Due october 2007: part 2 (knicker checkers anonymous continued)

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Whoops and Taichi - so for your loss. I hope you both get the happy ending you deserve very soon.

love and hugs.

ejt

Hi all, so who has snow? We did have this morning but it is lovely and sunny now.

ejt, I am probably going to show my ignorance here but what match are you singing in? Am I sounding like one of those women who go "oh is there football on?" when it is the world cup final or something?!

J20 glad you are feeling more positive.

Greedy, dont mention twins, I am terrified of that! I just feel so big and in the back of mind that thought is lurking. I have no reason to think this other than the size of my belly but like you say, it probably will happen to one of us. (Please not me please not me please not me)

Nice to hear from you Mrs, how are you feeling?

Morning all! We had snow, but not much. It was already melting by the time we left the house...

J20 - glad you're feeling a bit better!

Fifi - was thinking of you at the weekend. Dh is away and I had to look after ds mostly by myself. Last night, I fell asleep at 20:00. I don't know how you manage with 4/5? little ones and being pg!!

Greedy - it won't be me either since they only saw one baby at the 8 week scan.

MrsMcJnr - nice of you to pop in. Hope you're feeling a bit better...

Had more movements over the weekend which was nice. This one seems to be quite active in the evening so now (already!) fretting that we might have a nocturnal baby this time around...

morning everyone!!how is everyone today?

had booking visit yesterday.mw retires on thursday and she was telling me the balls up here at the mo.there are only 4 mw's covering our entire area.(thats from pwlhelli,all the villages in between,including criccieth,right down to harlech!and going over beddgelert,betws y coed and blaenau!)she also said that they ahve changed the times you get seen ante natally.i will be seen at 16 weeks,28 weeks,34 weeks and 38 weeks,oh and 41 if i go over.its ridiculous!its just not reassuring at all.and after i have the baby she said that i will be lucky to see a mw in the first 10 days after birth!if anything goes wrong,you have to go up to the hospital to be seen.shes not happy about the changes but she said that tey havent thought about the impact its going to have on all teh rural areas.

im having my blood done on wednesday before i go for my scan,and she said i will see the consultant at 16 weeks because of previous probs with my pregnancies and because i had a c section.

anyway,ive got her to put in my notes about the baby having cord blood taken at birth to check for cf,and she said i ahve to tell them at every check up i have until babs comes as they probably will forget!

its left me with no faith in it all at all!!!

hoep everyone else doesnt have any probs!

am excited about wednesday!!!

mump neither do i at times!!!ive got 5 by the way!!

im falling asleep at around 7-8pm now aswell.cant believe how knackered i am all the time!

Morning all - hope everybody had a happy mothers' day ... MrsMc - it was lovely to 'see' you pop in - hope you're recovering well.

Well, Saturday was a fabtastic day - but incredibly exhausting. We were rehearsing and hanging around outside (in the freezing cold with no bleedin coats - nowhere to put them) from 2pm - 4.45pm ..... but once we got on the pitch, it was an awesome feeling! (Kezza, the 4 choirs were singing before the Wales - England rugby game) ... we didn't win the competition, but as we went into hospitality, and were able to get warm (and we had free food and a couple of free drinks - water for me) - I was more than happy. Superb day, and an experience that may never be repeated!

Yesterday was a complete right-off, and I've got acupuncture at 12.30 ...

love to all my fellow knicker-checkers ... and Verso, nobody has banned you from talking about your past experiences - I've talked about mine enough!

fifi - the mw situation by you sounds dreadful - have you thought about perhaps hiring a doula?

ejt thing is with a doula they cant sort you out if you have any medical probs with pregnancy,and i usually have bad pregnancies!

i have a friend that is a mw at teh hospital where i will have babs,so i guess if ever im worried i can always go and chat to her.

i was just gobsmacked that things have changed and been cut back so much since dd3 arrived in 2004!and i think that they are going to get alot of probs and complaints especially as its such a big area for only 4 mw's to cover.(im assuming it'll be 2 on days and 2 on nights,dont see hos they could all work days it'd leave no one to cover the nights)

all those place names sound so familiar fifi! my in laws live on anglesey so we are up your way quite a lot! my scan is wed too!
i cant believe some of you have such exciting lives..........singing at rugby matches.wow! i was working on saturday! how boring!!!

spent yesterday with my parents, my brother and my sister. they ALL know i am pg and not one of them mentioned it all day! i was a bit upset! i ended up mentioning it, just so that i could talk about it for a bit. i know its really selfish of me.
last time i was pg i felt like it wasn't as important to my family as the first time, and now this time i feel like it will barely get aknowledged.
my dh isn't much better! he actually said goodnight to my tummy last night and had a little chat with the baby............but that is the first time he has done that this pregnancy. i am hoping when he comes to the scan with me it will seem a bit more real to him and he might start realising i am pg!

what is it like for you fifi on your sixth time round?

God - I wish my family were more like that. My dad and my sister have already started patting my non-existant bump which really irritates me! I know they are just excited, but I wish they'd back off until there is actually something there!

greedy it still doesnt seem/feel real!!i keep thinking how will i cope with another one,but i know i will.ive probably thought the smae with all of them at some point!!it was harder when i had number 1,2 and 3.they were all under 5!so i think having a newborn with dd3 at home,will be a doddle!!!

good luck aswell with your scan!!i cant wait for mine,will feel real then when i know he/she is fine!

do you want to swap families for the next 6 months then? my mum has organised a girly weekend away on my due date too and i was kind of relying on her to have my kids for me when i am huffing and puffing! i know its not all about me..........but sometimes i would like it to be!!!!!

dont tell me 3 under 5 is tough fifi! i dont want to hear that!!!! my ds will be just 4 and my dd will be 2 1/2 when this one comes out! you are supposed to say it will be a piece of piss!

your mum sounds like mine!i told her i was pg and she asked when would "it" be born as she was going to book her holiday for the end of september!(mine usually come early)

wherabouts on anglesey are your parents?we went for a drive there on saturday.wanted to go to gaerwen but dh didnt.

oh yes sorry greedy,3 under 5 is soooooooooooo easy!!!mine were 3,18mths and baby.it was a piece of piss!bedtimes and bathtimes were wonderful!!!(am i sounding convincing????!!!)

And my mum has already said "Well, it would be nice if it was a little girl this time". Me "I don't mind. It would be nice to have a girl, but another boy would probably be better company for ds." Mother "Yes, but it be nice to have a daughter."

My dad was in Moscow when ds was born and didn't come back for almost a month afterwards, which annoyed me after all the fuss he made during my pg. My mum was around although neither dh nor I wanted to call her until it was all over. I can see why you might want your parents around to help with existing children though.

But it depends on your relationship with your parents, I guess. I think we're going to ask our neighbours to help out, rather than my parents. Much easier and closer!

my friend in hull wants to come over and look after ours when i go into hospital.thing is it will probably be too late by the time she gets here!unless i get induced again and then i'll have a date for her to come!failing that my mum and step dad will have to have my mob!(she didnt book her holiday)

my parents are fab normally! guess im just feeling a bit sorry for myself cos i want everyone to make a huge fuss of me and THIS baby! if my dh was more interseted then maybe i wouldn't mind no one else aknowledging it! morning sickness has been pants the last few days and i just wanted some sympathy really!

they live in beaumaris, its beautiful! but its my in laws, not my parents. glad to hear having 3 is so easy! i knew it would be!!!!!!

Sending lots of "fussing" vibes your way, greedy!

Must admit that dh insisted on getting me something from the kitchen last night (can't remember what) because I was pg, so I am feeling a little fussed over.

thanks mumpy!

greedy - I shall fuss over you too if you want. ...

fifi - I found when pg with ds (and midwifery in crisis in our area then) that those friends who had hired a doula magically got more attention from the midwives ... very cynical I know, but that's why I'm going to hire one this time around!

mumpbump - when pg with ds, my mum fussed so much I couldn't bear (sp?) it - and dreaded ds being born - as soon as he was, she backed off .... pil on the other hand didn't mention pg whenever I saw them, but turned into the il from hell the minute ds was born ... things are going the same way this time too ... (all mil said when she found out was "well, well" - then changed the subject) My mum's fussing drives me mad, but I know it's because she's desperately concerned for me ... and because she's a worrisome worrit!

hi everyone

i spent a couple of hours yesterday at my bro's cos him and his dp did a buffet for their mums, i went purely for the food!

nobody is interested in my pg really, apart from my bro'd dp, cos she wants a baby bridesmaid for next June but my mum is so wrapped up in her dp, all they talk about is themselves, didn't even get me anything for mothers day from my dd, although my bf did, bless her.

i've no idea what i'm going to do at the birth, probably be on my own , unless me and bf can get babysitters for my dd and her dc, otherwise she will be looking after my dd for me while i'm in labour.

fifi...i live in Hull, if your friend wants to make herself available to me!

mrsmcjnr...lovely to hear from you, hope you are ok.

well...i had an exam at college today, so hopefully i will have mon afternoons free from now on, yeay!

i have to take my cat to the vets tommorrow as i'm pretty sure she is pg, me and my flaming great ideas!

my tummy is huge at the moment, definately look pg and my bra size as already gone up 2 cup sizes to a 34F, i got measured on sat and the lady at m&s said definately no underwired as the breasts are changing and the tissue can be damaged, so i went to a different shop and bought 2 underwired ones, well i need them for the support! ;)

nothing else to report, hope you are all well x

Yep, no fussing happening here, either . More a case of 'get on with it' I think.

Gone up to a 36DD... and counting. No idea what size I went up to last time as I ended up in those grim stretchy 'feeding' bras, which seem to just streeeettttttcccchhhhh and give no support whatsoever. This time round I'm sticking to my underwires to the bitter end (or at least until they get too uncomfortable).

Interested in the doula conversation earlier, though I would possibly be looking for a post-birth one as I'm expecting to have a cs this time round and would like some help with the recovery period, unlike trying to crawl to the kitchen with my damaged bits like last time!

Have also looked into maternity nurses so I don't have the whole complete-loony-due-to-lack-of-sleep-scariness that I had last time (hallucinations, hysteria, panic attacks etc)... but SOOOOOOO expensive. Might still be worth it though, given that my Mum is worse than useless (asked me last time at about three weeks when I would be getting the little one on a routine, and also told me happily that "we used to leave you outside crying in the garden for hours and it never did you any harm" ). I just know she will come down and demand cups of tea and meals at 'proper' times and 'tut' when I haven't cleaned despite being in pain...

do I sound bitter?!

well, really! Sometimes I whisper sweet nothings to my DD about how I will ALWAYS be there for her. Very mushy I know - but heartfelt.

(sorry for obscure ramblings!!)

My mum used to come over to "help" and used to bring food with her. It always involved a 3-course meal which I would end up heating up and then having to wash up after. It would have been much easier if she hadn't as dh and I could easily have lived on one-pan meals. She also is of the ilk that always comments on how messy the house is (we have had major building works done in the last two years and still have virtually no storage) and how I am going to have to stop spoiling ds, ie. giving him lots of cuddles... Drives me up the wall!!