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Frillyhorseyknickers · 19/03/2017 22:45

I couldn't see one - hopefully I haven't duplicated...

A weekend of centerparcs and I'm marshmallowed out!!

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MrsY87 · 27/03/2017 13:04

Lovely scan pic Olivers!

Welcome say! I recognise your name from the ttc after miscarriage thread, really lovely to see you here! Smile

oliversmummy26 · 27/03/2017 15:29

I had my 16 week midwife appointment this morning, she heard the heartbeat which is lovely, didn't dig in my tummy nearly as hard as I do when I search for it!

I said that I'm still feeling very run down and tired, nausea is back, back ache, indigestion, headaches...she did suggest seeing the GP as maybe he would sign me off for a week to get a bit of a rest..I hadn't considered that, and to be honest I think I would feel a bit cheeky asking, never mind telling work! I sort of feel like this is all par for the course and I should just put up with it!? I have a week off next week because of school holidays, but it won't be much of a holiday as I'll be looking after DS!

flymo79 · 27/03/2017 23:56

Take the time off olivers! Like you say you won't get a break with a child at home...
Star I'd call the midwife just to be on the safe side. Everything's getting a bit twingy for me but had no bleeding or anything so able to convince myself all ok

Fluffywallow · 28/03/2017 06:58

Olivers definitely take the time off, it'll do you the world of good. I was on annual leave yesterday so no work and no toddler and I can't tell you how good it felt.

Had my 16 week appt with my consultant yesterday, first time I've met them and she's nice which is good. Made my request for a cs so now I have to see a few other specialists to talk it over and then if I still want to go ahead they'll sign it off at 34 weeks. They'd deliver at 39 weeks which would mean 1st September! Part of me thinks this baby will be delivered before then (i had growth issues with my first) so I may well end up with an august baby. Makes deciding when to finish work a bit tricky!!

Travelgeek · 28/03/2017 08:43

I'd agree with having the week off olivers, you resting and feeling well for the baby is more important than work. When i read that I was a bit envious! Work is full on at the moment for me. I couldn't keep my eyes open yesterday and had to have a 20 minute lie down in the 1st aid room. I've got a few days off over easter to look forward to though.

Its good you liked the consultant fluffy.

oliversmummy26 · 28/03/2017 11:18

Thanks ladies, I might see how I go this week at work and then next week with DS at home. I think just being out and about and having time at home will be good as it will take my mind off all my symptoms. When I'm busy I feel so much better, but on slow days at work it's really difficult to not feel like crap, when feeling like crap is all I can think about!

I did wake up this morning and think how nice it would be to drop DS at school then come home and clean the house - it's such a pig sty! So we will see, I would feel so bad taking time off just because I'm pregnant though.

Fluffy do you mind me asking your reasons for a section? I need to make a decision after EMCS with DS and still not sure which way to go. I think I would prefer an elective section though, seeing specialist midwife in 5 weeks to talk it all though. 39 weeks for me would be 5th September (and DS's first day back at school, into a new class, new teacher Confused

Fluffywallow · 28/03/2017 11:40

Be sure to take care of yourself Olivers, i know it's hard as you habitually put yourself bottom of the queue when you have kids and a job but rest really is important, especially if you have horrible side effects of pregnancy.

I'm having a cs because of my birth with my DD. Long story short she stopped growing at 34 weeks and they missed it until 42 weeks, when they induced me pronto. Ended up with a forceps and an episiotomy and a 2.5 litre haemorrhage resulting in 2 blood transfusions and a stay in high dependency unit. I didn't hold my DD for ages after she was born and was really very poorly for weeks afterwards. They say there's a medical need but would support my decision either way - I just have to see a specialist midwife and a birth reflections team (which I've done before but they want me to do again) and then we can set a date when I see them at 34 weeks. I'm really happy with my decision having done a lot of reading up on it - I would be worried the whole pregnancy otherwise. From the little I know I think they are quite supportive of elcs's after emcs's aren't they? I'd suggest reading the NICE guidelines as that tells you exactly what protocol they should be following.

On the plus side at least your ds would be distracted whilst you were in hospital!

oliversmummy26 · 28/03/2017 14:15

Wow Fluffy what a time you had with your DD! No wonder you are plumping for an elective, I would be the same in your situation!

I think it can depend on who you see and their personal views, I've heard that midwives can be more pro-VBAC and consultants more ELCS, so I think it varies a lot.

I did think DS would probably create less fuss on his first day back if grandparents were dropping him at school than if I was!

21 weeks is such a long time to wait to speak to someone about it, and I know that the midwife isn't going to be the one to make the final decision so will have to see a consultant too presumably. I just think I would feel happier knowing that it was all settled, my biggest fear is trying for a VBAC and ending up with EMCS anyway, but I will have to wait and see what they say.

SpringSpringSpring · 28/03/2017 16:12

I've been thinking about having time off too but it will cause upheaval for my students so I don't know what to do. I'm exhausted, dizzy and headachy though and can't see anything except rest getting me back to normal. Any tips on miracle cures welcomed!

LouLou030783 · 28/03/2017 16:34

Wow fluffy don't blame you for opting for the section how scary

I have my consultant appointment tomorrow although think this will be one and only app with her although not sure

Howe everyone been feeling?? I'm shockingly tired at the mo pregnancy tiredness combined with a teething cold filled 8 month old is not fun

puttingourhoodupdown · 28/03/2017 18:01

Deffo take the time off olivers, will do you the world of good.

Eugh I'm so ill, got a hacking cough and can't sleep for more than 3 hours a night between coughing and vomiting. Praying for a decent night tonight otherwise I think I'll lose my mind Sad

Fluffywallow · 28/03/2017 18:29

Sorry to those feeling poorly, it's so extra grim to feel unwell when pregnant. Spring take some time off - it really does help and you'll thank yourself for it.

Just notice one born every minute is back on soon....always a bit funny about watching it pregnant! But I do love it....

Fluffywallow · 28/03/2017 18:31

And Olivers can you request an earlier consultant appt if you're worried? I agree it's a long time to wait for any reassurance. Alternatively the birth reflections team I'm seeing is common in most hospitals now...maybe enquire about that? I found talking through my birth really helpful and it might help you decide conclusively what you'd prefer.

Travelgeek · 28/03/2017 18:45

Ooh, do I want to watch One Born Every Minute or avoid scaring myself further having already read a bunch of birth stories on MN in the last week or so?! I enjoyed Call the Midwife but appreciate its not exactly a documentary!

Decaf tea and cake to those feeling rubbish. Cake

Lules · 28/03/2017 19:10

I liked watching it when I was pregnant the first time. Don't think I could watch it now.

EssentialHummus · 28/03/2017 19:23

I struggled enough with Call the Midwife, no One Born for me. Will make DH watch Grin.

Travelgeek · 28/03/2017 19:24

That's really interesting Lules. I'm curious why?

Fluffywallow · 28/03/2017 19:31

Same Lules it doesn't hold the same appeal as pre babies but I do love when all the gory bits are over and babies are in their arms!

Lules · 28/03/2017 19:35

I think because it would bring my own birth back to me too much. It was ok but I don't really want to think about it. And I have less interest anyway having gone through it myself.

LouLou030783 · 28/03/2017 19:53

Oh I love one born

Travelgeek · 28/03/2017 20:10

I get that. The fascination is that it's the unknown. When you've done it yourself there is no mystery. As a first timer, I'm intrigued but dont know if I'll find it frustrating that I don't know how I will respond, how things will go!

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Frillyhorseyknickers · 28/03/2017 20:26

Bleugh just got back from a shitty day working in London. Shitty early start on the 07.07 into kings cross, nice walk to the office because I can't do with rush hour tube, shitty meetings all day, shitty beige lunch and heartburn hell, shitty budgets and then to top it off a shitty 1.5hour train journey stood up because I missed the train I was meant to be on.

I'm absolutely done with commuting to London and I've emailed my boss already this evening to tell him that.

God. Where's that alcohol free gin?!

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sherbertlemon17 · 28/03/2017 21:17

I love OBEM! It's obviously edited so you only see the most "interesting" bits, but I'm a blurry eyed mess with every baby that's born 🙈

Frilly sending hugs. Flowers That sounds completely shit!

Heyitsholly · 28/03/2017 21:44

I had a consultant led induction which failed and lead to an emcs
And significant blood loss. There is no way in hell im being induced again. I would like a vbac but sense tells me a csec is better for childcare with dd. I think ive got a lot of thinking to do

Heyitsholly · 28/03/2017 21:45

I couldnt watch one born for the first year as i was so traumatised by my birth. Love it again now Rose tinted glasses firmly back on lol

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