Due In New Year - other thread got too big!

[pussycatmomma]

Hi ladies cant post a link to the other as apparantly it is too big to accept new messages....but this is the new one anyway. Will just copy and paste my last message on the old thread...hang on...

Gingeme - so sorry you've felt sick. It really is horrid isn't it? Hope you feel better soon.

Plummy - I think it's getting harder for us all in lots of ways so you're not alone feeling stressed- I am too! We all need some reassurance and I'm sure you'll feel better after your scan. Not long now!

Beller & Housemum - thanks for your advice. I called the midwife who said go to the NHS scan even though they may have the dates wrong and if I wasn't happy with the results or info I could then go private the next week - or cancel that appt if all is fine. She said she thought the NHS might have got the dates wrong so I phoned thwm who said they can do the scans from 11 weeks (I'll be 11 weeks 1 day) so I guess I just make it. Oh... and they could always call me back the week after if they couldn't find enough of beanie. Sounds like I'm going to be scanned over and over again! I am excited though.. and of course rather apprehensive too :-)

I do know the feeling of worrying..and plus dont have partner, so do alot of it at home on my own. He is surpasing himself,after saying he would come round for a chat this week, I text him tuesday...nothing,then he text me last night at 9 to say "Hi hun, just got up, are you ok?" to which i answered "fine thanks" and got no reply....Really think I need to shut that door...the guy is selfish beyond belief!!

Good luck for all scans and appt! xx

I don't talk to my husband about it as I think he just thinks I'm being negative.

Beller sorry about your ex p. It can't be easy. Hope he can be there for your lo when s/he is born (if that's what you still want). He is avoiding the issue isn't he. It's a bit difficult to do that when you're pregnant isn't it! I'm always amazed when I read stories about women/young girls who pretend they're not pregant. I am aware of it every minute of the day and there's no way I could convince myself otherwise.

no me neither Plummy...but with him..he basically took all his stuff...left the house and has caried on as normal , or with his head in the sand.....That up to him I suppose, think im just going to wrap myself in bubble wrap where he is concerned and try and get on with my life!
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Beller - what can I say? Sorry your ex is behaving like this - I hope he pulls his socks up soon. But yes, meanwhile, wrap yourself up, look after yourself and remember we are all here for you. I think we talk to each other more than our partners anyway - mine's the same as Plummy's - if I say I'm worried about something he is often very helpful and just says "Stop worrying" or "Don't think about it!" Grrr.......x

Thanks!!
It does help to talk, I just cant stand the way he feels is acceptable to pick people up and put them down when he wants... Well I have decided I am going to call him and say i think we need to talk, and im going to drive over to him,as then im not sat in waiting!! If this dosnt work..Im just going to give up and think of me and Beany xx

Yes you need to do what you need to do to feel a bit more in control - and you driving there will certainly do that! I hope you have some good girl friends around too. But whatever happens you have to look after you and beanie!

Hey ladies hope everyone is ok! I have been sick as a dog and hardly been able to cope at work this week! What?s all this about, I?m 9+2 and why is this only kicking in with such a passion now? Think it?s my beanie telling me that he?s strong and isn?t going anywhere.

I?m so sad to see friends leave the thread I was on the October thread (as were a few of the others on here ) and I remember being terrified when someone left and then it was my turn . The hard truth is that 1 in 4 will MC and we will lose friends along the way and it is scary and awful but we have to keep going and keep hoping this time round that we?ll get there and end up with a beautiful baby keep positive thoughts for your beanies ladies ? apparently it can help!

Happy belated birthday PCM! All you?ve been feeling sounds totally right for this stage I don?t think there was any indication that we knew of for Skibump Try not to be too scared, its totally natural that you want to protect your baby and that it is so precious. Just take each day as it comes. We all feel the same ? it is hard and scary ? a whole new world for us! Have to say that I hate the thought that I won?t have another scan now until 20/7 when I will be 14+3, so much can happen in 5+3 weeks but I know I can?t have a scan every week to reassure me

Plummy ? I feel like you, the next stage of my book has never been touched (yet the first 2 months is well thumbed!)

Teenagersagain ? no! I am so very, very sorry hon. I do know how you feel, keep talking ? there are some lovely supportive threads on MN that really helped me xx

Beller ? not sure if they advocate homebirths for your first but its certainly worth asking about it you?d like one, I?m too scared my sis had a HB for her 2nd and said it was a very different experience!

Hello to everyone I haven?t mentioned my name I had my booking in appointment yesterday it felt like an important milestone for me my next appointment is with obstetric consultant on 5/7 and then scan on 20/7 (dating scan) with some blood appointments in between .

Hi everyone, just popped back to update the list, but saw Plummy has already done it for me. Thankyou hunny, that would have been a hard one. Have just scanned the thread, but sorry to see a few other casualties - as you say MrsMac, it's bound to happen, but it's getting better every day, so good luck to you all and your beanies, particularly for fruitful and the latest good news scan

pc still broken, but once it's fixed I'll probably pop in now & then to see how you're all doing if that's ok

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Skibump - I've been where you are now hon and know how you feel, sending huge hugs, I hope your turn comes around again very soon. xx

Hi ladies. Been a very busy day here. Had 'booking in ' appointment this morning at 9. Had phone call at 8.30 asking if I could re-arrange as they had double booked, my mum was already on route to me as she wanted to come so they saw me a bit later. Midwife is a stand in for 4 weeks and she didnt have any of my notes at all. She went through form and because I told her i was a nurse (asked me my profession) she started talking in complete medical speak which not even i fully understood. Then when it got to mental health, I said history of PND - inpatient.. she took a sharp intake of breath and started saying she would have to refer me to peri natal blah blah blah, THe fact that I had emerg section, post partum heamorrage, gest diabetes and pre eclamptic symptons went right over her head. PIssed me off as although at risk of PND doesnt mean i will get. Totally diff circumstances etc. . Anyway, when she asked me where having baby and I said, another sharp intake of breath and that she hadnt knwon and would have to do whole new paperwork etc, although GP and other midwife knew and fertility treatment was through hosp i plan to have this in. Then she said they dont do nuchal fold, bloods diff etc etc. UPshot was I went clothes shopping mum talked me ointo buying some lovely maternity tops and a fab skirt and new shoes .

COme back called hospital, they do the nuchal folds, will book me one asap as 11 weeks on Saturday. Spoke to midwife (different one) she is lovely, is going to see me on Saturday morning to give my my notes and go through them quickly. Fab.. but a shitty start. Off to get ds from school now xx

Sorry to hear that Awen sounded extremely frustrating and a waste of your time glad things got better as the day went on. I?m not defending the MW but when I got booked in yesterday the MW told me it was a whole new form this week and they were trying to find their way round it, I don?t know if that is just here in Scotland or countrywide. No nuchal here, no 20 week scan either ? just a dating scan and option of the triple test. Dating scan isn?t until I?m 14+3, 20/7.

Teenagersagain - I'm really sorry to hear your news.

I'm feeling really rotten today. I have had to go to London every day for the last three days and have found it really hard work. An engineer came to look at our fridge today and it can be fixed so we have to wait a few days for a new one. We've only had it since January. I was sick after lunch but I think that was due to being over tired and I had to spend an hour in John Lewis in the morning trying to arrange a replacement for the fridge and the fact that I have a party to organise for saturday didn't help either. Hopefully next week will be alot calmer as I really need a break from it all!

How daft Awen. Do you ever get the impression that these people don't know what they're doing ?

I have one of the midwives that I had for my first pg, which is lovely. The doc gave me the yellow booklet - Personal Maternity Record (does everyone get those or are they local?) and told me to fill it in myself before I saw the midwife.

I'm waiting for the hosp to send me my appt for the dating scan. And I have an appt to see a consultant in the middle of August (earliest appt they had!). She is called Ms Patient, which must be a marvellous name to have, working in a hospital!

Yuck I feel sick. Kids are watching Bob again.

My UTI is a bit better now thank goodness - don't think I could have coped for much longer! I had a day off work today - I didn't think I really needed it, but when I slept for an extra 5 hours, I wonder if maybe I did. The cats enjoyed the company anyway!

Sorry you've been feeling so sick recently MrsMac and Goingfor3 - you hate it when you're sick, but then when you're not you worry that everything's not right - you can't win! I'm convinced my work think I'm making a meal of it as I can be sick as a dog some days, and then 110% and bouncy the next. Needless to say, they're mainly young men who've never gone through this first OR second hand!

hi all

lost track of where i was/when i posted last...
i def have the same worries - not that i will mc so much, just that there will be nothing there, and there never was! am i hallucinating the whole thing?! tho i am tired, bloated, burpy, and messed up number 2's (tmi, sorry!) so if i'm not pg, then what's going on?!!!
have to keep reminding myself of that word PREGNANT on the digi test. shd have taken a photo!

i have a mw appt next fri, haven't heard back from the hosp re dating scan yet, hope it's soon
had 2 early scans by this point with ds as i was bleeding, whilst i don't want the bleeding, the scans would be nice

right, better get on with dessert....

Katy1 - like the "should have taken a photo"! I didn't like it when the digi result disappeared so bought a £3 test from Asda just so I could see a pink line that stayed there (still in the wardrobe actually - don't think I'll bin it until after the nuchal scan in 2 weeks - how superstitious is that from the non-superstitious person who's picking up a pram on Monday??!!)

hi housemum, have been tempted to take another one, but tell myself that would be mad!
maybe i will if i don't get a scan date through soon

mind you, as long as my trousers keep getting tighter i guess that's proof right?!

Sorry to crash onto thread pussycat im sending you some unibond from warsop to help it stick tight , you will be fine.

Great to hear from you skibump Take good care of yourself xx Hi everyone else. Mrs McJ - why don't you get nuchal? Is that throughout Scotland?

I gotta change my dates but stupid mouse won't let me highlight and paste.
I am now due on 31st December.
Had nuchal scan last night.
All is going well.There is only one baby in there.
growing at a good rate,between the red lines.
How is everuone?
Sorry to talk and run, but got to go get ready for work now.

Hi Imawurzel good news about your scan. Glad all is well.
Feeling sick again this morning and I have a fat hand as I was stung by a bee right on my palm yesterday My dh said it may be a good thing because it means the baby wont be alergic to bee stings kind of get his point.
It seems ages off till I have my scan. You ladies are so lucky to have had yours already.
Going for a cuddle of my friends baby girl later today. Shes 6 weeks old and just lovely
Have a good day all xx

Morning all!

Mrsmcjnr- I visited the hospital yesturday, and its brand new,and felt nice..so think I will probably go with that anyway, might be to scared for a home birth!

Skibump - Good to "see" you hun..big hugs and thinking of you xx

Awen- to the midwife, but I supose they have the form to fill in, and have to go through everything? Dosnt make it right though xx
But yayyy for the shopping! I have a new "blooming marvelous" top on today..definately showing now, so finding it hard to hide at work.

Goingfor3 - Know how you feel, 5 days of 6.30 - 5 are killing me, i cant wait for the "boost " of energy we are all going to get in the second trimester..I had to go out with clinets last night too, so didnt get home until 11.30! very tired today!

Naetha- Glad the UTI is feeling much better!

Imawurzel- glad the scan went well!

I had my booking in appt ysturday, the midwife was lovely, but she is only around for another 4 months She has put me at 11+6 again, so back to being due 28th Dec!! I should get my dating scan date for next week, so hopefully will get a better idea then!

Hugs to everyone xxxxxx

imawurzel - good news about your scan Hi everyone else Awen - sorry to hear (but not surprised)by your exp with the m/w. I really don't know why some people choose the jobs they do. It's not as if the money is great is it! I often wonder the same in our line of work as so many MH nurses have dodgy ideas about working with patients eg if you don't get up soon I'm not going to get you anything from the shoprun later. Makes me so Anyway, glad all worked out in the end. Ok I have now reached 8 weeks So far all seems ok. Scan on Monday morning. Beller - I won't be far behind you with maternity clothes. Tops starting to strain. According to pg books I should be getting larger breasts at 8 weeks and they will begin to feel tingly and develop a second lighter areola around the nipple. Well the first two I've had since 3-4 weeks and the latter has been there for the last 4. I bought maternity bras but they hurt by the end of the day so I take them off. However I think I will have to buy a sleep bra as I need the support at night. I'm not conforming to the norm. Anyone else got these symptoms as early?