May 2017 #9 3rd trimester!

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Hello all! Now to find a way to guide you to the new thread...

I worried about being away from work last time but it was totally fine when I went back after a year. I'm more worried this time as my work have been taken over so there's a good chance head office will just take my work and do it there. But then I doubt I'll get it back! TBH, with 2 in nursery it'll be barely worth me working so unless I get my exact job back then I probably won't bother. It's given me enough experience to hopefully find a similar one elsewhere.

I've so far bought one pack of vests. And that's it. Getting a bit panicky as still need to gut the spare room and order a bed for cosleeping, try and stop cosleeping with DS, buy everything I need, read my hypnotherapy book, pack hospital bag, get everything tidied and handed over at work, do 2 exams for work and get baby stuff down from loft and cleaned etc. And yet I sit each evening watching TV instead

My MW asked if I'd booked onto antenatal classes so I said I just wanted to do the labour ones but she checked and they're already full. Last time I just had to turn up! I suppose it's better that my space goes to a 1st time mum, but still.

Fox that's brilliant!

MrsJW mine talked about a stag to Las Vegas in June. He got rather swift and told the lads he couldn't get his permission slip signed... not just that I don't fancy being left to it for a week, but we also can't afford it with LO's arrival. He is going on another stag next weekend to Barcelona before I fly out to meet him aswell.

I probably shouldn't watch, but what channel was 'The Replacement' on?

Autumn I had the same talk from my boss... 'I know you mean well, but let's not talk about return to work yet - you don't know how you'll feel'... perhaps not, but I know what will be happening with my bank balance if I don't!

Dream you'll be fabulous whatever I'm sure of it!

Bean I'm genuinely speechless what the actual F!?... don't bring your newborn to our wedding, but I want to be at the birth! Some cheek...

Rasperry it's really irritating isn't it don't think DH is getting the same reaction somehow.

I'm amused to hear of all these stag do's! - I thought it was just my dilemma!
My DH did have a stag do planned for the end of June... (potential 6wk old baby plus 17mo DD) - unfortunately the betrothed couple are no longer a couple... I was secretly pleased on the holiday front... however it turns out that the stag 'cant' be at home on his potential stag date so a 'lads' holiday arose. We agreed that I would fly with the 'lads' and DH and DD and meet my DM at the airport, and stay with her whilst the boys stayed a couple of towns over. Perfect. Except my DM can't get a full week off of work, and with DD I was just finishing up bleeding at 5-6wks, and running around after DD in the heat and having to carry the newborn I just had a bit of a meltdown and demanded that I stay at home! luckily nothing was actually booked at this point. However they now have a cheaper holiday booked for a full week! I have good friends that will pop over after various work shifts which should enable me to shower, plus DD will be in nursery P/T so I'm sure we'll cope fine..
I keep forgetting to go out on my lunch and buy maternity tights so am kicking myself every time my normal tights roll or slip. It's so annoying and it's my fault! I miss the ones I brought for DD.. think they were marks'. Question is, do I order now with a potential 8 weeks left at work?!

bean that's terrible!

I asked DH if he wanted to go on a stag in late May and he said no! I did offer! My parents will be around and older kids at school during the day and at activities at the weekend but he doesn't seem that keen.

My DSis came round this afternoon with Moses basket, loads of bedding and blankets, newborn clothes, muslins and various bits and bobs we've given her over the years. It was really cute seeing some of the stuff that my eldest wore that is still in good condition and coming back for my newest! She's really good at cleaning and packing them all nicely too so they're all labelled beautifully and stored in nice bags. Feel nearly ready!

Cousin H is a pure spoilt brat. Always has been. I am used to it which is why I want overly shocked at the comment. She couldn't understand why I couldn't express and my MIL look after spud for the wedding. I explained that baby could potentially be 2wks old and where ever he goes I go. So either we're both at the wedding or neither of us. (I'm not fussed about going, would much prefer to be at home being un-fabulous in my pyjamas!) 😂

As for the birth cousin H's sister is bean & turnips god mother and is on standby on the day incase nana can't cope etc and will take them out of house. Cousin H thought as her sister may be there that she could book a ticket! Put her in her place! Ahh families!

Sorry I've forgotten who the OP was about families but I have nothing to do with my own mother, and have a much easier life without her. But i also get lonely sometimes where all I really want is a chat with my mum. I haven't told her I am expecting this time. Which is sad but definitely for the best x

Phew! Glad to hear most of you will just have DH at birth with you. I was starting to feel weird for not wanting loads of fuss. Pil live close by so may want to visit us in hospital but they would be respectful and wait to be asked. My mum lives an hour away so would more likely come in the following days. I like the idea of having a few quiet days on our own before the madness of visitors starts.

DH is missing out on a stag in Amsterdam 2 weeks before my DD and also most likely missing the wedding for the same couple (as obviously am I) as it's 2 weeks after DD. It's a shame - if it was local would be possible but it's in the highlands of Scotland so way too remote! They're close friends so we're both a bit gutted but they unexpectedly fell pregnant - due 6 weeks after their wedding - so I'm happy they understand how you can't plan everything!

There's an element of truth to my conception/birth theory. Certainly you want to be somewhere you feel comfortable and safe and away from prying eyes at any rate.

MrsJW no worries probably the reality check I needed

Fox love that theory!

Bean at your cousin!

Our workshop this week is all about planning the year ahead and defining our objectives and I'm feeling a bit sad that I won't be there for most of it. However it also means reality is hitting for the rest of the team, we keep looking at timelines and then I get the "when do you go off again?" question I'm not really worried about going off as my role is very flexible so although the essence of the role will be the same, the topics I work on will be different. However still not going to watch The Replacement

It will be just DH and I at the birth, don't really want family in the waiting room either, I can do without that pressure. Depending if we have found and bought a house in time we may be staying with my parents but they have plenty of space so we won't be swamped when we leave the hospital. My DPs are fairly (or so it seems) relaxed about the whole thing so will probably leave us to get on with it. My in laws are about 6 hours drive away so we need to work out what we tell them when... thing is because they're so far away they'll want to stay for a while but I haven't quite worked out how I/we feel about that. They're lovely, and because we'll be so close to my DPs I'm conscious of them not feeling left out but at the same time I'm quite a private person so I will want peace

No stag dos planned, just my cousin's wedding mid April so should be fairly safe

at your cousin, Bean!

And dream that sounds really tough. I am missing a hen and we are both missing a close friend of mines wedding because it's abroad and I thought DH should consider if he really thought it was appropriate to leave me for a weekend and come back with an expensive hangover!

Wish definitely get new tights. So worth it!

Rise - I have a similar thing that my in-laws live 2.5hrs away and are quite elderly so wouldn't manage the drive to and from my house in one day. I've already broached the subject with my DH and suggested that if they come to visit they stay in a nearby hotel. That way we can text them when baby is awake so I can sleep when baby does, plus "we" won't feel under pressure at night to stop baby crying etc, especially when still trying to work out what the heck we're doing. Selling it that way worked with my DH but I'm not sure if he's raised it with his parents yet...

Barnes that's a good pitch... think my DH would probably agree, just need to lay it on thick about there being no point us all being awake all night

bean am totally shocked!
It's just going to be me and DH at the birth. My mum would be great but I think it's more pressure if there are more people in the room... and would like us to have a little time to get used to being a family. Not going to be able to keep either set of parents away for long once baby is here though!

I am also a bit anxious about going back to work. I work in a chain of schools and have discussed going to a school closer to home as well as going part time and going back part way through the school year in January. Suspect it will be where ever they can fit me in... I think my replacement is permanent so it won't be back to that. Trying not to worry as it's possible they won't be able to tell me anything until just before I go back!

Am planning on just having dh at this birth, just like I did when I had dd. He's such a relaxing comforting guy who will know how to support me during labour and was amazing last time, even though he spent most of the time supporting one my legs as I pushed dd out (he said afterwards that he was shocked by how much blood came out after dd was born!).

We've got 2 weddings to go to during the summer (dh's two younger brothers getting married within two weeks of each other) so with it 2 stag-dos and hen-dos. Honestly don't know if I will go to either hen do unless they're local and dh has already said he won't be able to do any stag weekends as he only wants to go out for the night and then head home. We'll see if he sticks to his plan closer to the time.

Wow busy thread today ladies!!

I think it's just going to be DH and me for the birth. My dm lives abroad and was there for my sisters birth (they live in same country). I've found it really hard knowing if she should be at mine or not, or if I'll want her there. Difficult with edd's and flights as don't really want her staying with us beforehand then me going overdue She could be with us a few weeks and that wouldn't be ideal!

Think we've decided on her getting last min flight when I've gone into labour/baby's here then she's staying with a friend close by. I'm quite a private person and like my own space. Also I love her dearly but she can rub me up wrong way especially when I'm emotional! It's our first baby and we feel it's a really important time for us 2 then us 3 The guilt is tricky though!!

Love your motto fox!!

You make me chuckle sanity, you don't sound like an antisocial grumpy bugger!

autumn it can be tricky with mums can't it. Maybe she's trying not to be too pushy. Is there any way you could gauge it with her by saying a friend had her mum there or something?

Oh blimey peas!! I hope your DH doesn't have to go away for work. I'd say defo put foot down. Is there possibility of a good friend or doula helping out?

bean all I can say is Wow! Your cousin H

I think I'm just going to keep DH under house arrest for the next year! . He's an engineer and was working in Scotland and coming home at the weekend, but thankfully he came home last week and will be working close to home. There'll be no stag dos for a while!

at your cousin Bean!

I had my appointment with the senior consultant this afternoon. He said that baby is growing well, the cord is fine but there is a potential issue with blood flow between my arteries and the womb, which means they need to keep an eye on my blood pressure (in case of pre-eclampsia) and the baby's growth. He said regular monitoring should be fine though and they are hoping my section won't have to be brought forward. Feel a lot happier now anyway and I'm trying to relax a bit again. Next scan is on Monday.

Good news Northern !

Oh that does sound good Northern!

Good news Northern!

All these stag dos! DH is going to one at 35wks but it's only a couple of hours away and we'll miss the wedding as it's around the EDD. Then we have two weddings in August so hope I'm coping ok by then.

Def not having any parents at the birth and probably prefer to not tell them I'm in labour - much as I love them all.

Great news northern bonus extra scans too looking on the positive side.

I've just realise I'm nearly 28 weeks and although I'm getting backache I haven't had the 'kicked in the fanny' spd that I had last time from about 25 weeks! I wonder if it's because I'm not stuck behind a desk this time? Still expecting it to start at some point...

I will watch The Replacement as I'm a sucker for a bit of drama but I feel for anyone worried about being pushed out. I stopped work when pregnant last time and will need to find a job next year, when we are back in the UK we will need 2 incomes. I think it will be tricky getting back into it especially as I'm not sure how easy it is to get flexible working as a new employee? On the flip side I will never regret spending time at home with my small ones whilst they were tiny and squidgy.

We will be missing a family wedding in June sadly and DH has a friend getting married in July which is child-free. When we thought we were coming back in July he was intending to go by himself which I was going to veto frankly. I have no problem with people not wanting children at their wedding but either we all go or none of us do (ok might be feeling a bit hormonal about this!) Managed to cry twice this morning before 8am which I think is a record

What a relief Northern!
Can not wait for my massage tomorrow! Busy weekend ahead as well with rehearsal and concert Saturday and baby show on Sunday!

Argh think the baby is breech as of last night he/she was definitely head down but some massive swinging movements overnight and now I think I can feel a head under my ribs on the right and it's back down my right side. I know there's loads of time to turn but it clearly spent a lot of time and effort trying to get in that position last night!

Morning ladies, can't believe there are 240 posts on the new thread already. I struggle to keep up.

Had my 31 week appointment yesterday and was told the baby is on the 95th centile based on fundal height. That gives an estimated birth weight of 10 pounds and I have gone two weeks over in both other pregnancies. Really starting to panic about it.

Have also not felt quite right the last few days with lots of painful cramps low down and it looks like I have a UTI, but midwife has sent of a sample to check. This morning I feel like crap - sick and dizzy. Luckily I'm not in work buy still have the two girls to look after. Also have the builders in so have quickly got dressed out of my pjs but still lying on the sofa whilst the girls watch cbeebies. Hope the builders don't judge me!

badger that's a good idea. DM can be pathologically polite sometimes which can come across as distant.

A good friend of mine was convinced she just wanted her DH at the birth - to the point of thinking it was weird of other people to have their mum there - but once actually in labour really wanted her mum there and a very surprised mum got a call in work to leave immediately and come to the hospital .

Northern, are you one of the others on here with low PAPP-A? Is your section related or for diff reason? Glad your all still on track growth wise.
I have a wedding one too. Husband is an usher, they've been friends for 20 years, out baby at only about 8wks old is NFI so thats me univited too, wedding is 150 miles away and he expects my husband to go up for 3 days of festivities (costing a bomb!) I'm planning my revenge through a shit wedding gift.
Gin make sure you call up for your results, does sound like you have a UTI, maybe call the GP and get some treatment, you really shouldn't suffer.