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May 2017 #15 No sleep, night feeds and the newest arrivals

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Tickyboovicki · 17/05/2017 07:19

Fingers crossed this works, no idea how to make a thread but giving it my best shot. Let the May babies continue!

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newbieho · 18/05/2017 06:18

Congratulations @Rockyroad17 on the little one arrival Flowers hope you are both okay now

EsmesBees · 18/05/2017 06:25

mighty have you tried putting the sleepyhead in between you in bed? I remember putting my arm around it as if cosleeping and that's how we first got DD to settle in it. You'll get there.

Congratulations rocky!

Sorry the hospital tour freaked you out raspberry. I honestly didn't care where I was when giving birth, and hopefully you'll be the same (or better still in the MLU).

Toddler up at 6 today. Going to be a long one.

RasperryInAMelon · 18/05/2017 06:45

@EsmesBees I spoke to DH when we got home about it all.

Of course I'd go wherever and do whatever I'm told to ensure safe delivery of Raspberry.

If you google Birthing Centre Queen Elizabeth Woolwich you can see one of the rooms... so lovely and airy, it's quiet, a very calming place with private post natal rooms too.

We then went onto Delivery Suite, screaming, alarms going off, uber sterile clinical beds / rooms, a horrible post natal ward.

Perhaps I sound like a snob (not my intention - and as I say, I'd go wherever I'd best) but the place just freaked me out...

savagehk · 18/05/2017 07:07

raspberry take in ear headphones with calming music and possibly eye mask with in your hospital bag just in case.

FoxMulder · 18/05/2017 07:32

mighty DS was like that. I thought all babies were tbh, certainly expecting this one to be the same anyway! I just went with it. Spent most of the time holding him while I sat on the sofa! Used wrap sling a lot. Bedshared after the first night because I hated the noises he made in his sleep when we were apart.

Raspberry I hate the look of the hospital too. It was like a stiffling claustrophobic prison.

Rabbitykins55 · 18/05/2017 07:59

I should have paid more attention several threads ago but what can I do with pads to assist with recovery from an episiotomy? My bits are on fire. Shock something to do with the freezer rings a bell but I'm not 100% sure that's right and I don't want to make it worse!

savagehk · 18/05/2017 08:08

Earth mama angel baby bottom spray.
Witch hazel on the pad and in the freezer (not tried myself and was keen to avoid distilled witch hazel last time which was all i could find, although it's probably fine)

savagehk · 18/05/2017 08:09

I also used intimate wipes instead of loo roll for a while. Drink lots of water to keep your wee dilute.

lullaby23 · 18/05/2017 08:55

mighty it's such early days don't be hard on yourself, it's trial and error for a while and will change quickly. I think DS slept on my chest for the first few nights and we didn't get a Sleepyhead until he was about 6 weeks. If you're breastfeeding lying down feeding is a godsend and I will try it much earlier this time.

bean glad your HB is back on track.

raspberry your MLU sounds great, hope you get signed off to use it.

rabbity you can search for padsicle "recipes" such as this one: www.modernalternativemama.com/2014/04/18/making-postpartum-padsicles-plus-bonus-perineum-healing-spray/

Went in for my final check up today and had a terrible time with the CTG sensors not working properly and being prodded for over 90 minutes! One of the nurses told me the baby's heartbeat had gone too low but then my doctor reviewed the print out and said it was fine. Fluid level has dropped again but ok to go ahead with ELCS next week thankfully, I was worried they would want to bring it forward when I don't feel ready yet. At least we have one more weekend!

teainbed · 18/05/2017 09:21

That's good news @lullaby23 hang on a bit longer!

@Rabbitykins55 all the things mentioned in the padsicles blog either alone or together. Loads of painkillers and laxatives too but I presume you're on them already? Just don't forget any doses.

newbieho · 18/05/2017 09:23

@Rabbitykins55 this is the healing spray I'm using www.ebay.co.uk/itm/350584910784 MW said the stitches are healing nicely

@lullaby23 good news you can go ahead with your plan and doc gave you a green light

@RasperryInAMelon I had to give birth in delivery suite as MLU was full but the care provided was top notch.

Rabbitykins55 · 18/05/2017 09:27

Thanks everyone. I'll get something sorted. Stupidly I've not been taking pain killers so I'm going to start on that asap. I'm barely managing to eat meals due to a total Velcro baby so I'm not really looking after myself as much as I should be. I shall start that today too!

teainbed · 18/05/2017 09:38

@Rabbitykins55 get DH to make you a packed lunch and leave it next to where you sit and feed. With water etc

savagehk · 18/05/2017 09:42

rabbity one handed food! And keep your fluids up. Make sure you have snacks and water in reach before you sit down to feed. Sling (sorry to harp on) means you can have both hands free and walk around to get things done if needed.

Rabbitykins55 · 18/05/2017 09:53

He's been really good and waiting on me hand and foot. Smile I'm surprised how quickly I've adapted to one handed eating, I even managed a roast dinner in the hospital while feeding! I'm taking that as a win!

Me and baby are doing ok, just sore from birth. Finding feeding a little difficult due to his latch but nipple shields are now my friend!

Hope everyone else is ok.

RasperryInAMelon · 18/05/2017 10:01

@newbieho I'm not concerned about the quality of care, it's the environment that makes me feel uncomfortable 😕

1004Rise · 18/05/2017 11:01

Yesterday was a day of up and downs. Had a minor success, got out with the pram 😊 but only for about 15 minutes, someone's stolen my stomach muscles?!? Wasn't expecting to be so sore 😣

Last night was hard, I had a complete hormonal tired sobbing breakdown at about 1am because we were stuck in the eat, poo change, eat too tired cycle. She eventually went off and had another feed and change at about 4. She slept til about 7/7.30 ish but I had to wake DH up to help me move, think I laid on a nerve and got stuck 😖

It's amazing however how much better things are in the morning! Just have to wait in for the midwives today.... time to do some thread catch up!!

teainbed · 18/05/2017 11:46

I know those nights @1004Rise ! Hang in there.

BabyTea is 5 weeks tomorrow and whilst things are by no means good at night or ok (!) the baby steps we're seeing include not cluster feeding for the last few days, going down himself to sleep after feeds and feeds taking a little less time although they still seem to be roughly 2-3 hourly.

We're going to the drop in clinic today I really hope he has put on some weight.

Badgerbird · 18/05/2017 11:52

adventure I hope you are healing well now Flowers

peas I'm glad you didn't get hurt in accident. Here's to a better few days BrewCake

mighty second what tea says about guidelines. It must be so hard (I'll find out soon!!) especially in the middle of the night when exhausted.
Can you try a sling during day?

bean nanas house sounds like a great plan! All that love :)
I really like the idea of sleeping with baby blanket to get your smell on it, gonna do that.

Congratulations rocky! Glad you're finding your feet now :)

rabbity I love the one handed roast dinner whilst breast feeding. Definite win!! I think lavender on pad and in bath (mix with milk) was suggested to help healing. Good luck!

rise I think the odd melt down is inevitable isn't it? I'm planning a few!! Here's hoping you're not too knackered today x

MrsJW15 · 18/05/2017 11:57

@RasperryInAMelon we haven't had a tour (not offered!) but I've seen photos of our MLU and I really want to be in there. Will ask mw today how that works with induction if that's necessary. Fingers crossed for you.

@beanturnipandspud your nana sounds great!

Couple of questions for those who are already there or have done this before - do I need to put anything inside the bassinet of the pram? It looks so big! Or does it need a sheet or anything? And the sleepyhead- do you cover that with a sheet or protector? Or just buy spare covers?!

RasperryInAMelon · 18/05/2017 12:04

@MrsJW15 they run a tour here on the 3rd Weds of every month - I couldn't believe the turn out of women!!!

I've been told that anything other than a sweep in terms of induction means you won't be in MLU - I'm definitely going to ask if I can have a sweep today to try and get things moving.

Really putting my anxiety levels up 😔

lullaby23 · 18/05/2017 12:29

mrsjw I used crib sheets for the pram carrycot, something like this but possibly Moses basket sheets would fit?

For the Sleepyhead I had one spare cover but used a muslin at the head end as DS was quite vommy and it saved too much washing.

mightymouse76 · 18/05/2017 13:32

Thanks for the tips all, going to respond after next feed sleep cycle but Whilst I have a moment and remember, wanted to share this, my C-Section essentials for hospital and first few days home, or 'what I would do if there was a next time'. Nothing but a badly written ramble so ignore at will- I've only had 3 hours sleep 😂

For hospital:
Sports cap water bottles - I couldn't lean and pour from jug, especially with a baby in cannulated arms. I also couldn't undo some screw tops. Sports cap can sit in the bed next to you and can be used one handed.

Silicone ear plugs in case you get held on a ward pre op, and good eye masks for both you and DP in case they stay over post op.

2 extra pillows (they don't always have enough and propping is needed)

Mesh hospital knickers (cheap from amazon) to let your scar breathe- I found everything else too tight and you leak a lot of bloody fluid after so need something to secure a pad. Also good as you can clearly see if wound is weeping without pulling knickers down.

Lots has been said about snacks but the one handed open and eat thing is key- I had canulas in both hands and a baby, which was trickier than I thought. I wished I'd had energy balls, fruit, rice pudding pots, yoghurt drinks and plastic cutlery...I was missed off some meal rounds by accident so even ordered some salads from deliveroo at one point 😁

For when you get home...I wished I had:

Set up a table by the bed before going into hospital with bottles of water, boxes of snacks, fruit bowl, somewhere for painkillers and meds, Muslins, wet wipes, headphones, phone charger, books and if you feel that way inclined, an emergency stash of ready to drink formula. All should be easy to reach one handed and without twisting or leaning. This will give you a little bit of independence at a time when you are almost entirely dependent on OH!

I had problems BF initially due to my LO's tongue tie/poor latch and crap advice in the post natal ward. Nipples were in bits and I was crying trying to feed-had to stop by day 4 as they were bleeding too much. Cue rush around for formula. In those first few hours, prepping bottles was a total stress when the boy was screaming blue murder and you can't get down the stairs because of the wound and neither if you know the guidance on sterilising and storing...I now have a stock of the 70ml aptamil first bottles next to the bed for emergencies-ready to drink, no refrigeration or prep needed. Whatever your intentions long term, if you can't feed at 3am for whatever reason, it's good to know you're covered...

Also make sure anything you need like maternity pads and fresh mesh knickers are within easy reach in the bathroom- no bending down necessary, just have everything right there at arm level.

I'm sure all this sounds really obvious to you more experienced and organised bunch but I was in the less well prepped club and wish I'd thought about some of this before...steep learning curve indeed!

Good luck to those still to pop

vanilla8 · 18/05/2017 14:36

I've only ordered one crib sheet so far, knew there was something else to get! I've just looked at prices for spare sleepyhead coversShock 

Thanks @mightymouse76 for those tips

@RasperryInAMelon fingers crossed you end up in MLU, had a quick Google and it looks great.

Best wishes to all those with their babies, all your comments are an insight on what's to come for meFlowers

teainbed · 18/05/2017 14:40

Good tips @mightymouse76

BabyTea put 11oz on this week, hurray! He only just regained his birthweight last week so I'm very pleased with him.

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