Early November EDD

[Jaronior]

Hi......anyone out there just found out they're expecting? Thought it might be nice to start a little thread!
I've tested this morning and got a feint BFP, have recently had 2 m/c so may be being optimistic but I'm tired of worrying!! If it works out it works out!! Fingers crossed. If it's a sticky one I'm due bonfire night! 5/11/17.
Anyone else out there the same??

I did two, 1 strip test and 1 early response test. Bought a gang of opks and both types of pg tests after chemical pregnancy last month, I'll use the cheapies over the next few days.

6 weeks today! That feels like a bit of a milestone.

Just did another strip test this morning tot reassure myself. Feel like a crazy person, but still pregnant! Phew.

Hello hoping, I'm 5 weeks today with edd roughly 12-14th so you've caught the right bus!

If #2 is as much of a boob monster as DS, they will be hiring for extra support! I was mighty jealous of the gay couple I heard of recently who both fed their baby!

I have a huge stack of ics so have been testing daily, then with the Sainsbury's cheapy that I first got my bpf on then the odd second time per day to compare how accurate the ics are

Forgot opks work, I've 80 of those I got if a very kind mner...

(I am testing for reassurance as I need to raise my thyroxine, it was a bit high last week so she wanted me to wait a bit)

7 weeks today and woke up feeling like I've been hit by a bus . Sore back, shoulders and headache . Really dreading work today

@inkybunny I feel the same hitting the 6 week mark. Strange isn't it. I'm at 7 or 8 tests. Have decided I'm doing one a week until the scan from now on as reassurance. DH thinks I'm mad but it's not harming anyone and keeps me happy

Morning ladies and welcome to all the new bpfs.

Feel a bit queasy and so so so tired. I'm having to have a nap after work most days and have been asleep by 8pm at night.

Been a bit a more achy in the last few days and crying at the daftest things. Trying to explain to DD that I'm not sad but shes giving me lots of kisses and asking if I'm "better"

Hope everyone is doing OK.

A very clear line on an IC just now, af is only due today so that's good! No bad nightmares last night, but that'd probably because I never slept deeply with ds awake most of the night feeding/choked with a cold.

Oh the bus into work was painful this morning, the nausea is definitely getting worse 😷

My nausea and retching is horrendous, and I'm so so tired. I'm literally unconscious by 8pm each night

Am 6+3 today - have given up testing now once I got a 3+ on the cb digi and a got a test line stronger than the control line on the frer.

Have my first scan on Wednesday and have received my 12 week scan letter as well - 28th April

DD is being the devil child this morning and it is making me think "shit can I actually cope with 2?"

Can I join?

Baby #4 (gulp)
Aged 38
Only 3w6d and got my BFP last week - on a regular, cheapy Boots own brand test. Thick dark line too. Slightly terrified this might mean twins!
EDD 21 Nov

I wish I could be more happy about my bfp. My partner doesn't seem that bothered and my kids know too and they ain't very enthusiastic. They are 12 and 14 so they know what it means. I'm yhe only one who is actually happy about this. My dp is even hiding it from his family although my whole family know that I am no one is happy about it . It's not like I'm new to parenting I'm 34. X

6 weeks today too (hopefully!). Only three tests which I think has been pretty restrained!
It's self referral to midwife here so called this morning and got a bloody VM saying they'd aim to get back to you in TWO DAYS!! Arrggh!
Sorry Lolly, that's crap!

Haha ilikecakes that's an exciting thought! May well be as that is super early to be getting a dark line! I'd love twins, but early scan showed just the one yolk sac, so probably not! Next scan tomorrow.
Feeling nervous, but am having slight nausea now which is reassuring. 6 + 4 today.

Is anyone having breakouts? I'm not normally particularly spotty but they are big and appearing everywhere even my legs. Any advice to help? I've tried to cut out excess sugar will that be helping or making it worse? Hope you are all well and getting rested.
@Lolly34h we've known since 23rd Feb but have not told our parents as even though we are married and in our 30s our parents are going to go bonkers. Sorry they are being this way, congratulations! X

My lower back is killing me today, feels like I've been kicked. I feel so nauseous and headachy. I feel ill not just morning sickness. Just want to lie on the cool floor and not move but have to look after DS.

Sorry in advance for the long post (!), but I'm feeling worried about some stuff that's probably silly :/

First: I'm 5+4 today and still just feeling very tired and a bit sick now and again, but nothing awful. First doctor's appointment is next Tue (21/03).

Second: For me, the worst thing is dealing with other people - i.e. keeping the secret - and dreading the massive fuss of telling them when the time comes (assuming it does). It's my first time so it'll be a big deal and I hate that kind of thing.

We visited family this weekend. On Saturday evening we went out for a meal with my parents and there was automatically a bottle of wine on the table which my dad poured between four of us. I got away with sipping mine extremely slowly (almost entirely after eating) and with copious amounts of water to dilute it; while making comments about how we're both aiming to be healthier and stop rushing through drinks, etc. And my husband sneakily had some to help me out. My dad wanted to get a second bottle and looked put out that no one else wanted it! He clearly thought something was odd. I'm somewhat known for my love of wine (I used to be a food and drink writer). Same with friends.

I know that small amounts of alcohol are very unlikely to do any harm and there's no conclusive medical evidence, but I still felt rubbish about Saturday. Otherwise, I've completely stopped drinking since we found out.

So... now we have to avoid my parents, as if they see me 'off drinking' AGAIN they will definitely get suspicious and the whole experience will be really stressful - which isn't healthy for me, either. I get really anxious about arranging stuff with friends, too, for the same reason.

As I'm 35, we're not sure whether it's better to tell people at 3 months or wait until 4 months due to tests for possible abnormalities etc. I'm especially paranoid because I drank alcohol at weekends in the first 4 weeks (because I didn't know until last week).

For reassurance, I'm wondering... A) Is minor alcohol consumption linked to causing abnormalities and B) What people think about timings for telling others, when you're 35 or over?

Not so long ago the advice was a small amount is ok, so I'm sure you're fine. A friend didn't know and was drinking herself silly and found out around 3 mo. Daughter very bright indeed!

Re telling people- I've actually told a couple of friends and my parents now but with the proviso it's very early days. Part of the reason is that I want to off load about some of the medical stress I'm worrying about as this will be a high risk pregnancy. Secondly, I think I'd need the support of those individuals if things go wrong.

In many ways I'm allowing small amounts of excitement but knowing this isn't really real till I hear the heart and have a successful 12wk scan. Also, being 40, my husband really wants foetal testing - this will be hard for me too as I teach Sen children and feel I'd rather not know unless really serious. So I think being able to discuss this with those trusted friends will be helpful.

I didn't tell people with my first till much later and had some medical issues on the way - I must say shouldering it by wasn't easy.

My mum said my sister wishes she hadn't told some people about her first pregnancy as it ended as a missed miscarriage. But I think the stigma and lack of discussion around MC is wrong. So I've chosen carefully who to mention it to.

I had an issue on Friday as the pils were up. We often have venison from the local butcher. Last min wobble over 'is it ok' (well done venison is horrid!) and DH read it's really the lead shot that's the issue. So he had to quietly slip out to get a steak to cook for me. I'm sure pils smelled a rat! Plus dh saying he didn't think I could have goats cheese when we were out for lunch! (Still to check that one! He's a worry wort.)

The other option is to buy grape juice, hide in a bag and surreptitiously swap it in the bathroom!

Hi CC..

If it makes you feel better I've been trying for two years so abstinence wears very thin and was so convinced I wasn't pregnant this time anyway that I got absolutely smashed a couple of days before I found out. And I mean smashed. A good friend of mine is a paediatric doc and whilst obv doesn't recommend it, reminded me that you don't pass anything to the baby until about 6 weeks when placenta kicks in. So sure you'll be fine.

I'm 36 and after a MMC last time (found at scan) we are being a bit more cautious about telling family but have told a few friends. Would have been totally obvious anyway and I'd rather have the support.

I'm going down the relaxed, French, school of thought on food etc! :)

Ps. For the record, I obviously stopped drinking when found out!

My sister is a doctor and used to be a registrar in obs & gynae. Many many people drink before they realise they are pregnant so please dont beat yourself up. I had a drink before getting my test.

Re testing, I've had 3 miscarriages and yes it's shitty telling people you've lost the baby. But if you would lean on those people for support if you lost the baby then tell them. Only thing worse than telling someone you care about that you've lost your baby is telling them you've lost is and actually yes you were pregnant. I've only told my Mum & Dad because I'm close to them and if I lost it I would tell them. But we've not told anyone else.

I told people at 12 weeks with DD, they do get a good idea from the scan when they do the nuchal measurement so if it's normal, whilst it's not conclusive, there's a good chance all is ok.

As I'm 40 we are debating paying for the non invasive harmony test - it's £400 so not cheap

Thanks @VIOLETsunflower - that's a very helpful insight for me. And sorry to hear about the issues you encountered.

If it turns out impossible to avoid my parents (and certain friends) for evening events over the next seven weeks, we probably will tell them the truth - but as you say, emphasise that it's early days and we don't have any medical reassurance yet.

With food, my understanding is that it's all about avoiding the risk of bacteria, which can do more harm to a pregnant person than a non-pregnant one. For example, a perfect rare steak or soft cheese wouldn't do any harm to someone pregnant UNLESS it contained bacteria. It's rare that it would, but cooking it through lowers the risk. Hard cheeses (even stilton) are all fine, as are mozzarella, ricotta, etc. But anything with a rind should be cooked - i.e. goat's cheese sizzling on a pizza. Same with cured meats.

I too would like as much foetal testing as possible, just because I'm a massive worrier and would prefer to avoid the agony of wondering for several months. Do you know how to find out what all the options are, both private and NHS? I really don't know where to start!

The doubt with the venison was that it was fresh, wild and unfrozen - freezing kills toxoplasmosis. But the DH read the bit about lead shot and didn't want me to have it (we do have it probably once or twice a month).

I don't know much about tests at all. It might vary area to area? Some can be bought privately.

With regards to food, if I avoided stuff I wouldn't have survived pregnancy with DD as everything I wanted to eat was on the no list.

I cooked unpasteurised cheese and I think the only thing I didn't eat was pate. I'm also a chef by trade so I wouldn't be able to do my job without tasting the food.

This time round I'm craving rare steaks and runny egg yolks. I know the latter is now on the safe list but if anyone even thought to serve me a well done steak I'd probably kill them.