November 2018 #2

[BadBadBeans]

Ante-natal thread for babies due this November, continued...

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Posted too soon 🙄

The only thing I'm getting is palpitations which I've had a lot anyway for the last four years since having massive problems with my thyroid. I was hyperthyroid and then ended up having my thyroid removed (but never got rid of palpitations.) Hoping they aren't dangerous. I've mentioned them loads before but no one ever seems concerned.

It's a long shot but is anyone here euthyroid? Feeling a bit crap and alone with worries tonight (I'm not, my husband is here and he would listen but you know when you just need to vent?) Just do not feel pregnant at 6+6.

Just wait a few days pickles. I was fine until 7 weeks or so, eating normally, going to the gym etc then BAM.... it hit me. Like a train!

Or you might not get any symptoms at all! Which would be very lucky!!

@Picklesandpies I wouldn't worry at all. I would enjoy it while you can, I think you're just one of the lucky ones! Make the most of it.

Thanks @GreenMeerkat and @Magpie24

I think it's very hard when you can't share your feelings with any of your friends at the moment. Hopefully I'll be eating my words (snd waffle sandwiches ) in a few days time. I think you can feel as though you've known for ages when in reality it's so early - it's just the time is dragging!

Off to bed now after another productive evening asleep on the sofa...

@Picklesandpies I'm 7+5 today and have occasional nausea and am exhausted most of the time but aside from that I'm not feeling very pregnant. In my previous pregnancy this was around the time I was near constantly vomiting up to 22 weeks so counting my lucky stars and hoping all is well and that it's an 'every pregnancy is different' type thing.

Anyone having a very different pregnancy from previous? I'm wondering if this dc could be a boy because it's so different... I think it's probably an old wives tale though... and watch as week 8 arrives and the vomiting will hit me like a train! 😂🤷‍♀️

@Picklesandpies
The wait to find out more and to tell people is excruciating - I was so relived when I discovered that I was actually already 5weeks pregnant when I found out - rather than just 1 week like I'd originally thought...

I know 'they say' you shouldn't share the news until 12/14 weeks but I've read so many accounts recently where people say that it's totally up to you when you tell people - I'm so glad I've confided in my friend as I think otherwise I'd feel like I had no1 to ask questions - and god forbid if things weren't to go well early on then I wouldn't regret having told her so she could be there to support me as well as Dad..

If you have someone close who you think you can trust then maybe share it with them early and it might help with some of your early concerns xx

Yeah @HanahMarie it's totally personal preference when to tell! I've told quite a few people actually, people that I'd want to tell if I had a loss for support, so it made sense for me. I do think it's sad how many women/ couples have to suffer baby loss in private. However it's each to their own definitely!

@LastNightsMakeUp that's exciting! My friend had two very different pregnancies and had a different sex for each so you never know!

@Picklesandpies I had no nausea until week 8/9 in my first pregnancy. A friend of mine never had any!

What's everyone wanting to do re finding out the sex or having a surprise? I found out at 20 week scan with DS as I wanted to know and help me get my head round everything by picturing him in my head. But this time I want a surprise! Either would be lovely, two boys would be gorgeous and easy to prepare for as we have a loft full of boys clothes! But equally it would be lovely to have a daughter. DH wants to find out again, but I'm of the opinion it's my body and me who has to evict a baby at the end of it all so i don't really think he gets a say!

@LastNightsMakeUp That's reassuring - I suppose I have always read (and experienced) that symptoms start around 6 weeks. I was also sick night and day until 17 weeks with dd1 and had nausea with dd2 so was expecting something by this point. It doesn't help that I stupidly took my last clear blue digital test with fmu this morning and it said 2-3 weeks. Stupid really as I've just caused myself more worry! Hey ho - scan on Wednesday so I'll know more then. I'm a bit terrified that they will say there is nothing there as, apart from the obvious emotional upset, I'm not sure what would happen with our planned holiday on the Friday? What do they say if that happens? Wait to see whether nature takes it's course? D&C? Sorry to be rather morbid but I'm trying to be prepared in case it's not good news.

@toasterstrudle

Maybe nausea will still hit then - I don't want to be as sick as I was with dd1 but just feel so un-pregnant! I know pregnancies can be completely different though (dd1 and dd2 were) - I'm just obsessing over this one for some reason. Probably because I'm older so I feel my chances are slimmer. I always wanted to be done by the time I was 30 but my thyroid had other ideas .

If all goes well we won't be finding out the sex as we haven't the first two times and for me, I just felt it gave me something extra to push for at the end! Understand wanting to know though - there are definitely benefits to both.

@toasterstrudle
Funny as I was lying in bed thinking about asking this very question this morning 😊

Before we got pregnant I always said that I was happy either way - finding out or having a surprise - and so asked Dad what his preference was and he said surprise...
But since we've found out he's now toying with the idea of finding out at the 20week scan - I said we should wait and see how we feel closer to the time..

What are the pros and cons of finding out from those who are already mums?

Picklesandpies I am 7+3 and only a bit of intermittent nausea and some fatigue. I did have bad nausea for 2 days in week 5 then it stopped. I really thought there might be a problem so had a scan at 7+0 and saw a heartbeat so despite the lack of symptoms the pregnancy is progressing (for now). I am sure yours is too, hope your scan goes well.

I was completely floored by nausea and exhaustion at this stage with my first pregnancy, it was worst from about 7-11 weeks. I’m also thinking maybe it’s a boy this time!

Hi to NurseB if you’re still on the thread - I’m also in my forties, actually older than you as I’m 45. We are having the harmony test at 10 weeks if we get that far as the NHS screening will almost certainly come back high risk due to my age (and of course, problems are much more likely) and we’d rather know as soon as possible.

@HanahMarie

Yes, the wait to tell people is loooong. I've told one friend and my parents but that's it. I always said I'd tell more friends early on as they would be a support is something went wrong but I don't know, I actually feel really glad I've kept it small as I'm not being asked about it all the time. When I'm with my friends it's a chance to switch off from it a bit if that makes sense. I'm sure I won't feel like that when I'm further along and things feel more certain though - I'll be talking about babies non stop no doubt!

@lilacandlavender Thanks - I'm sure (or hope) I'm just overanalysing things. I need to keep reminding myself that I felt very different in my two previous pregnancies and this will be different again. Honestly, I must be mad wishing for morning sickness. It was completely debilitating with dd1. I'm sure it was HG but my husband had no idea what was normal, I wasn't on MN and had no friends who had been pregnant. I just lay on the bathroom floor night and day and didn't leave the house. Maybe I should just be counting my lucky stars!

@toasterstrudle @HanahMarie we found out the sex with our dd but didn't tell anyone else her sex. She was a 'surprise' and my OH wanted to know to make it all a bit more real. I wasn't too worried either way. This time we'll be finding out again and not telling anyone, it was lovely to get everything ready for her and have our little family secret together. This time it'll make it so much easier also as I have piles and piles of baby clothes in the loft so would want to sort all that out. We'd be happy with either sex, if we could have chosen we'd probably chose another girl mainly because we have ALL THE STUFF and our dd is such a joy. But saying that I'd love a boy just as much. It really doesn't matter as long as they're healthy.

@Picklesandpies Not morbid at all. We are going on holiday a few days after our 12 week scan and I was contemplating the same scenario. I think honestly it's best not to overthink it and to just deal with it if and when it happens. Easier said than done though. Before I gave up working I was confronted everyday with life and death so I find that I do give these things consideration when others potentially wouldn't.

@Picklesandpies looking forward to some good news from you Wednesday. Not long to wait now x

Thanks @LastNightsMakeUp Hopefully it will be good news on Wednesday (and for you at 12 week scan) and I can go on holiday feeling a bit more certain. It's funny isn't it - when you are TTC you feel as though it's the end of that particular journey and then you just start a new one with it's own set of considerations!

Can't believe you have 12 week scan date. Wondering whether I'll hear from the midwife this week. Part of me is hoping it will be after Wednesday so I know what's what.

Hope everyone has a good day. My (foreign) husband got confused and gave me my Easter egg yesterday morning so I'll mostly be eating that I expect (egg-spect? 🤦🏻‍♀️)

@BadBadBeans How are you feeling? Any new symptoms other than no period and an addiction to MN?

Meant to ask - has anyone got tips for constipation? I have literally not been properly in about a week 😬. Such a lovely subject. Remember I had lactulose with previous pregnancies but not this early on.

@Picklesandpies that one's a definite pregnancy symptom! I suffer from IBS and I am currently having one bowel movement a day which is reduced from before and so my form of constipation I guess! Lots of veg and water helps.

@Picklesandpies I had to self refer to my hospitals antenatal service and they sent through the scan date about a week later so was independent of my midwife. My last pregnancy I was in a different region and the midwife triggered the referral at my booking appointment - but meant I was almost 14 weeks when I had it so had a private 12 week scan at 12 weeks as felt it was too long to wait if they'd have been a problem. I have my booking in appointment Thursday.

Constipation... how are you with prunes and dried apricots? They'll get you moving. Also warm water with a squeeze of lemon... or just drinking warm water should help. Taking a couple of Senna in the evening should soften things up for the next day without giving you any urgency (which lactulose sometimes does.) I think it's quite common in early pregnancy because of the relaxin hormone. I seem to have gone the other way though 🤷‍♀️

Thanks for the tips @Magpie24 and @LastNightsMakeUp. I'm going to stock up on some on those things today. At this rate I'll be in maternity wear purely to accommodate my sluggish bowels!

I too am in a different area to my other two pregnancies @LastNightsMakeUp. I was so surprised to learn that there are no midwives at the GP surgery and we have to go to the town hospital for that. Luckily I can have my appointments there rather than the hospital I would give birth in as it's miles away! I agree 14 weeks is a long time to wait to have a '12 week' scan. Hopefully I'll get my booking in appointment soon.

@Picklesandpies there's an old wives tale that suggests lots of morning sickness = girl and Little to no morning sickness = boy. Would make sense in your case as your two previous were girls. As were mine!

But my MS has been vile so my bet is girl again going of that.

@GreenMeerkat and @Picklesandpies I'm not sure how much truth there is to that old wive's tale. When I was pregnant with DD I only had very mild nausea that popped up occasionally and was barely noticeable. My friend, who was pregnant with a boy, was vomiting almost constantly!

This time I've definitely been more nauseous but no vomit (so far - touch wood).

Sorry that so many of you are suffering with sickness.

@sarahhh1984 and @GreenMeerkat It will be interesting to see! I'm not sure I'd know what to do with a boy after having girls in my life for the last 11 years!