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twelveyeargap · 02/04/2007 07:27

Hello! I'm back!

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Mrsjaffabiffa · 02/04/2007 07:40

Yey, TYG, Have you finished training? Are they going to cope without you?

AbbyLou · 02/04/2007 07:59

Morning everyone. Well the first day of my maternity leave has started well. The sun is shining, the washing's out and Charlie and I are fed and watered - it can only go down here from now! I've promised to take him to the library today to chnage his horribly overdue books - it's a good job they don't charge for children's books! The we'll probably make some Easter cards for the Grandparents. I need to find somewhere in town that might sell Easter bits and bobs to stick on cards, I'm not very artistic! Hope to catch up with everyone later.

twelveyeargap · 02/04/2007 09:01

Gosh (I never say "Gosh" in RL, btw. I have a dirty Irish mouth), I've missed you ladies. I felt VERY cut off this last week. I worked SO hard and wouldn't you know there was one thing I forgot to show the new girl and was racing through it at 5pm on Friday. Oh well. I've just emailed her instructions about it. I mean, I've lived that job for over three years, so it's not really surprising I can't just "walk away" from it and not look back.

LG&T - Hope all is well in Plymouth.
Pebble - Congratulations on your "probably pink". Loads of time for "her" to turn yet.

April -don't know if you're now happy with your stork pressie. I'm off to Brent Cross today to get fabric for the baby's room, for blinds etc. DH going berserk that I haven't told him what paint to get yet. (He's a changed man. He got up early one WORK morning last week to "finish painting the decking". I think my real husband has been abducted by aliens.) I digress; I'm going to pick out my secret present whilst I'm there. I need to check back the recent-ish threads, but I think my person only recently found out the flavour so might be pleased with some suitable clothes.

Speaking of shopping... Blimey. This is by NO means a boasty thing, BUT I have to tell you guys this becuase I was SO overwhelmed and pleased. After my YEARS of hard work and my killing myself this last month at work (admittedly after quite a lull at the start of the year), I got feckin' BRILLIANT presents on Friday. My friend organised the Timi and Leslie change bag I was coveting and the lovely cashmere blanket. In the big card, signed with really lovely personal messages from everyone I've ever got on well with or helped a lot, there was another envelope with... £500! In cash! In manner of Victor Meldrew "I don't BELIEVE it." I'm just so chuffed and my friend said after work, "They all love you, TYG. They all said such nice things and they were throwing money at me." Awhhh.. I was sobbing when they came over. Loads of people came over to my desk and my boss gave me the biggest bunch of flowers I've ever seen (later found out they were from him personally) and he told me how much I'd be missed, etc, etc." I was BAWLING. Honestely, if there was anything that might make me feel like going back to work, it was that I didn't realise how appreciated I was.

Anyway, took my £500 and went to Mothercare (avec DH, who enjoyed it really, despite complaining on the way) and bought: vests, sleepsuits, crib sheets and blankets, muslin squares and sterilser. Was about to pick up an Avent breastpump when DH says, "No, have a look at the Medela website first. They probably do the best ones." Cue curious look from yours truly. Turns out Medela make suction/ vacuum thingys for healing wounds and when doing research into the company (for work) discovered they do super-duper-supposed-to-be-most-like-baby-sucking breast pumps. Have ordered one of those online, storage bags and bottles, plus all their specialist bottles and teats, which I've been reading on here are really good for giving breast fed babies occasionaly bottles. Hmm, also ordered lots of lovely organic baby bath products, bum creams, talc-free powder -all that stuff. Umm, went on Blooming Marvellous website and ordered changing table, wicker baskets, cute little mini-clothes rail, shelves and a couple of random bits. That's pretty much me now. Phew! Have only a couple of boring things to buy now, like breast pads. Yawn.

OK, so back to reading through last week's thread and catching up.

Scoot- feckin' wagon in that service. Should be sacked for failing her clients. Oh and the Saturday food shopping. Agree with your DH there, although the shelves aren't always refilled from the daytime hoards emptying them. Have also been to IKEA at around 9pm on a Friday. Surprising civilised.

Befnalbunny - how is the BP?

SOH - I love fairs. We had a carnival come to our town twice year, when I was little. The excitement! How it changed over the years. I remember going on "swing boats" and "chairoplanes" as little 'un and by the time I left it was all "magic carpets" and other vomit inducing things. Mind you, my absolute favourite thing is a Waltzer. I love em.

OOOOOHHHHHH YYYAAAAAYYYYYYY I just read about the test results. THAT'S FANTASTIC. I'm so happy for you both.

The Saturday shopping thing... It's something to do with Saturdays. I notice people drive REALLY badly on Saturdays. I think it's something to do with a combination of factors. People who normally commute on public transport get back in their cars, people who are normally at work are impatient to get things done for the weekend and they seem to want to get it all out of the way on Saturday, instead of on Sunday. Honestly, I drive around quite happily all week, except on Saturdays where I seem to get at least three times every journey. Beep -HOW DARE you let someone out in front of you. Beep - how dare you make use of your right of way on a roundabout... and so on.

£1000 in Mothercare sounds ridiculous and IMO, a bit boring. Don't they want to shop around and have fun if they have all that money to spend?

MKG - Gutted for you about your H, but if it's any consolation, I went through a really, really tough year with my DH just after we got married and we came through the other side of it, despite us both thinking it wouldn't last. Sometimes you hit a wall and once you find a way over the wall, things are ok on the other side. You're being very wise in neither taking all the blame or giving it all to him. It never does any good. THat's not to say that he's not being a git, I'm sure he is, but sometimes we need to find another way to fix the problem, than go head on with it.

Welcome cameroonmama! I quite like Jasper, but I know what you mean about the West London thing. I was saying to MKG a while ago that I think actual "baby showers" only seem to happen here with rich mums in West London. My cousin (who lives in Notting Hill) was over the other week and said, "ooooh, would you like me to arrange your baby shower." Had to laugh. REally lovely of her, but (a) I've only lived here for a few years and don't really have hoards of lady-friends to invite to these things and (b) They'd all snort with laughter if my lovely (rich!) cousin sent them a list of "must haves" from Harvey Nicks. HOWEVER, a name is a name and will only sound West London if you live there and there are loads of Tarquins and Marmadukes running about with him.

Cinammontam - very exciting about hte veggies. DH in his weird unlike-him domesticity has seedlings growing ALL OVER the house, inc salad leaves, tomatoes (from seed), thyme, (we already have rosemary in the garden), mint (for mohitos!), red peppers. He planted carrot seeds in a patch in the garden yesterday along with seed onions. The peas are to go in soon and we're waiting for the seed potatoes to shoot. He's attemped to "squirrel-proof" the outside stuff so fingers crossed. Really hope he gets a decent crop. He's been so sweet about checking his seedlings and watering them and keeping them warm. He must be nesting!

Right, if I haven't mentioned you, then "HELLO!" and it's nothing personal. It's taken me AGES to write this already. I started before 8am!

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twelveyeargap · 02/04/2007 09:05

Oh yay for Abbylou on maternity leave too!

Hey MrsJB, yes, pretty much finished training. The thing is, it took me three years to learn as much about the workings of the company I know. You can't possible teach it all in a week, or even a month. Typed up loads of notes and gave the new girl my mobile for if she's really, really stuck. It's not so mcuh to help her (though that's fine), it's more that I really like my team so I'd like it to be smooth for them. None of it is rocket-science, but it's just knowing who to call or email about things and what how to get things done in a company that employees 500 people just on your trading floor, 5000 people in the bulding and who knows how many world-wide. God love her!

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Pebblemum · 02/04/2007 09:19

Morning all

Cant believe its April already, where has this year gone. Still every day that flies by is another day closer to us holding our little bundles

Well i had a good result on Saturday, i won £100 on the Sun's Easter Bingo Game, I know its not exactly a lot of money but for someone who never wins anything it will do me I was going to buy more baby things but now i think i will put it towards decorating our hall. Ive been nagging dh to do it for ages and the other day i bought some paint hoping he would make a start and now i can afford the laminate flooring i want so he has no excuse not to do it. Its only a small hall anyway so he could finish it in a day!!

My back has been killing me all weekend
and the LO has been trying to burst through my ribs, the joys of late pregnancy. I was talking to MIL yesterday and all i need to buy for this LO is a moses basket (hadnt planned on using one as have a carrycot but have changed my mind ) and a bouncer/swing. Anything else such as cot beddign can wait until im ready to put her in the cot.

Hopefully i can finish my hospital bag this week, just need to get the cases out of storage. They are full of ds2's baby things that i kept so i will have fun going through them and seeing what i can use this time around.

7weeks and counting for me!!!!

aprilmeadow · 02/04/2007 09:27

Hi TYG, no am not happy with stork present. Am going to be dragging ds round the shops today to exchange it. I also know exactly what you mean about not being able to walk away from your job. I was doing mine for almost 7years and there are somehtings that you know you know but that you dont need on a daily basis so there are bound to be things that are forgotten. I was supposed to have a 4 week hand over but it ended up as 1 week. I KNOW that there are a thousand things that i havent mentioned to my replacement, but i figured that no one handed over the job to me as the person i replaced left 3 months before i started!

SOH forgot to say CONGRATS to your dh. I am so relieved for you both.

MrsJB, hope you are feeling less like poo today. HAVe some chocy, it has healing powers!

So far this morning i have ploughed through some washing and have also been outside and racked the lawn, put all the leaves in a garden waste bag and popped some grass seed down. MIL has just arrived to do the cleaning. Think i will hit the supermarket, the shops and then make something yummy this afternoon.

Catch you all later

JellyBellyBump · 02/04/2007 09:34

Morning all.
I know it's been forever since my last post, but my boss didn't agree with all my time spend on MN during work hours. I tried to keep up with all the posts without posting but she seems to have a sixth sense. She's off this week so I can finally get back up to speed.

I've only got 6 days left at work !! I can't wait. Yippee

twelveyeargap · 02/04/2007 09:44

My first day as a SAHM... Have ordered "How to be a Domestic Goddess" and "Nigella Bites".

April, I bet your pressie is lovely and there's no need to change it at all. I for one, melt at "all things baby", so I suspect it's easier to choose than you think.

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Bensonbluebird · 02/04/2007 09:54

Morning all,

It's easter vacation for DP so have just sent him and DS off to go swimming so I could catch up on some work. Promise I will do some, but just had to prioritise mumsnet.

Are you ok Mrs JB? you don't sound so good.

TYG - what lovely colleagues you have (at least what lovely colleagues you have made them into). I was just wondering when you said that you had been to Mothercare with your £500 if it had been you that SOH saw. The only reasonable explaination I can think of is that they must live on St Helena or somewhere equally remote and know that they won't be able to buy anything later. Or they may have loads of money and will find that half the stuff they have bought is useless. Still, why spend it in Mothercare?

Jelly - have just been sniggering at the thought of you trying to hide your mumsnetting from your boss. Kind of reminds me of passing notes at school. A couple of friends and I used have a book that we passed around in French and Maths. One of them still has it. I bet it would be the height of embarrasment to read again now!

ShowOfHands · 02/04/2007 09:55

Good morning everybody.

Can I just say TYG it's fab to have you back! You have been sorely missed. And I am at £500, you lucky old thing. I think I'm on track for a wilted bunch of daffs, a cheapie card and a pat on the back. They know I'm coming back so there's no need to lure me either, maybe I should start making 'maybe I'll give up work' noises and see if I can upgrade to a wilted bunch of tulips. 8 working days to go...

I'm all alone today. The library closed for Easter and every other member of staff is off it would seem and in Barcelona/New York/Bognor. Just me, a pile of books and invoices and free reign to play on Mumsnet. Only doing a three day week though and then I'm off until the new semester (of which I'm working 5 days) and heading off to the capital to behave like a tourist for a while.

I actually want to pick the brains of all the second/third/seventeenth (in the case of LG&T) timers about a couple of things. Dull, but necessary. Firstly, dummies. I don't like them really and haven't bought any. However, I am aware of how much comfort babies gain from sucking and I don't want to fall into the trap of having Mathilda permanently attached to me (I'm already dreading the sore nipples- btw that kamillosan stuff smells like dead things, is that normal?). Should I swallow my pride and get some? I can't begin to explain why I don't like them. It's probably just toddlers with them that I can't stand and I'm projecting it onto babies. Anyway, dummies are they completely necessary? I know I can go out after the birth but bear in mind we don't have a car and it's a very busy, packed, long bus drive to a shop.

Secondly, and I do apologise for the tmi nature of this question, bleeding- how much and how long? I do have a couple of packs of those maternity pad things and they're the most hideous things I have ever seen. Are they necessary or can you use super-absorbent, night-time, slightly less like nappy things? Sorry to ask but I have really light periods, not sure what to expect.

Bleurgh, sorry about boring nature of questions. Change subject... are any of you going on holiday this summer with the newborns? Am I the only idiot taking an 8wk old camping?

ShowOfHands · 02/04/2007 10:04

Just caught up on end of last thread. MrsJB, are you okay? I know what you mean about the feeling full bit. I can't possibly stretch anymore. Last night I ended up stranded on my back with the baby wedged under my ribs and actually thought she might break my ribcage with her efforts (okay I exaggerate but it was incredibly painful). I couldn't sit up for the bloomin feet and bum hooked up there. And since she started to engage I swear I can feel my pelvis stretching. And last whinge I promise but her head is resting permanently on my bladder and it doesn't matter how much I drink, I can only wee a thimbleful at a time. What the heck has happened to me?

JellyBellyBump · 02/04/2007 10:07

SOH, I'm planning to go camping. I love camping. Might have to have a practice night in the garden before we actually set off.

ShowOfHands · 02/04/2007 10:10

Oh thank goodness somebody else is planning on it too! I love camping and in theory it should be easier with a newborn than a toddler- tend to stay where you put them I guess.

Might need a bigger tent, usually it's just me and DH!

dejags · 02/04/2007 10:15

Morning all.

TYG - WOW!!! 500 quid. That's fabulous. You lucky thing.

I am so envious of those of you who have started their maternity leave. I have three weeks to go .

We had a very eventful week last week - we lost our cat (see the other thread) and I got a bit of a scare when I realised on Wednesday morning that I hadn't felt the baby move for over 24 hours. I went straight in for monitoring and although the CTG trace was fine, there was a little bit of concern that she was still so quiet. Usually they kick like crazy as soon as the monitor comes near, but she refused to move even when the midwife tried to "irritate" her.

Luckily by Thursday the movements were a bit better and have improved over the weekend, so hopefully nothing to worry about. Still waiting for her to turn - so we shall see.

Hope you are all well.
dejags
x

twelveyeargap · 02/04/2007 10:16

SOH - I bought the thin Always, with wings, night time pads instead of actual maternity pads. The maternity ones are like nappies. I found the Always thin ones for very heavy flow just fine the last time round. I don't think my bleeding lasted longer than a week. I do know I did rudies with DD1's dad after about 10 days so it must have been gone by then!

Dummies: My hypnobirthing teacher swears by this Baby Bliss thing she saw on Richard and Judy. Said it's always worked with any baby she's tried it on Dr Harvey Karp, Baby Bliss

Apparently, to settle a baby under 3 months, who has been fed, changed, burped etc, you should try the Five S's.
Swaddle
Side - lie baby on it's side in your arms on on your lap
Shiver - Make "shivering" movements or "jiggle" the baby a bit. Apparently they miss the movement they constantly feel in the womb.
Shush - not a quiet shush, but quite a strong shushing sound near the baby. It's said they miss the sounds of the womb and the rushing of blood in there sounds quite like a loud shush.
Sucking - if all the above combined don't work, then opt for the dummy .

She said this doctor settled 28 babies one after the other on a maternity ward and it's worked with her sister's/ freind's babies when she tried it.

Anyway, dummies aren't necessarily the work of the devil - I think they probably have their place as a last resort in this case.

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Bensonbluebird · 02/04/2007 10:16

OOh dummies. You could start a fight there. I really don't like them, but I have to admit I was so tempted to give DS one - but he wasn't interested so that solved that one for me. I don't think they are necessary, but they might make your life easier until it's time to take it away.

Lochia - not looking forward to that again. I only needed the massive pads for the first few days (a couple of packs was plenty) and then started using normal sanitary towels. I didn't bleed heavily but it went on for nearly six weeks!

Forgot to say, we went to Ikea to buy DS a bed yesterday, got home and set it up. DS was very excited, bouncing up and down saying 'big boy bed' then when it came to bed time he gathered up his cuddly toys and took them to the cot saying 'Nate sleep in baby bed'. Ah well. Might take a few days to get used to the idea. Any tips anyone?

dejags · 02/04/2007 10:18

My older two have both had dummies. They were both very sucky and they made everybody happier.

We have not had any problems whatsoever giving them up either.

JellyBellyBump · 02/04/2007 10:18

DH and I bought a brand new tent last year, thinking it'll be ages before we'd need a bigger 'family' tent. Guess what happened on our last August bank holiday weekend camping trip

SKYTVADDICT · 02/04/2007 10:25

Morning all

Struggling to keep up this morning! Welcome back TYG and congrats to you and Abbylou - joining me on mat leave. Its great. TYG, I know what you mean about it being hard to remember everything to hand over - I am sure I haven't even come close. Also lucky you with the pressie and £500, I got two cards - although I have "left" lots of times before so wasn't really expecting anything else.

Welcome Cameroonmama.

I need to get a case/bag from loft and some nursing bras but that is all now. SOH I have bought the Always night time with wings and one pack of larger maternity pads. Also both my older two had dummies until they were two (and DD2 was breats fed) so I have bought two this time but will only use in an emergency - the other two gave them to santa in return for a present which wasn't too difficult.

Deejags - hope you get lots of movements soon - they tell us here to drink lots of ice cold water to get them going - have you tried that?

DDs don't break for Easter until Thursday so need to make the most of the next four days.

Have a load of washing on the line, including my M&P bouncy chair that I got from Nearly New Sale. Today is supposed to be the best weather wise then its going down hill

ShowOfHands · 02/04/2007 10:27

Jelly... you saw a squirrel?

Thanks for the link TYG- I don't think dummies are the work of the devil by any means just want to try without them. Not opposed to them if all else fails but wanted to know if anybody else had tried without and succeeded.

And 10 days? My goodness that is absolutely incredible. Well done.

SKYTVADDICT · 02/04/2007 10:27

SOH - forgot the holiday question.

We were hoping to get a caravan on the south coast or wales - our main worry is fitting everthing in the car - we only just managed before the baby! Also we tried the DDs in the back of the car with the car seat yesterday and as DD2 is still on a booster seat, DD1 had to sit in the middle and it was a bit squashed. I think I need to talk DP into going somewhere nearer like Great Yarmouth for our first family of "5" holiday or else it could get quite nasty in the back!

ShowOfHands · 02/04/2007 10:29

Dejags- I still keep thinking about your poor cat. This lo was very very quiet for a couple of days last week and her movements are decreasing/changing as she engages more. She no longer responds to prodding either- stubborn I think.

ShowOfHands · 02/04/2007 10:32

Great Yarmouth isn't that far from me. It's so kitsch too. It's a proper stick of rock, kiss me quick type holiday place. We went to Wild Duck Holiday Park in Belton, near GY when I was little and loved it.

dejags · 02/04/2007 10:34

Thanks SOH.

DH made a little cross for her grave on the weekend. I have kept to my word that I won't cry in front of DS anymore, as he gets so upset, but it still hurts terribly inside. I miss her dreadfully .

largeginandtonic · 02/04/2007 10:38

Good morning

Another week, ohmigod. It's all going too fast, i nearly fell off my birthing ball when i read we all only have this month left baby free and some of us may not even make it that far

TYG hooray....your free! Your pressies and wad of cash sound lovely. I bet (a bit like me) when you had dd you had naff all money and could only buy essentials and this time to be able to buy lovely new stuff, without having a coronary, or asking someone else, feels amazing.

While prg with this one i feel like im allowed to get excited about it all, exp was a tosspot who didnt get the excitment of new baby, new things. DH is just as excited as i am and it makes such a difference.

SOh i do not have 27 children, that's YOU! I just look after them all for you

DH gone in to town with dd to buy her shoes, he is such a girl. Just as well really as i am soooo not very good at stuff like that. I have the boys, they are charging round like crazy things. Hugs broke in to the bathroom this morning and found the flash spary, very bad. He managed to spray it in his eyes! Cue panic stations and much rinsing of eyes while holding squirming child. Dh said after wards "are you ok, any Braxton Hicks\contractions?" Im still a bomb waiting to go off.

Am having hard time from my exp again, he is such a selfish PITA. I wish i could win the lottery and tell him to ram it The poor children growing up with that as father figure

I cant even bake to feel better.....TYG, Nigella's 'how to eat' and 'feast' are also fab. Oh how i miss the oven