June #5

[ClareB83]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3194828-june-2018-4

Just restarting

Well I seem to have lost control of pain relief, fuck I'm hurting this morning. Think I slept funny which didn't help. Still can't get out of bed or a chair or into without relying on DP which I'm finding so hard as I need to let him sleep too.

Sorry little moan

Oh dear northern, I hope you feel better soon

@Northernbeachbum sorry to hear you are suffering. The first week is definitely the worst. Even without a c-section I needed my DH to help me off the sofa and my stomach really hurt and I was walking around like an invalid. It does get better I promise you just need to rest as much as possible.

I'm feeling pretty good this morning. Day 9 and DS2 slept 4hrs last night - Yey. The swaddling clearly helps him sleep longer.

Thanks guys, sorry for my moan. I had a meltdown at do at 4am as I HATE that I need him to help me do everything. I can't even get off the sofa and I'm feeling like I should be further ahead of the recovery by now.

@sparklesandbubbles it's amazing how good 4 hours sleep can feel. Swaddling seems to be fab. Are you just using a musin

@Northernbeachbum yes I've got one of the large Aden and Anais ones which seems to work pretty well. I swaddle it so he can still get to his hands as he likes them near his face. I also have a merino wool one called Cocooi but he manages to wriggle out of it!

Oh wow @SparklesandBubbles he is totally and utterly gorgeous! ❤️

We’ve got a grosnug for our little one, when he eventually decides to join us. (It’s like a cross between a swaddle and a sleeping bag and you can have their arms in or out.)

@Northernbeachbum
If the pain is getting worse not better get it checked out, you need to look after yourself as well as your little one. If all’s ok you might just need some stronger pain killers for a couple of days.

@Sparklesandbubbles OMG, he is gorgeous!

@SparklesandBubbles so so cute!!

@northernbeachbum - it will get better! Just relax and try and forget about moving anywhere - PJs and chill

So my little one is head down but back to back . So gonna try and stay on all fours for at least half hour each day to see if I can’t ask her to move round nicely.

@Alice0606 thank you. I think so too but then again I'm completely biased!!!

@sparklesandbubbles what a cutey!! We've got the gro snugs too but not sure what he will prefer

Not sure the pain is worse, think I've just run out of tolerance and feel like I should be healing faster. I also think the pain relief ran out over night. Up and wandering around now but still can't actually get myself up and down .

Possibly going to send DP for some co codamol to add to my ibuprofen and paracetamol

@SparklesandBubbles gorgeous boy!!

@Northernbeachbum if you are really struggling with pain please ring your gp, they will be able to prescribe something over the phone for you to collect. You had abdominal surgery a few days ago, be kind to yourself!

I was stupid this morning and did the school run then had breakfast out. I’m sore now and convinced I’ve burst my stitches, though presumably that would be agonising and not just sore. Plus ds just wanted to feed every few minutes and I need to practice feeding out of the bed because I’m pretty crap at it!

I didn't realise I could do that, thank you @ElizabethLemon. Oddly now I'm feeling a bit better than yesterday, I think where i slept curled up everything tightened up so I had to 're stretch my skin to lie flat.

Yeah I'd assume bursting them would feel horrific.....I have been tempted to ask them how it would feel just in case I feel it. Have you been discharged for his Neuro issues now?

So cute Sparkles 😘😍

Had my sweep, midwife said my cervix was still posterior so it looks like I’ll be waiting until Wednesday when I get another one

@sparklesandbubbles So cute!

Well, best laid plans and all... my elective c-section under GA ended up being an "emergency" c-section with a spinal, curtain dropped altogether for her birth, skin to skin within 3-4 minutes of her being born and a nipple knitted hat provided by the hospital (for her) when I went into labour late Wednesday night/early Thursday morning.

Got discharged this afternoon and so far, so good.

@Dinosauratemydaffodils congratulations! How are you feeling? It must have been a bit of a shock but I hope it was still better than your last experience.

@Northernbeachbum we got a letter yesterday giving us an appointment to see the paediatric team when the baby will be 6 weeks old. I’m hoping that they’ll be able to discharge us then, although he may need more scans. We’ll see!

I feel like I’ve won the lottery, baby has slept continuously for 3.5 hours!

Oh wow @dinosaursatemydaffodils what a shock that must ve been. Massive congratulations and it must ve felt great to
Have a more positive c section experience

@ElizabethLemon sounds like they're not as massively concerned now which must be a major relief. Great work on the sleep.

What a night! I saw so much of it, thank you dd!

Tomorrow I can have a pj day and that’s literally the only thought that’ll get me through today

Congratulations @Dinosaursatydaffodils hope you are both doing ok.

My emotions are running sky high at the moment and I feel like I’ve lost a bit of control tbh. I don’t think it helps that I had to wait around at hospital for so long to begin with and then since coming home I seem to be constantly waiting on someone coming over. I don’t mind family coming over but I wish that the mw would give some sort of time so that maybe I could get out of the house (and off the street). Just feel as though I’m being put in boxes and told to sit tight, doesn’t help that my husband has to go back to work today as it turns out he can’t get paternity pay as I didn’t know I was pregnant when he signed up with a new teaching agency, apparently I should have known I was pregnant on/by September 9th!
Sorry for the rant it’s been a long weekend.
Hope you are all ok 😊

@Dinosauratemydaffodils massive congratulations! Hope you are recovering ok at home x

@RockinRobinTweets I'm with you. DS1 decided to wake and not go back to bed between 11pm-1:30 (DH took over from me at 12:30am) and then DS2 wouldn't be put down so I was half sleeping with him on me until 4:30am!! Luckily DS1 has gone to nursery this morning so I'm going back to bed once I've got DS2 back to sleep!

@jadeward89 sorry you've had a tough weekend. Doesn't help dealing with these things when you're tired as well. My midwives I can request a morning or afternoon visit so might be worth asking them so you can plan your day a little and get out of the house.

@jadeward89 I feel exactly the same, you aren't alone! I have cried like 5 times this morning and all of this is with my husband still being off until Friday, bless you. I never expected to be this overwhelmed.
I totally agree about the MW, it's so hard, we waited in all day the other day because they said they were coming then and nobody came. Plus family galore coming round. I get we have a tiny baby and everyone is excited but I'm just getting sick of having people round all the time.
I hope you are ok, try and take five minutes, even if it's just for a breather in the garden. You are doing a great job xx

Sorry everyone’s feeling a bit knackered and down. I had definitely forgotten how tough the 1st couple of weeks are. I don’t like having to wait around for the midwife either, not that I have any plans (still a bit scared to go outside!) but it’s nice to have some order! We had the midwife round yesterday, all was fine but she didn’t want to discharge me as I said I’d been feeling anxious and had been crying a lot. She was talking about postnatal depression but I would’ve thought what I’m experiencing is pretty normal at this stage, especially considering everything that’s happened with this baby?

Has anyone started pumping? I’ve just washed and sterilised the pump as my boobs have been spraying all over the place this morning even though baby has been feeding. Any tips? When’s the best time to do it? I pumped a bit with ds1 but wasn’t very successful.

@ElizabethLemon I think the optimal time to start pumping is 6 weeks although I think I started at 4 weeks and got on fine, but I think I may have had a bit of oversupply last time.

Sorry everyone is feeling bleh, the early days are so so tough! I’m due tomorrow and I feel so grumpy. DD1 has come home from nursery for second week in a row with a cough and temperature. Sick of it as I kept her off last week so she wouldn’t pass it on to anyone, obviously I’m one of the only parents that’s arsed to do that.

@ElizabethLemon I started pumping when he was about 4 days old. I couldn't do the whole breastfeeding thing, he struggled and is possibly tongue tied and I was in agony. I had a massive amount of milk come in but I timed my pumps for after he had fed for just slightly more than he had and it's calmed down now. Tbh, I find the breastfeeding/pumping thing is what gets me down the most. I keep dreaming longingly of formula then feel like an absolute let down of a mother.

@Shutupanddance1 that's crappy, hopefully she will get better soon, it's the last thing you need right now from the sounds of it!

The first weeks are so hard! This time next week I will have my baby and to be honest I am slightly dreading it because I’m so nervous about ‘baby blues’ and tiredness . Also I can’t wait to meet him and of course I am excited and happy to have made it beyond 38 weeks with no problems that we know of . Just scared . Fine line between depression and normal baby blues and breastfeeding guilt and feeling issues definitely don’t help - another thing I’m nervous about. Plus what do babies wear in hot weather? And not sure I can remember how to use the steriliser and haven’t kept the instructions.
It all feels totally overwhelming and I also have an ill child - just a cough and a cold from
Pre school but sleeping badly and so grumpy and just not good timing ! Also keep crying and husband not overly sympathetic and actually said this morning ‘what is there to be nervous about’
Ha!