June 2018 babies #2

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Elizabeth my sickness really ramped up this week and I took a bit of holiday and worked some shorter days. I've got a GP appt this afternoon to see if they can prescribe something for the nausea.

Rockin, it's horrible isn't it. I feel so sick, it makes me want to cry.

I'm going to ring in and ask if I can take some short notice leave, although I expect it'll be a no!

@CoffeeChocoateWine I hear you with you back pain. I had discomfort on my lumber right side last week but it comes and goes. I've had back troubles in the past (non-preg) so, like you, doing pilates classes has helped. My instructor says first trimester is ok for pilates- main modifications come in second- but she's told me to avoid inverted positions like roll overs and she's hinting in class "if anyone feels uncomfortable, do xyz instead" but sometimes I'm not quite sure if this is directed at me! Do you have a foam roller at home? I find leg circles are good to loosen my hips as they've been quite tight (and maybe causing my back pain). I'm very nervous about how my back will survive the coming months too!
How long have you done pilates? Hope you're feeling ok.

... also sleeping with a pillow between legs helps if you sleep on your side.

I have to go to the GP this afternoon because the midwife I saw for booking-in on Monday didn't refer me for an early scan - I've been given an appointment for 5th December when, if my dates are right, I will be exactly on 12 weeks. Thing is though that as I'd already started menopause, my periods have been all over the place and my LMP was rather light and short - which means it might have only have been a breakthrough bleed and I could be 3 weeks further along than we think. In which case, I could get to the scan and find I'm actually 15 weeks and not 12 - which would bugger up all the timing for testing for chromosomal anomalies. Plus, after 6 miscarriages I'd rather like the reassurance of an early scan! I called up the antenatal clinic and they suggest the best thing to do is to go back to my GP and get them to write a referral to the EPU. I have an appointment for 2:40pm so I'll be dashing off once I've had my cup of tea.

I have a small bump showing which makes me think that either I'm a lot further on or else maybe it's twins. Really hope not the latter!

Well, I am freaking out. I'm in the gap between where the foetus stopped growing last time and I started bleeding. I don't feel sick at all today and I'm worried it's happening again. DP has booked a scan for Monday. My mum is visiting and I don't want her around if it's bad news but she hasn't booked her trip home yet so I don't want to tell her about the scan. I am such an introvert I'm just thinking go away everyone!!! DD is in a clingy grumpy phase due to being 2 and jetlagged and it's doing my head in :( hope you all are having a better day!

@Phryne

It is so hard not to be paranoid after a previous loss - I was really worried at my scan yesterday because although I've been nauseated my symptoms have come and gone and I've had very little of the pulling feeling BUT it was all okay.

I hope your scan goes well on Monday. Your chances once you've seen a heart beating are so good.

Should I cling on to any hope? I had a scan on Tuesday due to pain and bleeding and all my symptoms disappearing over night last Thursday. I thought I was 6+4, but the scan showed a sac and nothing else. had blood test done that day and the results were good, Midwife said nothing to suggest a MC. I had repeat blood test Thurs and the results were good again - not quite doubled but had risen by 6000 in 48 hrs. So I have another scan booked for Wed am. I am trying to cling onto the faintest hope that I may have got my dates wrong, and I'm not as far along as I thought. Did my last CB digital today and it's also moved up a week. not sure if I should just prepare for the worst.... still no symptoms at all, but equally no pain or bleeding now.

I definitely think there's hope @Unicorndust, especially if the midwife says so. We're you tracking ovulation? If not it's very easy for dates to be out quite a bit, and even if you were I think the rate that the fertilised egg travels and implants can vary hugely from person to person. Glad you're getting good care but I expect it will feel like a long time until next Wednesday.
@ArkadyRose how was the gp? Hope they did give you a referral. It makes 100% sense that you go and get a scan to check dates to try and avoid missing the screening. Crazy if it is twins... odds are someone in the group will have them! But I can imagine that would be a lot to take on board, from going through menopause to suddenly pregnant, let alone with twins!!

Thank you Sylvester. I've been doing pilates for just over year and I also started because I was having non-pregnancy related back problems and the classes have helped massively. My teacher is fantastic but hasn't done any training in pregnancy pilates so I think she feels a bit out of her comfort zone having me in the class, especially as I've asked her not to say anything about my pregnancy so she can't single me out. Once the kids are back at school next week I thought I might have a look on YouTube for some pregnancy pilates videos and just do some stuff at home.

I'm also not sleeping well at the moment...keep waking up for a wee and then not going back to sleep again so I generally feel tired and stiff and a bit grumpy. My oldest DC is 9 and keeps asking me what's wrong Mummy, why are you grumpy, why are you tired? I can't wait to just be able to tell him why. I feel like he's getting a bit worried about me...I keep falling asleep on the sofa at any opportunity! I hate this stage of pregnancy! I need to find some energy from somewhere!

Thanks so much to those who offered such sweet words. Just a quick update then I think it'll be over and out from me - I had another load of bloods done and HcG had gone from 14000 to just under 20000 but as this was nowhere near doubling the consultant is almost 100% certain that this was a missed miscarriage or 'blighted ovum'. Feel utterly bereft and assuming the repeat scan next Thursday shows the same thing I will be having an ERPC next weekend. I'm hoping I'll be able to try again asap afterwards.

I have been driving myself crazy reading all these stories online about misdiagnosis but realistically it's not going to happen for me this time. I'm 100% sure on my dates and as the consultant gently pointed out, am a v slight person so there's little chance they missed anything on the internal scan. He was very sweet and understanding and said we can definitely try again and he wouldn't anticipate any issues.

Thank you again for all the support you guys gave me - best of luck to everyone and wishing you all a healthy nine months ❤

So sorry to hear that sulky, please be kind to yourself and take care.

Coffee I am having similar with my dc1. I've been laying around in bed feeling sick for a lot of the week and as it's half term it's been a bit rubbish for him! Only a few more weeks and hopefully we'll be able to tell him he's going to be a big brother 😊.

@Elpheba Apparently the risk of having twins does go up if you're over 40 - something about the ovaries going a bit trigger-happy and more likely for both ovaries to pop out an egg at the same time. I'm rather hoping not though - it's bad enough trying to get my head around the idea of having one more child, let alone two! It feels so strange to have a grandson who will be older than my youngest child as it is.

GP was quite scathing of the midwife on Monday not having referred me to the EPU herself, so she rang them up as I was sitting there - I have a scan booked for 12pm on Tuesday, when I will either be 7 weeks exactly, or else - going by the previous period - 10+3. Either way, the heartbeat should show fine which will be reassuring. Unless it's two heartbeats, in which case I shall probably be rather in shock afterwards!

@UnicornDust17, I'm sorry you're going through this worrying time. I can't really offer any advice but just good wishes that all is well at your next scan.

Really sorry to hear it, @SulkyPuddleDuck.

So sorry puddleduck the waiting is awful I hope it gets sorted quickly but make sure to give yourself time to be upset and heal xx

So sorry sulky, I know how u feel as I have my follow up scan next week and I too don’t feel hopeful (I haven’t had blood tests) I think I’ve been on all the same webpages as you......

I am so sorry SulkyPuddleDuck.

I’m sorry to hear that Sulky but fingers cross for next week tho.

Unicorn I think there was a lady here who had similar and the baby made up for all growing in a week or so, so don’t give up xx

@SulkyPuddleDuck So sorry to hear this 

@UnicornDust17 there definitely still is hope especially as your bloods are looking good. Fingers crossed for you!

Thanks @Elpheba... And everyone else for your thoughts. Really sorry @sulkypuddleduck

@arkadyrose I share your twin thoughts! 40 here. It's my first but everywhere I look I seem to see twins. Really hoping that is not going to be the case.

My early scan is on Tuesday and I’d be happy with twins! I want three children so would mean not having to go through another pregnancy! Although no family history, I’m 32 and no fertility treatment so highly unlikely!

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