November 2017 #3: Flutters, bubbles and a proper bump!

[GingerHanna]

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Here we all are... delving into our second trimesters and awaiting 'The Big Scan'! Don't forget to keep the list updated.

Haz - I'm the opposite, several people have said my bump is small for 21 weeks and I should be bigger! I'd be worried except at my anomaly scan baby was measuring a bit big. I'm not a small person (not short and not a slight build) so figure I've got space for him in there! Bit odd when people comment though, I never know what to answer...

Hahah, I love this. My midwife told me on my side only, left side is the best and to avoid the right side but its better than my front or back.

I've just found this thread, so Hello! waves. I'm due on the 16th November with my second (I have a 5 year old). Feel like I've doubled in size in the last 3 weeks, which is tricky as I've not actually told work yet... Paperwork has just gone in for promotion so bitter experience taught me just to hold off a little before letting them know. I'm told it's been agreed but just needs one more signature so hoping I can reveal soon! Luckily I wfh quite often so just look like I've put on quite a bit of weight from my recent holiday.

Anyway, glad to meet so many people at a similar stage, looking forward to sharing the next few months with you :)

Good luck with the promotion tercear and welcome.

Completely off-topic but DD (who was written off as brain dead at 4 days old) has just learnt to say her sister's name. It might only be the middle two syllables of a four syllable name but we're very proud!

I've been trying to sleep on my left as I read somewhere that you should. Relieved to hear that right side is ok as that's my natural/preferred side.

@Hazandduck completely agree, people aren't usually so liberal in their comments about your body size / shape! I don't like it! I desperately wanted a neat bump but yesterday my Mum (who isn't stick thin) was giving me advice on exercises I could do to work off my back fat. WTF?! I didn't even think I had any!

Was size 10 pre baby and now size 12 maternity. 24 wks tomorrow!

It's so weird isn't it @lydia?! My sister told me my butt had got big 😒 The thing is it actually hasn't changed and I am still the same size on my bottom half and wearing my normal jeans/pants! I think people just love to watch you uncontrollably change shape! It seems to give them a free pass to just say what they want...
Wow where has the time gone, I'm 22 weeks today and my next goal to get to is the 24 week mark. Keep setting myself little milestones so I can relax a bit more. X

@Hazandduck that's good you're still wearing that stuff :) my butt has got bigger but I don't need people to point it out lol.

Is anyone else ridiculously tired? I'm considering propping my eyes open with match sticks this morning.

Yes exactly, I'm feeling hormonal, my clothes sit horribly on me (whole top half has expanded!) I really don't need you pointing out things to me lol. OH told me the other day my feet looked wider. Oh cheers mate!

@Sock I actually do feel ok now and have been nonstop cleaning/DIYing for our wedding. I had about 18-19 weeks of doing sweet FA so I need to get myself in gear now. Everyone is different, hopefully your energy will come back soon :(

We moved our bed over last night to get our cat used to the changes as soon as possible. I know it's weird but he's been our number 1 priority for 9 years so we need to try and help him adjust as gently as possible! X

@Hazandduck I have more energy than I have in ages, but think I overdid it at the weekend. I bought a new car child friendly care, then had to deal with getting upset about getting rid of my beloved unsuitable car.

I have two cats that I need to get used to having a baby. I hope they will love the baby

I'm super tired today - couldn't sleep last night and then my daughter woke up at 5.30am!

I felt like a giant whale this weekend. My bump seems to change size day to day and at different times of the day. It's definitely really obvious now as this morning someone came up to me on the school run to ask when baby is due.

@Zampa how lovely, I bet you're so proud :)

Welcome @tercear I'm due 14th Nov and also have a 5 year old! Good luck with the promotion.

@Tercear welcome and good luck with the promotion.

I too have heard about left side sleeping but have paid no attention to it. I've been sleeping however I feel most comfortable (front, back, sod). I find that if I can't move much at night I wake up really achy. I trust my body will move if I'm uncomfortable or in any kind of pain.

So, we found a house and put in an offer only to find that the details on the listing were wrong. Unfortunately, one particular detail could be a deal breaker for us. Also, the current owner has to do some work on the house (it can't be sold until problem has been fixed) and now wants to raise the price to recoup some of his money. We're in two minds what to do - walk away now or put in another offer but keep looking in case he tries it on again.
On top of it all, DP's uncle died at the weekend. It's his father's only brother left in the US (rest of the family is in Sicily). Houses etc have been completely forgotten about and we'll start again next weekend after the funeral.

Thanks @buttery. We're very proud!

Quite shocked to find I have 59 working days left! Sounds like so little! I have no replacement yet.

How far has everyone got in their baby purchases? I've bought nothing and feeling a bit behind!

@stuckinny sorry for your loss. It puts things into perspective a bit doesn't it. Hope to manage to get the house sorted. It sounds like the owner could be quite difficult if he's dragging his heels on the work & now wants to put the price up. I think I'd put an offer in & keep looking if I were you.

I've got lots more energy now. I finished my two assignments on Saturday & my house is now gleaming from all the cleaning I did yesterday. Going to have a rest tonight as had a bad nights sleep but looking forward to having my evenings to myself again, well with DFil for company for the next month!

@lydiangel83 I've been picking up a few bits & pieces as I see them in the sales etc. I keep checking my baby wish list on Amazon to see if there have been any price drops & also crossing stuff off I've already bought. I bought a crib off eBay last week so picking that up tomorrow. Ordered DS's new bed yesterday so DFil is going to decorate his room while he is here so we can move the cotbed into the nursery. Trying to persuade him to decorate the nursery too but don't want to push my luck! When I was pregnant with DS I didn't start buying in earnest until I was about 30 weeks which coincided with the sales.

@Topsyloulou thanks.

@lydiangel83 I really haven't done any shopping yet but I do have a couple of bits left from DS that will be reused. I also have a friend that has just had a little girl that's offered to pass on everything and anything.

I'm starting to be harassed about a registry but it's the last thing on my mind. Without having an idea of where we'll be living it's hard to make plans.

So, I'm in hospital and have been since Saturday!

TL;DR:

• In hospital with necrotic myoma, on strong arse opiats and here until myoma has fully necrotised and pain over.
• Baby fine but likely to be preterm at around 35-37 weeks so plans to be made as such.

Full version:

• Pain started Friday, nasty nasty by Saturday morning
• Midwife came Saturday morning and ruled out pre term labour and said baby fine, go to emergency clinic to test for bladder infection
• Nearest clinic is my local hospital. After 6 hours of benign passed from pillar to post I was sent to the labour ward with an arguement ongoing between suspected appendicitis and necrosis of the myoma
• Once in labour ward real care begun, these ladies are fantastic
• Had abdominal ultrasound Saturday evening followed by CT scan at midnight. All clear on appendicitis but my temperature was rising and my blood was showing signs of infection
• After a couple of days of experimenting with different pain meds (opiats), many blood tests and another ultrasound yesterday morning with appendicitis on the cards again it was decided I definitely have necrosis of the myoma. No treatment can be given, only pain management.
• After the pain breaking through the opiats yesterday I'm on some really strong ones that I cannot remember the proper name of but it sounds like Dippy Delores, a drag queen. Given how stoned the make me this seems about right!
• I now have to stay in hospital and sit it out until it finishes necrotising. Pain management has to be done here due to strength of drugs.

Baby is fine and doing really well. However, they think that at some time between 35-37 weeks my uterus will say 'okay, I'm big enough, time to come out' so we will have to prep for pre term labour. There are also many decisions to be made on treatment after the birth which is affected by desire for more kids, but we've agreed to leave that until after the birth!

So, really not an easy pregnancy so far and these last few days have been exceptionally emotional and difficult for DH and I. Having the pain under control helps a lot so now it's a case of sitting it out and agreeing a new care and prep plan. The nurses and docs on the expectant/new mothers ward are bloody angels. I have never had such excellent care and will be writing into the hospital to tell them so, as well as baking them a big batch of brownies when I get home!

@GingerHanna so sorry to hear this. What a worrying & painful time you've been having. Glad they are looking after you well in hospital and the drugs are helping with the pain. Hope you don't have to stay in too long.

@GingerHanna yikes it sounds like you've had a heck of a time! Sorry to hear you're in so much pain, I hope that you can be home and resting soon x

Crikey @GingerHanna! Your poor thing, hope you feel better soon 💐

I just had to look up what a myoma is @GingerHanna! What you're going through sounds pretty scary! Get well soon.

Hopefully, you'll make it through to term at 37 weeks and you'll get to take your baby straight home. If you do end up with a preemie, the premature birth chat rooms on here are fantastic and a good source of support, especially when it comes to things like expressing milk.

(A small plus side of NICU is that the nurses get your baby into a lovely routine before you take them home!).

Thanks folks. I have done quite a bit of freaking out and crying these last few days as you can imagine. The good news is that I am currently drug free and only in discomfort (3-4 on my pain scale) so hoping it will hold for today and I can get home tomorrow.

Just posted on the preemie group as I need to feel like I'm doing something, thank you.

Just saw your post in Active and threw in my 2p worth ...

Hi, can I jump on the nov train? Wasn´t aware there was a thread like this before!

21+2 days, due on 19th of Nov, first baby and feel like I am huge already!

How much of baby shopping have people already done? Went to a mum2mum market on sunday and got a bargain on a pram/pushchair combo but other than that, don't have much yet!

Thanks Zampa, appreciate it. Feeling both calm and emotional at the same time. Odd eh?

For now the focus is on getting the pain under control and me home. Then follow up in a couple weeks with more scans and then proper discussions on birth expectations etc. All going so fast now it's a touch overwhelming.