Pregnancy after loss: spring 2019 edition (The Brexit Babes) 🐧

[PassTheAfterEights]

Extra supportive pregnancy journey thread for grads of the penguin huddle and anyone due spring 2019 after a long and bumpy road.

All welcome 🐧

Thread commandments:

Thou shalt share and not apologise for any neurosis or worry

Thou shalt shuffle immediately to the centre of the huddle when feeling vulnerable or hopeless

Thou shalt share all photographs and good news and celebrate raucously that of others

Thou shalt not apologise for TMI, or pearl-clutchy words and language

Thou shalt add your handle, age, number of DC and EDD when joining the thread to roll call so we know where everyone is (thanks!)

May our beans snuggle down, heads stay steady & the elastic on our waistbands quickly snap x

@toasterstrudle me too! As much as its scary had 6 week and was prepared mentally for 8 week even though theyve now said no need i think i will get one at maybe 9/10 privately kind of apprehensive about using same place though probably being superstitious!

That sounds a good plan @Swisbest2. I'm so nervous for our first scan, was hoping for earlier than 8 weeks but that's the first the EPU will do for us and I can't handle the thought of going to a private place first. Which I know is ridiculous.

@frankiefumbles worded it really well for me a while back - miscarriage takes away the ability to enjoy pregnancy and I really do envy my friend her certainty that they will have their baby in spring. I pepper every sentence with "all going well" or "if we're lucky and have our baby in June" etc. Perhaps it'll ease off as the pregnancy progresses. I hope so.

@toasterstrudle I start every discussion with "assuming all is well" too. Have my anomaly scan tomorrow at 19+4. I hope I manage to sleep tonight. My poor hubby didn't realise this was a scan with any purpose other than finding out the sex. When I told him what they look for he suddenly started feeling nervous too. Oops 😬

Good Luck today @HidCat, hope everything goes well!

@HidCat sending all the best wishes for the scan. What time are you heading in? Hope it's not too big a wait

Good luck @HidCat!

Hope all goes well at the scan @HidCat

I am shattered this morning... I fell asleep on the sofa at 9pm (very early for me), DH dragged me upstairs at 11. I woke up at 3am and couldn't get back to sleep for hours til just before 6 and was woken up by DS at 6.30. Gosh do I wish I didn't have to drink decaf today!!!

Me too @Newbie21 I actually slept 10 hours last night but desperate for a sleep today! I have had to call in an sos as it's ridiculous how awful I feel today! I've not kept any food or water down at all! I lost count of how many times I've been sick 🤢
If not had such a bad time last few days I've felt tonnes better and thought I was over the worse of it! Alas!
Baby brain has also set in big time, went for my booking in app today at the medical centre only to find I was a day early! Really had to drag myself and DS there too. CBB's has been my only solace today! I hate sitting DS in front of a screen but I literally can't move! Counting down the minutes to my mum arriving so I can sleep 😩

Hope everyone else is ok, how was your scan @HidCat did you find out the gender? I'm half way now to my 20 week point. Feels like ages away! In fact it will be next year!!! 🙀

I though I’d got away with the tiredness but I fell asleep putting ds to bed last night at 7 and didn’t wake up til 6;30 this morning 😫

Hope the scan goes well @hidcat

I'm feeling really tired today too. Counting the minutes till 5. Also feeling really sick. Waaah, I want to go home and lie down in my joggers. Work is hard atm.

Excited to see your scan @HidCat and find out the gender! I'm the same @Kisses4u my 20 wk scan will be after Christmas too. I'm 9 weeks +5 today.

I'm meant to be working from home today but work has been elusive. It's scary how things are stacking up and I don't have the mental capacity to deal with the tricky jobs. I hope this placenta will be the answer and when it kicks in I might get some brain power back...

Yes the placenta! I can't wait 😆

Were all tired and grumpy today then lol. Sickness has graduated to an all day thing now hooray! Midwife has suggested lactulose? For constipation im only tendig to go every 4/5 days. Anybody else got any suggestions?

Sounds like we are all in the same boat. I am so tired. Threw up at work today, I am unfortunately a loud vomiter so less than ideal.

When does the placenta take over?

Less than 2 weeks until my 12 week scan, just hoping it all goes well. Like others have said I pretty much pepper all pregnancy sentences with 'All being well' 'fingers crossed' etc.

xxx

@dreaminofholidays urgh that sounds grim. I just constantly feel sea sick and lying down help so when im on my feet ten hours for work im getting really ratty then teary when i get home. Basically crying whilst eating and trying not to wretch. So attractive 😂

I think placenta takes over around 12 weeks. So should be soon for us all. I really hope that offers some relief.

Heres hoping still gotta get there first 🤔

@Pancakes7 mum was recounting her story to me - she diarised week 12 day 1 as the day she would feel better and actually she took a turn so that on 12+3 she felt worse than she ever had an had an emotional blowout she remembers to this day. By the end of the week things had got better. I'm aiming at week 13

I've decided the "what if" is more exhausting right now than assuming it's going to be okay. I've got my booking appointment this morning (10 weeks today) so things are feeling a bit more real.

I've booked my NIPT for a fortnight so now fully committed to expecting it to survive a fortnight and I'm just going to keep knocking days off one at a time. Every day there is a lower chance of an mc. I won't truly settle until SHE is in my arms (lols) but I'm going to try and cultivate a more laid back attitude.

@frankiefumbles the booking in does make things suddenly seem more real like other people recognise youre pregnant lol. Little milestones are a good thing. I kept a diary last time so keep referring back which is helpful too.

@frankiefumbles and @Swisbest2 Oh a diary is a lovely idea. Aslong as baby is ok, I'll take feeling sick all the time. @frankiefumbles you say she, you got a feeling it's a girl? I'm counting down the days till my 12 week scan too. 18 days to go... I had my booking in at 7 weeks + 4. It does make it feel more real. Got my notes too.

I'm booking in this morning too @frankiefumbles and I'm 10 weeks today! Snap!

Feel really sick today but frealing myself cos i dont feel like my boobs are hurting as much 😣

I started spotting again last night and have more today. Pissed off now. Really have had enough I just want a healthy happy baby! Trying not to freak out but it's becoming more difficult. 10+4 and counting down the days!! X

@xJune88 Oh gosh, that's awful you have this added worry again. Will you phone your gp/epu? Or have they said to ignore spotting now?