August 2018 #2 Nausea and first scans!

[Babydreaming]

Welcome to our 2nd thread! The List below hasn’t been updated since early before since 21st jan so if you’ve joined since then please copy and paste and add in your details!

Name-Age-DC#/#MC(optional)-due#/18

YouCantBeSirius - 26 - DC2 - due 02/08
BabyH30 - DC3/1MC - due 03/08
somersetsinger - DC2 - due 04/08
Amzq87 - DC1 - due 04/08 - Derbyshire
milney25 - DC1 - due 04/08
Peoniesandcats - DC1 - due 04/08
CaffeineDragon - 37 - DC2 - 07/08
SmashyCup - DC2 - due 08/08
Sugarskulllover - 27 - DC1 - due 08/08
StrawberryLemonade - 30 - DC2 - due 8/8/18
Spydie - 33 - DC1 - due 09/08
SpriteGirl - 36 - DC1 - due 10/08
Peterpanwendy - 23 - DC1 - due 11/08
Hettyturnip - 35 - DC3/MC4 EDD 12/08/17
E2017 - DC1 Due 13/08/18 I'm in the Midlands
Hana327 - 29 - DC1 - due 13/08/2018
Babydreaming - 29 DC2/2MC - due 15/08
RiverRose - 28 DC3 - due 16/08
Gizzymum - DC2 - due 16/08
Whichoneisit - DC3/1MC - due 17/08
Kiki275 - DC1 - due 18/08
Eloisa123 - 44 - DC2 - due 20/08
Pestov - 33 - DC2 - 24/8
TheSleeperandtheSpindle - 32 - DC2 - due 24/08
Minkies13 - 32 - DC1 - due 24/08
ZoeRoma - 40 - DC1 - due 25/08
CumbrianExile - 37 - DC2 - due 25/08
TheGrumpySquirrel - 31 - DC2 / 1MC - due 25/08 - my dd will be 13 by then!
BertieBotts - 29 - DC2 - due 28/08 - Living in Germany
Emmasmum2013 - 34 - DC2 - due 21/08
Tinks15 - 26 - DC2 - due 03/08
Subo2018 - 27 - DC1 - due 14/8/18

That should say boy, not bit.

@Hortonlovesahoo nice to hear from you - I hope your bleeding isn't causing you too much stress.

@Gem173 you should never worry about being judged, and if you felt you were home your head high - you've done nothing to warrant it!

Congrats on the house move @BertieBotts you must be knackered.

First day back at work has been so busy, it's actually nice to have my mind taken up with something else. I have been so anxious, im an anxious person anyway. I have another scan on Thursday to check up after my bleeding and then my 12 week next Friday.

@Gem173 my doctor asked me this when I saw them, I think it's less to judge you and a nicer opening gambit than 'do you want to keep it'. I completely agree about receptionists though, a great deal are lovely and then the others fall into three categories without any middle ground:

• computer says no
• medically trained in everything by proxy of working next to GP's
• rude (generally around lunchtime when they've fielded lots of calls from people spending 4 hours repeatedly dialling to get through and are understandably cranky)

@Pollyp87 do you have a best friend you can trust?

@Babydreaming Congrats on the move, plenty of time to settle in and make it a proper home.

@Peoniesandcats I think the later the better also, however I've got friends there who I'd love to tell. I feel really bad that I've turned down nights out, being part of their new year weight watching group and lied about xmas activities too. It's an office like yours and gossip is prevalent so it's tell none or all unfortunately.

@kiki275 @milney25
I know I should hold my head up higher, guess I’m just a shy person and stupidly care what other people think.
My doctor did ask if I had decided to keep it so I said yeah. She never asked if it was planned she assumed it was unplanned because she asked if I had been on the pill I said I had been but came off. So assumed it was unplanned. But il just tell the midwives it was planned when I see them. Doubt it makes a difference.
Congrats on the move @Babydreaming
I would agree on waiting a while to tell work @spydie seeing as the last time he told people! I’d be mortified unless I told them first haha
My current managers getting cranky about losing lots of people including me so seeing her isn’t really an option just yet. Will prob wait till after my 12 week scan and when I start my job just let the new manager know

I’m thinking of consulting a best friend on it in the hope she’ll be able to work round things and come with me if I need/want her too.

I agree about receptionists at Doctors, they seem to be annoyed that they aren the doctor! You don’t even speak to the receptionist at mine, you sign in on a screen then a beep goes off and your name comes up for you to go in.

In true hormonal fashion im now excited about my appointment tomorrow and getting the ball rolling!

@babydreaming congrats on the move 💐

I can’t keep up with who I’m replying too 🙈

I’ve now decided I’m going to tell my manager when I’ve had my scan but other than that keeping it quiet. I’m having a party for my birthday and we will have family there earlier so telling them then and then my friends who are coming after that. Not making a big song and dance about it though. Judging by how tight my trousers are getting I’m not sure how long I’ll be able to hide it. Anyone having twins?!

FINALLY had my scan date through 🎉. Thursday 25th Jan. so exciting except my husband has to be in stupid Manchester (no offence to any Mancunians, I think Manchester is great I just can’t believe the timing). So I’m gona ring tomorrow and ask if they’ll move the scan. I have no idea how flexible they’ll be able this??

If not he says he won’t go.

@pollyp87 not sure about twins doubt it as my tests weren’t strong at 10dpo just faint. But time will tell with the 12 week scan!

@SpriteGirl! That’s so exciting! I’m not sure about moving it and how easy that would be. My midwife just found it hard to book in my booking appt she said they were completely full. So I doubt Il even get a 12 week scan in time! I prob will but I’m sure it’s difficult for them, seems to be a baby boom this month!

I am knackered but more because I went back to work today and the transition from 2+ naps a day is hard!

I volunteer at a refugee place in the mornings on Monday and had to take a break halfway through so mentioned to one of the other volunteers just to quickly explain and he gave me a big hug :) Even offered to help with our move which was super nice of him!

I won't tell work until I am sure this is for sure going well.

I have an appointment tomorrow so want to ask a couple of questions - when to contact a midwife and how that works being one of them. I've forgotten the other

Should I be concerned that I booked my booking appointment but nothing was said about a scan?

Yeah it's busy season ATM, all the Christmas party babies apparently! Doh! I did this with DS and it was heaving on maternity when I had him.

@BertieBotts
I asked my dr similar questions she didn’t know anything just said to give them a call and find out. When I called them the woman took 15 mins to find me a date for booking in, but nothing was said about a scan or anything coming through the post. I don’t even know if she’s booked me in the right GP. I assume it’s my local GP as that is the midwifery team I contacted 😂 really hate using phones

In some areas your scan goes through automatically and you get the info in the post. But def ask if you're not sure - with DS I never got mine and when the letter finally turned up it was THAT DAY in the next town over! I didn't have a car at the time and my partner was working and I totally panicked - tried to call them and rearrange and they were really snotty about it. Luckily my mum was able to cancel some stuff and take me and then I was measuring early so they had to change it anyway!

GP’s don’t arrange the dating scan. The midwife will take booking info then send a request to the hospital for a scan and they’ll usually send an appointment in the post. That’s how it works most places anyway.

I thought my nausea had improved but it’s back this evening. I think it’s cos I’m exhausted from work.

Ah but it works differently in Germany - most of my care will be with a gynecologist who is the same lady I go to see for my smears etc, you even have to go and see them for contraception here, no GP can prescribe it! A midwife or Hebamme as they are called is, I believe, maybe optional? But provides another aspect of care, more of the emotional support and preparation for birth (whereas the gynecologist does all of the checks that everything is going well and there are no risk factors etc) and they will come to visit you at home afterwards, rather than a health visitor. It's all a bit confusing because you have to choose one and contact them yourself, and of course I've got to find one who speaks English and there's a bit of a shortage apparently due to similar problems with independent midwives in the UK.

I had a recommendation before but I called her when I was barely four weeks and she laughed and said call back when you're a bit further along, and then I lost that one so I don't know when to call this time!

@BertieBotts that must have been a nightmare!
@StrawberryLemonade
That does make sense, okay now just twiddle my thumbs and wait 3 weeks for my next appt

Oh it was, I was in floods of tears, I was only 19 and had absolutely no idea what to do and they were so mean saying "Well you can't cancel or you won't get another one!" gah!

Of course all forgotten when I saw him waving at me on the screen :)

Thank you for your reply @Eloisa123 I sometimes feel like my worries are so overwhelming but knowing that others have gone through similar and have come out the other side reassures me.

@Kiki275 I am the coffee queen and haven't had one (or tea!) in over a week cos I can't stand the thought of it!

@Gem173 how was your appt? My midwife called me young which I thought was quite rude (otherwise she was lovely!) then asked if mine was planned. She also referred me for my 12 week scan and said I'll get a letter in the post.

@Peoniesandcats if all is well at my scan on Saturday I'm going to tell my boss on Monday (will be 10+2) but I'm a teacher so there's lots of illness going around which I may need to avoid!

Hi everyone, I’ve never joined any forum or done anything similar but feel like I need complete strangers to talk to so I don’t feel judged.

I am about 8 weeks pregnant (I think) I have irregular periods so hard to pin it down exactly. I think I’m due 20/08?

Having been through a tragic loss of a baby around New Years last year, this time I feel like I don’t even want any outside intervention. It seem irrational I know but I don’t think I want to ever have to see that Hospital again nor do I trust their care. I don’t plan on going to the doctors for a few weeks yet...haven’t decided what to do really. DH has said we’ll take it one step at a time and being really supportive.

On a separate note I had gv last time and this time each time I wash my face or brush my teeth I gag...I can have a shower fine but when it comes to those two things I just can’t manage so I’m wondering whether it’s in my head? Am I gagging because I’ve put myself off???

@milney25: thanks :) it’s causing a bit more stress than I’d like!

@bertiebotts: you’re using words I’ve not heard in a few years! I used to live in Köln and had friends going through The hebamme. Are you in a city or town? I’ve found cities are easier to find English speakers but a lot of midwives only speak German.

A bit of a sad ish update from me. It’s a waiting game to see what happens. Had another scan and little bean is growing and still has a heartbeat but there’s a lot of blood still coming out and they don’t know why and they can’t do anything to stop it without removing the pregnancy too. So I’ll be having weekly checks now until I either miscarry or am out of the danger zone. I’ve had a cry today and am trying to keep positive.

@expecto ; welcome to the thread :) the girls here are absolutely lovely!

@hortonlovesahoo really sorry to hear that. Really hoping for good news and you continue to see that little heartbeat at each scan do they know where the bleeding is coming from? I hope it's not too long to wait until you out of the danger done?

Ugh darn phone... are out of

Exciting that scans are happening soon. I told my boss today and she said she wondered (not sure how given I found out after I was on leave for Xmas and I drank alcohol at the Xmas lunch sat next to her in early december!). She took it pretty well and I’m relieved she knows (I was dreaming about telling her!!). I work in a lab so I need to do a risk assessment soon and didn’t want the safety officer to know and not my boss just in case she heard it second hand!

Also finding it hard to keep up and reply to people - my last bus (Oct ‘15) migrated on to a secret group on Facebook, which might be an option if people wanted.

@Hortonlovesahoo gosh, well I'm not surprised it's causing you a lot of stress. Keeping everything crossed that the bleeding will resolve itself and that you get good news at your next scan.

I think we'd decided to do a facebook group a bit later when most of us are past 12 weeks ish, but don't feel you have to reply to every single post on here anyway, that isn't how these things normally go :)

Horton that sounds really stressful, fingers crossed for you. I'm in a city but not a major one so I think it's in the middle. There have been a couple of midwives mentioned on the group I'm in so I will probably try those and then ask for advice again if I need to.

Expecto it sounds like you've had a really traumatic experience. Good that DH is being supportive.