Due in Sept '07 - part 5 - '.... Half Way to Heaven......?'

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Hope you all don't mind about the new thread. We've been AGONISING over the name

Congratulations HIWBB and Pennypops!!!! That's brilliant news!!

I reckon you're right that many of the surprises could be boys - can't wait to find out! I have to say well done to all of you who are waiting to see - I never thought I'd want to know tbh.

We've managed to come down to two names so far for the first name (middle names will be Grace Emmeline) so it's either Lilou (not sure of spelling but its from the Fifth Element) OR Cerys as DH has welsh routes. What do you guys think? (be honest - I won't be offended!).

I've got a big purple Lancome bag that I'm planning to use for my hospital bag and I thought I'd have a separate one for baby bits. I've already started writing down ideas from the other threads that have brilliant ideas on them! I think I'll actually start packing them when I start my maternity leave though (beginning of July).

Hope dinner goes well Sophus - sock it to 'em! You can always blame your hormones teehee!!

I think this little girl is having a growth spurt too as I've been getting stretching pains. I've read that between week 20 and week 22 the babies grow loads so I guess it makes sense... I lurve feeling her moving around in my belly but don't love her poking my bladder as much LOL!

Hugs to all xoxoxo

HIWBB - what great news about your little girl congratulations!

PennyPop - glad all is good with your scan too and that bleeding not to do with the placenta

Sophus - Hope you survived dinner, great idea about the chocolate!

Sparklynewthing - glad you're starting to feel beter, hang in there, I think your mum is right about roller coasters, fingers crossed your happy hormones come along soon!

For no apaprent reaosn I've been feeling really good today, although l still don't feel like I'm blooming though my bump feels really huge already! and my appetite has gone crazy recently, I seem to eat all the time - humm perhaps thats the reason for my tummy gowing quite so quickly and not just the baby!

Has anyone started thinking about names yet? we love the name Poppy although DD1 is determined that the baby will be called Olivia!

Right off to put DD1 to bed, hope yu all have nice evenings and good luck to anyone wiht a scan in the next few days xx

PurpleLP you must type much faster than me -how weird you were also posting about names at the same time!
I love both your first names eps Lilou, I'm also v impressed you've got as far as middle names we've only just decided on the first name

Hello everyone, my last night shift is nearly over and I'm a very happy bunny indeed!

Congrats on the great scans HIWBB and pennypops, I am so amazed at the numbers of girls! Surely this is some kind of medical miracle!

We haven't really decided on names yet, dh is dead set on Enzo, I'm not so sure. I'd prefer Luca for a boy and Francesca for a girl. But nothing set in stone, he'll probably end up called Dave (not that there's anything wrong with Dave) but we've spent so long thinking about Italian names to go with our Italian surname, we'll probably end up with something totally different!

How did the dinner go sophus? Did you have to resort to emergency chocolate supplies?

Laksa - glad you found a car you like... I do remember the discussions about can you fit a child seat in a two seater
I've bought some stuff from JoJoMamanBeBe... most of it has come up large on me, apart from one dress which bizarrely didn't fit around my ribs (despite the fact that all other dresses in the same size were HUGE!) However, I was really smug about how big all the maternity stuff has been on me until my sister said to me the other day "you'll be amazed at how big you'll get, even when you didn't think you can get bigger, you will!" I reckon all those baggy tops and maternity jeans that keep falling down will be straining at the seams in a couple of months!

sorry to hear you've been so up and down sprakly, hope things improve. I must admit I haven't had any emotional upsets for which I'm eternally grateful! I do get a little lump in my throat at just about everything, puppies on the tv, other people's cute babies, my cat chasing her tail.... that could just be that I'm soft!

I'm still getting pretty intermittent movements, the odd kick every now and then, more than 10 a day, which I understand is what you should expect. I do have to concentrate sometimes to feel them. And my bump has really moved up now, the kicks are nearly up to my belly button. No wonder I can't eat a full meal any more!

Well I'm counting the minutes until I can get out of this damn office and back to my bed! I hope everyone has a lovely day, even if it is a bit rainy. Nevermind, just think.... if it doesn't rain now we might have to face a hosepipe ban this summer and I've got a dream of sitting in the garden with the sprinkler on me when things get too hot in August!!!!

Take care xx

Oh and I still don't have a single useful thing for me or this baby yet, if I went in to labour early (touch wood it won't happen) I would be in deep doodoo! As I'm 21 weeks I'd better get a move on, because babies have survived being born at 22 weeks!

Hello everyone, thank you so much for all your kind messages, am feeling much better. You know I can't help thinking that my bad day mostly stemmed from a lack of coffee when I got up due to the lack of milk? I woke up feeling much the same this morning, but a cup of coffee later and I feel much better!

DP came home tues eve anyway, and my heart sank as I hadn't done anything since my last post! He was early home. But he came in and said the house 'looked nice' and proceeded to help me do the other bits and pieces. To be fair, he hadn't left it in the best of states himself (he had been 'out' - a valid excuse for him on his days off it seems but not for me!!), and I think he saw I was a bit of a state. I have tried to say to him again it is a lot to expect really, and also that I end up dreading him coming home, which isn't a nice way to feel. So maybe I might get an easier time of it? DS seems in a better mood today too.

Sorry lots of others seem to have been down too. I'm sure the downturn in weather dosen't help.

HIWBB and PP - congratulations on your scan results!! So many girls. All the time I am doubting more and more that they got the sex right, there are so many girls and not boys she did seem fairly sure and DP is completely convinced, but I was so convinced it was a boy!! Will only find out for sure once LO has arrived.

PLP - Cery's is my favourite although both are lovely. We have only come up with one - Isobelle. She will have my mums middle name and DP's sisters name for middle names. If it is a boy we will have a nameless baby for quite some time I feel, we just haven't been able to find one we both like up until now.

Laksa I found jojomaman bebe ok for sizes. Most mat clothes tend to be nice and generous. I guess for those of us who use pg as an excuse to completely pig out. Which ime then leaves you feeling horrified when post birth you are 3-4 sizes bigger than before!!

MrsMar, I expect I will be leaving my hospital bag untill some time in late July! I did it at about 36 weeks last time and remember getting terribly upset about DP using the bag I wanted for work. I went out and brought a brand new one, because in my mind it had to be that sort of bag. Got lots of digging to do around up in the loft to find out any of the newborn stuff I still have (not much) but before I go out buying! Which reminds me, need to go on a ebay selling mission to try to raise some extra funds!

oh yeah, and another thing.... (sorry brain turned to mashed potato!)

Yesterday's dream... we were facing terrible water shortages, there were standpipes in the streets, domestic water services were turned off. There was chaos, people fighting on the street and marshall law.... Horrible, terrifying. I woke up with a perishing thirst, mouth as dry as a camel's flip flop! So much for my intuitive dreams about my baby's future... I was just thirsty! Oops! Seems my subconcious isn't always that deep

Sorry MmooMar and MrsMar, I got you muddled in last bit of post.

laughing at your dream, Mrs Mars!

'mouth as dry as a camel's flip flop' - love it!

It's a girl, it's a girl, it's a girl....ahum.. sorry! Will compose oneself! But really, it's a girl! I've been up since 5:30 this morning going- OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG!

Wow, there's lots to catch up on.

MrsMar, great dream! SO glad you're at the end of your night shifts. Have you got any more to do during this pregnancy? Re names, my friend is married to an Italian, and her DS1 is called Luca, and her DD is called Isabella. So far I have only bought a cute little snowsuit style outfit from Mamas and Papas. DH asked yesterday after the scan if we could start buying stuff, obviously he's starting to get excited now . He said to make a list of all the stuff we need to get organised, the nursery (currently a gym) is first on the list! Think we'll have to hire some men in to lift the treadmill downstairs, don't think me and DH will manage on our own somehow !

Laksa, glad you got your car sorted.

Sprakly, you feeling better love? Hope so

Oh god the quest to choose a name that DH agrees with , what a bloody nightmare. Everything I suggest gets a resounding NO from DH, think he just says no to wind me up . Besides, he chose DS2's name, isn't it my turn now??????

Need to look online to book our holiday to France in June, before they all run out.

Oh dear, it did not go well. To cut v. long story short. I finally flipped at FIL's honmophobic comments - my brother is gay and lives near my PIL and he was saying things like "i'm not surprised the gays live there" etc and was just being vile. I quietly said "please stop being so offensive about my family". My MIL bursts into tears (in a restaurant) because I suggested anything so hurtful. My FIL just went ballastic because i upset his wife. He finished the meal there and then, paid the bill and we all left. He walked off with DP saying that i have impugned their family honour.
DP is devastated, supports me but is so clsoe to his family that he just doesn't what to do about it. I am on my knees with exhaustion having not slept all night and i am supposed to be having dinner with the CEO tonight.

What a nightmare.

Oh Sophus what a horrendous situation, you poor thing, you must be utterly exhausted. How unreasonable they sound. How could they treat you like that, you're pregnant for goodness sake. There's no helping some people. I'm really sorry for you. I hope the dust settles soon, poor you and your poor DP.

Oh sophus. Your DP needs to tell his parents in no uncertain terms that they were talking in an unacceptable manner which you politely informed them was offensive - quite rightly! Your MIL has made me really cross - crying! How old is she? Silly woman. Really for you. I'm sorry.

Oh Sophus you have my complete sympathy.

My mil and dp are really getting to me atm too. In all fairness mil hasn't been well and we spent most of the weekend running around after her, fil and her mum/brother too because she was in hospital and too ill to care for them. I had to get my family to care for ds so that I could help too. I don't begrudge her that but last night she caused a bbbiiiiggg bust up between me and dp. She was ordered on monday to have complete bed rest for a week, but yest she went to bowls and then phoned at 6pm to ask that me, dp and ds all go out for a meal. Dp agreed without even asking me and I was already cooking our dinner which I'd spent a large part of the afternoon preparing. When dp got off the phone i told him that I didn't think it was fair to drag ds out, make him wait for his tea another 2hrs when he was already hungry, and stop him going to bed before 10/11pm, as well as wasting our food and that his mum will likely end up back in hospital again if she doesn't listen to the doctors, resulting in us all being put out again. besides which we simply do not have the money to be going out (especially as he's already had to have unpaid time off while she was in hospital). Now I am being completely selfish as all I care about is myself. Never mind that a few weeks ago he lost his temper, kicked a dent in the car and has booked it in for repair at nearly £300 meaning I'm not even gonna get so much as a bunch of flowers for my birthday next week.

sorry for venting here but there really is nowhere else to turn. I am so upset as I do try to do everything I can to help our families. Maybe it's just pg hormones but I really don't feel like I can take much more and telling dp this is like talking to a brick wall. I haven't stopped crying for at least 2 weeks cause I'm so exhausted (also got a kidney inf and should be in bed myself but apparently that's too selfish too)

Thank you all. I'm sacking my therapist - got MN now.

Glad you are feeling more perky Floss but poor Sophus & Loopy - not quite sure what to say actually other than to marvel at how staggeringly selfish your in laws are. I've had to bite my tongue where my mil is involved once or twice but never to the degree that you two have. The fact that mine live 300 miles away I find helpful. Perhaps you should consider moving to another country. Or hemisphere. When the dust settles perhaps you can tell your respective dp's that a bit more support would have been nice. I'm really angry for both of you but Loopy you really need to rest (easier said than done I know). Kidney infections do not a happy pregnancy make.

PLP - loving your names as you and I seem to have a few in common! I love Emmeline - dh and I had already decided that we are going for Emmeline Alice if we have a girl. Both my grannies (and one is still around to be a great granny) had Alice as a middle name so would love to carry that one on. DH keeps vetoing my ideas for boys names although Thomas and William are both still on the go.

MrsMar - had a laugh about your dehydration dream. Hope it isn't a prediction of the future. Am worried about scorching summer as it is. Was planning on spending August sitting in a paddling pool.

As for bags and stuff I have to say the thought hadn't occured yet. I've always assumed (and I have no idea why) I'll be late rather than early. Perhaps I should give this some consideration. I was kind of hoping I wouldn't be in hospital long enough to need much stuff.

Love to all x

Penny, ds is thomas william after both my grandfathers so def behind you on that. I was worried that the names were too high up on the popularity list but with all of the newer names around there doesn't seem to be many toms around. we were gonna have george for a boy but it's a katie! I'm so glad to be having a girl cause I dunno if I could go through this pg lark again for several years if at all. there is a great website babynamesworld.com that explains meanings and gives variations/translations etc of thousands of names.

I'm off to have a well-deserved cuppa after mopping up my washing machine flood. grrrrrr

xx

Wow - this thread always seems to go mad when i'm not here!

Well here's my attempt at a catch up!

Thomcat - like you i am anxious about my scan which is on monday. I've found myself being quite grumpy this week and i'm sure it's all down to anxiety.
HIWBB - congrats on your result i'm so pleased for you.
Laksa - pleased you got the car sorted I found JMB fit about right i'm 10/12 and got a 12 in jeans but they do seem a bit short and i'm not tall!
Penny - pleased they don't think the bleeding is seriou but i know how worrying it can be so i hope it settles down soon.
Mmoomar - i had my hospital bag ready from 30 wks last time with a list on top of what to add at the last minute! I didn't need it until 40 wks so will probably leave it to 35 this time. I did majorly overpack though but i'm sure we'll discuss this more nearer the time!
Mrsmar - pleased you're finished with the night shifts i can't imagine how difficult that is - i really need my sleep at the mo.
Sophus - sorry about you're awful situation. Rows with the PIL are never nice. I think you did the right thing and you should stand up for yourself and your family. Hopefully things will settle down quickly.
Loopyloulisa - i wish i had something to suggest - i'm sorry things are tough but stick to your guns it certainly doesn't sound like you're selfish to me!

Chattyhan - I know what you mean, only just managed to get on today and its taken me ages to catch up.

Well my scan is on tuesday at 2pm, can't wait, I am so excited, we really want to find out the sex too, so I hope he/she plays ball and lets us see.

DH is adamant it is going to be another boy, I hope he won't be too disappointed if it is a girl.

We have had names sorted since we first found out I was pregnant again. I did want Isabella for a girl but my sis in law beat me to it and called my second niece Isabel. So we have a choice of Benjamin (Ben) or Maximilian (Max) can't decide so would have to wait to see what lo most suits. If its a girl it will be Charlotte Eleanor(Charlie) We like names that can be shortened hence what we have chosen

Hi all,

can i just say first of all, OH MY GOD sophus!! what a shocker of an evening! I hope you're not too down. And poor Loopy, what is it with in-laws? I've said it before, and I'll say it again, I'm sooooo glad mine don't live in the UK!!!!

I'm glad you're feeling better floss... it's amazing how our days off differ from our dps isn't it? My day off = much housework and shopping for food and such for the house, cooking said food, doing all the paperwork and keeping on top of everything all day long. DH's day off = sitting on the sofa watching football all day. Apparently because my days off are usually midweek, it's ok to spend it working on domestic crap! Hmmmm! Must start that nagging thing my mum told me about on my wedding day!

Actually poor DH is going to feel the sharp side of my tongue anyway when he gets home. He's a member of this wine club thing where we get a case of wine every couple of months and as I'm not drinking it's been accumulating at an alarming rate (we're up to 80 bottles at the moment!!) He's been promising to cancel his membership for ages so we don't drown in a wine lake, and this morning another case arrived! We're up to 92 bottles now!!!!!!!! Argh!! We're drowning!!!

I'm so glad nights are over... for the time being. I've got one more sesh to do in 8 weeks HIWBB. I'll be 29 weeks then, so I might take a couple of them as leave so I only have to work 3 night shifts in total. If I ask work to take me off them all together, I think I'll get all the crummy shifts no one else wants to do to make up my hours, so two days leave is a small price to pay. My final batch of nights is due when I'll be 36/37 weeks gone and there is NO WAY ON EARTH I'm doing those!!!!!

I hope everyone didn't get too wet today, I got a soaking as I ventured out for catfood and milk (see I'm not working today - because I worked all night - so it's up to me to get the milk... BAH!)

Take care xxx

Oh and crazy dream update....

This time I was surrounded by people from Bolton... HUH??????

Still it was a laugh, Peter Kay and Vernon Kay were there (is everyone from Bolton called Kay?)

oh and Jane Horrocks was there too....

92 bottles of wine to get through in 4 months time. Hmmm. Lovely

Hi everyone,

Can a newbie join your thread?! Thanks for pointing me in this direction, HIWBB! Nice to meet you all!

I'm due... er, well, I'm not sure It was 21st September but at 12 week scan they bumped me up to the 17th. But I'm having a c/s and as they do those between 38 and 39 weeks, then who knows when it will be?! So somewhere around the 7th, I'm guessing. Great timing, as DD1 starts school on 5th September eeeeek.
Nice to read about everyone's 20 week scans and finding out the sex - congrats, everyone! I've got my scan tomorrow - we're taking DD1 with us, hope we're doing the right thing. We wanted her to see her new baby bro/sis, but then if there's any bad news that won't be any easier with her there. They won't tell you the sex where I live, so we have no choice about finding out - but I'll definitely be peeking just in case

Tinkjon

Hi Everyone - hope you are all feeling ok today ?

Sophus and Loopylouisa - so sorry about your hideous PIL - hope things calm down at home for you both. You just don't need the stress when you're pregnant do you ? I can recommend moving abroad - it certainly helped me deal with the PIL problems !!

Mrs Mar - what is it with these wine clubs ? My DH has done the same and we have wine everywhere !! He keeps saying he'll sort it out but never gets round to it. I think we will just have to have a big party when the baby is born !

HIWBB - Congrats on your news !

Question for everyone - has anyone thought about hiring a Doula for the birth or had any experience of them ? Quite like the idea of someone who stays with you through it all (freaked out by the Panorama programme !) and DH pretty usless for the previous DD's births.