May 2018 babies

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We're pretty early but thought I'd start a thread to see if anyone else is here already.

I'm 4+1, apparently due around 2 May. Would be great to have some company :). Already obsessing over every little thing. The next 8 weeks are going to drag!

Mamabear I read that article too, however I believe that is the percentages for women with history of recurrent miscarriages.

Nausea started early for me (well what I thought was nausea) it's now ramping up and I don't know why I was complaining in the beginning.

I'm going to have to tell a few people this week but don't want to. For my job I need to say as early as possible and if my colleagues know DH and I will need to tell our siblings in case they indirectly find out. I would rather do a Cheryl though.

So after my boss dumping a huge chunk of work and additional responsibility on me today that will continue indefinitely, well I'm not going to do them any favours by telling them any earlier than I have to!

Hi everyone. Can I join please?
I'm 5+4 today and this is my first pregnancy. I don't have any morning sickness which is worrying me a little - anybody else not having it yet?
I do have sore boobs and bloated stomach and feeling more tired than usual but that's it for symptoms!
I'm hoping it's just the fact that it's my first pregnancy making me question everything, I want to enjoy it!

I don't have any morning sickness yet either... I know what you mean about worrying, I spent hours on the internet googling the links between lack of nausea and risk of miscarriage and the numbers are not comforting. (waiting for hours at a&e with the DH will make you google everything )I found a bit of info though that it truly mattered only if there was no nausea between weeks 8 and 10 (this is meant to be the biggest hormone spike). I find that reassuring and wait eagerly for that time - also seeing midwife on Wednesday so will ask her about it.

That's good to hear mama bear!

I'm a bit obsessed with taking pregnancy tests so I can see the line getting stronger. So that's reassuring me for now! But it's turning into an expensive habit so I need to stop soon.

Hi ladies! I got my BFP when I missed my period at the weekend, was a bit of a surprise as first month TTC. Doesn't really feel real. Registered with midwife today and got first appointment in a month, feels so long away. So far no symptoms other than major gas, some cramps and really sore boobs, a bit paranoid that things won't work out as since coming off the pill my periods have been really light with spotting in the run up to them.

Thank you so much @MammaBear18 that is exactly what I was looking for!! Really appreciate it. I think we've decided to try and go for a scan when I'm almost 8 weeks which I'm hoping will fly until then. Only 2 weeks!

Welcome @Gyoza and @MrsRonBurgundy! Come and join the obsessive crew ( talking about mostly myself here with obsessive knicker watching and symptom spotting!) I had more nausea with DS and maybe one or two actual being sick per day but mostly when i ate too much it after brushing my teeth and it's already kicking in again now I think. I was also sick every day with my miscarriage though so I'm not taking it as a sign either way. The sore boobs didn't happen with the miscarriage though so hoping that's a good sign for me this time.

Hi everybody! I'm 4+4 and due may 18th from what I've worked out!
Got my BFP on Thursday and have been POAS pretty much every day since haha (luckily all bfp).
Just don't believe it's real so keep having to check.

MegsMog I have a two year old daughter too, I don't know how I'm going to cope!

As for being worried about lack of morning sickness, loads of women just don't suffer from it. I remember reading that whilst sickness is a generally good sign, not having sickness isn't a bad sign, if that makes sense.

Has anybody given much thought to the birth yet? I've not really (darent think so far ahead) but am vaguely toying with the idea of a home birth - last time I was induced which went well, but I hate hate hate the postnatal ward!

captainscat - I had an emcs at 35 weeks due to preeclampsia and spent 6 days on the postnatal ward, so will be pushing for as natural birth as possible. I don't fancy a homebirth as the traffic can be quite bad between here and the hospital, but I can see the appeal

Captains if this works out I will definitely want a home birth, I was hoping for one last time but it wasn't to be. IMO they are definitely the luxury option! I've self referred to the home birth / community midwife team, I was under their care last time and they were amazing, nice relaxed visits at home!

(I'm a trained Hypnobirthing teacher / doula so I don't feel I need to do much more research as I am a bit of a birth geek!)

I had an emcs with my son and would very much like to avoid a repeat of that!

Not feeling very pregnant - just quite tired and moody (neither of which is unusual for me!) but fingers crossed all is still well. I'd forgotten how nerve-wracking it is!

I'm also toying with the idea of home birth, mostly because taxi journey to hospital was the worst part of the whole experience. However, I had to have forceps because my son's head was tilted (they corrected it and he finally came out after nearly 8 hours of pushing). I don't know if this was a total fluke or something that could happen again (one of my hips is higher than another). I also hated the postnatal ward but I'd just self discharge this time (they kept me for 6 days without any benefit of staying there).

I'm so excited that we have a midwife and a doula in this group!

Also, I fell out with one of the community midwives last time.. she was horrible and refused to sign me off for the birth unit because my bump was measuring big (my son was 3.8kg). I complained to her supervisor and got a different midwife for the last few weeks (they were happy to sign me off as low risk). I think she had a grudge against me because she refused to visit me at home after my son was born. So her supervisor came instead (though she wasn't on a route to do that). Imagine if I'm having a home birth and the grumpy one shows up?! (Shudder)

To be honest, all of the other ones were lovely. This one was both grumpy and very unprofessional in her manner.

6 days on a postnatal ward sounds miserable!

It was! And they were renovating it so we were all crammed into a tiny space with lots of noise and no windows (and this was during a heat wave!). It was terrible. I'd just pack up and go now, popping back for a check up when required. But as a first time mum you are very vulnerable and just do as told..

I'm thinking about birth already too. Last time was just a traumatising fiasco where I was treated badly, given unnecessary medical intervention that made everything worse and resulted in a distressed baby, a crash cart, a room full of people, a huge episiotomy and forceps. Shortly followed by PND and very unsupportive community midwives.
I had a real break down to DH about it last night, I'm terrified of going through that trauma again.
I am working on a plan to make it much better this time though, I'm having two birthing partners so there will always been someone supervising me and advocating for me when I'm in too much pain to argue and I'm going to try to avoid the hospital - there's a midwife led birthing unit really near my house. I'm going to try for there.

I has a couple of friends who were traumatised by the birth of their first child and they both used doulas second around and both felt healed as a result. I think it's not so much about getting your 'dream birth' and all about feeling respected and in control ❤️

Also do you know that you can have a debrief of your previous labour? It can be therapeutic.

I didn't know you could have a debrief back then (7 years ago) but I think its a bit too late for any of that now. I just want to focus on having a good experience this time.

You're 100% right, it is about feeling respected and in control and I really wasn't treated with respect.