March 2018 (Part 2)

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New thread as the old one is maxed out.

Link to old thread - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2958194-march-2018?

@LaSurprise, I'm keeping everything crossed for you that it all turns out ok. It is so difficult waiting and not knowing. I've been in your position and I found it horrible not knowing what was going to happen. You are right that there is nothing you can do to change things, so just do whatever gets you through the next few days and be gentle on yourself. In my case it didn't turn out well, once I had the scan and found out that I had miscarried I had a huge feeling of grief but also of huge relief that the 'not knowing' was over. Just wanted to let you know that I have an understanding of how you're feeling at the moment

@Lasurprise I hope it all turns out okay for you, sending you a hug.

@flatwhite Me! I don't really feel like eating anything - I'm never normally a fussy eater (quite the opposite..) but all the food looks horrible lol, especially anything with a sauce. DP made me chicken and chips and salad.. literally ate just the chicken. Everything is gross.

Does anyone else feel particularly crap in the evening? I seem to be ok until I reach about 4pm and then get really tired,weak and sometimes nauseous. Not enjoying it very much with 3 girls to run around after already lol.

Also, please don't think that you're 'bringing the thread down' - this thread is for us all to share our journey through pregnancy (yes, that may well be the wankiest phrase I have ever uttered, no I can't think of a normal-person way of re-phrasing it), including all aspects of our experience. We confront more than enough 'pretend everything about pregnancy is amazing and wonderful' crap elsewhere; here, we can admit to any and all feelings of fear, anxiety, pain, discomfort, etc, as well as ask for support during difficult times.

Gives @GiveMeTheTeaAndNobodyGetsHurt a round of applause, wanky phrase an' all

That's exactly what I was trying to say, you said it perfectly.

You're all pretty super! Thanks for the love and well wishes

@Countdowntofour me too! I think I have evening sickness. I feel fine till 5ish and then start getting tired and nauseous and grumpy. I feel for you with 3 little ones already. This is my first so apart from chasing the dog around I can relax a bit.

Givemethetea is spot on.

LaSurprise, dominoes sounds like a good idea. Have what makes you feel better. You never know though so I'm going to continue keeping fingers crossed for you . I hope Tuesday comes quickly so you get some answers.

@lasurprise, what givemethetea said is perfect! We are here for you to rant/whine/cry/laugh/whatever-the-f*-you-feel-like-doing-at-any-given-second
Limbo must be absolutely hell!
& for you (or dominoes pizza!) x

@hometownunicorn Well... atleast we're not alone now lol. I;m in bed as soon as my girls are, binge watching One Born Every Minute on catchup haha.

Thinking of you lasurprise.
Would a private scanner see you tomorrow? Not sure if that's possible/available. Just wondered whether it would avoid more limbo time.
I believe in being hopeful (not matter how hopeless I feel), so I've got everything crossed for you. My mum bled every 4 weeks for 9 months with me. So hope is definitely there until you know otherwise.
Plus everything tea said. Only slightly wanky wording tea, you nailed it
We're here for whatever you need us for!

I'm so sorry lasurprise I'm crossing my fingers tightly for you. X

I feel absolutely dreadful all of a sudden today. Really shattered and nauseous. Luckily it's Sunday so DH has been able to take charge of the toddlers. Monday is when shit is going to get real.

lasurprise I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you for Tuesday!

I have my 1st (of2) appointment at EPU Tomor for a scan to see what's going on, I'm kinda bricking it!

Good luck tea sorry if you've already explained this but what's the reason for the two early appointments (i can't keep up with the thread sorry ) hope it all goes okay! Will be sending positive vibes your way

Sorry that you're also in limbo @LaSurprise, it is quite shit.

I've just spoken to my DM on the phone to tell her about the pregnancy and also then about the chance it's not viable. Felt sad as I'd got a whole pregnancy announcement thing planned for a couple of weeks time when she was here face to face but I just needed to speak to my Mum tonight yes, even at 34, sometimes only Mum can make things okay

I feel better for having spoken to her. I was going to go into the office this week (almost four hour daily return commute) and she has convinced me to try to work from home and take it easy until my re-scan on Thursday.

My moods (I have bipolar) are being impacted by the combo of the scan news and preggo hormones so probably for the best!

Hope it goes ok tomorrow Tea.

I would give your EPU a call tomorrow LaS and see if they have any cancellations and can fit you in. It's worth trying. Thinking of you and Stumbly. The whole not knowing is horrible.

I still feel very worried about my lack of symptoms. I typically don't have symptoms when pregnant, so I should have learned from this but with both DD1 and DD2 I had horrible prenatal depression caused by so much anxiety and I think it is the extra hormones (I'm not normally depressed and my anxiety is usually sporadic and controllable these days) so part of me hopes the more worried I am is actually a good sign because it means my hormone levels are high (if that makes sense).

Hope everyone has had a good weekend.

Did you say you were going for a scan before 12 weeks Fuzzy?

I think last time you posted about it you weren't sure whether you would or not...

I don't think so Stumbly - I hate early scans and have yet to be told I haven't miscarried at one so psychologically I feel a lot better about going for a dating one in the antenatal clinic. But then again, maybe I should just bite the bullet and go for one at eight weeks. I know my dates and whilst I may have ovulated a day or so late, I wouldn't be out by much more than that so would get an answer at that stage.

Good luck tomorrow Tea, I have my early scan at hospital tomorrow too. Mines not till the afternoon so Im sure I'll be nervous all day! How many weeks will you be? I'll be 6+6 weeks.

Good luck for tomorrow northern hope it all goes okay :)

I can empathise Fuzzy...if things don't work out this time I'm not sure how I'll feel about early scans in the future.

If they go positively I'm not sure it would stop me worrying. Then again I would be worried about getting to 12 weeks and then getting news I could have had and dealt with earlier. There's no obvious answer unfortunately.

I'm already feeling a bit envious of close friends who have always conceived straight away and had no complications or worries!

Has anyone else had blue lips? I'm a bit worried that I overdid it cycling today. Been feeling very cold and my lips are blue now. I'm trying to Google but it has so many options for what's wrong I'm not sure.

Good luck tomorrow Northern.

I'm always envious of those who are able to announce their pregnancy to everyone straightaway and it all go smoothly too, stumbly. I think a miscarriage or threat of one completely removes all that naive enjoyment.

No Excited and never heard of it as a sign. Do you have a midwife yet that you can call for advice?

I too cringed when a relative announced their 8 week pregnancy at their wedding. Fortunately it turned out ok, but I can't imagine having hundreds of people messaging you when you were going theough a miscarriage. I told a few people for support during mine, (i'm not saying you should keep quiet til 12 weeks) but certainly not loads.

I met one, but I'll be assigned a different one from next visit @Fuzzy. (They wanted me to book in at a different place so I had bloods done early.) I have an emergency number I could call tomorrow.
My lips are back to normal now. Online it's either iron deficiency or temporary oxygen issue (overdoing it plus we'd just eaten, so I was digesting) or I have lung disease / heart disease. If it was the latter, I don't think it'd just get better. Think I'll just sleep and call the midwife emergency number in the morning.