June #5

[ClareB83]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3194828-june-2018-4

Just restarting

@WreckItRach bless you, please don’t feel like that. I know it’s pointless saying that, I felt exactly the same with my ds1 as he was a terrible feeder and we had a nightmare with him losing loads of weight. I tried to pump but it was awful so we ended up formula feeding, I felt crap about it at the time but know now it was the right decision. He’s a happy, healthy, incredibly bright 7yo and we’re very close. Remember you have to think about yourself too, your baby needs you to be ok physically and mentally x

@wreckitrach what Elizabethlemon said !

@WreckitRach don’t feel like a failure if you do switch to formula. Even a small amount of time breast feeding is amazing (and I haven’t at all this time nor the last time and my youngest son is now almost 7 and flying through school). You need to think of yourself too. Happy Mum Happy Baby x

@ElizabethLemon I've not started yet but am going to try in the next few days. Your best milk is usually in the morning so best to pump then. Don't over pump though - I made that mistake with DS1 and ended up with mastitis.

@Shutupanddance1 Yey for it being your due date tomorrow! Rubbish about DD1 - I agree i hate it that some parents can't be bothered to keep their children home when they are sick. Our nursery told me that sometimes they find out from the children that they were sick the night before and by then it's too late!! Hope it's a short lived illness and she's better soon.

@WreckItRach don't feel bad. You are not a let down of a mother. It's best that baby is fed above all. My cousin couldn't breastfeed and she said she beat herself up about it loads at the time but her children are perfectly healthy and haven't suffered at all having had formula as babies.

I've been in a serious grump today. Wonder if it's a touch of the baby blues - we're on day 12 now. I went back to bed this morning till noon as I slept really badly last night - basically slept with DS1 on me until 4:30am!!
I've been in my PJs all day and not gone outside at all.
I've had a headache on and off for three days now which I can't seem to shake and is probably not helping me feeling grumpy. I seem to have a massive crick in my neck as well.
I'm struggling a bit with DS's feeding. He had his tongue tie snipped on Saturday and even though the feeding is better generally my milk flow is so fast poor thing is struggling to stay latched on as he starts choking and spluttering!

Sorry for the moan - just feeling a bit low today.

Thank you ladies, your incredibly kind comments made me cry!

@SparklesandBubbles I'm sorry it's been a hard day, it's really good that you managed to get a bit more sleep this morning! I hope you start to feel more positive tomorrow and get a better nights sleep tonight 😊

@SparklesandBubbles - have you been drinking enough water? I found when feeding I drank a serious amount of water, if I didn’t I’d get a headache.

DD1 has woken up, no temperature but a barky cough now, lovely .

Trying to feel positive about birth, today is my due date according to doctor so I know that for sure, in 14 days time, I will have a baby . Baby is still back to back I think as I’ve a lot of back pain at night when sleeping.

The early days are so tough but it passes so quick!

Sorry to hear about all those having a rough time atm. Remember, you are smarter than you think, braver than you feel and stronger than you think. x

In other news, my baby girl found her way in to the world yesterday! She's perfect and I'm biased.

Congratulations @Addy2 😊

Oh, Congrats on your baby girl Addy2!
Sorry for the tough times ladies, I hope things will settle soon for you..
I'll be 38 weeks tomorrow, sleeping at night is a challenge but hope baby will wait due date as renovating bath almost finished, kitchen half way and nursery full of staff that doesn't belong there...
Thanks God for Moses basket in our room to keep me sane we're not completely unprepared!

Congratulations Addy.

We had a better night last night with the assistance of white noise - she loved it! Just got a you tube video

@Addy2 Congratulations!

Anyone else found that when their milk came in, their mood just fell off a cliff?

@Shutupanddance1 drinking tons of water. Luckily the headache seems to have eased today which is a relief.

@Addy2 congratulations on your little girl. I hope you are both doing well. Are you back home?

@Lali1 good luck with all the house renovations. Sounds tough but as you say at least you've got somewhere to put baby amongst the chaos!!

@Dinosauratemydaffodils Can't say I did but I think I was still in the initial wave over euphoria of having given birth when my milk started coming in on day 3. I've only had one proper moody day and that was yesterday. Feeling so much better today.

Thanks @Sparklesandbubbles, they should finish by Friday but looks like it doesn't progress as it should...

I had an appointment with consultant today -38 weeks- and I'm scheduled for induction on the due date. They are not too concerned about the small heart issues of the baby, so I feel bit better about it as well.

Hope everyone feels better today and had a chance to get at least a nap between baby feeds.

@Dinosauratemydaffodils I think that’s when I started to feel low. I struggle with depression anyway but I really felt lower than I had in a long time. Thankfully I’ve started to feel a bit more human again (though I need to keep reminding myself that it’s only been 9 days since Indi arrived)
hope you are feeling ok 😊

@sparksandbubbles going home later today, really struggled with feeding so had to be readmitted after the birth.

@dinosauratemydffodils My milk came in yesterday and my mood went through the floor. Thankfully, it was short-lived. Woken up much happier today, I think due to having slept a bit and gradually recovering from birth.

@Lali1 that sounds really stressful. Hopefully, they're finished long before baby is born.

Anyone else postpartum have feet and legs so swollen they'd look proportional on an elephant?

@Addy2 Ouch. I acquired multiple pairs of TED stockings from the hospital before I left so my legs look possibly better than they did before I got pregnant. Could you ask the midwife for some?

Feeling a bit better but I just can't stop crying. No idea why, her birth was a really positive experience, she's gorgeous (might be biased though) but emotionally I'm a bit out of it.

That's perfectly normal @Dinosauratemydaffodils your hormones will be all over the place at the moment. Give it a few weeks and they'll level out.

for you @dinosaursate @jadeward89

Congrats @addy2!!! Have you made it home yet?

How's everyone getting on now? Ds was awake for 4 hours straight this morning which I know he shouldn't be. We tried everything though and he's eventually dropped off. I do wonder if too many people are holding him during the day so it's unsettling. Is anyone else having this issue?

It's one of my favourite jokes that 'babies under 8 weeks cant be awake for more than two hours, so if you offer them the opportunity to sleep towards the end of that period they will'. Hahaha.

Hope you ladies are enjoying cuddles, still no baby for me yet.

Baby’s sleep can be very irratic in the early days - one step forward, two steps back.

Nothing much happening here had a sweep Thursday (38+2) bishops score 6, Dtd and lost mucus plug yesterday and more today but no real pains or signs it’s all a bit boring! Wow 4 hours is a long time for a wee newborn to be awake!

@Northernbeachbum was he awake and feeding/crying or just awake and chilling?? We get a few 20ish minutes of the baby being awake and alert, looking around etc.. then the rest of the time it’s feeding, screaming or sleeping.

I had a couple of days where I felt really really down. My c section scar got slightly inflamed and red and started smelling slightly odd, tmi sorry! The midwife sent me to the mau where they didn’t seem massively concerned but gave me antibiotics for a surface infection which seem to have cleared everything up. I feel so sorry for my body though, it’s been through so much and I’m still having to pump various medications into it.

I had to take the baby to out of hours yesterday too as he’s got a red and goopy eye, dr prescribed drops so that’s something else fun to add to the list!

@Cookie1831 that sounds promising! Fingers crossed.

@Shutupanddance1 hopefully not too much longer. Are you managing to get a bit of rest? Not easy with a little one I know.