Due in June - am I unreasonable to expect the nanny to give birth for me?

[hollyandalice]

Chicks???

Holly we'll let you do the car boot if you promise not to go to Ikea

I went to Ikea on saturday (no car boot - just a slice of dimebar cake when I was there yummy!) I only came back with catalogue and lots of scribbled notes. But I did notice that there are things in store that weren't in the catalogue (and vice versa) BUT take note Holly - you can shop online with Ikea for some stuff

So, you car boot and internet shop on the sofa at Ikea when you get back

Hello (waving).

Just got back from the hospital....and the only reason they let me out is cos I promised I would go straight to bed and stay there. I'm having irregular painful contractions , between 5 and 15 mins apart, but there are no signs of any fluid loss or further show, cervix is long and closed, and bubba is doing OK...no signs of distress . Had paracetomol but it didn't even dent the surface of the pain, but they wouldn't give me anything stronger incase this is the real deal and it masks the signs. They wanted to keep me in for observation, but...DS etc....they've let me home provided that I have absolute rest. they think things will settle of their own accord with rest, but oif the pain hasn't settled by itself, or if I have another bad night, or if I think it's getting worse, then I'm to go straight back in.

So, DH is on the way home....childminder is picking DS up and I'm off to bed...I'll keep you all posted and thanks for all the virtual hugs.....

oh Daisy i'm glad you OK - i had similar with my last pg at about 34 weeks - contractions were every 6-7 mins one day then just stopped then had a show and contractions every 5 mins another time a week or so later and again just stopped. dd was eventually born 4 hours late!!! so just relax like they say and keep your fingers (and legs) crossed

Poor you Daisy . Sending you lots of pain-free vibes...

Hope everyone had a great weekend. I realised at about 5am Sunday that I needed to get books to the accountant this week so that was my Sunday and all morning this morning.

Has there been any more shower gifts arrive? I still haven't sent mine - sorry!

Boys happily playing with lego at the moment - sure it won't last any longer that 5 mins!

hi, can't remember who but someone was looking for this looks like you can save about £5 if you buy it through ebay

Daisy you probably won't get to read this for a while if you're in bed (unless you have a laptop like me) but I really hope your contractions calm down soon, as others have said this can happen and then stop again. Sending you tonnes of uterus calming vibes and will be thinking of you, xxx

Bumperlicious, keep meaning to say I have finally emailed the Babybuddha people, will let you know.

Poor you daisy, hope your nasty contractions stop asap! At least your cervix is closed, so hopefully they aren't doing anything. (((HUGS))) and being sent your way xx

Ohmigod, only just checked in since Saturday and can't believe how much chatting has been going on!!
Have just returned from ante natal class and am now even more terrified than ever of giving birth. They passed the forceps round, and the crochet needle to break your waters. Why oh why oh why????
At least we discussed all pain relief methods..
TBH, i think the classes have made me feel even more apprehensive about the birth, rather than preparig me for it.
I am a real scaredy cat though.

Also have taken advantage of 3 for 2 on Raspberry Leaf tea at H&B. Is it right that you shouldn't take it before 36 weeks? I think i read somewhere that you could take it throughout pregnancy? Definitely DON'T want to bring on early labour as there will be no kitchen for weeks..

Hi all

Haven't had a chance to catch up yet, but just wanted to get my rant in as no one else understands. Rang the MW this morning to enquire about my lack of antenatal classes and she asked me my name and said "oh, you're not in my book" I asked what that meant exactly and she said "well, it means we don't know about you" WTFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF?!!!!

How rude and insensitive! Talk about feeling fully supported and not just another NHS number..

kittykat - hello i apologise i forgot to welcome you after my mammoth catch up over the weekend - you need to check in every few hours with this chatty lot to stand a chance!!!
i can't believe the MW passed round forcepts and crochet needle thing at your classes that is disgraceful - i assure you though when in labour if you need any of that they'll just get on with it and you won't really know about it just ask for more drugs!!!!!!
Bumper if i were you i'd be penning a serious letter of complaint - when did you last see a MW?

oh kittykitt sorry - not kittykat

ScaredyKat

It's not just that, but I have visions of rocking up to hospital only to be told "sorry, we don't know about you, you can give birth here"! Can't believe how useless they've been. I just feel really let down. I've seen 3 different midwives (including the one who "didn't know about me") and have have a pretty sucky pregnancy, and eventually got signed off for a couple of weeks, but only because I've been seeing my GP regularly too. What if they've missed something. I already had to ring and badger them for my first scan coz they "didn't know about me" then, had blood tests go missing, and now nearly didn't have antenatal classes. What else are they missing or not doing? Grrrr, sorry, I'm just furious!

Anyway, back to everyone else's problems...

@ daisy, hope you feel ok, I'm sure everything will be fine, just make sure you do rest. H&A hope you week is better than your weekend.

Kitty, not sure about the rules on RLT but I don't think it actually can induce labour, it just makes your uterus more stretchy I think so it allegedly makes things easier. Here's some more info

Hi derlor, I saw a MW three weeks ago to have my anti D jab, but I'm seeing my doctor this week and will have a chat with her as the MW's work with the surgery and there has obviously been some major breakdown in communication. I've seen the MW's a total of 3 times, once for booking in after my 12 week scan (but only after I'd rung them a few times) once with the person who is supposed to be my actual MW and then once for my jab, it alternates with seeing the GP, who thankfully is lovely. The hospital apparently have a totally different set of MWs so even if I did see mine regularly there is no way she would be at the birth (not sure if that is normal or not).

Bumper DO NOT STAND FOR THIS SHITEY LEVEL OF CARE!!!!!!!!! complain loud NOW!!!!! i know i moaned about not getting a 2nd scan but my maternity care has been great apart from that. if the care is shawdy then the only way to get this fixed is to complain - i'm sure we'd all be only too happy to help you compose a letter.......
believe me EVERY letter of complaint sent to the NHS IS investigated.

i've just checked back my appointments i'm 34 weeks now and have seen GP once, consultant once, MW 5 times (booking in then 14, 20, 26, 30 weeks) and have another appt on wed (34 week one) then get seen again at 36,38, 39 + 40 weeks routinely.
Each time i have had BP, urine and baby heartbeat checked - and anything else discussed.

Bumper, that is horrible. I think some MWs forget that this is a pretty amazing and special occasion for people and to slip through the cracks isn't really what we want to hear. I am having a 34 wk scan to check the position of the placenta and when I rang I went around the houses for a while, they then told me that my MW had to ring for the appt and when she rang (she has a good relationship with them thankfully) I had been taken off their books . Thankfully it was MW on the phone, not me as I don't know how understanding I would be.

KittyKit - that sounds awful - thankfully I have never had to have them used on me!! At one of the antenatal classes I went to the mw passed around the gas and air

Annobal, why are they checking the position of the placenta, is it a routine thing or did they notice something at an earlier scan?

Dear midwife

Am I being unreasonable to expect to be on your books when I am 32 weeks pg and have seen 3 different members of your staff and left umpteen messages on your answerphone?!

WAY too nice bumper try this.....

Midwife,

Am I being unreasonable to expect you to do your job properly and actually give a shit about me and my unborn child? I am 32 weeks pg and have seen 3 different members of your useless shitey staff and left umpteen messages on your clearly broken answerphone?!
get your F*ing act together and DO YOUR JOB YOU TWUNT!!!!!!!

yours sincerely

Bumper

xxx

ROFL delor! Thanks for that, will give it a try! As long as she doesn't complain to her midwifey friends at the hospital who take great pleasure in giving me a big fat episiotomy and stitches with no anaethestic!

never thought of that. maybe just be firm but nice just now then complain like buggery AFTER the birth - then move house and have your next one somewhere else!!!!
seriously though don't let them get you down babe they should be making you and bubba feel really important and special just now so let them know how let down you feel. good luck x