Anyone else with a November 2018 baby yet?

[MeredithShepherd]

This is my 2nd dc. We weren’t trying so unexpected but I’ve had a feeling something was going on for the last week. Tested this morning and got a BFP.

So it’s DC2 (already have a 4 year old DS)
Due date 5/11/18 I think

My feb 2014 group is fab and I’ve made some lovely friends on there so hoping to do the same this time all being well!

Thanks all. Sadly the gym excuse wouldn't wash @badbadbeans...I've never entered a gym in my life!! Might borrow your idea @sarahhh1984...DH will be looking after DD straight after landing from working abroad...and the little bugger's totally stopped sleeping. Thanks!

@badbadbeans not sure yet, after my daughter's birth my midwife casually said I could've done that at home and I thought if I ever got pregnant again id like to try! Our hospital is only 1.5 miles away so nearby if anything went wrong. Not sure about a pool, id be worried about my parquet floor!! Not sure how my boyfriend with cope with it or my daughter so i'll mull it over! Do they encourage vbac in your trust or can you request section without a fight?

Where are we all based? I'll totally out myself and say I'm in Winchester.

@SkyLucy, glad I could help!

@mochibean @olderthanyouthink oooh, do we have a South East London contingent? Where have you self-referred to? I have referred myself to Lewisham Hospital and I am waiting to hear back.

@BadBadBeans & @olderthanyouthink I am terrible with needles too, always have to have blood taken lying down and from the back of my hand.

I was advised to make sure I was as warm as possible (someone even recommended putting a hot water bottle under my jumper before I went!) and drink as much water as possible to make it as easy as possible to get the blood out.

@Saraswati I'm near Manchester so a bit further up North!

@saraswati My family live in Winchester and those who have managed to do so, speak highly of the aftercare at the Ashurst New Forest centre. A relative of mine managed to get transferred to there after giving birth at Winchester. Hope that helps!

Thanks! I will have to get googling...

@WazFlimFlam hey neighbour. I haven't self referred... I don't know what I'm doing ATM. I made a GP appointment for the 29th. I know there's Kings (been there before) and St Thomas' near my home and work but I don't know which one to go for.

@Foreverretro interesting tip about being hot, that would make the blood vessels easier to get to. I've wondered about hand vs crook of arm but never had it done. Have asked a nurse friend if I could just do my own 😂 I thought itmight freak me out less if I was in control.

Thanks for replies about my section/VBAC query! Also I can second @BadBadBeans - my emergency section was actually a very positive experience overall. I'm an anxious type who is so squeamish about cuts and was so keen to avoid episiotomy/ forceps/ section but in the end I just listened to the professionals and let them do their job and all was well. The section itself was actually a very calm experience weirdly! My recovery was very smooth and I was back walking about within a week, back to normal by 4-6 weeks. @sarahhh1984 I've also been wondering about recovery and looking after the wee one but then I guess I'll just have to rely on DH/beg my parents and in laws to help if I can't manage!

Sorry... bit off topic there!

I'm in Edinburgh, not sure if there are any Scottish ones on here. I've been feeling very anxious today and yesterday about the small age gap and effect on DS but I'm hopeful that'll pass. I swear every day I've got a new thing I'm worrying about/anxious about - think I'm just transferring pregnancy worries onto other things in life! Anyone else having ridiculous worries over things? I'm driving DH mad!

@WazFlimFlam @olderthanyouthink I am referred to Kings. Got my booking in appointment and first scan letter through today... but of course, I'm out of the country for my booking in date... I hope they can change it!

@SkyLucy I have this problem too. Have a work night out in a couple of weeks that I think will be a big one. If I say I’m not drinking, people will realise immediately 😂 Right now I’m thinking that I might attempt just saying that I’ll get my own drinks because I need to be up early the next day....will say I’m drinking spirits with my soft drink 😉 problem with this is that a) I’m a notorious wine drinker and b) I don’t want to look like a stinger who doesn’t shout a round! Hoping because it’s a big crowd it’ll be a bit easier to get away with it. Otherwise I’m a bit stuck

@toasterstrudle I’m in Glasgow

@wazflimflam @nightmanagerfan I’ve referred to lewisham, took about 4/5 days for the letter to come through so pretty quick! Couldn’t decide between lewisham and kings so decided to go with lewisham because the midwife appts are at my GPs. Going to take a look around both though on their open evenings in early April

I've had to come clean already with one friend as was caught out alcohol-wise! I didn't mind too much as I know she'll keep it to herself. I'm having friends around for dinner on Friday night and I'm going to stick to tonic water and say it's a G&T. Going out is much harder though. If it's midweek I would say that I've a meeting at work in the morning. I've also used the exercise (long run) excuse in the past.

Hope I can join , 4 weeks and 2 days due the 17th November but tested early so already known a few days, phoned GP today and they have already booked me in for an appointment at 6 weeks , was told that the booking appointment will be arranged then and that will be at the local hospital.

Planned pregnancy although our intentions were to skip having a baby due this month (my DD 9 was a November baby) but ended ovulating much earlier than usual and the day after we had already dtd! Have to admit that I'm a bit shocked that it has all happened and doing pregnancy all over again 10 years to (nearly) the day! I'm taking each day as it comes , sometimes super excited, sometimes wondering if I have it in me to love anyone else like my daughter , will go from browsing baby stuff to being in tears thinking what have I done?? Please tell me others feel like this!

@BadBadBeans and @olderthanyouthink I’m a fellow needle-wuss. Honestly, you’d think after 2 pregnancies (when let’s face it, you can feel like a human pin-cushion) I’d be over it, but no, it’s lying down all the way for me too!

@MochiBean @WazFlimFlam @Olderthanyouthink @Aussi (sorry for anyone I missed am losing track!), must be something in the water - I’m in SE London too! It’ll be Kings for me.

@Toastertrundle @sarahhh1984 DS1 was still a toddler when I had section for DS2 but it was honestly fine & my recovery straightforward . I was lucky that DH could take the first 2 weeks off & then my DM helped out for a week. The only thing I found hard was not being supposed to pick up DS1 - might have broken that rule a few times!

Argh. Accidentally nodded off for a couple of hours earlier settling DS2. What’s the betting I now won’t be able to sleep tonight?!

@Mochibean Do you know if your midwife appts will be at your GP surgery or Kings? I was ridiculously spoiled last time around with 1:1 mw care & even had a lot of appts at home! I know things have changed since then though so curious where they’ll be.

So lovely to have so many new wonderful BFPs on the bus.

@sarahhh1984 so. Interesting to hear you story. I had a perfect first birth but my second was very similar to yours and I'm a little anxious this time round whereas I almost looked forward to it second time around. I'll have to go under consultant care I'd imagine which will be wierd as both previous DCs were born at home and I've never laboured anywhere else. There is a slightly. Higher risk of retained placenta if you;be had it before but the margin is quite small as I understand it. Although I'm fully expecting it to happen again.

I seem to have a bit of a funny history with placentas. First time round we planned to store and encapsulate out but DC1 came quicker than I sort of anticipated and we were ready so stuffed the placenta in a Tesco bag full of ice ... and promptly lost it 🙈. I just hope to person who found it, wasn't looking for their lunch 😂

I forget who the military wife was. I'm not a military wife but I am solo on weekdays as husband works away (and generally fairly useless when actually home), I'm starting to get a bit lonely on my on trapped in the house on weekdays now I've exhausted Netflix. What do other solo parents do to make the evenings less depressing?

@Pinkvoid sorry to hear of your awful loses. A relative of mine had a similar situation of back to back missed miscarriages but went on to have two wonderful children. So much heartbreak for you though. These next few weeks are going to be extra tough. Sending 🍪, 🍰 and 🤗

@bangwhistle I’m interested in ideas too! My DH works extremely long hours so although he technically lives here, from a practical point of view, I’m on my own with the DC during the week. Thankfully I’ve got some mileage in Netflix yet!

@Pinkvoid
To echo bangwhistle’s words above, I’m so very sorry for your losses. I can barely begin to imagine the heartbreak you must have endured. I had some spotting with DS2 which turned out to be fine in the end, but I remember the fear and the dread (hope that doesn’t sound patronising). Keeping my fingers crossed that everything goes well for you this time.

@Teaisnecessary - thank you!! I can absolutely see how that rule would be broken too! So exciting you're on to number 3, I loved growing up as a 3 and me and my brothers are all so close. I'd love to have 3 one day but taking one thing at a time here!

Love how our board is filling up - congratulations all! And also @SlowTango - hello fellow Scot I've just realised we'll get a baby box! Controversial though they are I'm a bit excited for one (narrowly missed the cut off with DS)

And also echoing bang and tea below, @Pinkvoid I am so very sorry for your losses, that must have been so very tough. The first trimester is a worrying enough time as it is. Keeping everything crossed for you.

Hi all! I'd like to join please! Baby is due 15th November. DD1 was due on 16th November so have somehow managed to get pregnant at almost exactly the same time 2 years apart!
I'm currently living in HK so will be going through the private system here, but with DD1 I found a midwife company that is very very similar to the UK style midwife care so will use them again.
My DH works away a lot, sometimes for weeks at a time so feeling pretty nervous about how I'll cope with 2!

Hi ladies

I’m in Lincoln, doubt anyone is near me they weren’t in my Feb 14 group! No one else seems to have technology out in the sticks!
@Emelsie I feel very much like you. DS is 4 and it has always been just us two (his father disappeared when I was pregnant) so not only is he gaining a new sibling he’s also got to get used to DP being around a lot more. At the moment we don’t live together as he works away all week so he just spends all weekend here. I really think it’s going to be hard on him and I feel so guilty for turning his life upside down but hopefully in the long run it will be a good thing for him.