Due in Sept '07 - part 5 - '.... Half Way to Heaven......?'

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Hope you all don't mind about the new thread. We've been AGONISING over the name

Hello again Tink, and welcome.

Welcome Tink!

You poor things sophus and loopy, how awful to have people treating you like this while you're pg! I do hope things settle down somehow. I've been very blessed to have had no problems with my in-laws at all. First husband - I'm still very close friends with his mum, sister and all the family. My MIL now is lovely although we don't have much contact with her as she lives miles away and his father died when he was a teenager. They've had problems over the years (hence little contact) but because we grew up together, I've known her for years and we always got on. She had him late in life so she is now in her late 70's bless her. To be honest, the worst of our problems seem to my my mother rather than anybody eleses but thats a whole other story!

Dream update - my DS (currently 13) was 17 in my dream and he was moving out. I had to take him to wherever he was moving to an he was sooo grown up - scary!!!!!

Just to entertain you, I had a bit of an 'incident' in the night. I fell asleep cuddling DH, hoping he would feel this LO moving so I had my bump up against his back. Next thing I know, its 3am and he must have rolled onto his back forcing me to be on my back. I had no room at all to move and he wouldn't wake up to move over - visualise a tortoise put on its back with its arms and legs flailing around, not able to move. (hips are so bad that I'm finding it hard to manouvre at night!). My only options were to either fall out of bed onto the floor or to keep prodding DH to get him to roll over (he is very solid and big and looks 8 months pg himself!). The latter worked in the end but he doesn't even remember it!!!!

amyclaramum, I haven't considered having a doula for this birth but I have thought about becoming one myself one day. I've always had a dream that I would be a midwife one day but since I found out about doula's, I have wondered if that would be a better route.

If DH has been a nightmare in the past, perhaps it would be an idea to have a doula, unless you have a close family member that you'd like as a birthing partner?

Morning All

Sorry I haven't been around for a few days. I was really shocked and saddened to hear Poppy's news and it has made me incredibly nervous about my scan which is today!.

I'm glad other people are having these weird dreams they are funny aren't they. I'm usually a light sleeper and I can't remember my dreams but at the moment I wake up and they are crystal clear.

As for names it has been our favourite conversation for the past 3 years so ours are set in stone . It was going to be Noah Finlay for a boy but as we know it is a girl it is Poppy Molly.

Well I say we know we will hopefully have it reconfirmed today. If they say it is a boy now it is going to have a massive complex before it's born with the amount of dresses I have brought it! .

Nicki10, lots of luck for your scan today - I love your names! We are going with Freya for a girl and probably Will for a boy.
I'm fairly sure this baby is another girl - after watching Doctor Who last week, as soon as there was a scene with The Doctor in his tuxedo the baby started going KICK, KICK, KICK like mad - that has to be some girl hormones there, right?

Hi,

Re Doulas: Take a look on doula.org.uk this gives more info about doulas and you can search for ones in your area.

Cx

welcome Tink, good luck for your scan Nicki - DS is called Cameron Joseph but when we were expecting him we couldn't think of any girls names that we liked - must have been a sign! We're waiting for the sex on monday then i'm sure the name game will start in earnest!!

Hey FioFio, my Dh suggested Martha ages ago, but I didn't like it, I thought it sounded too much like Arthur (sorry!), but since the new series of Doctor Who started he's gone off the idea of Martha, just when I was getting used to it! What names has your DH come up with then. They're a bloody nightmare aren't they these men!

Tinkjon, welcome to our thread!

Scans today, good luck to, Puppie, Nicki10, Toadstall and Tinkjon, wishing you lots of luck!!! x x

How did you get on yesterday NewDKmum and Diddle with your scans? Also Holly, we've not heard from you...

Purple, sorry to hear you're still having awful trouble with your pelvis. Have you had any luck getting to see a specialist? My midwife hasn't got back to me, even though I left her a message on Tuesday , somewhat disconcerting wouldn't you agree!

Well I'm gradually getting over the shock of finding out I'm having a girl!!! I'm really glad I found out now, because I think the shock after delivery might have killed me- literally!! Although I really wanted a girl I never thought it would happen, so it's taking some getting used to. I'm trying to keep it a secret from all my friends, but they all keep saying 'it must be a girl, you're on cloud 9'!!! To be honest I'm just so relieved everything is ok, and my placenta is normal, had a few odd scans up until now.

My DH has insisted that this little girl will be treated no differently to the boys, apparently she'll be playing football and all sorts...hmm... will have to see on that one. But having said that I was a bit of a tomboy when I was little, never liked dolls ..yuk!

Hello all, I've been lurking rather than posting over the past couple of weeks. Desperately sad news for Poppy34, all my sympathy to her and her family.
We had the scan this morning, it's another girl - fantastic, all those lovely baby girl clothes can be re-used! No names agreed yet, DH doesn't like anything right now, but I'm thinking: Leonilda, Leonora (family names, no laughing at the back), something on those lines. I had a panic half-way through because we had to have 2, the first wouldn't allow a good view of the inside of the head. They took my BP at that point and it was 'normal' - don't know how, give the state I was in...

Congrats toadstall on your scan results!!

toadstool i mean!

Sophus - I am amazed you were so dignified and calm in your response to your PILs (I like to think I would have shouted in your sit but in reality would probably have cried); much sympathy for having to deal with this as an ongoing issue.

Can't believe people are talking bags already! Mine were packed at around 37 weeks for each of the last two...rumour has it I may have to take clothes for the baby this time (last twice the hospital provided as part of security); will need to check. I know where all the baby stuff is in storage - just nowhere to put it actually within the house. Ds2 has already stated that since the baby will have to share, it can jolly well share with us since it was our idea!

Names - well - probably at the last minute too! Can't agree on anything yet. Not even sure what I like - used up all our favourite boys names with the first two.

Hello

And sorry for not posting after my scan - I have been in bed with the most horrid flu and have only just managed to get up after a few days in bed!

Well, the scan went really well and I am definitely having a wee boy! (glad to see I am lucking the trend...). Have just ordered a cot online. He is being very active at the moment, and keeps kicking me - especially after eating. Just like my DH really...

So much to catch up on this thread, but major sympathies to Sophus - what a nightmare.

x

Hi All,

Congrats on all the scans ladies ,glad things are going well.

Welcome on board Tinkjon,everyone is welcome here.

Hannahsaunt,sorry that was me who started with the bag thing.I just wanted to know as I am already starting mine.Only really because I did it early last time round as I had a fear of being early and so got most of it together by 34 wks and needed it then too.
So this time I want all of it in the bag before then and I am also getting some prem clothes out of storage just in case.
Last time DP had to rush off after the birth to Mothercare to get premmie clothes and nappies etc as everything I had packed was miles too big,so perhaps if I am ready for that this time I will go FT .

On the names front,I have no idea for either sex,didnt last time,DS had no name for 8 days .Probably be the same this time too along with the bedroom not decorated until after LO is born.

Anyway hope everyone is fine, will drop by later.
Bye xxxxxxxxxx

Hello everyone

Oh god, don't talk to me about names!!!! Typically DH and I were in totally agreement had our bean been a boy - we both love Joseph (Joe) David.

HOWEVER, girl's names seem a completely different story. I LOVE Phoebe Elizabeth and i have always thought that's what I would call my little girl. Not only does my DH absoulutely hate it I was also subjected to a lengthy debate with PILs about how horrible it was! I was actually really upset!!! Why is it that everyone has to express an opinion? Even if I wasn't keen on a name a friend or relative had chosen, I respect it as THEIR choice. I wish people would actually offer me the same respect!

On the other hand I have 'vetoed' ALL DH's suggestions to:

Sophie - no
Alison - no
Erin - NO NO
and the list goes on....

Will possibly accept Isobel (is a lovely name) but really LOVE Phoebe still.

Back to the drawing board, hey!

thank you thank you thank you.

All been a total nightmare and DP who is being amazing is going to talk to his parents tomorrow and try and extract an apology. Whenever i think about what happened i get soooo angry with his horrible bully of a father. He's such an unpleasant man i can't tell you.
we're off on hols on Sunday so won't be around for couple of weeks. Really need a holiday and you all enjoy two weeks without my histrionics.

Lots of luck to scans and whatnot whilst i am away.
S
xxx

Phew, this thread seems to take longer and longer to catch up on each day!

Hi Tinkjon, welcome to the largest antenatal club EVER!

MrsMar - 90 odd bottles of wine eh? Well you'll have an excellent Chrsitmas

Tink - love your comment re Dr Who in his tux. David Tennant has featured in more than one of my saucy dreams and quite frankly seeing him in that get up on Saturday evening set me off again. Phhhwwwooooooaaaaarrrrrrr. Er, sorry where was I?

Holly - hope you are better after nasty flu. Glad to see you are having a boy - I am becoming more and more convinced I have the same due to sheer law of probability!

Well I'm having fun and games with hospital again. After telling me on Wednesday that they didn't think my bleeding had come from the placenta I got called in yesterday for an emergency anti D shot because my blood test showed that my blood and babys blood had mixed which, of course, can only happen with placental bleeding. The blood test was only done because I pushed for the appointment with the hospital in the first place. Last week when the bleed happenned they told I DIDN'T need to come in. If I had listened to my community midwife and not pestered the hospital I would be completely oblivious and possibly making antibodies against this and any future baby. Brilliant.

So, I have now got another appt next Wednesday and am pushing to see the consultant rather than a registrar. It was a registrar that told me bleeding was highly unlikely to have come from the placenta. Which appears to have been wrong. Am feeling perfectly calm but just getting very annoyed and worried for being given contradictory info and always having to push the hospital to follow things up.

I don't know when they last tested for antibodies so that is one thing I need to know. Do I have them or not? Secondly, doesn't the fact that I have had this cross over of circulations mean I need to be monitored a bit more closely?(by which I mean not waiting another 5 weeks to my routine antiD appt). What if there is a problem with the placenta?

Sorry, have gone on a bit. Just feeling a bit annoyed. My hospital is meant to have a good rep but right now they are starting to look like the Keystone Cops.

Congratulations to everyone who had their scan today and welcom to Tinkjon! I'm due Sept 21st same as you (were). Had my 20 wk scan today but they could not see the placenta so I have to go back. Havent done much research on placentas and what this might mean. Did not want to find out the sex of the baby (although I would have if DP hadnt been there) [grins evilly]

Oh God I'm sorry I was so busy ranting I forgot to wish people luck with their scans today and on Monday. Sorry

Good luck!! xx

Penny sorry to hear your having to chase everyone re bleeding but at least it's forcing you to learn all about it!
Happy hols sophus!
Congrats on all the scan results - mine is creeping up really fast so i'll let you all know on monday!
hannahsaunt - lol re your ds comment on sharing! we haven't broached this topic with ds yet but as we're only 2 bed then that's that!

All fine at the scan today, phew. Well, fine if you ignore DD1 breaking the sonographer's photo machine eeeek Couldn't spot the sex myself, but expected that. I did think I saw some boy bits at one point, but then as it was almost the size of the baby's leg I'm guessing I was wrong
Puppie, hope you don't have to wait too long for another appointment.
Pennypops, sorry about the hassle you've been having. I don't know anything about antiD - is that part of a rhesus neg mummy thing?

Hi Everyone

I hope you're all good and looking forward to the weekend, I am ! although apologies to anyone who has to work. We've got lots of reatil therapy planned for the weekend (I am blessed with a DH who also loves to shop!)We're going to Bicester discount shooping village, I've never been before but have high hopes I can pick up lots of baby bargins, and of course goodies for DD1 so she doesn't get jealous and perhaps also the odd mummy bargin too . Hope you all have a good one.

FilBrit x

Tinkjon and Toadstool - great news on your scans today
Nicki10 - how did yours go? I'm having a little girl (unusual for out thread I know )and we also plan to call her Poppy!
Sophus - have a lovely relaxing holiday and I hope your inlaws apologised
Pennypop - nightmare on the bleeding, so good you pushed for answers
Holly - glad you're better after the flu
HIWBB - did you manage to book the holiday you wanted?
Laksa - how's the new car?
MMooMar - I'm v impressed how organised you are with hospital bags, I havden't got that far yet. Was your first LO premature?
MrsMar - wish I had 92 (and counting) bottles of wine, that's some celebration party when the baby comes

Hi Everyone

Scan was great yesterday and the sonographer immediately reconfirmed that it is a girl which is good as we've been calling her Poppy for the last 3 weeks!.

Were off to the baby show today so am up early all excited!. Hope everyone has a good weekend and enjoy the shopping Fibrit with your Poppy!.

xxx

hi all
Just taken me hours to catch up
Penny - sorry to hear about your bleeding. Hopefully you'll get some answers - you must try and take things easy
Congrat's to all the people with scans - so many girls is amazing, has anyone worked out a percentage or is that too geeky?! I guess my surprise might be a boy with the probability factor. Glad you have reappeared Holly I was starting to worry - congrat's on bot, he'll have a pick of girls when he gets older!!
I feel like I might be getting a bug, headachey and awful. DH has been DYING[he thinks] all week!!!My mum gets the big results on Monday so trying tnot to worry about that.
Love to all