May 2017 #15 No sleep, night feeds and the newest arrivals

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Fingers crossed this works, no idea how to make a thread but giving it my best shot. Let the May babies continue!

Claire sending you so much love right now. Time to tell your husband how you feel and let him sort his mother out. You are going through the biggest adjustment in your life ever woman to mummy. You are NOT inadequate, you are tired, sore, hormonal and overwhelmed. You can do this! xx

Stationary we haven't seen or heard from either of our siblings since we told them he was here!! One is 2 hours away the other 2 mins away!!
Grandparents have been amazing tho, It has been lovely for them to only have to share with each other!

I have serious twinges & lost loads of plug this morning! I think spud may actually be on his way soon 👶🏼🥔

@ClaireSunflower so sorry to hear how you are feeling, however you are not inadequate nor alone. You will be dealing with a lot of raw emotion, speak to your OH and your midwives/health visitor .... they can & will help 😘 sending you lots & lots of love x

@stationaryace @peasandquiet when turnip was born we had the same skeleton visitors. With bean we had every man and his dog. I had a little cry only last week when we were packing for the move, as I stumbled across their memory boxes and beans has loads of cards, well over 50. As turnip had 8! Wondering how many spud will get?

@teainbed would you recommend anything particular for avoiding breast thrush? I'm on loads of antibiotics at the moment and really don't want thrush but it's something l tend to get now and then so I reckon I'm def at risk!

Sorry haven't been on for ages - haven't been able to catch up properly. Hugs to those of you who are struggling. I've been diagnosed with pnd & started on sertraline. Have been having severe anxiety & feel desperately unhappy. I have no interest in anything, and dread each day. Baby sipper sleeps reasonably well & bf well but I just feel overwhelmed & like I cant cope. DH has been amazing, as have midwives. And to top it all off my section wpund is infected! Started antibiotics friday.
Hoping I'll start to feel better soon, and to those of you who are also struggling, you're not alone.

@CoxsOrangePippin I don't know that there's anything evidence based but things I tried were obviously really good hand hygiene after using the loo or before feeding, dry boobs with a separate clean towel daily after showering do NOT use your normal bath towel that's been near your feet or bits, tea tree wash, probiotics, boil wash bras and anything else that could transfer spores as the spores can survive a normal wash or a hot iron on them but only if they're cotton. There's probably more I'll post when I remember!

@Sipperskipper huge hugs for you, hope the tablets kick in soon. Well done for getting help promptly that is so important,

@beanturnipandspud we were the same with less cards and visitors for #2 weirdly though we got tons for BabyTea perhaps it's the age gap we've got maybe people have forgotten!

@ClaireSunflower I don't know what the answer is but it sounds rubbish, it would seriously annoy me too! Why is she Skyping daily??

Sounds like a few of us having wobbles now. This is the coalface of newborn parenting isn't it? Just had BabyTea's first poonami. I'd just got him down for a nap finally and he'd had 15 minutes before a series of farts and wailing only to find him with poo up his back, everywhere! Then he peed on his face whilst I was trying to clean him up.

Thanks @teainbed lots there that I haven't been doing esp re towels so I will start now!

Congratulations @CoxsOrangePippin @savagehk @MrsJW15 glad you're all safe and well. Looking forward to squishy photos!

There's been a flood of babies recently the FUC is getting smaller every day! ☕️🍰 to keep you going for now though!

@Autumnsweater hope it's going well for you today 🤞

@Sipperskipper big hugs, well done for recognising that you needed help, it's a big thing to admit! 💐

Day 15 in the Baby Rise house and sleeping is much improved... she seems to be getting longer by the minute though so I'm now researching other feeding positions because she doesn't really fit longways across me anymore 🤔

Weighed myself this morning and I now weigh less than before I was pregnant 😳 my maternity trousers/jeans are too big but my pre pregnancy clothes are too small 😖 Need to make a shopping trip...

I'm having a bit of a down day 😥 I've had the most sleep over night since baby was born (I expressed yesterday so DH could do a feed) but since I've woken up I've just been a milk machine.

I had to cut baby's first feed a bit short as one visitor arrived. She left and I fed again but then had to cut that one short as my BIL arrived (whilst DH was still out playing tennis). Then I've fed Baby and spent an hour expressing to get 2 feeds worth stockpiled.

It just feels like DH is able to carry on with his "old" life whilst I'm just stuck attached to a baby or otherwise my life revolves around the feeding schedule of the baby. And then DH spends his time with the baby asking me to tell him what to do - for example, for me to tell him if baby needs picking up due to crying. I'm as new to this lark as he is!! And more sleep deprived... 😫

@Sipperskipper hope you are ok and start to feel better soon.

I'm now two weeks in. Had trouble getting baby to sleep in his crib then a week in we had a breakthrough. Last night it all went to pieces and ended up cosleeping which I didn't want to do. I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed by it all now, does anyone have any suggestions on getting him to sleep in his own bed? I've tried swaddling but he keeps escaping.

Congratulations Mrsjw, savage, and coxes. Hope you are getting on well with your little ones.

Barnes not surprised you're struggling with that, time for a proper talk with DH? Hope things improve.

Claire and sipper really sorry to hear about how you're feeling. Definitely don't be strangers on here, use us to rant at, tell us you're sad, whatever you need. You're both very brave for sharing, please ask for all the help you need and take it. There is no rhyme or reason for who feels good and who feels down a lot of the time after such a life changing event. Sending you hugs 💐

Good luck autumn!

sipper well done for getting the help you need. I find the times when I'm depressed are also the times I'm least good at getting help, so good on you!

Today LittlePippin is not just feeding lots, he's feeding constantly from empty breasts and coming off every 2 minutes to express his displeasure!

@Rabbitykins55 I have no solution, I gave in to co-sleeping because it allowed me some sleep and stopped me worrying about falling asleep with her while sitting up. Given how hot it's been I haven't tried putting her in her cot again, if you find something that works let me know!

Congratulations @CoxsOrangePippin , glad to hear you're on the mend

@ClaireSunflower sorry to hear you're struggling. My dad drives me crazy at the moment with his moody attitude and I cannot cope with him, my hormones, newborn and his tongue tie. I feel your pain.

@Sipperskipper you're very brave with sharing and it's important you are getting help. 🌷

@1004Rise I'm jealous! My tummy is still sticking out 😩

My nipples are shattered and I'm counting hours to Tuesday BF drop in group. Hopefully I can get second opinion needed to be referred for tongue tie assessment and treatment.

@1004Rise It's getting me down because it's two steps forward, three back. He's done it so I know he can. Will persevere again tonight. 😴

Baby W is out of special care and on the ward with us! Not sure quite when we will be able to leave - hopefully by Tuesday. Lots of support here but obviously noisy and it would be nicer to be home with all our things.

@Barnes79 that sounds so frustrating. Is it worth having a chat with him?

@1004Rise sounds like the perfect opportunity for buying a summer wardrobe.

@Sipperskipper I'm glad you are getting the help you need. Well done for being honest about what you need.

That's good news @MrsJW15 - I hope you both get out of there soon

@Rabbitykins55 I don't cosleep and we're now using the cot. I think if it's what you want you have to persist but it can be tiring. I swaddle BabyTea (with arms out) and shush and pat him in my arms or on my shoulder (I don't rock or walk). When he's really asleep (feels floppy, heavy, relaxed breathing) I lay him down and tuck him in. Warming the cot with a hot water bottle and putting a muslin with some breastmilk on it or a tshirt that you've worn can help.

Great news @MrsJW15

@teainbed thank you, that's helpful. Maybe I'm not swaddling tight enough. I was prepared for sleep deprivation but I didn't expect to have to hold him all day and night. Me and my husband were piggybacking sleep in between feeds but he's going back to work and that's not really an option although he'll do some as and when necessary. I feel like such a rookie. I must've read everything regarding sleep on the internet, it all says it's normal but nothing tells you how to fix it.

@Rabbitykins55 there's loads of videos on YouTube showing various techniques about getting babies off to sleep. The Dr who wrote Happiest Baby on the Block has got one that's pretty helpful.

@teainbed @Rabbitykins55 We have the Happiest Baby on the Block DVD and I can't recommend it highly enough. Works brilliantly for us to keep him settled at night (and during any other meltdown).

Thanks @KLane and @teainbed off to google and possibly Amazon prime now!

Been a while since I was on MN so even if the thread doesn't move quite as fast as it used to, I've difficulties catching up.
@Barnes79 make sure you chat to OH before MIL comes and avoid getting on edge as she's really not worth that anger coming from you. You seem to know she doesn't mean that bad, but if she doesn't have girls herself, she maybe won't ever have the the opportunity to be very involved with the birth of a grandchild. If I'm wrong, just tell me to do one but I don't know how to deal with MILs who are not as warm to me as to their son.
@Sipperskipper first of all big hug! Also what a heroine you are for acknowledging and telling us that you have PND! I hope your therapy helps you and you get the practical help you need to get past this! It has been a fear of me to get into PND myself and my OH as well as we both had mental health issues in the past. Luckily our area is extremely good with helping out (perinatal) mental health issues.
Please feel free to message me but let me know if you did this for the first time so I can check my webpage interface instead of the app.

I've been working on getting my birth story ready, so after a bit of reading through I'll copy it to the thread x
Congrats to all ladies I've missed who've had babies and courage to those still waiting it out in the heat!

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news rabbitykins but this is what babies do. You won't find a fix because there's no problem. Your baby is so young and just wants to be close to you and by the time you read up and google and try things etc your little one will have naturally sorted itself out.
I'm not trying to be harsh- I was up from 12am until 4am with baby last night then up at 6am with my toddler- I know exactly how you're feeling! It is so tiring and you feel desperate but you do what you have to do to get through and then by around six weeks (or earlier!) they can sleep more independently.