May 2017 #15 No sleep, night feeds and the newest arrivals

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Fingers crossed this works, no idea how to make a thread but giving it my best shot. Let the May babies continue!

@redblu 8oz, you are actually superwoman!
@1004rise am v impressed at the bf in public!

Thought people might enjoy this article I just read about the massive transitions and complicated feelings in becoming a mother - mobile.nytimes.com/2017/05/08/well/family/the-birth-of-a-mother.html

That's interesting @CoxsOrangePippin I've just skim read it but bookmarked for later. I've come across the 'good enough mother' before. For various reasons I had 7 months of therapy a couple of years ago and this was something that came up, it was hugely beneficial.

Well done rise. Big achievement.

Congratulations blueberry. He is lovely and Jacob is a great name

I'm so surprised you are still waiting bean. Will you still get your home birth if they induce you?

@teainbed ... deal! I can cope with a hat 🎩 yes the end is in sight ... so feeling much more relaxed this evening.

@mrspage1985 ... when were you due? I felt so deflated yesterday, but feeling much more positive today. Baby will come when baby is ready, I am sure of it.

@EsmesBees ... no! I will only get my homebirth if baby arrives between now and next weds. When I get to next weds I may decide that I don't want to be induced ... but right now I am glad that I have a light at the end of the tunnel. I have never been this preg with my other 2.

@mrspage1985 I swear... DH and I have had more sex in the last week than we've had in 3 months... still nothing - I too will be a June mumma unless this Raspberry makes a serious move in the next 3 hours which is highly unlikely!

Our first day flying solo just ended in a trip to the ooh doc because I was. scared (and hugely hormonal/emotional) After the vomit-fest of last night, today he's been arching his back lots, really throwing his legs around and lots of knees to chest. Blood curdling screams from 6pm terrified me. Doc obv looked at me and spoke to me like I'm an idiot first timer (which granted, I am) so I left being pleased he couldn't find anything wrong but more upset because I now feel stupid.... urgh. Tell me the hormones will bugger off soon??!!

red hospitals sometimes hire them out, and you can get a "milking bra" so you can have hands free. 8oz is fab by the way esp this early on!

@Paige84 it's good to get checked out if you're not sure. Being unsettled in the evening is also very common unfortunately another thing that eventually passes!

I just snuck in! Little girl born today after 36 hours labour!!

@RedBlu wow, you're working really hard kudos to you! 💐

Congratulations @uptown8617 @BouncingBlueberry!!

@beanturnipandspud surprised you're still hanging on, of course we'll still welcome you and @RasperryInAMelon and @mrspage1985 with your June babies once @teainbed designs your special hats 😉 🍰☕️💐for your patience!!

I'm still quite impressed with myself for being brave this afternoon. My one tip is nursing tops, no faffing with scarves etc which I think I'd have been more self conscious with. I was in a safe place which had please feel free to breastfeed stickers all over the place, it's given me more confidence for next time 😁

@CoxsOrangePippin thanks for that article, interesting reading

@Paige84 better to be safe, you're not the first panicky mum the doctor will have seen, nor will you be the last!!

Other lovely thing that happened today while we were out a lady came over with her two year old daughter because she wanted to see the baby. The little girl's face when she looked at baby Rise was lovely, she was just so amazed it was really sweet to see... I'm imagining the fun that you 2nd+ mums are having with your older children, must be an extra bit of awesome 😁😁

Don't know if it's the starting of anything or just wishful thinking, but got some very funny pains going on the last couple of hours. Kind of like needing the toilet - but don't need the toilet, in addition to back ache but as I did some gardening today it could just be that?!

I have had a shower and come up to bed, will see how / if anything progresses?! Xx

Fingers crossed mrspage!

Congratulations @BouncingBlueberry he's so cute!

So frustrating @beanturnipandspud but we will keep you  and the June babies  although @mrspage1985 Sounds like there may be progress!

Well done @1004Rise! So far I'm loving H&M nursing vests although we haven't gone out really.

Day 6, my milk is in and baby was much fussier during the day. More frequent short feeds. She's up now after about 2 hours sleep, hoping I get a longer stretch after!

@Paige84 we've had a trip to the hospital too after being advised to go there when I called triage. When we got there I was made to feel like a neurotic first time mum (could be some truth in that but we were told to go) and I felt silly and emotional for a good week after. Now I'm glad that we went rather than chancing it and I'd do it again should the need arise. Hope you feel better soon.

Not managing to keep up so well at the mo so doing a quicky whilst I sit awake in bed with baby asleep on me rather than in her cot coz Obvs she can't sleep in there!!

Blimey newbie that was some outing!! Well done on pub run peach!

Glad you're home jw and that milk has come in, lucky baby!

Oops gotta go! Apparently she's hungry again

Oh we call her Carla Rose

Catch up more later x

Posting and feeding.... helps distract from the pain she's booked in to have TT sorted asap.

Congratulations uptown sorry birth didn't go as you planned,hope you both ok.

rise good work!!

Congrats blueberry, he's a cutey :)

Great news buffy! Ouch to 36 hour labour though

Think I'm gonna have to wake hubby after she's fed so he can hold her to sleep whilst I get some coz she just won't settle in her own yet.....

@Paige84 better to be safe than sorry and gave the little one checked.

Congratulations @halfbuffy 

@CoxsOrangePippin goos reading, I've bookmarked your post with the link

Thanks for the tip @Paige84 I'm a fan of breastfeeding tops too

Good luck @mrspage1985

@Badgerbird my DH is also "baby whisperer" and can calm him down better than me

Hey @Badgerbird that's a lovely name!

Did you get any sleep?
Out of interest, my boy refused his cot until we put a sleepyhead in there. Still refusing Moses basket, bouncer, etc... ! But at least we gave one working alternative to my arms

Congratulations on all the new babies and good look to the FUCs - may your babies arrive quickly and according to birth plan😊💐

So babycrazy crazy baby allowed be about 2 hours of broken sleep last night... On the bright side a night spent googling found this gem: themilkmeg.com/faqs/
Great resource for BF which now makes me feel much better! Also has stuff on sleeping etc and It's quite a funny read for all mums!

Yeah, the milk meg is good.

It's my birthday today, whoo!

Morning ladies

Haven't been online for a few days.

Congratulations to all the new arrivals recently.

This might sound like a silly question but do you ever feel guilty about spending too much time with your newborn? It's just that dh was pointing out (complaining more like) that he managed to get loads done around the house whilst on paternity leave so was disappointed that I hadn't done much. I felt too tired and crap to argue back but could have easily pointed out that he was able to do those things because I was also around helping whereas I'm currently home alone. I explained to him this morning that baby boy usually has a crying fit after his morning feed as he seems to want cuddles and dh's response was to just leave him in the bouncer for a few minutes while trying to get a few things done around the house! I know he's being like this because my parents are coming round for the weekend tomorrow and they can be quite critical about things and I know we'll get the house sorted one or another by tomorrow lunchtime. Dh also said that he'll help get everything else up straight when he's on holiday next week.

I am grateful for dh's help and support whilst he was on paternity leave but I now just feel a bit rubbish, as I know dh doesn't understand why I'm tired during the day (even though he knows I do the night feeds). I get the feeling that he thinks I should be fighting fit to just crack on as baby is 3 weeks old & especially as I'm bottle feeding as opposed to breast feeding but I feel so guilty that I'm not doing a great job of things.

Apologies for the long post.

Jenny he's being unreasonable. You've been pregnant, given birth, have massive hormonal changes, if you're anything like me you have bugger-all core strength at the moment so too much housework is going to be a very bad idea. You also need to bond with your baby to avoid PND etc. And, as you point out, aside from all that when he was on pat leave you were also there so he wasn't doing 100% baby care. I'd be tempted to let him do a whole day on his own on the weekend and see how much he gets done!
And some days are easier than others, that's just the way of it. Two nights back I was puked on 3 times in about 10 minutes (so changing baby continually!), last night was 4 pooey-nappies within about an hour. If you have One Of Those Days, making sure you and baby are clean and fed/watered is the only thing that's important.

Had lots of pains last night, thought it might be the start of things. But nothing came of it and slept through! Had a couple of twinges this morning but tbh I think I'm just at the point of reading too much into everything right now!!
I might go and spend lots of money today - that always makes me feel better!!!!

Big hugs to the mommys who are struggling - your all doing an amazing job

mrspage that's exactly what the start of labour felt like for me. Hopefully this will be it for you.

Happy birthday fox!

Rise that's a lovely story. It has been amazing to watch DD interact with her new sister. It completely melts me.

Jenny the whole point of mat leave is to allow you time to spend with your baby! Nothing at all to feel guilty about. The house will be fine and your parents will have to lump it. You've literally just had a baby!

Anyone giving vitamin d drops? The midwife yesterday said it's recommended now but I don't remember giving dd1 anything additional.

Oh crossed posts there mrspage. Still a good sign though.