November 2018 #3

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Ante-natal thread for babies due this November, continued...

Stats spreadsheet is here - add and update yourself as needed!

Good luck @TinyPawz

Good luck @TinyPawz

Fab scan picture

Good luck @TinyPawz x

Hi everyone!!! I know I’m late to the November party, but due in 30th Nov, so can I squeeze in?......
I must admit I still feel like the whole thing is unreal as I’ve been lucky and have had very few symptoms, but had an 8 week scan on Friday (ICSI baby do standard procedure at our clinic) and little bean is doing well.
I look forward to getting to know you all better, and having support from others at a similar stage.

Good luck @TinyPawz. Will be thinking of you.

Welcome @Melaniesunflower! Congratulations on the positive scan result and the lack of symptoms. I'm 12 weeks tomorrow and only just getting over my nausea so I'm very jealous!

Anybody else struggling to eat? I seem to have gone off all food. I have had no sickness or nausea at all so far but just don't fancy eating anything. I have to really force food in to my mouth to eat. Normally extremely greedy

@Tyrionsbitch snap! For the past two days I've completely gone off food, currently 8+6 and so far had not had any sickness or nausea, so strange!

@saraswati and @nightmanagerfan I’m so sorry you’re having extra worries on top of what is already an anxious time. I agree with what was said earlier- too often we think we should just plough on with work and life as if everything is ok. When everything isn’t ok, you have every right to lay in bed, eat whatever makes you feel good, cry and tell as few people as you feel like what’s happening. Looking after yourself has to take priority, I’m glad it sounds like you both have good support.

12+2, feeling more energetic and less nauseous but could still eat several horses. For the second time this pregnancy someone has said to me they can “see it in my face”. So I have a fat face. Thanks.

Hey - I am new to mumsnet - got dating scan next wed but due date so far 17th Nov so I am 10 weeks - baby was planned but my then fiance has ended the relationship but want us to remain close to raise the baby together - nothing happened, no big argument etc he just fell out of love :( my family are over an hour away but want to stay in the same place to make raising the baby together as easy as we can xxx

@Singlemommabear sorry to hear of your relationship breakdown. In your shoes I would head closer to family. A move will be much more difficult once baby arrives and an hours travel is really not that much for dad to visit/spend time with baby.

@singlemommabear you poor thing, I understand how you feel, my ex husband had an affair and we split when I was 7 months pregnant with dd, she's now 3.5. It's so difficult but you will be Ok, I found i coped much better once the baby arrived as it gives you focus. I ended up moving in with my mum, luckily we have a great relationship and she was a great support. However you've got to do what's right for you. Unfortunately despite saying all the time when I was pregnant he'd be there for the baby he never has and they don't have a relationship so I was glad I moved home.

I met dp when my daughter was 8 months and we moved in together in January of this year. This baby wasn't planned but is very much wanted and I've never been happier. He's a great father figure for dd and a wonderful partner. So I guess what I'm trying to say is that it will all be ok in the end (and as that great saying goes if it's not ok it's not the end).

@Tyrionsbitch I was like that towards the end of last week when I was about 11 weeks. 12 weeks today and yesterday my appetite returned with a vengeance.

Welcome @Singlemommabear. Sorry to hear about your relationship breakdown. Think you're so strong as I would definitely have to move nearer to family. A lady I know's partner left her when she was about 7 months pregnant (she just got home from a hospital appointment one day and he'd packed his things and gone) and I know she's found being close to her family invaluable. Just little things like the baba being able to stay with her parents on occasion so she can get a break. You know your ex better than any of us do though so hopefully he is more the type to help and properly co-parent.

Yea he will he has a son that he is an amazing Dad too - the mother (who he was with for a very long time) made it all so hard and he never gave up so I know for a fact he is an amazing dad and will do all be can - just scared how our relationship will go if/when he ends up with some one else. My friends are here and his family who I am super close too (was with his mum for lunch yesterday and was there 6.5 hours) my mums life is hectic, I would never forgive myself if I didnt try. A baby box arrived so back up this way as he still wants to open it together and then he will be with me at my scan next week etc xxx

I’m 12+2 today and got my scan tomorrow. I am absolutely petrified that baby isn’t ok... I have no symptoms apart from a growing bump. I had an early scan at 7+5 and all was fine and we saw a heartbeat but I’m still so scared something is not right. This is not like me at all I am not an anxious person but I’m convinced something is wrong

Good luck today @tinypawz
@singlemomma bear I hope everything works out for the best

@Meridithsheperd snap I had a private reassurance scan done at 7+3 I’m now 10+6 and I’m worried sick that something is wrong. This is my 4th pregnancy and with the first two I didn’t really worry much but 3rd pregnancy I was paranoid and demented myself convinced something was wrong ( nothing ever was I have a healthy dd 5 now) pretty much how I’m feeling this time round. Your not alone

Bad news from my 12 week scam I’m afraid. Baby has fluid around the heart and have been referred to the specialist for echo cardio gram tomorrow. Absolutely devastated 😕

Hi all, I'm new to group. Currently 11+3. I have scan on Monday. Had an early scan when I thought I was 6/7 weeks but scan showed dad at 4/5 weeks. So not really sure what I'll be measuring at scan. Mw said not to worry too much. Based on my dates due date 12th November.

Symptoms - sore boobs, nausea that comes and goes, sore back, tiredness. I do feel I'm having a few better days though.

Can't wait to be able to tell my friends and colleagues! Surprised nobody has guessed!

Oh @marajade12 how worrying for you. I'm so sorry xx

Oh no @marajade12 what are the next steps? Have they said what they thought it could be?

They haven’t really said what it could be. The fluid was obscuring the heart so the sonographer couldn’t see its structure. Hb was strong though and everything else was normal. They did the neucal measurement as well and that came back in the normal range so I’m guessing the problem is not chromosomal, who knows. I couldn’t find much on google either.

At least it’s not a long wait for the next scan tomorrow.

@marajade

There's a chance that it could be something serious. But also a chance it is nothing at all. Sometimes collections of fluid on the scan just disappear for no reason. Good luck & thinking of you x

@MeredithShepherd I've got my first scan tomorrow and I'm scared that something will be wrong too. This is such a ridiculously worrying time. I'll have my fingers crossed for you.

Good luck today @TinyPawz I really hope there's some growth.

@marajade12 I'm sorry. Good luck at the scan tomorrow, I hope it's nothing serious 🤞

How worrying for you @marajade12. As @Shrimpi says though, it could be something but it could be nothing. Hope you get better news at the next scan.

Welcome to the group @1stbaby2018!

@Singlemommabear Aw, glad you can rely on him! Hope it all works out for you as I know it must be a really tough time.

@MeredithShepherd I know what you mean about anxiety. I barely worried at all with DD by this time I'm getting very anxious about my scan, even though bump seems to still be growing and private scan at 9 weeks showed everything was fine. Best of luck with your scan tomorrow. Mine is Friday. Can't wait to get it done.

Welcome to the new joiners 👋

Lovely seeing all the scan pictures

@marajade12 so sorry to hear this, hopefully more answers tomorrow.

Good luck today @TinyPawz thinking if you

@TheUbercornMum Did you manage to get the spotting followed up?

@MeredithShepherd Hope you are holding up ok, I'm feeling the drag of this week on your behalf!

@Saraswati Hope you are able to enjoy your holiday a little now. How did DH do with the injection? After my cs I let my OH give me one of my post op injections... his technique was a little 'alternative.'

@Singlemommabear Welcome and congratulations on your baby. I think in your situation I would move to be closer to family and friends. It's much easier for ex to to travel an hour than for you to travel with a baby. It is one of those old cliches but I didn't have any comprehension about how much my own mother had loved, sacrificed and cared for me til I had my own baby. It made me really want to be around her (even though 99% of the time she drives me absolutely bonkers!!) you sound like you are doing amazingly. Baby will be proud of you! And your mum will likely be the only person you trust to look after baby for months!!!

Sorry if I've missed anyone, I had a busy day yesterday (toddler groups coupled with an OH who has a new found determination to move house!)

@lastnightsmakeup he did well! It did really hurt but I took some paracetamol and went to bed and it feels fine this morning. Our relationship is reaching new levels of intimacy although that's good practice for birth!