November 2018 #2

[BadBadBeans]

Ante-natal thread for babies due this November, continued...

Stats spreadsheet is here - add and update yourself as needed!

Oh-oh I have a wedding invite for 29th sept. I'll be 35 weeks. It's not local (north of England, I'm in London). Would require an overnight stay (possibly 2). Would you go?

I'm definitely in the camp of finding out boy or girl ASAP! I did last time and for me, it made things feel more real and I could plan. I am glad I knew as had to have an emergency c section under general anaesthetic so if I hadn't known I'd have been the last to find out! But aside from that I loved knowing for the last 20 weeks it helped me get through! Everyone is different and it's a matter of choice though, I'm not good at waiting and I am a planner by nature so my recommendation would be to follow your heart on this one.

This time we are definitely finding out again. I'm having the Harmony and I was delighted to discover an added bonus of that is that it can tell you so we will find out then. I genuinely don't care what we have, we already have a DD. This pregnancy has been different to my last one, but I've had HG in both so that could mean girl or it could mean nothing! I've been slightly less sick this time but it could be that I got help medication wise quicker and knew what was happening so could act quicker, so who knows! I'll be intrigued to find out!

Magpie regarding the wedding invite it's hard to say but I declined one last time with similar distances at about 34 weeks and tbh I'm glad I didn't try and attempt it because I felt tired and horrible at that point and needed the bathroom lots and was just generally uncomfortable sitting in a car for such a long journey. But you may feel fine and fine to attend it's hard to say. It's far enough from your due date that unlikely you'll go into labour or you'll know by positioning of baby if pregnancy is straightforward but it is hard to predict! If I got one this time I think I'd personally decline the invitation but I know some wouldn't and they'd attend and enjoy themselves!

@TheUbercornMum thank you. I also have one early September that I may also need to reconsider but thought the late September was probably out. What a shame!

I’m already on lactalose for constipation I was the same in my last pregnancy too.
I will definitely be finding out what sex it is. If I had to choose I’d probably prefer a bit as I already have one and my DS might be more accepting!!! If it’s a girl though I wouldn’t be too upset, it would even my side out a bit on the not peeing all over the toilet seat (not envy)

@Magpie you may be fine for the early September one. You may be fine for the later one but it's quite hard to call. I declined because the person wasn't a close close friend and I'd have felt awful backing out at last moment if they'd paid for my meal etc and it felt unfair on them. Everyone feels differently though and my midwife said there was not a medical reason I couldn't attend. It was more at around 34 weeks I was done with pregnancy and most of my clothes had started to not fit properly and I was just tired and wanted to rest by that stage and not socialise and the thought of being happy and smiley and finding an outfit and trying to make myself look presentable and then face such a long car journey and a night in a hotel with achy hips would have made me cancel! Labour wise I went very overdue so I wouldn't have gone into labour and DD was breach at that point I think so not in the right position anyway haha. That said, you might feel fantastic at the end of pregnancy!

I declined a hen party invitation at 35 weeks as I just felt as though I wanted to be hear home by that point, or if I was away then I wanted to be with my husband. Although he found it perfectly acceptable to go on a boys weekend scaling mountains in Scotland with no phone reception when I was 37 weeks. Not that I ever mention it now or anything ...

@TheUbercornMum We're finding out this time. We didn't last time but we have a few more logistics to work out now so it would be useful to know! Plus, think it'll be quite nice to experience both - knowing and not knowing!

@MeredithShepherd did you have to book an appointment with your doctor to get the lactulose or would a phone call suffice?

I found out with DD1 but DD2 was a surprise as she was facing the wrong way at the scan!

I think we will probably find out this time round as it will give us the chance to buy things beforehand. I still have most of the old baby clothes mind you so a loft sorting will be in order. Also I found it quite hard to deal with not knowing last time. I was convinced she was a he!

I've been so sick for the past 5 days. Constant nausea and actual sickness several times a day. It's so debilitating. At what point is there a point going to see the GP about It? I'm a bit worried as I've got a Brownies holiday in a fortnight.

@PicklesandPies I just got it over the counter at boots!

@bellanotte22 the point for me was I wasn't able to function properly around it. I was constantly nauseous, aversions to foods, throwing up several times a day and finding it hard to drink so had cracked lips. Things like ginger and acupressure bands did nothing and no matter what I did made a difference. Your GP will know how to diagnose but if you're struggling to function and keep down enough fluid then I'd visit your GP. There's also a checklist on pregnancy sickness support website which tells you the difference between morning sickness, bad pregnancy sickness and HG. If you're struggling go and see your GP.

Just checking in briefly - having a bit of a busy weekend!

@Picklesandpies Still no symptoms for me! Constipation was definitely one of mine with my first pregnancy though so perhaps you can take that as some comfort?!

Regarding finding out boy/girl, we found out last time, but this time we're probably leaving it as a 'surprise'. (Although actually it annoys me a bit when people say that, becuase it's a surprise regardless of when you find out, right?!) That said, I found that knowing my baby was a boy really helped me to bond with my growing bump last time. I liked the fact that I could already call him 'he' rather than 'it'!

Sorry to those of you with awful sickness. Must be so tough.

Thank you @TheUbercornMum I'll have a look.

I thought I was doing really well this weekend, plenty of sleep and naps, and I even ate all my dinner last night! (Cottage pie, yum!). However, my early night meant even longer without food and I was sick again this morning. I also had diarrhoea and in a moment of blind "normality", I took a tablet for it. It was only after I left the house I realised I didn't check the information sheet about whether I should have taken it, so I messaged my midwife friend who asked her reg on duty, and she reassured me it should be fine so long as I don't take anymore... but then I started reading the internet. Apparently there's a risk of defects and now I'm a bit paranoid, and I'll have to tell my DH. Fingers crossed it's only a slim chance, I can't believe I didn't check though!! :(

@pipsqueak aww, I feel for you. I know it's really easy to say, but don't panic. Chances are all will be fine and you won't be the first woman who has ever done that. Think about all the women who didn't know they were pregnant and carried on taking medication, drinking alcohol and eating all the banned foods from the nhs website that end up having normal healthy babies and likely its more than one drink of alcohol or several lots of medication, not just one tablet. The way I look at it is they can't test things on pregnant women as its unethical so basically they can't say something isn't without risk so they don't know what risks are as they can't do tests on them. Of course tell your DH but don't be too hard on yourself, like your friend said just don't take anymore.

pickles both of my first 2 pregnancies which were boys I had no symptoms the whole way through. No sickness, no sore boobs, no cravings, no tiredness, no aches or pains, no indegestion! I felt very lucky! This one is the same, a little tired, but maybe having 2 kids already it’s no wonder but absolutely no other symptoms, so try not to worry. I agree though I’m 5+5 and I’ve known 2 weeks and it’s dragging so much! Try not to worry about the scan. I’ve had two mc and can talk you through that if it comes to it but please don’t worry yourself now. I do understand the worry though.

toaster if I get that far I’d like a surprise this time. I have two boys already. First was a surprise second time we found out but I’d like to avoid all the stupid disappointed faces from nosy busy bodies assuming we are going for a third because we want a girl. I’d be happy with either and to be honest now I’m submerged in boy world I’d actually love another boy! I know what I’m doing!! (I think!!)

hannah i think I preferred the surprise, we’ve done one of each. I only found out the second time because my first ds really wanted to know, he was three and understood and it helped him get to know his brother before he came out (even though he was desperate for a sister!!). However this time I don’t want to find out! But it’s definitely a personal choice.

We didn't find out what we were having with my son and won't be finding out again (much to my husband's displeasure as he would love to know but he hasn't had to go though this pregnancy so we agreed I would choose). I loved no knowing.

I think that sickness wise I am having a similarly rough time as last time. Don't know if that means another boy.

Is anyone else struggling with mucous? I have a slight my snuffly nose (has been going on for weeks so I think it is pregnancy related rather than a cold). The mucous at the top of my throat/back of nose is making me feel so sick...

@moomoo85 (gross tmi alert) is it thick and makes you gag? I had it last time and am starting to get it again. It's in my throat. Can be an HG side effect apparently. Last time they gave me tablets for it as it was bad but I did take them. I found iced water helped and hot drinks but atm it's tricky to drink them.

*but I didn't take them

@Badbadbeans I agree with you. It's a lovely surprise regardless of when you find out!

@TheUbercornMum yeah horrid sick mucous. It isn't helped that I am craving milkshakes (which stay down unlike most things) but make the mucous worse :(

Hi ladies
Just got back from my early scan. All absolutely fine and saw the heartbeat. So so relieved and finally able to relax and tell some family.

@PicklesandPie - last pregnancy I had no morning sickness until 10 weeks, then spent a week or two throwing up night and day. Now I'm nauseous all day but not being sick yet.

Also signing in as constipated here, I look pregnant which is daft at 6+5. I normally drink a senna tea if I'm ever in need but it says not suitable for pregnancy so I'm a bit stuck.

I've been a bit quiet because DS is poorly with asthma and a high temperature. Add to that a shocking cough of my own & just bleurgh.

@pipsqueak126 - if it makes you feel any better; I didn't find out I was pregnant with DS until 6 months in and I drank, ate everything I shouldn't, wrestled with the dog and prob took various medications too. DS is fine (totally not sulking in his room for being told off....!)

On that kind of note we did find out sex with DS because it was so late. We felt we needed to know all we could with so little time to prepare. I definitely want to find out this time too though. I don't really like big surprises and I'm a planner. Pretty sure DH will go with whatever I want.

I will be happy with either. Would love a girl so that I have one of each but we do already have so much boy stuff!

I still feel pretty nauseous on and off. Worse today than the last couple of days. Craving salty things a bit and banana milkshakes. Other than than I'm just tired and a bit cranky today. 9 weeks tomorrow.