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Due in June - am I unreasonable to expect the nanny to give birth for me?

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hollyandalice · 19/04/2007 21:21

Chicks???

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hollyandalice · 21/04/2007 22:06

They do sometimes foxy, but not often enough! I don't think dp realises how difficult it is for me to cope with three boys, dd and being pg. And I am only 25 ffs!

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hollyandalice · 21/04/2007 22:08

I was thinking about it foxy, but I'm not to sure if I'd have anything to say to him. I think we'd just be walking round in an awkward silence! Also don't have any money atm so can't even take him swimming or out for lunch or anything.

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foxybrown · 21/04/2007 22:08

Thats a good idea Catkin.

Could you sell it to DP as they need more quality time with their dad so they don't feel threatened by the new baby?

Might give him a chance to talk to them and find out how they feel.

foxybrown · 21/04/2007 22:09

Cinema?

fatcatkin · 21/04/2007 22:09

Ok, Forget that idea!! Just go and have a lovely day with Alice if you can.

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hollyandalice · 21/04/2007 22:10

Cinema is good idea, but no money! Seriously we have about a fiver until next week!

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foxybrown · 21/04/2007 22:11

Hmmm, well I think you need to have a relax RIGHT NOW. What treats have you got?

fatcatkin · 21/04/2007 22:12

I know that feeling very well!

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hollyandalice · 21/04/2007 22:14

The money issue just makes it worse. The eldest is a sod and does things like demanding new trainers etc. His mum goes and buys them then expects the money back from dp! His last pair of trainers were £90 and his school shoes were £60! That really pissed me off. I don't see why my dd should be wearing clothes that people have given me or I have got in sales etc. when he is walking around in £90 trainers!

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foxybrown · 21/04/2007 22:15

It sucks, doesn't it.

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hollyandalice · 21/04/2007 22:15

I have no choc as I didn't buy any coz I knew the boys would eat it all! I do have some Doritos and dip though, that'll do!

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fatcatkin · 21/04/2007 22:16

Holly, that would really piss me off too. Foxy's right though - You need to relax right now!

foxybrown · 21/04/2007 22:17

Go to bed and rub your bump. I like that, feeling like its just her and me.

fatcatkin · 21/04/2007 22:17

Go and enjoy your doritos! I'll join you with some McCoys as it's all we've got!

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hollyandalice · 21/04/2007 22:18

Thanks for listening to me chicks. I don't know what I would have done then if you weren't here to vent my anger on!! I'd best go anyway coz dp is sat next to me, I don't really think i should be ignoring him. Then again maybe I should !!

Hope you have a lovely time on your spa break foxy, you really deserve it. xxxx

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fatcatkin · 21/04/2007 22:19

Take care Holly. >

Foxy, have fun at your spa!

foxybrown · 21/04/2007 22:19

And I've just had a lovely pack of Walkers S&V.

Holly, you've had a busy week and must be exhausted with all that work and this stress.

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hollyandalice · 21/04/2007 22:20

(((hugs))) back catkin, thanks for listening x

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foxybrown · 21/04/2007 22:20

sleep well all. xx

bumperlicious · 21/04/2007 22:35

Oh, Holly, sorry I've missed all your messages. I really feel for you Holly, your situation bloody sucks. I have no idea what to suggest. Have they always been this bad or is it just a teenage phase? The problem with going to your mums whenever they come over (apart from why the f*ck should you) is that you risk alienating yourself even more from them. But you shouldn't have to deal with this right now, or when the baby is born. It seems the only thing you can do is talk to DP. I can understand him wanting to be cool dad when he sees them but it won't do them any good in the long run, and they won't respect either of you. Also, if you guys are having to pay towards the boys stuff you need to be consulted about what they are buying. How do you all get on with the ex? Is she reasonable?

bumperlicious · 21/04/2007 22:37

Looks like I'm too late for my 2 p worth! Good night everyone. Holly, if you come back on here hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

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hollyandalice · 22/04/2007 04:29

Bless you bumper! Thanks for the advice. I suppose I should just stick it out here and not dissapear to my parents' every 5 mins. Not that I really care anymore about alienating myself, but this is my bloody house and I resent being pushed out of it.

Maybe I'll wake up in the morning (oops it already is ) and I'll have a different life! That would be nice!

Anyway, hope everyone sleeps well xx

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foxybrown · 22/04/2007 08:37

Thought I'd just drop by and see how you are Holly. Hopefully you are still sleeping!

Hope you have a better day today! take care, or better still, have your mum take care of you!

bumperlicious · 22/04/2007 09:21

I should have come here and chatted to you, I was up at 4 too and have been up ever since! Thought it was a good time to sort out all our paperwork and bills etc.!

Well, it's only 9am on a sunday morning and already DH and I have had several arguments and I have cried twice! He's being really funny about not having a cot/crib/pushchair/carseat/moses basket in the house before the baby is born. But the thing is someone at work is lending us a cot, and another person a moses basket. Bidding for a crib on ebay, we still need to get a new mattress and bedding and I just want it done for when the baby is born. I don't want to come back from the hospital and the baby have nowhere to sleep! I also don't want to spend the next week going and buying bedding, collecting the cot and moses basket from people I don't know very well, I just want everything prepared. He's being really funny about this and I know I'm not being v sympathetic when he panders to my ever whim. But it's like he doesn't know me at all, and doesn't understand that I need things ready. He keeps saying "we got two months" but it may be less, plus I don't want to spend the days leading up to the birth sorting the spare room out. At the moment it's filled with his dvds, the old PC and just loads of crap.

I'm sorry, it's too early to be whinging so much I know, and now I'm just rambling coz I'm sleep deprived.

Daisybump · 22/04/2007 09:38

You duck out for half a day and miss loads here.....Holly, sending you big big virtual hugs. Try not the let the buggers grind you down.....maybe clearing off to your folks in future would be a good idea....it'll give DP time with his kids and you a break and they wouldn't have to sleep in the living room (although in there you should just give them sleeping bags and the floor....might stop the youngest wetting it if he knows there won't be lovely clean sheets courtesy of you!), but I suppose the worry there is that the little sods will think they've won some kind of moral victory....not to mention the clearing up you'll have to do when you get back . The oldest one should know better really...wish I could give you a solution.((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))

hope you're feeling better today, but I'll be about so feel free to vent some more.

Foxy...have a lovely time you lucky lucky lady....I'll pop over and make sure the staff are behaving themselves...I know how keen the chauffer is to let your ferrari rip.....

Hi there Kittykat......and welcome to the nuthouse.

DS gave me the fright of my life last night. I gave my friends a lift home and left DH putting him to bed. I was away about half an hour, and when I got back, DH was out on the patio having his evening cigar...and the side door to our house was open. Went up to the loo and popped in to give DS a kiss.....his bed was empty . Looked under the bed....empty [shcok]. went in to our room as he sometimes crawls in there....nothing . Ran screaming hysterically downstairs to DH, then the two of us ran screaming hysterically back upstairs......DS sitting up in bed looking demure....the little begger had been on the window cill behind the curtains. Felt . Took an age for the tears to stop and me to calm down...(thanks again for the tea secret stork). I honestly thought he'd either been abducted or had wandered out of the house......

so that was my exciting evening.

Overdid things in the garden yesterday (and the shops the day before) and cooking a huge barbecue in the afternoon (my legs and feet are still sore) and had a really crap nights sleep (dreams of missing babies no less!!), so having a day of rest today.....

Yawn yawn...off back to bed for a bit I think...