August 2017

[Blink1982]

Wow can't believe I'm here 😁 I had a look, but couldn't see any other threads. Hopefully I won't be alone.

This will be our second baby. DS is 3.... 4 in january. EDD should be about 2nd August I think.

Hope I'm not alone for too long!

Kirsty do you mean use ovulation date and go two weeks back? If it's only a few days difference I'd say it doesn't make much of a difference. The date you get at your 12 week scan is the official due date in the U.K. Lmp is a rougher estimate until you have that scan.

Does having a mc before lower or raise your chances of having a second one? Wish I could stop obsessing and enjoy this time but I can't seem to switch off!

I hate these miscarriage stats. Even at 30 yrs old with no prior history and already 6 + 4 I worry so, so much about something happening I also worry something has already happened and I don't know about it, despite having had no cramps or bleeding and nothing to suggest anytime untoward. Do you all worry too?

Loubella it is after 2 miscarriages that the odds of having another change, and very slightly. If you've only had one you will most likely have a successful pregnancy afterwards. I hear only 2% of women have two in row

Wanting I've literally been in tears today. I struggle with anxiety normally and this week has been hell. The stats do actually help me (they also did while I was TTC), as I like lots of information to feel more in control and to manage my expectations. I can understand why you might hate them though, and apologies if my links upset you (or anyone).

lou since I've not (yet, thankfully) experienced a mc, I skimmed the stats so wouldn't want to tell you for sure, but I think the answer is in the second link I posted maybe?

Socially yes I do... I'm sure you're right and it makes no difference, I won't get my first doc's appointment until 10 weeks here in Norway and right at this minute I'd prefer to be 3+6 rather than 3+4 as tomorrow I would wake up to 4+0. I know I'm being daft and the number means nothing, it's all in my head as usual! Good to hear what they do in the UK, thank you. I guess you get your first doc's appointment sooner in the UK?

Hi all
Can i tentatively join you ? Cant believe this but after 12 months of trying i finally got my bfp today ! My stats are
28
Bfp on cycle 12
Due date :25th of august

Just been to the gp had an appoitment to discuss infertility actually but i ended up getting the pregnant package ! Cant stop grinning and running to the toilet to check for spotting as i feel wet down there and have some cramping !
Still havent told dh as he is on christmas drinks a box is waiting for him when he comes home !

Welcome carlotta and loubella!

So sorry to everyone who is feeling so sick, really hope your bodies adjust and you're a bit better equipped to face life soon.

On miscarriage stats this was posted earlier up the thread, miscarriage rates certainly decrease as you get further on but there are other factors too.

expectingscience.com/2015/08/26/lies-damned-lies-and-miscarriage-statistics/

And finally thanks for all the thyroid links third and I do hope you get your new dosage quickly without another visit to gp. I have my blood test booked for the morning and as soon as I'm done will start taking an extra 25mg daily as a precaution (but didn't want to take before and show a false ok result if you see what I mean).

Ooh how weird, that was meant to post on the tube home and clearly didn't so now a bit behind

Kirsty in the U.K. you can see a GP whenever you want but they don't do much for the pregnancy. A booking appointment with a midwife is usually around 8-10 weeks. We don't see obstetricians in the U.K. unless we need to but they would rarely see you before the booking I think. I'll be seeing the obstetrician and midwife. My booking appointment has come through for 6 January but no word from the doctor yet. Some people here are booking early, private scans for themselves but the NHS scans are 12 weeks and 20 weeks unless there is a specific reason to scan earlier.

Welcome Nicky, what a lovely pre-Christmas surprise for you and your husband!

Hello lovely new ladies!

Yes oaty, I think you're right. I've seen somewhere that Self employed maternity allowance is calculated via NI payments. I was employed until March this year so hoping that it will all work out but we should definitely keep each other updated! I think even if you haven't contributed much NI you get a little bit.

Hello everyone waves I hope you don't mind me joining... I'm very new here...

I found out on my 29th birthday (4 days ago!) That I'm pg with my first. We are surprised but delighted! Due August 18th, felt fine aside from some morning nausea! Currently deciding whether to tell parents at Christmas or not, eek!!

It's so nice to be part of this wee community. Congrats to all of you

Hi ladies can I join? Found out a week ago after doing 18 tests (I know, slightly ridiculous) worked out my rough due date is 17 Aug. This is our second so doctor didn't ask me to come in just referred me straight to the hospital! My first will be 3 in April, think that is a nice gap. Congratulations to you all xx

Hi all,
I definitely feel like I'm going insane! Had mild cramps over the past couple of days, but not as bad as period pain, and been spotting for the past 3 or 4 days, but not as heavy as usual af - I'm just so worried about miscarrying :( it's bizarre that I've become so attached to my little bundle of cells in such a short space of time, I know that what will be will be, and if this baby is meant to hang on in there it will, but it's so difficult being in such uncharted territory.
Just want the next 6 1/2 weeks to pass really quickly so I can feel a bit more secure...
3wks+4 is such early days, I almost feel like I shouldn't let myself be so invested just yet...

I think my booking appointment is a bit early - I think I'll be 6 or 7 weeks depending on whether you adjust for my normal cycle length or not. But presumably the home birth assigned midwives aren't run off their feet and just fancied having me in earlier. Ha!

It's a new structure locally where this particular team looks after women for the whole of their pregnancy rather than just all the midwives doing home births - but they work alongside the rest of the community midwives so I'll see them when I go for appointments sometimes which is nice as they were lovely last time.

I'm not very good at keeping secrets, I have asked DH twice if he'd like a present early. And given another hint or two. But he's not biting, he likes surprises he says. Well he's blooming going to get one!

I feel like I'm walking around with an "I'm pregnant" grin on my face and he's completely oblivious. But presumably, it isn't quite that obvious. I hope the morning sickness doesn't kick in until after Wed and spoil it!

My thoughts are with you brainfried, I hope the spotting stops soon for peace of mind but it is common alongside cramps.

Today is a funny day for me- 6w and had my thyroid blood test this morning, both of which Were the same and also on a friday last time round. Only that same Friday was the start of heavy bleeding and a miscarriage. I suspect this is technically the most pregnant I've been (even though mc wasn't confirmed until second scan at 7w6 last time) which is exciting but I'm still not letting myself Think about it too much...

I hope everything turns out ok brainfried - when I was pregnant with DS I had bleeding at 7, 10 and 14 weeks and everything turned out to be fine.

I'm feeling very anxious this morning as I suddenly just don't feel pregnant. Up until yesterday I was having aches and cramps and my boobs were so sore but this morning all crampy sensations have gone and my boobs aren't sore either

I miscarried earlier this year 6 weeks and looking back I realised I barely had any symptoms and if it hadn't have been for the pisitivr HPT there would have been nothing to indicate I was pregnant and so I'm worried the same is happening again.

I'm 5+2 today so am hitting the miscarriage milestone of last time and I'm feeling nervous

writer I'm sorry you're feeling anxious. The last few days I've had no symptoms either. I'm 6 + 4. Worrying times but nothing we can do but hope.

kirsty no need to apologise for posting the stats! Fully appreciate some people find it helpful seeing the diminishing risk. I just feel 5% or whatever I am meant to be now is still so risky! Going to have to chill out

I still don't believe I'm pregnant at all despite no AF and 7 positive tests!

So sickness and nausea have kicked in big time. Worse than with my first already. I don't want to eat anything but if I don't I'm sick

What food is working for you? Last pregnancy it was all fresh berries and bananas etc but this time I can't stomach it. Dry cornflakes was ok and surprisingly cheese.

writer keeping fingers and toes crossed, I had the same lack of symptoms with my miscarriage, even a heartbeat scan didn't reassure me as I just didn't feel 'right'.

But them some ladies don't even know they're pregnant for weeks how I have no idea!

Belly I'm also going through it and it's horrid (first pregnancy). For me the only thing is brown toast with peanut butter or ready salted crisps. There isn't much else I can keep down and it's miserable!

Hi all

Decided to join and stop lurking (new to mumsnet too).

I'm 6+5 in my first pregnancy and reading through all these posts has made me feel so much better about how anxious/paranoid/slightly hypochondriac I've been so far

Had an early scan at 5+4 due to spotting and the sac/yolk all looked good. Have a follow up scan next Thursday and already anxious about that despite no indications to the negative. Can't seem to help it!

Christmas without booze has already been interesting - think we're going to tell family earlier than wanted (if next week goes ok) as its that or lie all Christmas about why I'm not drinking!!

I yearn for mulled wine....

Did you see a heartbeat, Choccyteapot?

I've got a scan next Tuesday and despite very best efforts to keep crazily busy I'm losing the plot a bit on the anxiety front.

Me too chocy teapot I am giving up lurking, I actually took a test a week ago and now realise there was a very faint line, I ignored it because I thought it was just wishful thinking after 1.5 years or trying....but tested again two days ago and I got a very dark line, so I purchased a clear blue just to be sure and it says 2-3 weeks pregnant although if I calculate on the basis of my last period I'm 6 weeks....baby number 1 so I'm super nervous / excited, I have booked in for the GP today as I'm taking medication so I want to get some clarity, no sickness but I have terrible dioreha.... :( so ladies what to expect in terms of gp support hear on out? Is there anything I need to do?