August 2018 #2 Nausea and first scans!

[Babydreaming]

Welcome to our 2nd thread! The List below hasn’t been updated since early before since 21st jan so if you’ve joined since then please copy and paste and add in your details!

Name-Age-DC#/#MC(optional)-due#/18

YouCantBeSirius - 26 - DC2 - due 02/08
BabyH30 - DC3/1MC - due 03/08
somersetsinger - DC2 - due 04/08
Amzq87 - DC1 - due 04/08 - Derbyshire
milney25 - DC1 - due 04/08
Peoniesandcats - DC1 - due 04/08
CaffeineDragon - 37 - DC2 - 07/08
SmashyCup - DC2 - due 08/08
Sugarskulllover - 27 - DC1 - due 08/08
StrawberryLemonade - 30 - DC2 - due 8/8/18
Spydie - 33 - DC1 - due 09/08
SpriteGirl - 36 - DC1 - due 10/08
Peterpanwendy - 23 - DC1 - due 11/08
Hettyturnip - 35 - DC3/MC4 EDD 12/08/17
E2017 - DC1 Due 13/08/18 I'm in the Midlands
Hana327 - 29 - DC1 - due 13/08/2018
Babydreaming - 29 DC2/2MC - due 15/08
RiverRose - 28 DC3 - due 16/08
Gizzymum - DC2 - due 16/08
Whichoneisit - DC3/1MC - due 17/08
Kiki275 - DC1 - due 18/08
Eloisa123 - 44 - DC2 - due 20/08
Pestov - 33 - DC2 - 24/8
TheSleeperandtheSpindle - 32 - DC2 - due 24/08
Minkies13 - 32 - DC1 - due 24/08
ZoeRoma - 40 - DC1 - due 25/08
CumbrianExile - 37 - DC2 - due 25/08
TheGrumpySquirrel - 31 - DC2 / 1MC - due 25/08 - my dd will be 13 by then!
BertieBotts - 29 - DC2 - due 28/08 - Living in Germany
Emmasmum2013 - 34 - DC2 - due 21/08
Tinks15 - 26 - DC2 - due 03/08
Subo2018 - 27 - DC1 - due 14/8/18

@Hortonlovesahoo bless you....must be a terrifying time. I think my mothers advice would be to lie down and move little as possible till it subsides...fingers crossed

Sounds good to have a Facebook group later 😊

@BertieBotts He is being understanding having been through it himself but it doesn’t make things less terrifying. You know what makes it really sad...everyone has a different milestone...12 week scan or a 20 week scan. I don’t even know what my milestone would be? Just getting the baby home I guess...

@Hortonlovesahoo everything crossed for you. What a stressful situation.

@Expecto same to you. Hope you have a better time of it this time.

Yeah I know :( are you on the pregnancy after loss thread? I just made a long/rambly post on there about the same sort of thing although my losses have been fairly easy to deal with. It still messes with your head and I can't really trust that things will be okay until I don't know when really. But it must be much more real and scary to have got so far and had things go wrong, especially if there was mismanagement involved as well.

Horton Your situation sounds very stressful. Look after yourself

Expecto Sorry to hear about what you went through last time. Be kind to yourself and take things at your own pace

I told my Head today, she wasn’t shocked but don’t think she was best pleased either! It made things a bit easier when I said I could see this academic year out. Also told a few of my close work friends who hugged me and were so happy and supportive. Alfhough I’m only 7+4 schools are a funny place so I’m glad I have a few people watching out for me

@Pollyp87 I went to a scan on my own as it was to check bump growth, plus all midwife appointments, and two visits to the hospital to check babies movements. No one batted an eye. I think they recognise there's loads of appointments, most of which are routine-pee-in-a-cup ones, and other ones are fitted in ASAP so it's understandable OH can't be there.

@Gem173 I can't remember if they normally ask if it's planned, but if they do it will be more to determine if you need/want counselling rather than to judge. I'd assume the MW will just sort out your scan/mention it as the booking in appointment but if in doubt just give her a call and ask (or get a receptionist to pass on a message)

@babyH3O Yes it is approx 1cm per week uterus growth they look for (but don't panic if yours doesn't grow that fast - mine was 32cm at week 37 last time!)

@Expecto welcome to the group and sorry to hear about your previous loss.

@BertieBotts I joined another thread but I think it says pregnant after mc?

Thing is what happened was such a remote incident that I think I heard somewhere it’s only happened 6 times ever before but because it happened I’ll still have it in the back of my mind.

I wouldn’t wish to pass my insecurities to anyone else...it was a remote incident. Maybe that’s how I need to start rationalising it...all this anxiety and stress can’t be doing us any good.

@TheSleeper...thank you x

@Gizzy thank you x

Horton, that sounds really tough. The uncertainty of the situation is horrible. We are here for support if you need.

Yes that's right, sorry, I got mixed up between that and the TTC after loss thread. I know there have been ladies who have suffered stillbirth on the pregnancy after mc thread, I don't know about neonatal death but you'd definitely be welcome - I think it must be similar in terms of anxiety and not being able to be so free and relaxed about things.

I have heard that it's possible in England and Wales to get a debrief after any traumatic event which has happened surrounding a birth if that would be something you'd be interested in but of course it might mean coming into contact with people you'd rather not meet again. Alternatively it might be going over the notes with a supervisor or consultant instead, I am not 100% sure, but it might be something you're interested in looking at a bit later on.

I don't think you should keep quiet if it helps you to talk about things. You could put a trigger warning if you feel it would be more courteous. Sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby, whatever happened.

@Expecto It's worth mentioning your anxieties to the midwife when you see her. They can refer you to counselling etc which may help you with this pregnancy.

It’s the whole seeing the same faces and going to the same place that worries me....and the counselling has been offered before by the bereavement midwives at the same hospital....again I don’t want to see them or re-live it....it’s hard

@peterpanwendy
Only saw the doctor so haven’t seen the midwife yet. But doctor wasn’t fairly nice to me! So guess it was a positive. I just don’t like things that are similar to interviews that one on one time with someone I don’t know makes me nervous!

@Gizzymum I think il wait till my booking in and if nothing in post by then, I will ask them at the appointment

Yes, that's totally understandable. It might be worth asking if you can have the notes transferred and speak to somebody totally separate, but only if you think it would be helpful. Maybe DH or someone else could ask for you.

I’m tempted to go to my GP and speak with her impartially first as she wasn’t involved in any of it. She’s quite level headed so might have some suggestions on how to proceed. For now I’ve given myself another two weeks before I start peeing in pots and being poked and prodded every which way possible.

Thank you all for listening...x

@Expecto do it your way and don’t feel you can’t ask for what you want. Very sorry for your loss.

Welcome Expecto. Sorry for your previous loss, I think talking to your doctor sounds like it will help

Horton fingers crossed for you. I hope the bleeding stops soon.

Back to work for me tomorrow. Gotta be easier than a day alone with a hyper active 3yo when all I want to do is sleep

Hi folks, sorry to go completely off topic here. I joined MN when I got my BFP (or thought I sort of had). I frequently read other threads and subsequently in turn horrified by the reactions and judgements of some MNers and then crying with laughter at some absolute gems. I personally would never be brave enough to put up an AIBU thread. This one has made me smile so much and I bet a lot can relate, so thought I'd share: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3133022-AIBU-to-rage-at-knicker-gussets-or-is-it-me-lighthearted?pg=7
Enjoy x
(If it's really not the done thing - please say and I won't do it again)

Kiki - it's like Hotel California in here, don't worry! I came when DS was 3 months old and he's nine now! And I have posted a few AIBUs in my time...

Expecto - sounds like a plan :)

I have my second appointment tomorrow but I get an actual lie in. Woohoo!

@Hortonlovesahoo so sorry to here your news, 🤞🏻 For u.

can I ask?

I have an appointment for our 12 week scan and meeting with midwife and they have said to bring your green notes with you...however...I have no green notes.
Do u know if I get them at my first meeting or should I have them already?
Also
I have no idea who my midwife is. Is that normal?

From memory Hana I got my notes at the booking in appointment with the midwife. You then have to take them to every appointment and with you when you go into labour.

Saw this on fb today, one to save I think. www.pregnancymagazine.com/pregnancy/bringing-home-second-baby

Thanks Bertie I have saved to reread nearer the time.

Hi Hana327 as Cumbrian said you get them at your booking in appointment and me midwife told me to buy a big new expensive handbag and take them everywhere