July 2018 babies - part 2 :)

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Oh no winterfell, that's no fun. No chance it could be a bug? Feeling ok here although virtually nothing fits me! Normal clothes are mostly too tight but my maternity stuff looks like a sack still.

Welcome to newbies. Birdy I think that you are the only one with multiples on this thread but I could be wrong. Are they your first?

@RaspberryBlonde yep, I'm 15+4 today and still majorly puky. Working from home today because I just couldn't handle the train this morning This throwing up lark is meant to have stopped now!

@Winterfell, I'm in the same boat too, really hope it clears up for both of us soon.

I'm finding it really difficult to get properly excited at the moment, which is making me feel quite down. I told a couple of friends last night, and basically spent the whole time complaining about sickness, and talking about my anxiety about money, and how I'll copy only having a few months' leave, and how it's going to be when I go back to work and (probably) barely see the baby during the week, and whether I'll actually be able to cope as a mum. I feel like my husband is bonding better with the baby than I am. Don't get me wrong, I'm looking forward to it, but I almost feel resigned to it at the moment.

I'm finally seeing my brothers on Saturday, so will be able to tell them, and start letting other people know. Perhaps this will make it feel a bit more real? Is anyone else feeling like this at the moment?

Hi everyone! We finally got our NIPT results yesterday after the baby wouldn’t lie still on the nuchal scan and it was all good, the results ruled out abnormalities which is great so we have told a few more close friends which was exciting.

We also found out it’s 98% chance of being a boy! DH v pleased! I secretly wanted a girl ashks family is FULL of boys but no matter!

karategirl I feel much more bonded with the baby now we know it’s a ‘he’ despite not carrying it, and having the good results, we are more relaxed, it feels more real & have started to think about names more & talk out loud a bit more about ‘him’ so maybe that would help? Maybe it’s just hormones? I think it’s onlg fair to worry about things though

Sorry to hear about your sickness @Winterfell and @karate ! @karate my last* vomit was 14+5, I hope you're nearing the end...

I do feel quite bonded now, knowing it's a girl and having seen her on several scans. But since I stopped puking I've really noticed my anxiety increasing - not about after the birth, more about something going wrong with the pregnancy (I'm sure I'll graduate to post-birth anxiety later!). Can't wait to feel kicks...

Can't believe you still haven't told your brothers @karate ! Mind you I've only told 2 colleagues and I am basically starting to show (especially when I need to pee!!)... second colleague I told said he had suspected... I am nearly 18 weeks so maybe I need to bite the bullet!

I hate to say it, but is there a chance that the whole "second trimester honeymoon" thing is just a myth?? I haven't felt any better at all, and when I mention it to other friends who have had babies they all agree that they felt rough the whole way through (despite telling me a few weeks ago that it would soon get better...) why do people keep spreading this myth?? I suppose they all assume everyone else felt better than they did and that they were the exception. How annoying!!

@Karate my dates are almost exactly the same as yours and I have been feeling really low and tearful over the last week or two. Maybe it's largely hormonal, though it does sound as though you have a lot on your mind. I also tend to overthink these things and I think that women are in an almost impossible position re returning to work and deciding how long we should take off, no matter what we do we'll feel guilty in some way! I know it's easier said than done, but try not to worry, these things will all work themselves out at the time. it's a major life shift so is scary but you have to do what's right for you and baba, whatever that may be, and you don't need to make any decisions just yet

Welcome to all new comers too 😁

Ah sorry @heregoes I see you are a genuine puke-free success story so I take back what I said about it being a myth! There is hope for us after all

@DirtyThirties Touch wood, but I do feel much better now I'm well into the second trimester (first few weeks were still shaky/pukey). I actually feel pretty well physically, but have anxiety about the little person.

Cross-post @DirtyThirties ! Are you still puking? Grr!!

Also given @Winterfell 's update I will just say that Round 1 of my puking is over...!

@heregoes I know exactly how you feel with the pregnancy anxiety. I must say ‘please be ok’ to the baby over 50 times a day and still check the tp after every wipe expecting the worst. Apparently becoming a parent means this is just the start and we’ll be worrying for the rest of our lives!!

I puked the whole way thru my first pregnancy and even in labour. I'm 15weeks and still puking so I guess it's going to be the same as last time.

Pregnancy anxiety is horrible. As soon as the baby is born you will find something else to be anxious about. Hopefully you can manage your anxiety and don't let it get the better of you like it did me

@heregoes It's mostly constant nausea, dizziness, and general weakness but I'm only occasionally sick. I do have v low blood pressure so that could be the cause of a lot of it.

Know what you all mean about general anxiety, I hope that once we start feeling movement, and the all important 20 week scan has passed, we should hopefully get some reassurance. Feels like a long wait for that though!

@RaspberryBlonde nah defo not a bug. was fine yesterday, more mild today lol

Thank you @karategirl & @Heregoeseverything

You poor thing, @DirtyThirties! I'm very conscious that this is a "lull" in symptoms rather than an end to them, am doing what I can to enjoy life/appreciate it! I have pretty low blood pressure also. Feel rubbish if I don't get a seat on the tube but otherwise okay! I'm thinking of getting a baby on board badge, not because I'm not capable of asking (I do ask whenever it's not completely logistically impractical like it was this morning) but because I am often in the priority seat and then an old person gets on and someone else gets up and I worry everyone thinks I'm an arse!

Thanks for the empathy on the anxiety everyone! It's not taking over my every waking thought by any means, I just feel uncomfortable with people talking with absolute certainty about baby's arrival etc... I will say, "All going well..." or "Hopefully..." or "Touch wood" or whatever, and then people seem to think I'm mad to even countenance the possibility of all not being perfect! I feel better after each scan, but then the anxiety slowly creeps up again... can't wait to feel kicks, but I gather it is then time for anxiety about quality/quantity of kicks...!

Is anyone else feeling 'tight' across their stomach - it's so hard to explain but mostly at night when I'm laid in bed, I feel like I'm almost squashing the baby as such? It's like a tightening that comes in waves and then if I move, it will subside for a little while.

I'm a side sleeper anyway so it's definitely not when laying on back (which I know you shouldn't do) so I don't see how baby could be uncomfortable as such.

Just read that braxton hicks can be felt from 16 weeks onwards so I'm wondering if it's that?

In other news, in about 13 hours, we'll know if it's a boy or girl

There's definitely always something to worry about! Current worry here is primary school places and will DD ever go to sleep without having to be returned to her bed a dozen times. But think pregnancy is hard as you can't see the baby. I'm similar Heregoes with not wanting to talk about when they arrive with too much certainty. I was really nervous for the first 8 weeks or so as it took so long for me to fall pregnant this time, but have relaxed a bit now I'm past the first scan.

Very exciting here as I think I'm starting to feel some kicks, quite infrequent at the moment though.

Agree about the awkwardness on the Tube thing, fortunately I get on my train near the beginning so I'm usually guaranteed a seat, but the. I have to change in central London which is a bit more hit and miss. I'm not a big fan of the badges although DH is insisting that I wear one.

Well.. it's a GIRL.

To say I'm shocked is an understatement, was completely convinced she was a boy!

She's all healthy and wouldn't keep still for her pictures but did give us a wave on the 4D portion after the scan (after she had her hands over her face!).

Can't wait to meet the little madam now.. daddy is currently having kittens at the thought of a teenage daughter though!

Oh congratulations @lifechangesforeverinjuly !

Congratulations @lifechanges sounds like a great scan!

18+3 and officially have a bump... even first thing in the morning. Told a couple of people in my team yesterday and one of them said she’s been waiting for me to say something as has been convinced of it since turning down a boozy work lunch in December

Have a great weekend ladies

Congratulations @lifechanges ! I was also sure I was having a boy...

@InstructionsRequired Likewise I have a bump in the morning but it really is small, could pass for not pregnant, then somehow MUCH bigger in the evening! I've only told two colleagues (plus 3 HR-type people) in confidence, but yesterday a junior member of staff from another department (who has hardly ever spoken to me before, we don't even know each other's names) breezed in and said, "So, how many weeks are you?"

We are not fooling anyone...!

Congratulations lifechanges, lovely news. How was your babymoon? My colleague just got back from a weekend in Rome and said it was amazing so hope you had just as good a time.

Minster I missed your post up thread but glad to hear your tests results were reassuring.

We had our annual trip to IKEA today, main target was a bookcase (and of course the usual bunch of stuff we didn't know we 'needed') but was quite tempted getting some baby bits even though we don't really need much and it's too early in any case!

It was amazing @RaspberryBlonde - I could not get over how beautiful the place is or how much history is there. Will definitely be taking little T back when she's older and can appreciate it.

Plus the food although it reallyyyyyy sucked that I couldn't drink wine! I also noticed my energy levels had dropped massively and was ready for bed by 8 every night!

DH has been busy decorating the nursery today and is 3/4 done with the wallpaper, so exciting!! New carpet being laid on Friday and then we can start building furniture - we got it in the M&P sale so had it a while now.

Wowsers @lifechanges you guys are so organised! I still can’t bring myself to buy anything for the baby, or get too excited that it’s actually happening, to the disgust of MIL who has been eagerly awaiting a grandchild for over 10 years and would have had nursery decorated and everything ready for her boys before the 12 wk scan!!

Currently sat in the airport awaiting a 9 hr flight. Been feeling really uncomfortable the last few days and not sleeping well so not looking forward to fidgeting in my seat for that long but hoping to fall asleep for most of it. On the plus side, being visibly pregnant meant I got an extra legroom seat which will be welcomed!

I have to be organised haha, I'm working full time and studying a full time Psychology degree so my 'spare' time is very little

I didn't buy anything until I had my first scan at 8 weeks but then I just felt I was making myself miserable with worry and stress and what would be, would be - regardless of if I bought things or not. The grandparents are something else though, I've bought 2 babygrows and yet she has a full wardrobe already!

Looking forward to the 20 week's scan, although it's probably the last time we'll see little miss but hopefully the kicks are coming soon!

Hi all. Hope that those of you who were sick last week are feeling better and that you survived the flight instructionsrequired. Did things go well with your brothers karate?

Had my (slightly belated) 16 week check today. I'm yet to meet my actual midwife as she was off over Christmas when I had my booking appointment and was on holiday today! All is fine and they were able to find baby's heartbeat which was good.

Not having a very fun week otherwise as have had the worst cold I remember having in a long time and work has been really overwhelming as well. One of my team is leaving unexpectedly and I'm waiting to find out if I will be allowed to replace them as we have a lot of limits on recruitment at the moment. So overall more stress than I need, especially as we are really busy at the moment. I keep telling myself I won't have to worry about it in a few months, but that feels a long time at the moment!

Hello everyone! Hope everyone is ok and not feeling too sick or tired (my friend is pretty tired most of the time).

I can’t believe that there is nursery decorating & neatly finishing already!! That’s amazing! I am vaguely thinking about decorating and I’m not even the pregnant one!! Can’t really decide what to do or bring myself to move the sofa bed out of the room that will be the nursery (maybe it doesn’t need to come out, that’s what DH thinks!) as to start with baby will be in our room so to still have it as an extra room will be really helpful!

What kind of themes/decoration are lll thinking? We are thinking woodland theme for our little chap which would go with our rustic country house...I found a lovely solid wood nursery set I liked on gumtree the other day that’s no longer made, really solid & so we get that tomorrow afternoon, that’s pretty exciting!

And I couldn’t resist getting some nice organic Kite clothing in the sale but need to reign it in now as no doubt we’ll get loads of stuff given so no point getting too much!