November 2018 #4

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Ante-natal thread for babies due this November, continued...

Stats spreadsheet is here - add and update yourself as needed!

@Laurisi yeh yeh thankfully don’t have to wait long. Thank you 🙂 I will keep up updated, thanks a lot for the support x

I'm still waiting on my scan!! Only had my booking in appointment on Thursday, so I'm really hoping to get a date before going on holiday on 21st......

I have my scan tomorrow morning. Not had one at all yet so a little bit nervous tbh!

Had sexing scan today

We are team blue

@GreenMeerkat Congrats 💙
we were told at 12 week scan she was pretty sure we were blue but booked sexing scan for the 29th 😊

Yay for blue. My dp is convinced we are blue too. I'm not so sure. I'll be booking a gender scan for about 18 weeks

Thanks. We are thrilled. We have two girls so it's lovely to be having a boy this time!

I feel like posting on AIBU but can't face it guys! My mum is really upset because I've said we won't be sharing the baby's name / shortlist before he/she is born. She is really upset and says I'm being ridiculous and secretive. And she might need time to "get used to the name" if she doesn't like it and wants a lot of input.

My mum and I are really close but she does have really strong opinions and very early on when we even mentioned a few potential names she steamrollered half of them. :/ So DH and i decided to decide ourselves and let people know when baby arrives. So ... what are you guys doing? AIBU? :/

@bellanotte22 good luck for tomorrow 😊

@GreenMeerkat congratulations! We'll be finding out at our 20 week scan - 6.5 weeks to wait! I have no idea, this pregnancy has been very different from dd so maybe we'll be blue too but 🤷‍♀️ who knows. We'd be thrilled with either but I have a favourite girls name I want to use and am stumped on boys names!

Aww congrats on gender scan! I can’t wait to know, two weeks today!!
Anyone found that different sex pregnancy’s we’re alor different, with having a boy and no sickness with him but weeks of sickness with this people are convinced this ones a girl but I’m not convinced. I’m right in the middle.

@Emelene I think that's completely right YADNBU. We found out DD's sex but didn't tell anyone else and didn't utter her name til we announced her birth. I've learnt from friends that so many of their favourite names got shot down by people and put them off. This time my mother said 'oh you have to tell us the sex' but I've said nope! I said well you wouldn't know if we didn't find out, and you didn't find out when you had me and my brother so 🤷‍♀️. Your mother will have the whole of your baby's life to 'get used' to the name if she needs to. I think it's nice to keep some things between you and your partner. I felt it helped us to bond as a family to keep a little back from other people. Mother's hey!

Thank you @LastNightsMakeUp

@Emelene it's your baby! It's surely not a whole family decision. You're not BU at all in wanting to keep it secret. I don't think we discussed specific names at all with family - when the topic came up I'd talk about the style we like and that was that. No need to go into any of that at all esp if they're going to get the hump!

We are struggling with we are struggling on boys names too @LastNightsMakeUp - girls name is pretty sorted but so far only found a few boys names that we both don't hate 🙈 none that we really like - it's so hard!

@HanahMarie it really is! I have about 3 girls names I'd happily use! I have a very small list of boys names but don't love any of them. I like fairly classic names and all the 'classic' boy names seem to be really popular. We have a while at least! If it's a boy we'll be heading straight to Waterstones to get a name book and going through every single name with a pen like we did for dd! Such responsibility too!

We will be staying team yellow but everyone at the moment seems to think it is going to be another boy. I think you are completely within your rights to keep your name a secret until you are happy sharing it (whether that is before or after the baby is born). We didn't know if we were having a girl or a boy last time but kept our names a secret until he arrived.

How has your weekend been @wejammin?

@Emelene YANBU! We haven’t got definite names we like yet- think we’re sorted for a girl but definitely not for a boy although we do generally have similar tastes. I think I’d tell my mum but only because she wouldn’t pass judgement, she’s proved pretty good at allowing us to make our own mistakes decisions in with DS without butting in! MIL slightly different but we’re used to ignoring unsolicited advice. Either way it’s your decision and nobody should feel like they have equal rights to make or know about decisions about your child as you and DH do!

Saying all that- brace yourself as the names are just the same. So many people have something to say about everything. I was told off by DH’s auntie who I’ve met about twice for not giving DS water (he was EBF at the time). DH was out of the room and I felt so ganged up on. MIL later mentioned that I should try to give him some water and I just smiled and nodded. I showed DH info saying it wasn’t necessary, and told him he could battle to get DS to drink water if he wanted. I was so annoyed though- I’ve told DH to never leave me alone with said aunt again!!

@CVB1990 My morning sickness was MUCH worse this time and I'm having a boy, so different to previous pregnancies with DDs!

@Emelene YANBU. It is nobody else's business/decision what you decide to name your baby. We are keeping our name top secret as he is going to be named after my Dad and want it to be a surprise for him when he's born so will be telling nobody. I'm just going to say to people that I don't know/haven't decided on names if they ask.

emelene YANBU at all!!! Gosh your mum sounds like mine. We are close but she has strong opinions too and last pregnancy she totally made me feel shit about a name I liked. It’s was so annoying, this time I’m not sharing at all. I’m just going to pretend we haven’t sorted at all or give her a wide range of names I have no intention of using! It’s MY and my OH baby and not her right to name it, as much as I love her, she doesn’t not get a say in this!

And green congrats on team blue, I have two boys already, they are joyous! I can’t work out if for my third I’d like another boy or a girl for a change!

And I have only boys names, I don’t like any girls!

@GreenMeerkat congratulations, I am wondering if we are blue again as so far pregnancy has been identical to DS and apparently people say girls and boys are different in pregnancy - don't know if any truth in it.

@Emelene I'm trying to remember but think we shared the middle name we had chosen but definitely kept first name secret as we hadn't really decided ourselves until I started labour - although as it turned out was one of the first names we thought of when thinking of one way back in first trimester.

I've got middle names sorted this time in my head (not sure if DH will agree) and a shortlist for boys but not for girls yet as I teach girls so struggle with not putting a face to a name haha

@Emelene You have every right to keep the name secret. I've made the mistake of telling my mum the names we like. She seems to think I'm not telling her but rather asking her opinion and keeps telling me when she doesn't like one. 😩 Wish I hadn't bothered now.

As for choosing names, we have a definite full name if it's a girl. If it's a boy we have a definite middle name and seven possible first names - most of which DH and I don't agree on. 😂 Figure we'll cross that bridge once we find out the sex at 20 weeks. If we're team pink, no problem. If we're team blue I foresee some arguments on the horizon!

We have names selected and have had comments already. Comments have been shot down quite quickly though with a firm 'my your own business'

We will be finding out in 5 weeks time. I’m secretly hoping for another boy (purely because I hate pink) but will be happy with either.
We have no names really. I have names that I love and DP has names he loveable but none of them are the same

@Tinypawz my 12 week scan is on Friday! I’ll be 12-12.2 I think. Really hoping everything is ok.

We’ll find out the sex at the 20wk scan if baby cooperates. I just want a healthy baby but if I could choose then I’d love a girl as I have a DS already and I’d love one of each! I’m pretty sure I’m going to have a second boy though which would be lovely too

@GreenMeerkat ooooh that’s interesting, everyone’s said if it’s sickness it’s a girl! I’ve had a lot more sickness with this one but will have to wait and see in a few weeks 😬

I’ll attach a pic, let’s see if anyone can have a guess 🙌🏻

@CVB1990 I'm no good at nub theory but if you're on Facebook there's a group called Strictly Nub Theory and they can guess sex of baby from 12 week scan and have a 90% success rate or something like that. They all guessed boy on mine and were right!