Due in June - we'll be holding babies soon, whos first? bets on!!

[NattyThomasandEllen]

Hey guys new thread!
(i stole the title )

Enjoy your break Bumper - off to bed - night x

only we wouldnt be talking, too busy drooling over the.. food yes the food

that last point was about meet up in GR resturant.. just realised that made no sense, hadnt refreshed the thread

im off to bed then, night all xx

Have a good time in Gods own county bumper. Hope you have a good meetup too. Wish I was coming.

Am going to spend some quality time with my own GR - but NO SEX!!!

Anyone about? - I am having a mental meltdown!

I am - foolishly fell asleep at 8pm - so now I'm wide awake with heartburn - lovely! How can I help?

Hey BadZelda, oh dear - nasty heartburn!

I'm just having a bit of a freak out. I'm seeing the consultant on Friday to get a date for an elective section. (traumatic birth of dd ending in emergency section has left me a bit reluctant to try for a VBAC) But now I'm panicking that maybe I should be having a VBAC. I had post traumatic stress after the last birth and am starting to get flashbacks again. I'm now in a total tizz in case I freak out during the section.

To top it all off, I'm 36 weeks pregnant and we have just put an offer in on a house, which has been accepted but our purchasers want to move in about 6 or 7 weeks time! I am eager to move house but aaargh!

I can't bloody sleep as my head is totally up my bum with all that is going on....

That sounds nasty RF - and doesn't help when things are all sixes and sevens with moving. I haven't got any advice to give on the VBAC thing...not having any direct experience of it; from what I hear, EC's can be very calm and lovely, and of course it takes a lot of the 'will I, won't I' away r.e. when you'll give birth, which might help with the stress of not knowing when you're moving etc. I guess there's a lot of pressure to 'give birth naturally' but at the end of the day what's important is that you and the baby are relaxed, and that you both stay happy and healthy...

Currently in some kind of denial personally - nearly 36 weeks, but I've convinced myself the baby won't come for 'months'...I'm living in a dream world aren't I? I guess this is why I'm currently feeling reasonably calm about the labour part. Just think of it this way: whatever happens will happen, and then you'll have a lovely baby and the amnesia will kick in, and you'll be so busy looking after them that the actual birth part will recede into the distance? (ok, this may be a crap theory, but seems to me pregnancy is soooooooo long that I can't wait to get to the part where me and bump part company and I end up with a baby instead.)

Will this be your first BadZelda?

Don't want to make it sound like it's an easy decision by the way...and I also understand that you might feel like you're running out of time to tell MW etc your decision...I guess they can't tell you whether you're likely to have problems having another birth, so you don't have enough info to base your decision on? That must be hard. I was a bit traumatised last time, but that was mostly post-natal stuff (bad hosp. experience coupled with reaction to rubella vaccination and a bit of mastitis...)

Nope - second. 1st is just about two and a half - and has sneaked into mummy and daddy's bed whilst I've been up, so there's no room for me now

BZ wonders if eating the last mint cornetto in the freezer would be a good or bad idea...

Chances are good that I would be able to have a normal birth. DD was brow presentation, got stuck (after ages as the midwives didn't notice and then got very distressed. I really thought I was going to lose her - hence all the PTSD problems. That's mainly why I wanted a section this time, the reassurance that it would be a smoother delivery, no massive emergency at the end. it was terrifying. But as it gets neared I'm getting more scared of the whole thing now. Wish there was some magic guarantee... I think the fact that I don't trust midwives much after last time doesn't help, I just felt so let down and experiences so far this pregnancy haven't exactly been inspiring!
I found the actual labour bit fine, just had lots of gas and air (great stuff eh) and got to 10cms with no problems, it was just the last bit that went pear shaped.

My DD has just turned two. DOn't know about your DD's bed - but I wouldn't fit in my little ones bed at the moment!!!

She's got one of those expanding ones from Ikea...so I can make it long enough for me (and I'm not v. tall anyway...used to go to sleep in her cot with her when she was smaller and wanted reassurance)...but it's a bit hard on the old bones...will just turf her out in a bit though, when I go back to bed.

The not knowing thing is the worst isn't it? Don't know about you, but in Lambeth we seem to have really few AN appts, so I feel like I really don't know what is going on in there; which way up is bubba, etc etc. Can you ask them for a scan to help you make your mind up, and give you more info about how the baby is positioned? I would have recovery is easier after a vag birth than a ces. - but as I said I don't have direct experience, so I could be talking sh** ....from what I've heard though, elective is way less stressful than emergency (makes sense I guess). Lots of other people on here more qualified than me to help of course!

I know what you mean about the ante natal appointments. They are so rare it is riddiculous. I was supposed to be being monitored closely this time around.. I've probably had about 6 appointments in total and 2 of those were for anti-D jabs!

Asking for a scan is a good idea, I moght do that on Friday. The consultant would be very happy, he wants me to have a VBAC but it is so hard to know if it is because it is for your best interests or the hospital figures that they recommend anything. (hmm I definitely have major trust issues with the NHS don't I?!)

Recovery wasn't terrible last time - I was up and in the shower the same day as the operation but just very tender. Obviously a VBAC would be better for my daughter as I will recover much faster. But I just keep panicking in case it goes wrong again - I know rationally it is unlikely but that didn't stop it happening last time... grrr - I am not good at making big decisions

Think I might head back to bed now...RF hope I've been of some help (probably not though...) - try not to worry too much. Forewarned is forearmed...all I can suggest is that you get them to tell you as much as they possibly can beforehand - I'm sure they will be sympathetic given the trauma that you've had to deal with before? Guess a named midwife, that you've met before is out of the question? Personally I haven't seen the same once twice in the last eight months...guess this is par for the course . Anyway, nice to meet you - don't be a stranger,
zxx

Thanks for the chat BZ, you have helped! Good night!

At the risk of sounding like one of those monty python sketches, I've only had 4! So do sympathise! Def. get them to give you a scan if they're up for it - if only to set your mind at rest. Goodnight! zx

Just wanted to say thanks again BadZelda! It was lovely to talk to you - I eventually got to sleep just after 3 and then got woken by dd at 6.30 so will probably be too tired to be stressed out today! Thanks for being there though!

I'm so sorry for being a crappy PA guys!! I was going to sort out text buddies last night, but dp sent me to bed at 7.30! After shouting at him and then shouting at dd I had a bit of an emotional breakdown and started sobbing! He then told me to go upstairs and have a lie down and that he would sort dd out, which was lovely! I then fell asleep, which I didn't mean to do, and woke up just now! I think I was tired!

So to cut a long story short I shall sort out the text buddies at some point today!

I have to go and tidy the kitchen and do the washing up from last night now because dp forgot! Oh and give dd a bath because he forgot to do that too! !!

RedFraggle - sounds like we got to sleep at the same time. I got to sleep in till 7.30 though...and now having porridge in bed, so counting my blessings ;) Don't feel tooooo knackered after my sneaky 3 hour nap in the evening.

Seriously though - don't feel you have to lurk - there's some lovely friendly helpful and knowledgable people on here that I'm sure will give you better and sounder advice than me. I'm happy to be an 'ear' though.

Oh we'll need a new thread title soon...Due in June - one baby alread...the rest will be soon!

Glad you had a good sleep Holly - DS2 woke up at 5 and insisted on waking the whole house (and the neighbours too - oops) - but after some encouragement we all went back to sleep .

Red Fraggle - hope that your decisions seem less daunting this morning.

Like the new thread title BZ