November 2018 #3

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Ante-natal thread for babies due this November, continued...

Stats spreadsheet is here - add and update yourself as needed!

Totally sympathise with those who are struggling. I'm finding the exhaustion so tough and my dd is 3 so must be so hard with a younger one! I feel like such a crappy mum, I'm so short tempered with her and don't have the energy to play as much. I feel really terrible!

We're on holiday for a week from sat, hoping I can put my feet up and get a bit of sun and spend some quality time with dd. Then my scan is on 2nd may so only a few days after we get back.

Again I have to applaud all of you who have kids already. My DH has been great so far, cooking meals and allowing me to spend the evenings in bed - then last night he misinterpreted the way I said something (I was brushing my teeth at the time!) and started having a go at me for it. I know he's got a lot going on with work, his mum is ill too, and he's waiting for counselling, but I felt pretty rubbish, especially when he said things have already changed and the baby hasn't even arrived yet. I can't help feeling constantly sick! I can't help the fact I can't bear to cook! I'm very appreciative of everything he's doing to help out! I'm just worried this is the tip of the iceberg, especially with all the hormones surging around - does anyone have any tips for dealing with domestic friction during pregnancy? Sorry to rant... And I totally appreciate I have it easy compared to you ladies having to juggle childcare on top of feeling this rubbish - I'm sure you're all doing the best you can and don't feel bad about being 'rubbish mum's - they will be so happy when their little brother or sister comes along it'll all be forgotten!

@petiteange28 Thank you. Sorry to hear you're going through this as well - but I am glad I'm not alone. It's so exhausting I keep worrying about what it'll be like with two. But then at least I won't be pregnant!

@pipsqueak126 Ah, the pregnancy-induced arguments... I know them well. Best advice I can offer is just remember emotions are running high for both of you (and, in your case, hormones). Take everything horrible you may say to each other with a pinch of salt and try to have a chat about how things are changing. When I was pregnant with DD, I found things settled once the first trimester was over and things were a bit more "normal" again.

@pipsqueak126 the first trimester is a hideous time! But I promise it really does get better. I honestly found the first trimester with DS far harder than the newborn phase. I wouldn’t say I ever “glowed” in pregnancy but once people know, you have a proper bump and you start feeling baby kicks pregnancy definitely starts looking up again. It’s all so new and you feel so helpless and DH hasn’t a clue what it feels like. I know I hugely underestimated how hard the first trimester would be! It’s not like with a hangover or the flu where you think you’ll probably feel better in a day or two, it’s weeks of it! I started to feel really quite good and “normal” again around week 14 last time so I have a countdown on my phone until I hit the week 14 mark. 23 days and counting!

Hope you and everyone struggling starts to feel better soon! Haven’t posted in a while but still here

@sarahhh1984 @CatSneeze Thanks so much for your words of support, yes I'm definitely counting down the days until I wave goodbye to the first trimester! I'm hoping things improve by my holiday with friends to Italy, which will be week 13, but at least I won't have work to contend with - I just hope I'm well enough to eat all the food! You're right in that you feel totally helpless, and this week 10 has been the worst for me so far. I just can't shake the nausea no matter what I do!

Thanks again and good luck to everyone!!!!

Fingers crossed for your scan, @TinyPaws

Hi all, still here and been trying to follow along. Welcome to the newbies! I've just returned from a lovely week away in Lanzarote so have a bit of the holiday blues this morning...but...scan letter arrived while we were away (3rd May - I'll be 12+1) and I have my booking in appointment in an hour so lots to get on with

Is everyone opting for the additional screening for downs? I'm sure I did with my last two but can't remember having to request it as an extra.

Enjoy the sunshine all!

Bad news at scan today. In the EPU now. Feeling so sad.

So sorry @TinyPaws

@tinypaws. I’m so sorry to hear your news. Have you got a shoulder to cry on? X

oh tinypaws i'm so sorry. is someone with you?

@TinyPaws so sorry to hear your sad news hope you have someone to support you

Oh, @TinyPaws I'm so sorry. As others have asked, have you got someone with you? Be kind to yourself.

Really sorry @TinyPaws

So sorry to hear that@tinypaws - really awful for you.

@TinyPaws I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself. If you ever want to vent please feel free to pm me. Thinking of you xx

I'm so sorry @TinyPaws ((big tight hug))

@TinyPaws I'm so sorry to hear your news.

@tinypaws so sorry you didn't get good news. Thinking of you xx

So sorry @TinyPaws. Be kind to yourself xx

@tinypaws So sorry to hear your news, I hope you've plenty of people around you to give you hugs xxxxx

So sorry @TinyPaws

Thank you for all your kind words. My girlfriend is with me. I'm having a cider in the garden but I'd far rather be having a baby. I'll miss you lovely bunch, hope you have healthy happy pregnancies.

tinypaws enjoy the cider. I’m so sorry again, and best of luck for the future. Hopefully you’ll be here again soon.

Urgh @TinyPaws that is just so utterly shit. I'm so sorry.