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May 2019 (or late April 2019) due date

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ByThePond · 19/08/2018 14:18

Anyone else?

I have quite long cycles but using OPKs, I have a rough idea of when I ovulated and have just got the faintest of lines. So 30 April or 1 May for me! Eek.

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zoClueless · 05/09/2018 11:07

@DesertBOO lots of cramping between weeks 4 and 5 for me too. Six weeks today and still get cramps every now and then but not as often as before.

Starmist · 05/09/2018 11:28

2nd baby here. I feel very nervous this time as to whether everything is ok. Early scan booked for 24th September when I’ll be 7 + 6. Seems ages away. We have a boy, I feel like this baby is another boy as well, I don’t know why though.

Shazafied · 05/09/2018 11:45

Hello everyone,

Hope your are all muddling along this morning !

I've been so lightheaded this morning. At least I'm not back at work yet !! My dd still has a bad cold and won't eat , and a very chesty cough, so taking her back to docs this afternoon.

@starmist my family have been lovely about it thank goodness (just reading about all the jerk reactions on here - what's wrong with people?!). My close friend was a bit weird and negative but I've just decided to ignore her! So glad I've got a due date buddy !!

@DesertBOO Cramping over here too ! Not af type pain, just like pressure / stretching. I had this with DD1 too.

Anyone else super emotional ? I keep looking at dd and welling up at how amazing she is. Then wanting to cuddle her really close and tell her that even though there'll be another baby I still love her soooo much. Could cry just now !!

Shazafied · 05/09/2018 11:47

Is everyone going to find out what they're having ?! I did with DD1 and it was so wonderful to know ....made it more real . Will prob find out this time but genuinely have no preference x

zoClueless · 05/09/2018 11:54

We haven't told anyone yet.... apart from my PT (and he had a lovely reaction and I got a big hug on he gym floor - no idea what others must have thought was going on). Weird telling him first but I've looked at it that I'm telling a professional.
I'm looking forward to telling some people but also dreading some responses - my PIL can be....overwhelming and I'm worried about how ridiculously over excited they will be (which I guess is a nice problem to have). They also cannot be trusted to keep this news to themselves so I'm going to make sure my parents and sister are told first!

@Shazafied We will find out what we are having. I'm not fussed either way but I'm a planner and like to feel in control as much as poss so will want all the knowledge I can get!

rosettesforjill · 05/09/2018 11:58

We will definitely be finding out all being well!

fadgadget · 05/09/2018 11:58

First time for me too.

earlybirdhasanap · 05/09/2018 12:14

Ive only told dp and my previous mumsnet bus. Dreading telling my mum as she does a lot of childcare for dd and she keeps telling me one is enough.
I will probably be telling work next time I'm in A's because of where I work I'm exposed to X-rays and infectious diseases but I'll try and put it off as long as possible.
We didn't find out what we were having last time and I don't think I will this time.

minnierose3 · 05/09/2018 12:18

Can anyone describe what they mean by having a feeling about gender?! I did both previous pregnancies, I was wrong both times!!!!!

mayago · 05/09/2018 12:40

@minnierose3 I didn't have any feelings last pregnancy, and we found out at the 20 week scan. Girl was the family preference after a string of boys, but OH wanted a boy.

This time I think we'd both prefer another girl, as we've kept everything just in case and it seems less work!

I think my DD has the same cold @Shazafied We had an exceptionally poor night! I'm not too emotional just yet, but I do have worries about adding another child and DD possibly being pushed out a bit.

I'm jealous of your scan @Starmist 24th isn't that far away 😉 I've been looking on groupon, but nothing nearby. Last time we paid £90 for an early scan, but I can't justify that much right now.

@MimiSunshine fingers crossed you avoid morning sickness this time around!

minnierose3 · 05/09/2018 12:52

I do have a 'feeling' that I'm carrying a girl but based on my track record that probably means it's a boy 😂

purplestar9 · 05/09/2018 13:16

I don't have any feeling at the moment on whether it's a boy or girl. We will find out when we can though. DH would love a little boy, I'll be happy either way. But we have always imagined having a boy...

minnierose3 · 05/09/2018 13:18

We won't find out, personally think it's a shame to spoil pretty much life's only real surprise and do get excited at all the anticipation towards the end! 💙💗

MimiSunshine · 05/09/2018 13:31

We didn’t find out last time. Was undecided then went with waiting as we weren’t desperate to know.

I’d quite like to know this time, I work with a few pregnant women who all know and it’s nice hearing them refer to the baby as he and she but partner wants to wait so we probably will.

I felt like DD was a girl and she looked like me as a baby on the 20wk scan, just the regular NHS one but it was super clear.
I just feel like this is a girl too, I keep trying to think of boys names and it feels pointless.

Obviously in reality it was just luck I was right first time and I’ve had friends who were convinced they were having one sex only to see or not see a willy in the delivery room (sounds odd but hopefully you know what I mean). So I had better try and get a list of boys names

Mejse · 05/09/2018 14:32

I don't have any feelings about if it's a boy or a girl so far. I had sleep paralysis last time at around 15weeks and was sure from that point on i was having a boy and I did. Dss really wants another brother and dh has almost all boys in his family so I'm prepared for another boy. If I ask Ds if he wants a brother or sister he says sister every time but he is way too young to understand.

I really like the idea of waiting to find out but I know in reality that I won't be able to. It takes forever for me and dh to decide on names too so only having to find one name helps. We need names that can work in both languages.

zoClueless · 05/09/2018 14:39

@Starmist I've booked in an early scan too. Mines on 25th, I'll be 8+6 then and I'm counting down! I'm so nervous about a mc and knew I wouldn't be able to wait for the first nhs scan.

Firstbornunicorn · 05/09/2018 15:33

I feel like it's a girl. I don't know why, it's just a notion I have. Have always wanted a boy first, but in reality will be happy to deliver a healthy baby of either gender. I think my preferences feel less relevant now the reality is sinking in.

On another note, I now have laryngitis. DH is delighted.

MrsReader · 05/09/2018 15:59

We are gonna get them to write it and seal it in an envelope to open at home together.

I have a feeling it's a boy, no idea why! I've always dreamed of having a girl and always said I did not want a boy. The funny thing is, now I'm pregnant I honestly don't care either way!!

minnierose3 · 05/09/2018 16:18

Can't wait to see if all these predictions are right in a few months time x

seeingdots · 05/09/2018 16:41

We'll be finding out the sex as well. We found out early last time at 14/15 weeks as a byproduct of having NIPT and I did sort of feel having that little bit of information helped the bonding along. I have zero inklings about who's in there this time round!

Glad it's not just me with the hot flushes. Too many hormones!!

positivepineapple · 05/09/2018 17:02

I had my early scan today. I was beyond nervous, the EPU was very busy. A few ladies clearly upset and distressed in the waiting room. My heart was aching for them - I've been there so many times.

It went as well as I could've hoped - I think. I went in with an attitude that it could go either way - plus it's very early.

From LMP I am 6+1, we saw the gestational sac and yolk and I'm measuring 5+6 - sonographer was really positive and said this matches up perfectly as it's hard to be exact so early. I have a biocornate uterus and it's in my right horn. So everything is looking good at this point. I have my next scan on the 19th, so lots of positive thinking until then where we should see a lot more.

This will be our first baby, we aren't telling anybody yet. I think we will tell the in laws after 13 week scan, I lost both my parents in the last 3 years and I don't really have any other family. Tbh - I would like to keep it a secret as long as possible but it's not fair to DH - he's so excited bless him, he's wanted kids for ages and the in laws will be over the moon. Will be their first grandchild.

Hope everyone is feeling ok? Sympathies to those with sickness. It must be awful, and so draining - especially if no one knows.

positivepineapple · 05/09/2018 17:29

Re sex, I will definitely find out. I'm also a planner, so will want to find out as soon as I can. I'm not sure if the NIPT tests are available on NHS here but we are happy to pay if not.

I want a girl, so does DH but we will be over the moon with either tbh.

Is anyone else thinking of getting the NIPT for sex purposes?

UntilTheVeryEnd · 05/09/2018 17:31

@positivepineapple really glad to hear about your positivity- I’m sure by your next scan you will see a little flicker of a heartbeat. All will be well!

I don’t think we will be finding out the sex this time - we had a surprise with DD and had the gender scan with DS. Altho kept his sex to ourself and made out we didn’t know. I loved knowing he was a boy - made me bond with him more. DH keen for another surprise as we have one of each it genuinely doesn’t matter what we get. So team yellow for us!
Had my booking app today - god it’s so boring! You would like they store all your info but no, a zillions questions all over again. The midwife is emailing my consultant to see if I can get an early scan cause of my squiffy dates, so waiting fingers crossed for that!

Hugs to those feeling tired and a bit shitty x

SurfingOwl · 05/09/2018 18:10

That’s great news @positivepineapple. We’re having a NIPT test but it will be on the NHS and I think that means we won’t find out the sex.

We’re having a girl though. I’m certain! DH has said he is happy to find out at a scan but I am undecided whether we will wait until birth or not.

seeingdots · 05/09/2018 19:50

That's great news all was looking good at your scan today @positivepineapple!

Do you get NIPT in your area as standard @SurfingOwl? We had it on the NHS last time after a high risk result from the screening at 12 weeks but at the time it was a pilot programme and our trust was the only one in Scotland doing it so I'm not sure what their policy is nowadays. I thought we'd just go straight to NIPT on private this time but it doesn't look like finances will allow at the moment.