December 2017 babies #6 - dating scans, gender reveals, the beginning of bumps & the 2nd trimester!

[Carley27]

Thread #6 for the chatty mums due in December (or thereabouts!).

As we move into the second trimester there will be more dating scans, gender reveals and burgeoning bumps - and hopefully a reduction in nausea!

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Great news Japan!

Zaber you're not going to have room in your house for the baby at this rate

So glad it's Friday, tired and a bit of a sore back .. roll on home time.

Good news @biginjapan ! And @LapinR0se too - relief to know it's all checked and explained! Take it easy 🙂

Definitely been having no.2 irregularity problems in the last week or so, which makes my whole torso ache and feel like a painful bloated barrel. Was actually super regular during the first trimester but the second trimester seems like the complete opposite. Prune juice seems to help but makes it worse first - lots and lots of painful wind - and then helps only for a couple of days after each glass!

Carley I'm actually scared of that!

People have sent me pictures of things they've bought, which is lovely, but a bit overwhelming.

Congratulations Japan that's great news, such a relief!

Great news Japan! So pleased for you xx

Such a relief Lapin, make sure you look after yourself and rest xx

Yay for the excellent results and our first girlie Bisquick xx

We've just had our NIPT results back and are low risk for all 3 Trisomies, so relieved after this week. Got a real worry as Gender showed as inconclusive but DP rang the lab and they said they're still testing my blood and just wanted to get the other results back to us and gender will follow xx

Miami...I'm not Scandinavian, from the North East :)
My (soon to be ex) husband is truly one of the nicest people I've ever met, we had a lovely 10yrs of marriage, never had an argument etc but we were very much platonic and had been just friends for many many years. I met up with my childhood sweetheart back in July last year and the rest is history. Husband and partner have been wonderful and grown up about it, we've all been out together a few times with ex's new girlfriend too who is lovely and me and ex still have tv nights and takeaways! Lol! Our friends group are very relieved too as they haven't had to choose and invite us both (along with new partners) to everything. It's a tiny bit awkward on occasion as we did hurt people at the time but everyone is very much happier now xx

Look after yourself Lapin. At least you get an excuse for breakfast in bed for a week.

Congratulations to all those who know the gender already. But to be honest I'm a bit confused as to how you know. What is the test you are all having? I hadn't planned anything now other than the standard NHS scan at 20 weeks, and haven't been offered anything else. They couldn't get my nuchal measurement at the 12 week scan so they said I would have an extra blood test done at some point, but I think the midwife is doing that.

I'll be 15 weeks tomorrow! Time is moving so slow. Had to go home sick yesterday as I thought I was going to throw up at my desk. Got home, had some fresh air, felt fine (and also like a fraud for going home). Think it was due to being in an air conditioned office with no windows.

@MontyPants Those of us who have had private NIPT scans will have had DNA extracted from our blood for testing, from which they can also tell gender. Haven't looked up the exact science behind how, but I imagine (prob too simply) if it's a girl there'd be no Y chromosomes in the DNA and vice versa 🙂

It's totally amazing that you can find out the sex so early on!
Is anyone planning on staying team yellow? I found out with my other 2 children and we have a boy and a girl. We live in a new area now and the hospital we're with don't tell the sex! Have considered a private scan but I just think of all the pretty things I could buy with the money we would spend 🙊 so I'm thinking of keeping it a surprise. Dh wants to know! He has no patience lol.

So we have 3 boys and a girl so far, is that right? Eek x

So glad all is well with you lot!

Thanks for the pain explanation! I didn't expect the growth to be so enormous around this time. I am 11+4 today and have stretching pains and cramps and my square belly for two to three days, so this fits quite well with the explanation.

Thank God it's Friday, can't wait for the weekend to start. We finish early on a Friday, so I'm off at half 2 :-)

Tootsy, we're staying team yellow I think. We're not having any special tests or extra ultrasounds and I won't insist in finding out for the 20 weeks NHS scan. More important things than gender for me.

Tootsy I desperately wanted to stay team yellow! But I just can't say no to DH, he's just too excited. That and I think it'll really give his nan a boost knowing the sex, she's been a bit down lately.

So it's pretty hard for me to not know! Unless I cover my ears and sing very loudly I'm not sure about telling other people though, how's everyone else feeling about that?

Zaber hadn't really thought about telling other people the gender.. I won't be announcing it or anything but would happily tell friends and family if they ask.

Although DH may want to keep it secret.. he was really keen not to tell ANYONE about the pregnancy until we've had the dating scan (whereas I wouldn't have minded my family knowing, but it's actually been really nice having a little secret!).

There's a new class of NIPT tests Monty - a blood test at 10 weeks that looks for foetal cell free DNA and tests for chromosomal abnormalities and as an aside can tell you the sex. Brand names like IONA/SAFE/Panorama/Harmony. Some trusts offer them now, most of us on here paid for them privately I think. Much more for the early reassurance on trisomies esp when they can't take a good NT scan. The baby's sex is just an extra bonus.
I was sure I'd feel emotional either way so wanted to know and give myself time to process all those emotions. Now getting excited for my little girl! :)

Thanks for explanation Biker and Bisquick. I don't think I'll have any extra tests then as it's just more things to stress about. I know that might sound like I'm sticking my head in the sand, but I have my reasons. Wish I'd been able to get a nuchal measurement, but the sonographer did say that she couldn't see any obvious abnormalities. Fingers and toes crossed. Have a consultant appointment on the 16th anyway (and I don't actually know why.... I've just been sent a letter with an appointment date) but I'm sure I'll ask lots of questions.

You explained it much better than me Bisquick. We paid for the tests simply because I'm terrified of something being wrong, I'm geriatric, overweight, have suffered 2 previous losses and have terrible anxiety. I needed to know if everything was ok. I feel like I haven't stopped crying this week. So yep, definitely more important things than Gender and I imagine that's the case for every single person here.
The fact the results may also tell us the Gender is just a fun bonus. If they were unable to I wouldn't care one jot!

Girls I'm mid nights and severely missing my sominex! Can't sleep at all, gripped by the election results too which isn't helping and the current announcement certainly won't help me sleep easy

We're staying team Yellow, no plans for NIPT currently but I'm not sure that we're going to come out low risk on our combined as nuchal was on the higher end of normal so that might change.

Hellllp me ladies, I can't do tonight on 3hrs!

I'm much the same @MaryShelley1818 felt terrible after dating scan when I was stressing and my lovely OH said 'can we not just be celebratory?' Hate anxiety more than anything, wouldn't wish it on my worse enemy

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((Hugs)) Carlotta, you must be exhausted xx Lovely scan btw, gorgeous baby 👶🏼

Dating scan this afternoon for me, only feeling mildly terrified now after our positive NIPT results! Lol x

No not at all Monty. whatever feels right to you - I know a lot of people who eschew all tests and it works in keeping their anxiety manageable.
I'm trying to relax and enjoy this pregnancy, rather than letting it slip by in an anxious blur. Mixed success up till now.

Good luck for the scan Mary!
And sorry you haven't managed to get some rest Carlotta. I tried napping, didn't work. Now going out for a long walk which I hope will tire me out!

Ditto @MaryShelley1818 and @Bisquick 🙂 absolutely about having peace of mind re trisomies first, and gender was just a nice bonus 🙂

What is everyone up to this weekend? Dh has gone on a stag weekend, so I'm at home with the 3 kids which is fine but the middle one broke his collarbone yesterday so can't do a lot. Hmph.

I'm mostly going to be dying from night shifts and insomnia

Just catching up.... Off work this week and next so I'm not just trying to amuse myself on mumsnet all day lol so sorry if I'm missing important stuff. (or food chat!)

We're staying team yellow. I'd find out, but DH really doesn't want to so thats fine by me. I'm a bit gutted when I see all the really cute gender specific stuff but neutral could be more handy if we have a second!