#TTC1 - Second Wave grads thread!

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Hello!!

This is a new wave of grads for those from #TTC1 - Those on the first grade thread are dealing with poonamis and crying babies, while we are still waving our FRER's and wondering if that line is really a figment of our imagination!

Feel free to join in, if you too are embarking on this crazy journey to parenthood!!

Welcome miw delighted to see you here - congrats!

mouse I'm so sorry to hear you having such a hard time, it's such a scary lonely time, I'm glad you've told your family and I hope that they rally around you for support. It's not nice having to temper their expectations but you just have to do what's right for you each step of the way. Whatever happens at your appointment tomorrow is just a part of your journey, sometimes it will be good and sometimes not. We are all rooting for you and are all here if you need a hand hold. I will be thinking of you tomorrow and sending love into the universe for you! Xx

Thanks for the welcome everyone. Just hope everything goes ok. I thought the TWW was bad but this is the way worse.

What do I do now?

mouse thanks for the info - I had no idea thyroid problems could have an impact. Fx for your appointment today. Completely understand the anxiety but please be assured that slow clueblue progression and no obvious symptoms don't have to be a bad thing. I have been the same with symptoms and my googling seems to indicate that plenty of people have very few. Stay strong!

miw I have come to the conclusion that positive thinking and distraction are the best ways to cope through the first trimester. I'm 10 weeks today and still have days with high anxiety worrying that all is not well. I create milestones in my head. 10 weeks was one of mine and my next one is my 12 week scan. Quite a few of us ladies paid for a private early reassurance scan around 7-8 weeks too.

Thanks mouse it's a bit of a long story but I'd already had harmony test and had another 10 days for the results. I ended up having a cvs the day of my scan because the risk of a problem was so high and at Kings their miscarriage risk from cvs is really low. It was 2 weeks before Christmas and I wasn't bothered about knowing before Xmas but I knew that everything would slow down over that time so I just wanted to
Know so that we could make decisions. All
Was fine and at least I know for definite. It was an awful time while I waited so I know how you feel.

Please don't worry about the clear blue test, I freaked myself out doing a test about 8 weeks and the line was really faint. I hope
That today goes well for you x

Just jumping on quickly to say congratulations Miw! and welcome Seahawk!

Also great news on the scan Hells

Sorry to hear your news Mouse thinking of you today and hope you get some reassurance and clarity.

Thank you for your well wishes. It's been a hectic morning. Dr was fantastic again. He's arranged for me to have an early scan on Saturday at 8am to make sure everything is ok with baby. I'll be 7+5. They have escalated my thyroid issue with the specialist and have given me medication to take in the meantime while I wait for my appointment in the next week or so. Currently trying to keep calm. Work have been fantastic but they obviously don't know I'm pregnant so I think I might have to let them know tomorrow.
Thanks ladies. Really means so much. X

Sounds promising mouse. I had my 16 week midwife appt this morning. All was fine, they listened to the heartbeat - took ages to find it so I was glad I'd had the scan on Tuesday as I was much calmer than I would have been! I've attached a picture of my scan, the baby is sucking it's thumb which I love.

Mouse, really sorry to see hear about the bloods and panic, but really pleased you've seen someone now and that you're getting good care and have the scan sorted for Saturday: they've got you on meds now, there's good reason to be optimistic. You'll be in my thoughts on Saturday.

Hells congrats on the scan

miw congrats on your BFP and welcome! I've found mindfulness, colouring in, fiction and games (board and video!) good for distraction. But it is tough!

seahawk hello and welcome

I've been feeling worse and worse with morning sickness (though not actually vommed yet fortunately) and spending lots of time eating to attempt to stave off nausea, or in bed, so if I'm quiet for a few days again that's probably why: don't know how you mostly seem to be able to carry on with work! Really pleased my PhD brings flexibility, but fear I might need to formally take leave of absence from uni if this continues - barely able to leave the house. Made it to supervision yesterday (just, ate immediately before leaving house, 10 min walk, and then pretty sick again within 30 mins!), and my supervisors think I'm optimistic to only be planning to take a month of pregnancy off... so we'll see how things go I guess!

Tried cyclizine this morning but it didn't seem to help, though don't know if maybe need to give it more of a chance. Would really like to be able to function! Could barely touched breakfast, but been able to eat since. Really pleased we have a housemate here as well as DH as he's around during days quite a bit while DH is at work, which helps with feeling less isolated. But fingers crossed this all means the bean is healthy.

skip how's your sickness now?

Great scan seahawk! Pleased all was fine this morning.

Good news mouse it's all under control and you're doing the best you can. I hope your work are supportive if you do decide to tell them.

ns when are you planning to take a month off - now or after baby?! I'm sitting at my desk, I've been tapping away on my phone for a looong time, I'm sure my colleagues are annoyed but I don't care right now. I'm also snacking constantly, I managed to get hold of a horrendously out of season watermelon but it has saved me today - low cal and delicious! My mantra is 'this won't last forever, be grateful you aren't in subsaharan Africa walking miles for water every day'. It's not helping much tbh.

Mouse - that's all encouraging news. Fingers crossed for scan.

Great scan Seahawk. 😁

That is an amazing scan pic seahawk!

mouse glad they've got a scan booked in and are starting you on some thyroid treatment. Sounds like it is all in hand.

I had an appointment today because I flagged up as high risk of blood clots from my booking in appointment. Saw a haematologist and she said no need to do anything as basically the midwife had overreacted to the risk factors.

The reason I am higher risk is because I have Crohn's disease. She asked me what medication I am on and I told her and she basically was like - woah you shouldn't be on that, especially in the first trimester.

Clearly that upset me a lot so she arranged for me to see the consultant the same afternoon. I had spoken to my crohns consultant before starting ttc and we agreed that on balance staying on the drug was a better risk vs benefit position although it does carry a slightly higher risk of congenital deformities. But the risks of my crohns flaring up during pregnancy has worse implications for baby (miscarriage and preterm labour are a couple).

ANYway, the consultant was much calmer and said that my crohns consultant would know the most recent data out there on this and if she was happy with it then he was. Which made me feel a lot better. And then he got out a little handheld scanner and showed me baby (albeit quite blurry and on a tiny screen) and it was bigger than last time, had a heartbeat and I saw it move. So was very happy! No pics to show for it though.

Sorry for long story but thought I'd share it for interest! 10 weeks now and looking forward to 12 week scan in 2 weeks!

Ps thanks for welcome x

Thanks everyone, I was so happy to get a good pic, the other scan pics were just a blur!

Music it's awful the throwaway comments they make that you obsess over, my BIL and I were talking about it last week. I'm glad you got it sorted quickly.

Had to sleep on the sofa part of the night due to lethal trumps. Even the cat wouldn't sleep with me. Pregnancy has hit a new low for me.

I've had that problem since first getting pregnant Skip - it's like something crawled up my arse and died!! Not pleasant but nausea appears to be subsiding a little at last.

Possibly a slightly tmi question here, but has anybody else here found their DTD experiences to be a little - different after getting pg? I haven't been up to any kind of funny business at all until last night as I've felt so sicky- DH has been climbing the walls! Felt ok last night so figured what the hell - and ok, I have a little assistance usually (

Miw! Knew I forgot something - welcome!!

Thanks ladies. Obviously trying to keep positive and not worry but today is going to be torturous. I've got back in work after having yesterday off and hope it keeps me focused. I have a feeling I'll be clock watching.

DH got giddy last night because I was burping like I was possessed. 🙊 The night before I was farting like someone had inflated me up with a pump! I think that's my only "pregnancy symptom" - had a light dull tummy ache on my left side for the last few days. GP said it was normal so I'm taking it all as a good sign. I'm pregnant until someone tells me otherwise. X

Everyone have a lovely Friday x

I just nearly choked on my yogurt Kav yes, I've had similar experiences! I've not felt sick at all for a while so our DTD has been pretty similar to pre-TTC, DH has been lucky with that one. I was fully prepared to feel pants for months.

kav its funny you mentioned that, I've been really off sex since feeling sick, but also made a halfhearted attempt last night - mine obviously not as earth shattering as yours lol! But my nips are complete no-go zones, and I felt really tense about him touching me!!

Kav you made me laugh out loud. Am so tired here honestly feel like have done a mountain climb not been in work all week.

I work As a 1-1 with a chap who sometimes needs lifting. Am I right in saying I shouldn't do this?

Kav yes I know what you mean! We had a ban for a month after I bled after sex but now it's great!

miw you're right - you definitely shouldn't be lifting anything that heavy, I think my mum said to me anything over 5kg but she could be wrong.

I think they say you can do what you have done before. I asked the doctor as I go to the gym and lift around 15kg - 20kg. She said to continue as before until 2nd trimester and then don't lift anything above my head.
But do what ever you feel comfortable with.

Oh yes, welcome to pregnancy sex Kav! I remember that first revelation too! Apparently it's to do with all the extra blood flow to the area! Enjoy we haven't dtd for weeks as I have had thrush for weeks which won't go away another less fun pregnancy fact!

Had my 28 week midwife appointment this morning (that's me officially in the third trimester aarrgghh!) this is where they start measuring the bump. Midwife said was right in the top percentile for what is considered normal growth she was like that doesn't 'necessarily' mean you're going to have a very large baby oh god! Not that surprised though to be honest, my bump does seem rather massive and all out in front. Making me even more convinced this is a boy!