellery imo

That's what i thought Awen but if you have a few minutes scan my thread, god and i thought i was hormonal

where is it? I am crap at finding things at the moment

wedding ettiquette , is a white dress ok when your not the bride?
Naerly bottom of page in 'style' topic

found it. You really should wear that dress really is beautiful x

Thanks , nice comment. Just have to hope some of the others on the thread aren't there, i mean seriously is it just me or were some of them comments a little harsh ?