March 2019

[BunLovinCriminal]

Hello all! I got my BFP this morning at 10dpo and am apparently due 1st March with my third baby. Now feeling that familiar paranoia about what might go wrong, but hopeful all will be well. Is anyone else due in March yet? 😬

Going for my first run today after finding out the other week. Should be somewhere near 6 weeks I think. This is when I mc the first time round. Did another test and it's darker so fingers crossed!
Also, really need to stop testing. My 19month old insisted on dipping an old test into a cup of water today and then throwing it down the toilet 🙈

On the salad debate, I think there is a lot of scaremongering that goes on with Preggo ladies. I never wash any salad, ate runny eggs and did a whole assortment of things you're not supposed to do with dd and she turned out fine....

@Sarahandduckarehigh Hope you're ok. They're very well protected in there so should be fine but get checked out if you're in any doubt.

@hamandpease try not to worry. Symptoms come and go a lot at this stage. Try to take some time to yourself soon to relieve some stress.

@Emmafh3 I'm glad things are looking good. Loving you LO doing her test. My son did that with opks lol.

@Emmafh3 haha my ds did that in the bath a couple of nights ago, weed into one of his toy cups like he's seen me do for testing! I can't stop testing either, this morning at 21dpo the test line is officially darker than control which is exciting! Also I think runny eggs are now considered OK as long as they're British Lion stamped, which I believe most are? I agree on the scaremongering, prefer to do my own research and come to my own conclusions on acceptable risk of things as there's some risk in absolutely everything we do!

@Sarahandduckarehigh I hope you are okay. Try not to worry though as I'm sure baby is well protected in there.

@hamandpease I'm currently feeling the same. Allowed myself to get stressed out at work due to arguing with a colleague as she was trying to do something dodgy! It's been 4 hours and I still feel stressed and angry! Got a tummy ache now too. Going to go for a walk soon and hope that clears my head and helps me to calm down as now I'm worrying about causing damage too.

Hi, been lurking in the background and would cautiously like to join.

I had an early mc at 6 weeks last Nov so am very nervous about this little bean.

I'm 5+4 atm and keeping everything crossed 🤞

Name: Stacey
Age: 37 end or this month
2 ds age 9 & 11
From: S.Wales

This is my first baby with my partner of 7 years so it's a bit like starting again it's been so long.
Not sure I've really allowed myself to believe a baby will arrive in 8 months yet as I'm so nervous

@sejohn Welcome to the March gang! Many of us on here have had a mc so understand that you are feeling anxious. It's a long road ahead but we are all here to support each other xx

I did a test this morning at 5+4 (I think, welcome @sejohn we are date buddies! Good luck with this one) and was hoping for the elusive 3+ but got a 2-3wks. That's okay because last time I only got a 1-2 but I was hoping I'd see the 3+. I think that's probably normal but I'm definitely concerned though I have no legitimate reason.

I'm fed up worrying and getting emotional about it. @hamandpease I was totally inconsolable yesterday (my life is over, I'm not even a responsible adult, what if I lose it, how will I be a mum and have a life etc) which was really sparked off by a few unrelated issues. I think it's normal. Our hormones play tricks on us.

@Emmafh3 I finally got on my bike and cracked out 25 miles. My original plan of cycling up a hill went awry and settled for pootling along the flat. I definitely feel better for it, but can't say it's helped the "losing baby" mentality. I haven't felt sick yesterday or today, achey boobs is the new normal. All I've got is emotional incontinence 😆

Hi @sejohn and congratulations! Fx for your sticky bean. I have an 11yo dss myself so know what you about starting over, it actually worked out really well as there's no sibling rivalry between him and my 2yo and they get on beautifully.

@RedRobin7 thank you, it's good to have found a little support group because none of the friends I have told have ever mc so think I'm insane to worry so much.

@frankiefumbles I am going nowhere near those clearblue tests, they drove me mental last time and it doesn't change whatever the outcome is, they really do just cause mostly upset I think (oh, and and empty bank account!)
I am concerned because apart from the positive test I wouldn't know I was pregnant, I really don't feel it at all!

Anyone else symptom free at the moment? I know it's not a great sign 😩

@Murphyrocks that's good to know! There is 22 months between my boys and it just feels like I spend my life listening to them argue!

Thanks everyone, it's a bizarre feeling wanted my boobs to start hurting again!

@sejohn It's so hard when friends don't understand. My best friend has had 3 miscarriages in a row and she actually avoided me the first time I was pregnant. When I had a MMC at 12 weeks she was there for me. Apart from her and a friend due to have IVF, it felt like none of my other friends understood the pain I was in and stopped asking how I was. It's horrible when you don't feel like anyone understands how scared you are that it could happen again. You can definitely lean on us.

There's also a thread called "More cake for more babies... BFP after MC". Where there lots of lovely ladies who have had similar experiences.

I felt queasy before my BFP and had massive nipples but now I don't really have any symptoms. Maybe occasional bloating but it could just be what I ate. I've booked a scan at 8+5 so I hope it'll help me relax.

@RedRobin7 my friends just think I'm being a drama queen when I say that it's early days and I don't know how it will work out yet. I'm avoiding actually thinking about the baby arriving and just feel cross that I can't allow myself to feel excited.

I've had a few mc many years ago when we were trying for my two boys, one being twins st 18 weeks so a massive worrier til the end!

I had a reassurance scan with one between the boys at 7 weeks then mmc at 12 week scan where it had stopped growing at 8 so I'm sceptical to have one this time early on because i know it doesn't change anything and I'll worry even after a scan 🙈

I just wish I felt sick or something... bizarre I know 😂

@Murphyrocks your comment about stress not affecting the baby too much has made me feel better after a couple of really rubbish work days! 🖤

I’m sat on a car park and just eaten a bag of liquorice allsorts I have no idea why I bought them but the bag is empty now, whoops

So much I didn't read and missed!
@sarahandduckarehigh Like everybody says, a toddler jumping on you shouldn't damage baby in the slightest, try not to worry! Easier said than done I know

Well done @frankiefumbles on getting on the bike!
I was actually an idiot and started googling "will I cause a mc if.... " on my way around. Knowing full well the answer is no, but I can't help but worry!

@sejohn welcome! Positive vibes heading your way! Every pregnancy is new! I've had two mc this year and have come to terms (so I say...) with the fact what will be will be with this one. Thinking sticky for all of us!

Absolutely no symptoms here. Starting to want naps, but I don't know if that's because I didn't sleep in the caravan over the weekend and then back to the daily grind with zero sleep or because that bean is zapping my supplies. Hoping for the latter.

Glad to hear that @MistakenHoliday!

OMG @Wineandchoccy snap, I'm literally sitting on the couch with a massive bag of liquorice allsorts! How bizarre!

@wineandchoccy when I was pregnant with my DS I was addicted to liquorice allsorts - ate tons of the stuff! No such cravings yet but I’m only 5wks so plenty of time for all that.

I just had an epic nap! I work from home now - which I didn’t with the previous two - so am looking forward to many more

I'm sure I read somewhere liquorice was one of your five a day 😉

Waaahh this thread moves too fast! I can't keep up!

@frankiefumbles I echo what others have said about staying away from those CB weeks tests. I never got a 3+ last time and did loads of reading on them, concluding that they are bullshit! I think the US stopped selling them because they are so inaccurate. So please don’t worry about not seeing 3+!

@sarahandduckarehigh I am sure your little bean is just fine in there. However, this is something I really worry about. Yesterday DD was climbing all over me and I have no idea how I will deal with her exuberant affection when baby gets bigger!

My symptoms are fluctuating too. Felt hideously sick yesterday and today I feel OK.

@hamandpease I had a hideously stressful pregnancy last time around (think two broken property chains, one when I was 37 weeks, and a close family member’s sudden cancer diagnosis). I was on edge constantly and remember having quite a few massive meltdowns! Trust me, your baby is fine. Our bodies can withstand an incredible amount.

@Wineandchoccy I just went and sat in the park and caught up on last night’s Love Island (no judgement please) with pack of sausage rolls (again, no judgement please!)

@sejohn You're not being a drama queen at all! Your friends really should try to understand. When we told family at the weekend I told them we weren't excited and that we didn't want them to congratulate us yet, just to keep fingers crossed. I do feel bad that there's no excitement and I'm being negative because I have no symptoms!

I understand what you're saying about the early scan. When I had an 8 week scan the first time and we heard the heart beating, we were told the baby was measuring a over week behind and that I must have got my dates wrong. Tbh I think they just didn't want to tell me bad news. Thinking back to it there were massive warning signs... the heart was beating very slowly and there was no way I was that far behind. So for me if I have an 8 week scan this time and my dates match I'll be relieved and might start to think things will be okay. If it's similar again then I will ask the EPU for a scan after a week or two rather than waiting to get to 12 weeks!

Anyway, I don't want to scare anyone who is pregnant for the first time! Most people have successful pregnancies so there's every chance we will be okay!

@SuperSharpShooter82 Thanks for the reassurance with the CB digitals. I got 2-3 on the last test and I've been thinking about buying more to see 3+ but I think I'm just going to leave it.

You've also reassured me about the stress aspect too! Work has been stressing me out and also dealing with my DH - he suffers from anxiety and depression but trying to put myself first and not take on his issues as my own! He's panicking already about being a dad and I'm finding that hard. He says things he shouldn't and it upsets me. He's an amazing uncle so he will be an amazing dad, I just know it - even if he doesn't!

Haha about Love Island! We watched half last night and I have to wait for DH to get home to watch the rest.

@frankiefumbles Meant to say earlier, well done for getting on the bike! I've still not managed to get to the gym. Wanted to go today but had to come home to let a handy man in and the gym is next to work but I don't want to drive back there!

@RedRobin7 I really appreciate what you've said re the scans and it really sums it up nicely. I'm tempted to think as @sejohn is thinking re an early scan at about 8 weeks - in that really it won't impact the outcome and I'll still worry...but as @Red said I feel like even if it doesn't give me total certainty I think maybe it's worth it just to tick a few boxes (ie if I can relax for the following fortnight if everything seems okay, or whether it'll be like last time). I feel like I could have easily gone through £90 on...clearblue...or...think of how much money I've saved over the last week and a half not eating anything!

And @Emmafh3 you are right in that what will be will be. There's no other way to look at it.

I think, as I've said before, it's totally natural for us to be worried about this especially as so many of us have had previous mc issues. In fact slightly concerningly I seem to see more people have had a mc than haven't? DM and DH are totally chilled about it and think it's here to stay. Tbh I need that positivity from them otherwise I'd be a mess.

Oh my Lord. What did I do to the @ s on that post???? Why is there no draft button! FFS 😂

Step away from the tests ladies! Someone said last time that you are literally pissing away money by continuing to do them once you’ve had a strong result 😂

Please don’t worry too much about lack of symptoms. Every pregnancy is different. Lots of women don’t get morning sickness- I didn’t last time.

I’m sorry to hear about all your losses. I had a chemical pregnancy before I got pregnant with my son; I was very upset when it ended, even though I’d only known for a few days. I can’t imagine what it’s like to lose a baby later on I don’t think there’s any point at which I felt “safe” or relaxed last time. This time, I’m trying to focus on the positives of the early stage and enjoy still fitting into my clothes etc. Even things like being able to roll over in bed or tie your shoelaces are worth appreciating...