July 2018 babies - part 2 :)

[Skyechasemarshalontheway]

Made a new group

Hi! I can add you to the fb group. The more the merrier :-) Send me a DM with your real name and a description of your profile pic and I'll find you on fb.

Thanks anything ive just messaged you x

Hope everyone has a nice christmas today xx

Merry Christmas ladies! Wishing you all a fun, relaxing and nausea-free day. And for all those giving the big reveal to loved ones, ENJOY!! Raising a glass of non-alcoholic bubbly to you all xx

Morning! Merry Christmas all

I've had a couple of DMs and have actioned/responses re the fb group x

Merry Christmas! I told my girls today!!! (10 and 7 years old) theyre so excited and can't believe it! I was so worried about telling them but theyre so happy. Now for family and friends ... Nervous!! 🎄🎄

Had a scan today after some bleeding last night. They dates me 12+5 so brought my dating scan forward to this afternoon! Baby was dancing and waving due 07/07/2018

Congratulations Penguin! What a lovely clear picture, though it was quite naughty of baby to worry you like that!

Thank you! It was amazing to see. I’m knackered now tho. I’ve not been sleeping well anyway (does anyone else get weird dreams and uncomfortable at night) but last night was rather sleepless with worry.

Happy Christmas all!

@PenguinChristmas , we have the same due date, albeit I'm likely having a Caesarean.

Thought I was over the worst of the nausea/vomiting at 12 + 5 but travel brings out the worst in me! Was vomiting yesterday and today due to travelling to see relatives.

We told our parents, it was lovely! Lucky we did as I had my head down the toilet roughly 45 minutes after breaking the news which just might have given me away...!

Hi @karategirl I remember you from the conception board! How are you?

@Heregoeseverything I just want a girl because I'm used to being outnumbered! I don't really mind though. My scan is on the 18th! I'm really starting to sh*t myself. What if it's bad news!!!

Hi everyone, hope you all had a fab Christmas!

I was super nauseous all Christmas. Told everyone it was my heartburn playing up. I was belching like a docker after Christmas dinner, it was revolting! No one asked if I was pregnant, but pretty confident a couple of people must have had discussions after they left!

I got really stroppy with my husband before we left for Christmas, as his mum kept asking why we weren't telling the whole family while they were together, and trying to 'encourage' us that it would be a really good idea. Luckily, she got the message eventually...

I've moved my scan to 13th January so that Mr Karate can be there. So excited!

Hello @Peachesarenom I'm well thanks, except for the nausea, exhaustion and spraining my ankle a couple of weeks ago (whoops!) 10+2 now. How are you getting on?

Just catching up, my scan is booked for the 18th of January, I'm excited and nervous at the same time for it! Could I be added to the FB group too? I'm still on the one for my now 18month old and its a great group!

Hi all

I've my first booking appt next Friday. Based on gestation size in the early private scan I've done a few weeks back, I'll be 11+3 then.
From what I understand, this appt is mainly a chat to see how I am doing and there will be no physical exam? Also, will this be the midwife that will stay w me thru the pregnancy or does it change with every NHS visit? What are some important questions to ask?

I also received a letter today to inform me the first NHS ultrasound scan will be 18 Jan when I am 13 +2. In the booklet enclosed, there is mention of screening for sickle cell and thalassaemia. Is this when the screening will take place or should I be mentioning that I'd like to have the screening to the midwife during my booking appt ?

Sorry, just the last couple of days I've started feeling unsure and lost again. Husband has been very supportive but he's really the only person I talk to and interact with so I do feel a little lonely about this from time to time. I do have some friends who live here in London but I am not very close to them (&they are also at different stage in life) and over Christmas we did plan to go out but they mainly want to do drinks which I couldn't. As I can't really share about the pregnancy right now and Christmas week saw me dealing w headaches and nausea, I didn't end up being very social.

I'm a little disappointed too my parents back home don't seem as excited as I expected them to be. They are very involved in bringing up their 2yr old first grandson at the moment (&also just welcomed their first granddaughter 3mths ago) and I'm so far away, I guess maybe it's hard for them to express their excitement or really see anything different as yet. For my in-laws it's their first and they seem excited but we don't speak the same language so aside from smiling and waving on FaceTime, not much else I can do. We have only told this immediate family.

@karategirl, we are very close in timing! I am 10 +4 today and like u, Christmas week was nauseous too with lots of burping. Argh, I was so embarrassed but I stayed home mostly. Thankfully, this week seems much better though I am still gassy and burpy.

@karategirl That was so wrong of your MIL, I'm glad she eventually took it on board but you were absolutely right not to give in. This won't be the last decision to do with your baby she has an opinion on, and she needs to realise that you call the shots!

@Daphne33 Have you looked into NCT classes? This will give you a support network for when your baby is born. I've only had my booking appointment and 12 week scan but my understanding is that my midwife will stay the same. When I had my booking appointment my midwife went through the process and asked lots and lots of questions about my medical background etc, it was very thorough and I was very reassured (my GP has been positively awful so I had felt at sea until then). She also weighed me and took samples of urine and blood. I had no additional questions as she answered them all.

I'm sorry your parents didn't react as you'd hoped, that's tough! Hopefully it was more about the medium of telling them, or perhaps they are a little emotionally reserved? I told one relative in particular who is absolutely delighted but was fairly muted as that is just her way. In contrast, my ILs were screeching! Telling a few friends over Christmas...

@Daphne33 It must be tough not to feel like your family are excited, but hopefully they'll get more on board as you get further along. In terms of the booking appointment, mine was with the midwife I'll have throughout, although I don't know whether that is standard across the country. It was essentially a long meeting to discuss medical history, and she took some blood, my blood pressure, weighed me etc, and booked me in for my scan.

@Heregoeseverything Thanks for being on side! Don't get me wrong, I love my MIL to bits and she didn't mean any harm, but I think that because she's so close to her family (growing up, my husband would see his grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins more or less daily, and his mum still does - and still spends loads of time on the phone to them!) she doesn't understand why I don't want them to know yet. And my husband's a bit ineffectual when it comes to being strict with his family. I'm just going to have to learn to be firm with them all, I think.

How many people know now @Heregoeseverything? For us, it's still just our parents and half a dozen very close friends. I'm going to have to let my boss know soon as I have appointments coming up and I'm dreading it. I don't think he'll react badly, I just get the feeling that it might be the start of him subconsciously redirecting interesting work and opportunities to my colleagues :(

@karategirl I thought my MIL would be the same and to her credit she wasn't. I get that it's not malicious but it's still really annoying, it's just not her business who you feel comfortable telling and when!

We have also told parents and close friends (I've only told 2 so far, want to tell them in person!). I am 13+1 though so if I don't tell people my bump will soon do it for me! My blimp-like boobs are doing a good job of dropping hints already...!

In bed with nausea... hoped it would be gone by now! Last week of first trimester...

@Daphne33 and @suz1rr my scan is also the 18th seems like ages away!

Can I squeeze into this group? We had a private scan last Friday, which confirmed 11+4 and a estimated due date in mid-July. I've had a separate thread running in pregnancy as this is a much wanted but bloody hell "surprise" baby as we're both over 40 (DH by quite some way) and our only child is in KS2 at school so we have no baby stuff left in the loft. The "we're 12 weeks" message goes out to family tomorrow morning so we wait for excited grandparents to phone.

So far we've just cancelled the family holiday we had booked for 3 days before my due date, and rebooked for October half term; I feel I need to wait for a while yet before getting swept up with baby shopping.

Good morning and Happy first day of the year, everyone! Hope all of you are nausea-/headache-free today as u head into the year of your new baby.

@DontCallmeJohnBoy,
Welcome and congrats!! Am in a different life situation but I understand what u mean by a "surprise" baby. Hope ur announcement today goes well.

@Heregoeseverything,
Yes I briefly looked at some NCT classes. They seem like a good starting point to network. I believe they start around May for babies due in July? my husband is looking to move to a new area before summer tho so may look the ones up in the new area. Still a way to go tho!

@alexandra87 and @suz1rr
How far along will u be when 18 Jan rolls around? I hope will be able to hear baby's heartbeat. I've seen it on screen during our private scan and I cannot forget my husband's serious face going all soft in wonderment at that point.

Btw, anyone a reader here? Any books u have read or would recommend re pregnancy? Preferably one w lots of baby pictures (my mum says to look at cute babies lol) or good info/a British perspective.

@Daphne33 I'll be 13 +2 at my scan. You'll definitely be able to hear the babies heartbeat. Some hospitals let you have a recording to take away for a small fee.
I'm trying to think of good books what to expect when you're expecting is good and there's one called first time parent by Lucy Atkins I think it is. I read loads with all of my other pregnancies can't remember what now though lol.

Welcome to the new commers.

Ive had a few pms but ive deactivated fb atm so cannot add anyone to the fb group. Will be back on hopefully in a few weeks once my scan and everything is done.

Dalphine sorry your family didnt react as well as youd hoped.
Most of my family were like well don't expect baby sitters for 3 etc only my dad and inlaws said congradulations to us straight away.

Alexandra my scan is the 11th it feels like ages away hopefully both ours fly in.

Im debating weither we want to do the downs screening test. Im not sure we would do anything different if it came back high risk.
I will be 13 weeks 1 day at my scan.

I've never had the screening tests with any of mine.

Thanks all for ur encouragement re family! I think I was being a bit too sensitive. I also told them over the phone actually cos my whole immediate family we r generally very direct w each other. The last few days of holiday, they have all been very rallying and concerned and kind, as much as they can communicate over whatsapp video/FaceTime. They aren't really texters and wouldn't video unless I video them first cos I guess it's all new technology to them.

My mum (who normally abhors travel, unlike my dad) is also quite psyched up to actually come to London for 2 months w him when the baby is born. She went from "hmm maybe 2 weeks if my body can" to quite an affirmed 1 month "maybe 2?" in the days since announcing Christmas so I'm feeling quite warm and fuzzy.

Thanks @alexandra87 re the titles. I've got the What to Expect when you're expecting one and definitely on the lookout for others. Am sure there may be a thread on Mumsnet and I'm plenty free/surprisingly not too sleepy (as I usually get) at home today.