Due In New Year - other thread got too big!

[pussycatmomma]

Hi ladies cant post a link to the other as apparantly it is too big to accept new messages....but this is the new one anyway. Will just copy and paste my last message on the old thread...hang on...

oh god I've just read the thread. I actually feel physically sick. I am so so sorry for her - that is horrendous. She started this thread as well.

Poor birdseed i don't think she minded if we knew i just think she knew we were all around the same stage so didn't want to frighten anyone.

Yes I think you are right lily.

That is so sad about Birdseed. I had noticed that she had not posted for a while but the thread is so busy that it just sort of slipped my mind as well. What a devastating time for her.

I have never been pregnant before but I have often asked pregnant friends what they are hoping for a boy or a girl and they usually say they just want a healthy baby. I think I now understand why they say that now.

This is such a joyous time but it is agonising and stressful at the same time isn't it.

very much so PBirdy. Wow - it puts all the discomfort into perspective as well.

Hello all,
I just popped in to see how you are all doing....and noticed that you are talking about me!
I don't mind. I just didn't want to come on and tell you as I didn't want you guys to worry about your scans.
Also I hadn't posted the week before because I had been away at my sister's wedding....so I thought that you might not notice if I slipped off....but some of you (spud and plummy!) are more observant than I expected!

Wed night and Thursday were horrendous but things are getting better already. Obviously will take a long time overall but good to feel that things are easier. DH has been a great support and very upset too.

I am keeping my fingers crossed for you all. Hope the sickness etc stops soon and that you all have straightforward pregnancies...I really, really do.

I agree with you PBirdy - I just want a healthy one next time. And I very much hope that there will be a next time.

Thank you for all your support over the last couple of months - much appreciated.

I'm really sorry to hear what has happened to you birdseed, everyones worst nightmare at the moment. Good luck for the future, I hope it brings you a healthy baby.

Thank you. I'm off now as I feel like the bearer of bad news and I want you all to feel positive and optimistic. I was so nervous waiting for my scan and it doesn't help at all, so make sure you relax and be as positive as you can.

The only other thing I can say is that it really helped to have told a few people before the scan as they have been so supportive.

I was a staunch believer in not telling people before the all clear at 12 weeks but told my parents and siblings and a close friend the week before as I wanted to tell them face to face. It really helped afterwards and at dh at least feel that we had the joy of sharing our good news. The sharing of bad news felt awful but we were so glad of the support. So something to bear in mind if you are deliberating whether to tell or not.

I'm off now, so feel free to say whatever you like again!
Good luck to you all.
With lots of love, birdseed

Birdseed, I'm so so sorry to hear your news. Glad you are getting lots of support from those around you. Will be thinking of you xx

Birdseed - hope you got my other message and hugs go to you and your DP.

I feel horrid saying this now but I got my scan date through today. its on friday - panicking that they're either gonna say its wind, twins or something is wrong.

Hope your all ok!

((hugs)) birdseed. I had posted on the other thread a while ago to you and your dp xx. It is always so hard to know what to say when something so terribly sad happens. I have been thinking of you though and spoke to dp about you. I agree with you about telling some people before 12 weeks. I am glad you are getting support there.

Jenswish - lots of good thought for your scan tomorrow. I understand you worrying, I did too before todays scan. I guess the sense of relief was a bit overwhelming today.

Birdseed I had two m/c last year - no link between them, just rotten luck. I agree with you about telling people as it is worse to be going through it and for people not to know why you are so sad/ behaving differently. My dh was very upset too. Thinking of you both at this awful time. M/c is not linked to ability to conceive so there's every chance you will conceive again when you feel ready to try.

I'm glad you popped back birdseed and that you are feeling stronger. Hope to see you on a new pg thread soon , take care.

Agree Betty it does put our gripes into perspective. I'll be so glad to have my scan tommorrow though. It's weird really as it didn't really cross my mind with my two previous pg's that anything like that could happen yet this time i am much more nervous.

Hope everone else feeling ok today.

Sorry to hear your terrible news birdseed, it must have been terrible to find out at the scan that was meant to be such a moment of joy. I had a read of your other thread, and the helium balloon is a lovely idea - a nice acknowledgement

As people have said, it shouldn't affect your ability to conceive, so will look forwards to seeing you on another ante-natal club thread as soon as you feel ready

Good luck to all those that have scans today - I hope they go well for you. I still have my money on Jenswish for twins!

Oh birdseed I just want to echoe what everyone else has said. Keep your chin up it will happen eventualy.

Glad everyone else is doing ok. Im living on ginger biscuits at the mo. They seem to be the only thing stemming the sickness. I hate ginger!!
Got my booking in appt tommorrow morning guess Ill have to take my biscuits with me and hope I dont puke on my midwife

Good luck with all the scans today. Hope all your beans co operate

good luck for all scans today. Have uploaded pics of bean to my profile

Birdseed - heart goes out to you, sounds iek you have had alot of support and hugs and wished for the future xxxx

I am taking paracetomol when absolutely need it...but have had this headache for 3 days now...drink so much water, dont think its possible to drink anymore!!

Hope everyone is ok xxx

another thing thats probably not helping my headaches...is work!!! Since I told them about babybel, 2 guys on my desk have been a nightmare! We are under pressure to make a certain amount of money a month, but thye havejust turned evil! screaming and shouting most of the day...not a nice enviroment...think my heart was racing so much this morning after a row, i had to go and sit in the loo!!!!!
Sorry just rambling...roll on 5 months!!

Have been really thinking of you Birdseed - it was great to see you popped back on the thread. It is good to hear that you are getting lots of support from close friends and family and I totally agree with you about telling people. Like you said - it would be awful to just share the bad news and not to have had the joy of sharing the good news. I wish you loads of luck in the future when you're ready and hope you and dh stay strong at this difficult time. He sounds like a good'un! xx

Beller - hope you get some relief from the headaches. Have you spoken to the midwife to see if they have any tips to try and relieve it? Mine gave me loads of printouts on the sickness.

Gingeme - how can you not like ginger with your name!

Lilyloo - good luck with scan tomorrow. I felt the same this time about being more nervous. When the scanlady found my baby and was like look there it is I nearly fell off the bed with shock! Like Awen said the relief is overwhelming.

Awen will log in properly so I can see the pic!

Good luck anyone else with scans too

I knew someone was going to say that Bettymamma I like the colour ginger as mine and ds's hair are all ginger but not the taste of it.
Beler did you see that programme about that woman who was in a very high profile job and as soon as they found out she was pregnant they sacked her. she sued them. It was based on a true story.
Ah Awen beautiful
On the subject of scans anyone thinking of having a 4D one?

Beller - I don't suppose you were Bellabear on the TTC thread were you? Yes I have stinking headaches too, its quite normal apparently. I find if I drink gallons of water it seems to prevent them.

Congrats to everyone who have had wonderful experiences with their scans - I have mine next week. I really wished I hadn't told eveyone last week that I was pregnant as I feel a bit anxious about it all now, especially as they are doing the nuchal fold test.

What was the story wih Birdseed - I've tried to scroll back to find out but can't...it all sounds very heartbreaking

Beller my headache went this morning straight after I did a largish poo - sorry if tmi I really think it was due to toxins from being constipated for a few days. I take pregnacare and it makes me constipated (think I will change to another brand).

PinkElephnat, she never posted about it on here. Thread on m/c bearement section. My scan was nuchal fold. It was fine, just takes a while for them to get measurements so you get a really good look at LO.

Gingme I am a red head too.

Birdseed - I don't know if you are still checking messages but I am glad that you popped in. Your DH sounds fab - it will definitely happen for you again. Make sure you let us know when it does.

I am suffering from a rotten cold which I have had for 2 days. I can't take anything for it except for lemon and honey (so useless compared to proper drugs). I am making up for it by complaining bitterly. When does the bloody glowing stage start!?!?!?

Tell me about it, I feel like shite