October Babies #2 - midwife appointments and "scanxiety"

[TinySalmon]

Last thread was filling up so I thought I'd start a new one

Link to Thread #1: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2832732-October-2017-come-one-come-all?

Current October babies list:

Puttingourhoodupdown – EDD 23rd September. Team yellow
Piraterach – EDD 27th September. Team yellow
NotMyPenguin – EDD 27th September. Team yellow
mandScookiesrule – EDD 29th September. Team yellow
jeneral – EDD 29TH September. Team yellow
Presh88 - EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Mulberry2627 – EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Dinosaurkisses – EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Stickaforkinimdone EDD - 1st October. Team yellow
Emmaluggs – EDD 1st October. Team yellow
MrsMcKeon – EDD 1st October. Team yellow
Hannahjoshaw – EDD 2nd October. Team yellow
Sbs6jb1 – EDD 2nd October. Team yellow
Addtothechaos – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
Sj3rram – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
Mummabubs – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
10storeyloveson – EDD 4th October. Team yellow
Cineraria – EDD 4th October. Team yellow
gimbleInTheWabe – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
NannyOggsKnickers – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Emberblu – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Hometownunicorn – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Bubbles – EDD 6th October. Team yellow
Wapsmahoney – EDD 6th October. Team yellow
Powerpuff – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Rainingcats – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
BrioLover – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Tammie49 – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Conkerchops – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Krakentoast – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Rosalyn44 – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Trytowin – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
CarpeDiem83 – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Whyarealltheusernamestaken – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Kirsty8333 – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
HollyMay84 – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
Chintaria – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
DancingUnicorn – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
MerlinsBeard87 – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
EmmaGarrick – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
Cath1212 – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
Greentreeseverywhere – EDD 12th October. Team yellow
Wishmeluck16 – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Starfish83 – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
Pollybythesea – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
MrsCharlieD – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Zookeeper73 – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Loopyaboutmy2boys – ELCS 13th October. Team yellow
Babycarmen – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
Asilikeit – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
JackiePaper – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
TippetyTapWriter - EDD 15th October. Team yellow
ALRM – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
Fingerscrossed – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
Anotherminime – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
DaisyFranceLynch – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
TequilaSetAWatchman – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
Doomkittycleo – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
Orifu – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Walikingdeadfan – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Ppleasebob – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Boxesoffrogs – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Yellowstarred – EDD 18th October. Team Yellow
DrunkenFlamingo – EDD 18th October. Team yellow
TinySalmon – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Lovechild2016 – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Abcdemma – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Emjmoore – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Iemma321q – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Luna4689 – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Rachieg88 – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
SophieGiroux – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
Amyappletree – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
UndersecretaryofWhimsy – EDD 21st October. Team yellow
SeatOfMyPants – EDD 21st October. Team yellow
Glitterbubble – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Charmanar – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Mishmishmish – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Emwithme – EDD 23rd October. Team yellow
DrMum83 – EDD 23rd October. Team yellow
PlayOnWurtz – EDD 24th October. Team yellow
JanuaryJuniper –EDD 25th October. Team yellow
Shinysparklythings – EDD 28th October. Team yellow
DebsOctBaby – EDD 28th October. Team yellow
88claire – EDD 29th October. Team yellow
Calmisthemantra – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Miwelaisjacydo – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Donkey86 - EDD TBC. Team yellow
Dinosaursparklepup – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Chlo22 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Thepotatoesofdefiance – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Han1984 –EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rosiehukk4 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Sapphire1983 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Peabody81 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Greentreeseverywhere – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Twinklelittlestar1 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rayna – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Firsttimenearcarrier2015 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Allykatz – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Punkpuffin – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Otter16 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Reddy4no2 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Fairraid – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Missm0use – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Xxmissbrightsidexx –EDD TBC. Team yellow
Confusedat23 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rufus200 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
FluttershyStare – EDD TBC. Team yellow

Thank you all for your kind words. I've found this thread really helpful throughout, as it's a weird time not really being able to talk to anyone about such a massive thing (although I had told a couple of friends and am now very glad I did as they're being amazing)

emvy I'm so sorry. I hope it goes better for you in future.

So sorry emvy and unicorn

Found out a couple of minutes ago that my SIL just found out she's 3 months pregnant. AIBU to be angry about this!? Feel like she is stealing my thunder. She already has 2 children and me and her don't get along anyway, but this has really gotten to me.
DP's parents worship my BIL so I know the next 7months are going to be focused on her not me. I know it's selfish but they were the only ones that would have supported me.

tippety I think I will just get scanned on the NHS at 12 weeks and hopefully a membrane will be visible then (if present). However we are thinking of paying for another private scan at 10 weeks anyway. It's an emotional roller coaster over here.

Poor you under, I can only imagine. What a shock. I'd probably want a scan sooner too. I'm the type who hates not knowing. Hope you can take some time to process it all xx

Sorry brio managed to miss your comment about ultra baby in among all the other news. Thanks for the info. Even the name of the place puts me off to be honest. I'm not fussed about pics or anything, all I want is someone to scan me and say yup, there's a bean, there's its heart beat, off you trot!

unicorn and emvy I'm so so sad to hear your news. Hope you get lots of support and best of luck for the future.

Knowing what you're going through really make me try hard to feel grateful every day for being pregnant, but it's really really tough to appreciate the good in my life when I feel like death, I can't work and I can't even be a good mum. Why does pregnancy have to be like this - you want it for so long and then you're just miserable??? 😭

Just for those suffering sickness / nausea... I was prescribed cyclizine by GP and it barely touched it. I had to call in sick at work at weekend as couldn't keep anything down and struggling to even get out of bed. The consultant this morning prescribed me ondansteron and the difference in just a day has been incredible - I've kept down all meals so far today and actually feel human. I've just enjoyed my dinner for the first time in ages and even managed to clean the kitchen this afternoon. I honestly can't believe the difference!

Just popping back on to check scan news, I'm so sorry emvy & unicorn, it's just horrible news. Hope you're both as okay as you can be - be kind to yourselves and allow yourselves time... I'm a week on from bleeding starting and am very up and down, mainly feeling anger and wondering why it didn't go differently. Thinking of you 💐

Undersecretary congrats on your news from today, it must be a lot to take in though. In my pregnancy in 2015 I shared a room in hospital with a lovely lady who was having identical twins who shared a sac and a placenta. She was aiming to get to 28 weeks (think she was 24 when I was admitted). I was really poorly with HG so couldn't really talk to her much, but she explained how risky it was, and how worried they were. Funnily enough I bumped into her out shopping about 18 months later and was delighted to hear that she managed to get to 34 weeks with her boys before they were delivered, and that they are perfect. She said it was a very scary time, but so worth going through. I can only hope that you have the same happy outcome to your pregnancy. Take it easy, and try to relax as much as you can - it sounds like you will be well looked after.

Waves to everyone else, lovely to hear other good scan news, and as they say in Belgium, bon continuation!!

Sending hugs to emvy and unicorn and strength to you undersecretary x

Emvy and unicorn I'm so sorry for your losses. I hope there are people around you to support you through it. 💐

Chintaria bless you for checking in! Thinking of you. 💐

Undersecretary what an incredible rollercoaster for you... such a shock and a lot to take in. Can you ring your nhs midwife and tell them the news? Maybe they would bring your scan forward?

Oh emvy I'm so sorry. Hope you are doing ok and

unicorn same for you- I hope you're taking good care of yourself and that the next been is extra Sticky

Hey under - try not to worry too much, if it helps my best friend was told the same thing about identical twins at her 12 week scan - and it wasn't picked up until 15 weeks that they were in separate sacs. I know that seems a long time to wait but I would hold off having earlier scans as they'll probably just keep reinforcing your fears for a while until things will (hopefully) be made clearer. Thinking of you!

Hello all! Is it ok if I join the thread? Currently due Oct 23rd. Feeling a bit worried though with not having many symptoms; no real nausea or anything. With DS I was miserably sick for the first 12-14 weeks!

Tippety I think it must have been me who recommended the clipper tea (I mentioned it a while back). I love it, I've found buying it from Amazon works out the most cost effective as you can buy big packs for much less than the supermarkets.

Just checking in to say how sorry I am to unicorn and emvy. Thinking of you both

Supposedly 8 weeks today, according to GP calculations and no sign of phone call to arrange booking in appointment (have to be referred through docs, went nearly two weeks ago, she said they would call to arrange). Do I need to chase, or just wait...

Hope all is well with everyone.

Oh and under, just when you think you haven't got enough to worry about! Keeping everything crossed for you for an uneventful pregnancy and two healthy little babies in October!

Boxes I would chase... better to chase unnecessarily than find they have forgotten in a fortnights time and all the good appt spots have gone!! (Though I self referred at 4 weeks and my booking is not until 11+2! So clearly doesn't always work!!)

I would chase, i had my appointment last thursday and like u am 8 week now and just need to wait for my 12 week scan now x

I'd chase in case like me your referral has been 'lost' I'm supposed to be consultant led and when I called they said they'd not recieved a referral...I saw my gp write and send it!

I'm in a bad way today and I think it's the cyclogest doing it. I feel flat and anxious and ready to pick a fight with anyone. My belly is painful due to being badly constipated and I'm exhausted. 7 weeks today and I've got to use this stuff to 12 weeks. I want to come off it but I'm so scared to as my losses are up to 9 weeks. Anyone got any experience of using this?

Sorry for being so miserable ladies I hope once I hit 12 weeks and the anxiety fucks off ill be my usual cheery self

Sorry I haven't been on here for a few days, I've been a bit anxious because I've got a reassurance scan today and although I've got no reason to think anything would be wrong I am very very nervous.

But I just wanted to come on here to say that I am genuinely so very very sorry to hear your news unicorn and emzy . I hope you don't mind me saying but you both sound like such strong, brave women. I know sometimes you have no choice but to be brave and strong, but it really is inspirational to see how you're coping with it all.

I am really really so very sorry

Gosh, I'm so sorry, why have I written emzy when of course I know it's emvy. Really sorry about that, don't know if I can blame autocorrect or tiredness

So sorry to emv and unicorn such sad news. I hope you are taking care of yourselves, thinking of you over these next few difficult days/weeks. Hello to chintaria thanks for checking in, hope you are holding up ok.

undersecretary what a huge surprise for you, wonderful to have two strong heart beats though a good start and really hope it continues that way. Can understand your anxiety.

I buckled and decided to go for a early scan yesterday as going abroad this week and didn't want to end up with a surprise ectopic! Happily I'm about 8 weeks and saw a lovely heart beat. Feeling very lucky and much calmer.

Sorry for those finding it difficult and feeling low, with hormones all over the place we are bound to have ups and downs so don't beat yourselves up about it.

bumbling crossposted with you. Completely understand your nerves. Thinking of you and really hope all is ok xxx

I'm so sorry Emvy and Unicorn, I can only imagine how you must be feeling. I hope you both have people you can lean on and that things go your way in the near future, I am sure they will do.

Sorry to others feeling miserable too, I am in the same boat as the nausea has started and there isn't really any part of the day when I feel well. I know I'm very lucky to be going through this but it's hard not to just want the next few weeks to fly by and to hopefully feel good again.

Emvy and Unicorn I have no words for how sorry I am so have or or and

Under that is such a shock! My cousin-in-law (DH's cousin) had what they initially thought to be MCMA twins but at a later scan found out that although they shared a placenta, they had a sac each. They are now adorable six month old little girls.

Got my appointment through for my dating scan - I'll be precisely 12 weeks when that happens. Got a reassurance scan booked for 2 weeks time (when I'll be 9 weeks). I would have it sooner but DH can't make any time I can make next week so we've gone for the first time we can both do it. I just want to see a little flickering heartbeat please and thank you!

I also had a phone call from the doctors yesterday, the urine test I did for the midwife showed a UTI so I'm on antibiotics until the weekend.

play I'm on cyclogest, I've noticed that I've been a bit flat (hormones usually send me up and down like a screaming banshee but I've been all one level). I'm on them until my 12 week scan as well (which is actually at 13 weeks). I'm 10 weeks tomorrow and just starting to feel slightly more myself, but I think that's more the onandestron! I'm a walking clinic at the minute! I just see it as such a short time in reality, although feels like it's forever, and if it means a healthy baby at the end of it then it's worth it.