October 2017 #6

[PingusMistress]

Hope this works! A shiny new thread for our soon-to-arrive shiny new babies.

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Mumma that’s so frustrating!
I definitely agree with tipperty things should be checked. I bet things will change rapidly for you.
Can I ask you ladies... Are your boobs sore?
Mine haven’t been all the way along not leaking not sore but today they are mega sore.
I was kinda worried that they weren’t.

Mine haven't been sore since first trimester flipflop, no leaking, I'm kind of worried they don't know what to do....!

I've never had sore boobs throughout pregnancy @xflipflopx... but the other day I randomly squeezed a nipple and got the shock of my life when colostrum came out 😂😂 (Literally one of the weirdest experiences of my life!)

I'm just going to pretend I didn't hear the unfavourable cervix thing and keep going until I'm 42 weeks in the hope that things change quickly.. that's all I can do!

Sorry to hear that you’ve had your hopes dashed @mummabubs ! I do think things can change quite quickly though so don’t give up hope. I actually had a very good experience with a student midwife when DD was born. The senior midwife was very busy and kept dashing off, but the student was lovely and stayed with me all the way through, and came to see me and baby several times on the ward after. She showed me how to give DD her first bath. Maybe it was more her people skills than midwifery expertise, but I remember her name when I’ve forgotten that of her senior!

My boobs are quite tender, and leaking a bit although not colostrum.

I went out to a party last night for what will probably be my last social evening in a while! I’m glad I made the effort, although I’m tired today. My ankles looked like elephant legs by the time I got home from too much standing up, thankfully they are back to normal this morning. Also everyone tells you their birth stories after a few drinks!

Gosh well done for partying @PingusMistress, I salute you! All the student midwives I've encountered have been absolutely lovely- and as I said in some cases much more friendly and containing than the qualifieds!! I haven't minded in the lead up but for actual birth I don't want to have many people in the room at all so don't want to be used as a learning experience (although have to say this is more about doctors in training for me than midwifery students!)

Well I was in bed by 11.30 so it wasn’t really wild partying

I totally agree with not having loads of people in the room. I remember at the point of giving birth to DD there were suddenly loads of randoms that appeared. I think some were the medical team in case she needed resuscitation but I’m sure others were just noseying.

Even by my pre-pregnancy standards 11:30 would be pushing it Pingu!! 😂😂

Obviously if medical intervention is necessary then by all means everyone in but failing that peeps can stay well out of the way!!

I'm putting quite specific student midwife terms on my delivery - no one I've ever taught! We send kids off to uni for midwifery every year and I'd dread one of my ex students walking in! Makes it even worse considering I got married last year and many of them wont know my new name!

Just been rereading the stats and guidelines about vbac risks ahead of my appointment tomorrow with consultant and now getting all worked up and anxious again! The consultant was so breezy and dismissive last time and my appointment lasted about 5 minutes. I just don't want to be fobbed off. I also have to take ds with me so I'm not sure about having a sweep if she offers one. Any thoughts from anyone with a toddler? He gets upset just seeing me lie down at the midwife to get my bump measured! And the other fun thing is that it's a 40+ minute walk to the hospital mostly uphill pushing a pram and it was a bit taxing at 32 weeks when I last saw her. On the bright side, maybe it'll kick start labour...

Hope everyone's doing ok. Wonder which babies will arrive this week!

Tippety my friend just had a vbac 6 years after her section.
Was a brilliant birth and everything she wanted. Only thing she couldn’t do was have induction luckily for her she went into labour naturally.
Fingers crossed your consultant is on board tomorrow.

Hope everyone has had a lovely weekend. It's my due date today and I just knew baby wouldn't be punctual!

I dragged my ass around ikea yesterday and got a new set of bedroom furniture which I've single handily built today just to keep me busy! Had some sore cramps yesterday but not many today. I have still been loosing mucousy plug since my sweep on Friday and quite a bit just tonight so I'm really hoping something will happen in the next few days. Baby has 10 days or it's a planned section - i have asked for no induction after the birth of my son hence why they have gave me 3 sweeps already!

My due date today too asilikeit - looks like it'll pass me by too x

Thanks flipflop, nice to hear a positive story. Consultant is pro vbac, and I would prefer one, but I'm worried about baby being big. Above 4kg the risk of scar rupture goes from 0.05% to 3.6% and the chance of successful vbac goes down from about 75% to less than 50%. If my growth scan was right (and I think it might be as ds was big) this baby is already over 4kg. Last time I saw consultant she was happy to let me go to 40+12 by which point baby would be about 4.5kg! Also the risk of stillbirth goes up after a previous section the further you go past 39 weeks. I don't know what to do, I just want to have an honest discussion of the risks with her but I don't think she really listened to me last time. I'll just have to see what happens today.

Day 1 of maternity leave here... I feel weird... not sure what to do with myself.

Any suggestions?? 39+1, and no sign of baby turning up anytime soon, apart from going a bit mental in there (actually could see her foot having a good old kick and dig around under my ribs last night, a bit like a scene from alien...

Hope you get to sort it out tippity, doesn't sound like they are being very helpful...

Organise yourself a treat for every day is my advice to try and stave off boredom @boxesoffrogs, especially if you're already 'all prepped' for baby coming! At 41+2 I'm starting to run out of treats that I can do other than daily bubble baths (just about still able to get out of the tub!) and eating/baking a lot! 😂😂

Just been told by my mum there's still "time to reconsider" DS' middle name, "just in case he gets picked on at school".

We live in SW London. Trust me when I tell you that an ancient regal name is far far from the Buzz's, Buddy's, and Woody's which are really prolific round here, which I'd consider more "out there" than DS' middle name.

I feel like I've been slapped in the face.

Another outstanding display of tactlessness - its approx one per baby.

Sorry just had to vent. She could at least have waited until I got home ffs.

Same here @boxesoffrogs . I’m currently catching up with sorting out my finances and admin, but I keep feeling I should be doing something more important! It is weird.

Oh dear @TheLegendOfBeans , that is really not tactful or helpful. No wonder you are fuming. People really shouldn’t comment on names, especially once baby has arrived.

Just saw this pic and thought I would share

I know I'm coming across as dramatic as it's kind of knocked me for six.

Plus DH thinks he has the D&V bug that floored me for 4 days a fortnight ago. This is great news when you are away to be discharged from hospital (at last).

Blimey.

Yep pingus exactly how I feel!

legend, ignore ignore ignore. Or tell her that actually you love the name so much you've decided to change it to his first name! 😂

some people have no bloody filter, I stupidly told my mother the name and middle name we were thinking of (middle name happens to be dp's sister's name, but one I have loved forever and would have used anyway), and I got a whole bunch of abuse about it, why weren't we honouring her side of the family (think super old fashioned names like Doris, Gladys etc - not my cup of tea), and how she would never amount to anything saddled with such a ridiculous first name etc etc etc. Mother then started addressing bump as the name, which incidentally put us right off as she said it in such a sneery and PA tone. Name was Ciara btw, hardly outlandish or out there, but needless to say we are back to square one with regard to names, no doubt anything we choose will be 'ridiculous' and a personal slight to her! Ah well, it's your/our choice at the end of the day, so they can just lump it.

Oh and while I am on my mini rant, my mother also had a go at me for having such an inconvenient due date as she wanted to go away on holiday this next week and the week after and now she 'can't' incase the baby comes. I have cheerfully told her she is welcome to bugger off to the North Pole, should she so desire, it will be no skin off my nose. Families eh?

On that note, anyone got any nice but not too boring girls names? Really need inspiration as everything I like seems to be just too 'popular'...

Oh and another rant: just had a letter from my GP, apparently I am now out of the catchement area for the surgery I have used for 33 years, and now live less than three mins drive away, as opposed to 15 mins. I have one week to find another surgery but I can't bloody well register with a new one as I haven't had any utility bills etc sent yet to prove I live here...!!!! Grrrrrrrrr, not what you need at practically 9 months pregnant. So actually, maybe I would rather be at work than trying to sort all this boring admin out!

Sorry that was long and ranty. Thought this was supposed to be relaxing?!

Don't think you're being dramatic, @TheLegendOfBeans... I honestly don't understand why people comment on names! We had this with one of ours... had narrowed it down to three then made the mistake of telling MIL the short list and got a "oh you definitely can't do that last one, that's not pretty at all" If you've chosen a name, or a couple of names, it's obviously because you and dp love it... So why people comment negatively is absolutely beyond me!

@pingusmistress that photo is me right now! 39+6... No sign of anything exciting going on!

There's nothing relaxing about pregnancy or children in general boxes!

I don't get people who comment on names either. Just nod and smile if you don't like it! I haven't told my parents the name though. I'll probably do it by text when I tell them baby is here then I won't have to worry about seeing their faces if they don't like it.

Consultant meeting wasn't great. She checked and cervix is completely high and closed so she couldn't even attempt a sweep. She then immediately started talking about inducing me with a pessary then breaking waters once cervix was soft. But as I can't have the drip I figured that only gives me 24hrs to go into labour myself before they'd have to do a section anyway. Is that right? Because of the infection risk once waters are broken? And even if I did go into labour, just that method of induction raises risk of scar rupture which together with increased risk due to baby's size made it not seem like a great option. But then the only other option is another section which I really don't want as the last one was horrible and ds ended up in scbu for a week. Plus I've not idea how I'd look after ds when I wouldn't be allowed to lift him. But she's going to book me a provisional date which would be this Thursday at the earliest or on Monday at the latest. So I have until then to go into labour by myself. And absolutely nothing is happening at all!

Feel crap about it all. I just wanted something straightforward to happen this time round

Ah, I'm sorry @TippetyTapWriter... that must be so stressful. Really hope things start moving for you.

Thanks folks, I've had like 10hrs of sleep since Thursday 3am and the aftershock of DS having a shit APGAR score at birth plus my milk making its painful and horrid appearance at last means IABVU about everything today...

...except thinking that as Tippety has said folk just need to button it if they think a name is naff/flouncey/not biting enough.

ARGH! Storm Ophelia got nowt on me x

Due date today and I’m still waiting. 😪

Sorry to hear you didn’t get the news you wanted at the consultant appointment @TippetyTapWriter . That does leave you with a difficult decision if you don’t go into labour naturally. Time to order a hot curry and some pineapple and get your DP on bedroom duty!

@TheLegendOfBeans you are allowed to BVU indeed given what you have gone through!

We still don’t even have a name for baby, although part of the reason for that is due to MIL providing a long list of names that she doesn’t like...