November 2018 #2

[BadBadBeans]

Ante-natal thread for babies due this November, continued...

Stats spreadsheet is here - add and update yourself as needed!

Hi can I join you. I found out yesterday that I am pregnant with dc4. The NHS gives an EDD of 27th November, but baby will be delivered by CS so if dates are correct the baby should be born around the 20th.

@belkins that sounds like a great idea. Beats physically sitting on my hands! We certainly have enough Lego to keep me entertained. Don't judge me but I'm looking forward to all the trash TV starting soon - The Only Way is Essex, Housewives of Cheshire etc ... utter garbage but quite good for taking ones king of more pressing matters!

Oh @moomoo85 sorry you're feeling rough. My sickness in this pregnancy has been awful particularly from 3pm until the next morning so I sympathise. I have HG and it's now all day illness but in the early days that's what I felt like and even now it kicks up in its severity during the afternoon and evening. How long has it been going on? Do go and see your doctor if it's affecting your ability to eat and drink as there are things they can do to help. Otherwise, sympathy and you're not alone, it sucks.

Ah! A fellow lover of tv trash!! @picklesandpies I LOVE Real Housewives of Cheshire – almost as much as I love Real Housewives of Orange County

@belkins Glad to have a fellow trash TV watcher onboard - it's my dirty secret 

@TheUbercornMum Can I ask what is classed as HG please? I always wonder if I had that with dd1 as it was so bad but I was 21, first out of friends to have a baby and thought that was just what morning sickness was like. I couldn't keep anything down for 17 weeks - I was sick all day and all night (sleeping on the bathroom floor). With dd2 I just had nausea mainly and was only sick a few times.

Sorry you are feeling so unwell already. Not fun.

@moomoo85 @TheUbercornMum my nausea is crippling. All day on the verge of vomming but never quite. Constant tummy aches and lots of bowel pain. I feel so gross. Way worse than I had it with both other DCs. Urgh

In other news @BadBadBeans I've booked in at Somerset Early Scans for 8th April for the Harmony and a scan. I don't think I'm going to allow myself to enjoy this pregnancy until we've had it. Now I just need to tell my OH that he needs to find £200!

@bangwhistle I'm jealous it's only £200 for a scan and Harmony, it's about £450 up here! I was hoping to get the Harmony test but don't think we can justify nearly £500 on it.

I'm with you on the all day nausea though. It's so hard having DS all day (8 months now and a rapid crawler interested in all things dangerous). Can't wait til this phase passes, I'm certainly not mum of the year right now!! DH is also the least sympathetic person about it since I'm not actually being sick all that much so he doesn't realise doesn't believe me how terrible I feel, drives me insane.

@picklesandpies this is a good comparison chart

www.helpher.org/blog/the-differences-between-morning-sickness-and-hyperemesis-gravidarum/

That said if interfering in your ability to eat and drink and the nausea is all day then do speak to your GP. This is the second time I've had it so I knew the signs though. Last time my sense of smell was through the roof so all day gagging and I was hit hard quickly and I think early intervention has helped this time. Fingers crossed!!

I love that there are other Real Housewives fans here....my favourites are OC, NY and Beverley Hills! But I'll watch any!

@toasterstrudle I think @bangwhistle was saying that OH needs to cough up half of it :) It's £429 for the scan and Harmony here too. Well done bangwhistle; I've not managed to get as far as making an appointment yet. How many weeks/days will you be on the 8th? I am considering leaving my appointment till I'm 11 weeks to minimise chances of needing a redraw, but I might talk to them about it and see what they think. It wasn't clear on their website whether you should only leave it a bit later than 10 weeks if you have a high BMI, and my BMI is pretty low so it may not be a problem?

Sorry to all those feeling pukey. Today I feel COMPLETELY NORMAL. (@Picklesandpies you are not alone!) I've got energy and my appetite is normal. However, my dreams were flat-out weird again last night and I woke up feeling like I'd barely slept, so I guess something is still going on with the old body chemistry...

@wejammin sorry you had a crap day at work! Dr BadBadBeans prescribes something you enjoy eating and something you enjoy doing! A friend's mum said to me a long long time ago when I was 21 and going through a rough patch: 'Give yourself a treat every day. Could be a bath, could be a cappucino. Doesn't have to cost money or be something big. Just take the time out to do something nice for yourself.' It was SUCH good advice, and I still do try to remember to do it more than a decade later!

@toasterstrudle my DH is mega unsympathetic at the best of times too. Sympathies! ;) I hadn't twigged that your DS is still so little. I have a friend with a 15 month age gap between her two, and she is the most chilled out mum I have ever witnessed. Gives me hope that it is possible to manage two littlies and not die of stress!!!!!

Yeay for trash telly! I'm recording all the re-runs of ER ready for maternity leave but my favourite programmes are anything with the words "rich" or "kids" in the title or blurb. Rich kids, modelling kids, teen mums, I love them all

My booking appointment is tomorrow at 8:15am. I am NOT a morning person

Anyone else watching One Born Every Minute? Probably a really bad idea but finding it fascinating.

I'm less nauseous today, I hope it's not a sign of anything bad.

@TheUbercornMum it is only the last few days it has been really bad before I was managing it by eating (which I still can still do during the early part of the day). I was really I'll with my son needing injections of cyclizine and regular tablets so I was hoping this wouldn't happen this time

Ahaaa @BadBadBeans that makes more sense! And yes - impending 15 month gap, hoping to emulate your chilled mate! You'll have a small gap too won't you? There's just no perfect time I think, wasn't expecting to catch straight away as DS took a while to conceive, but here we are! And sympathies right back - wish they could experience pregnancy, I bet mine would take to his bed for the whole of the first trimester!

@TinyPaws I watched one born on Monday, and then I couldn't sleep all night. I have had 2 brilliant unmedicated waterbirths using hypnobirthing. I watched the episode where the mum had the haemorrhage and couldn't stop thinking about it all night.

I got the hypnobirthing file out that night and will not be watching one born again!

@TinyPaws - I'm also feeling less sick (week 7) than last week. My rational brain is telling me to be glad about this and everything is probably fine. But I'm finding it hard not to overanalyse everything!

I was on the point of booking an early scan today but don't think I'll have one now - I personally don't think it will help me worry less. :/ I'll just find something else! So I'm really trying to get on top of the anxiety before it gets any worse.

I’ve got an early scan on Saturday when I’ll be 7+5... what should I be able to see does anyone know?

@MeredithShepherd I don't know how well this pic will come out but this was my early scan at 7-8 weeks with my dd. You could see the arm and leg buds and the heart flickering and could hear the heartbeat. This early the ultrasound is usually transvaginally and you need an empty bladder.

@LastNightsMakeUp just an FYI your name and DOB is on that scan

@olderthanyouthink yep noticed too late 🤷‍♀️

@olderthanyouthink although actually thankfully it's my partners surname rather than mine as he booked the appointment and they assumed we were married.... really annoyed at the time but actually handy now!

Amen @wejammin - I shall be eschewing One Born Every Minute in favour of hypnobirthing practice too. I had a fabulous birth with my first by using hypnobirthing alone (despite being on my back and monitored every 15 mins in a clinical delivery suite), and am very keen to do the same again...fingers crossed in a more relaxed environment this time! I had a birth phobia before, which was really not helped by programmes like OBEM.

@LastNightsMakeUp if you report the post to MN and explain they will remove it for you.

Will reply properly later. Toddler climbing furniture.

I watched One Born last night, much to DHs irritation. I find it fascinating how different it is for every one. When I arrived at the labour ward with DS I was offered a wheelchair and I couldn’t have thought of anything worse than sitting down but they are obviously what many women want/need.
I’m feeling vaguely nauseous at the moment at 4 weeks, which is a bit of an unpleasant surprise as I didn’t have any morning sickness at all with the first. I was one of those irritating people who was still walking up hills at 38 weeks although I was the size of a whale!