March 2018

[MegsMog]

I have just got a (faint) BFP which, going by ovulation, would give me an EDD of March 2nd.

I recently had two early MC so I'm definitely not getting excited yet - but equally trying to stay positive and believe this one might just stick, hence starting this thread!

This would be my second DC, I have a DD who is 26 months.

Anyone else?!

BlueeSpottyTiger I'm considering a private scan at about 8 weeks. I think I'm suffering from a disproportionate level of anxiety about something going wrong and I suspect once I've seen a heartbeat I'll settle down. I'm generally very level-headed and I do a job with a significant amount of responsibility in a very male dominated environment so turning into a flaky neurotic mess over every cramp/weird sensation just isn't going to work. I really want to just relax and enjoy being pregnant and if paying for a private scan helps me do that, then it's definitely worth it.

Hi ladies Please can i join? I'm 4w I think- due around 12th March.
This is baby no.2, ds is currently 18 months.
I spent the first 20 weeks of my last pregnancy absolutely stressed beyond belief at the thought of losing it. I just couldn't relax.
Promised myself if I was blessed enough to have a second I would make sure I didn't ruin it.
I'm currently about 6 pregnancy tests down in 48 hours. My lines have all been really faint. I've felt a little sick but no boob pain like last time. I actually feel even more stressed now that last time :-(
Definitely going to book an early scan at around 8 weeks but that's so long away.
Any tips to get over this anxiety?

Huge congratulations to everyone else with bfps!

Hi @WhyTheHeckMe - welcome! I'm due on 11th March 😊 Also sharing your anxiety - would like to enjoy every moment and not panic about odd twinges and randomly disappearing symptoms.

Hi can I join please? I am 4 weeks and due on 18th March. I have 2x DS's (8 & 10) with my ExDH. This baby is with the BF... am slightly stunned as was the result of the first time we 'tried'.

Can't tell anyone in RL... I've pretty much been a LP most of my sons lives as ExDH left after DS2 was born. My family will think I'm crazy to have another when I've just got 'my life back' but I'm so happy! My mum in particular will not be impressed as she refuses to meet my BF. I am 37! Only my best friend & BF know... I'm scared of other people's negative reactions!

Welcome to all the new people. It's really stressful isn't it. I don't remember having this much worry with my first pregnancy but I feel much more aware of what can go wrong. When I went to have my coil removed they found it had perforated my uterus and I had to have an op in April to remove it so they impact of that worries me. I'm definitely booking an early scan. It feels worth it to me for some peace of mind.

why we've got the same due date and I've not really had any symptoms yet either.

Symptoms seem to have made a definite appearance over the past 48hrs. No sickness but very strong waves of nausea, serious fatigue from about 4pm and my bladder appears to have shrunk to the size of a peanut. I actually had to stop on the way home for a wee (in a public toilet obviously, not outdoors). The cat also walked across my chest earlier and nearly got thrown out of the window. Every time I eat a biscuit I end up really bloated as well, which is pants! I'm also still having quite strong cramps but hopefully that's normal.

Thanks dancing unicorn, wishing you luck too x

Welcome newbies!
My mum came round and we had a good chat, she apologised and she clearly is very excited! She's just not gushy and overly emotive and I think she was trying to make jokes, and I'm clearly a bloody delicate little hormonal flower! I need to pull myself together! All is well!

Kitty there's a few of us nurses floating around, I feel like I don't want to tell work until I have my scan because gossip spreads! And I really don't know why we can't push beds?!

Some of you are talking about booking early scans - id really like to do this following a miscarriage at 12wks with my last pregnancy. How do you arrange this? Do you have to go private?

Hi and congratulations to the newbies! Thankfully I've had no nausea or sickness yet. I'm 5 weeks tomorrow. I have noticed I'm not hungry at all in the mornings though, but by morning break at 10.30 I'm ravenous! My boobs are my worst symptom. They are so sore. In a weird way, though, I find that reassuring!

Blimey, it's been busy here! Hope you're all well (or at least relatively, given the circumstances), and welcome to the newbies

Feeling very run down at the moment, and I'm not sure how much of that is pregnancy and how much is this pissing cold virus that's descended on me . Anyway, I'm just going to grump my way to bed, and hope that I feel less woozy in the morning...

@fefifofum Well I'm pushing wheelbarrows around the garden constantly and I don't intend to stop! I've spoken to both doctor and physio and researched online and the risks associated with lifting and pushing, pulling etc are absolutely miniscule at this stage apparently. It's very well protected in there. I have some fairly physical hobbies and I don't intend to stop them. I think it's more tiredness that is the problem with physical activity. I was gardening yesterday and had to stop after a while because I just felt worn out.

Sunny I'm going to wait until I have a number for the midwife and I'm going to ask them about getting a scan at the EPU. I am absolutely not coping well with the anxiety after last time. I know some areas offer a reassurance scan after mc. You could maybe ask? But otherwise you can book private. My dh is against that, otherwise I'd definitely be booking something!

I'm starting to get really anxious about my lack of symptoms. I'm 5+5 and my boobs aren't even that sore yet. Last time I'm sure they were killing by now. I know every pregnancy is different, but...

@fefi I struggled a lot last time with my hips and pelvis and I wasn't sensible with what I did at work which is why I mentioned pushing beds....i think the advice is if you already do something there's no reason to stop .....sorry I wasn't very clear still jet lagged from my nights Haha!!. Glad things are better with your mum.
@dancing I'm the same - im trying to convince myself that my boobs are sore but they arent and i am tired and a bit nauseated but that could just be a combination of work and the heat.
Going to register with my new GP today so will find out how I register with the midwife here. In Yorkshire where I was with DD1 you self refered

@Sunny I just googled private pregnancy scan and the name of my town. I think it costs about £89 and I plan to book in for about the end of week 7 as I know I ovulate later than average. If it's any reassurance, the odds really are in your favour that everything will be ok. I think it's only around 1% of women that suffer recurrent miscarriages. I was thinking about it last night and realised I know of quite a few friends and family members that have had one but I know nobody who's had more than one. The statistics are massively on your side.

No boob soreness here either, just tired and my nausea has settled down also. Going to ring my GP today to see what needs to be done. Im 5+2 so not sure if it's too early but I go away for a week on Saturday so by time I get back I will be 7 weeks which might be pushing it a bit i'm guessing.

Just the ongoing debate in our household about when to tell parents and siblings and how!

I've got my scan because I've had two previous mc (one in 2012 and one in Feb) and the GP said he would rather know things are progressing before referring me to the maternity / antenatal care team. I will be referred for recurrent miscarriage testing if this one doesn't work out because it would be my third mc. However to be honest the GP actually referred me to the EPU last time when I had had a little bit of spotting and one previous mc, for the same reason -they said they would rather do that then refer straight to maternity, so I guess it is different depending on your GP/area.

On the bright side I felt sick enough this morning that I couldn't drink my coffee which is very unusual for me. Hoping for a sticky one this time!

@dancing if you think it would help and you would like a scan I would hope your GP would refer you for one at the EPU. Sorry to hear about the anxiety - mine was awful after my first mc when I was pregnant with my daughter. I used to count to 20 in my head until the feeling passed. It was horrid.

Thanks ever so much everyone for the advice and support x

ChaoticKate I really appreciate that, thanks x

Thank so much Gracie. Will be trying to count today.

I find it hard because I don't see the gp. It's self referral, so won't see anyone till booking, and last time that was at 11 weeks!

I've just rang my doctors, they said I don't need to see the GP but they have booked me in to see the midwife at the surgery. First appointment they had was for the 24th so glad I rang today and didn't leave it until later. I will be 8 weeks then so at least I will have some sort of stop gap to look forward to inbetween waiting for a scan I suppose.

I just realised though I forget to ask if DH needs to come too, can anyone let me know what will happen at this appointment and if it's worthwhile him coming along?

It's a lot of form filling and family medical history. No need for him to be there, unless you or he would like that. It's pretty long and dull tbh!

Hi, can I cautiously join? I got my bfp on Sunday and am due 15th March. I've a 2 year old daughter but have had 2 mcs in the last year, so am really nervous. I'm 39 and we've decided this is the last try so crossing everything!

I'll be getting a scan at 6-7 weeks as I'm T1 diabetic and they scan early for that, then I'll need to get last 9 weeks before I can relax because of the mcs!

@MrsLoz - he doesn't need to be there but sometimes it's quite nice for partners to be at the first appt as your midwife should tell you about scans and antenatal tests.
They usually ask about medical history on both sides so if you don't get your notes before hand (some places give you your notes to full in medical details before hand - some do it at the appaointment) it's worth making sure you know if there's any medical history that might be relevant on his side.
Hi and welcome @ZylaB - so sorry to hear about your previous mc. Lost of positive Sticky thoughts for this one xxx