Due May 07 - W/C 11th Feb

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Morning all.............

This weeks resolution for me is to get off my bum and organise my life.

lmao........................ SOH you are on form this morning. Glad I'm here on my own, mum and dad would have thought I was nuts chester catting at a computer screen.

hang on i went for a bath and cae back yo u guys inventing a masterpiece idea a reall dadsnet or is there one!!!! how funny that would be new thread to DN 'jordan ok till she opens her mouth;

sounds stereotypical(oooh long word) but just been reading the dads room forumn - it is hilarious how accurate we are and they are not - read it for a giggle

Where is the dads room forum? Is it in the special needs section

didnt look that far into it lmao - i did a google search for dadsnet and it gave me the dads room on mumsnet not sure where exactly it is tho

dads room hope this link works

this ones better \link{http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=2440&off=0&tot=119/allthemensthreads}

ooops try again here

Oh dear God don't go in the Men's Room. The floor's all sticky for a start, the amount of scratching of bodily parts is beyond obscene and they all wee standing up. Last week a woman went in there and hasn't been seen alive since. My cat's still missing- I'm sure they're involved. Honestly ladies, the Men's Room is like that hideous piece of furniture in the corner of your living room that you can't throw away/burn because Auntie Maude gave it to you. Your best hope is to chuck a nice throw over it and pretend it isn't there.

FSF- 'I was refreshing it to save you the time'. Hmm, likely. Next it will be 'I was scrolling down to save your little lady fingers the effort'. Not long before we progress to 'shall I just read it for you' and 'I'll post instead, don't bother yourself dear.' He's wheedling his way in. I've read Germaine Greer, you don't have to put up with this. Just say no. Or burn your bra. Or don't shave your legs. Or... Erm... Wear dungarees.

Loving my new beard, it's ginger btw.

applauds SOH for cheering me up and being totally hilarious in a brilliant nutcase way!!!
on the note about missing women and cats - i have recently decided that dd and ds beakers have ran away with all the missing socks

just a thought SOH what colour is the missing cat - are you completly sure thats a fake beard??? that your wearing around your face??

Fake beard Laura? Fake?

This is me and the beard's completely genuine.

Aah one of life's great mysteries... where are all the pairs to my %^^$ing socks?

And nutcase? Moi? Pornographic pedant is the best I usually get. Going to get a name badge soon.

Although, once more with feeling, the porn was all Cinnamon and LG&T.

no offence but i think the beard would do the trick save on burning bras!! how do u get it to look so glossy and shiny ???

i missed all the porn awwwww

oh and BTW its in your name False !!!!

Glossy and shiny's easy. Olive oil and a moustache comb (oh god it's the porn all over again).

re porn chat you missed nothing! LG&T is a hussy and as a mere innocent I got caught in the crossfire.

Just checked DH's emails (sounds very suspect- was looking for responses to our lost cat notices) and lo and behold 'Thank you for registering with Mumsnet'.

You cannot hand ball off the porn like that my dear. We simply stoked the fire - you came out with all the gold

Hellloooo - Mr SOH. Your wiff is a very naughty librarian, but then hopefully you know that already

LOLLOLLOLLOL!

SOH, you've really made me laugh today! Beard or no beard, I do love reading your posts.

Hi All

I started off having a lovely day - mw rang and said I could go for my scan straight away - rushed around getting me and dd dressed we were still lying in bed in our pj's - baby is fine, found out its a little boy

Then it all went wrong - told my dp it was a boy and he is gutted - is saying he didnt want this pg feels pressured into it and we cant afford another baby, basically blamed me for our current financial situation, and said he wasnt happy with anything - needless to say I told him that if he didnt want this baby and he wasnt happy then the best thing was for him to leave and start a life where he would be happy - which he said he didnt want to do - needless to say I have been in tears all morning - I feel like he is blaming me for his current depressive state and our lack of money as I cant work while pg, I feel like I have been kicked in the gut and very alone, I did say all that mattered was that it was a happy healthy baby and he was having none of it - he did ring back and try to talk to me but I didnt want to talk was too busy crying, how can it go so wrong

Oh Lupins - I am so sorry
(((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))

What a horrible way for him to react. Is he fearful of having a boy? Did he particularly want a girl? Sounds like everything has come crashing in on him - just wish you didn't have to be there to deal with it. Not sure what else to say except thinking of you.

my dh went thru a bit of a thing like that with this PG and last hopefully for u he'll come round as did mune eventually - just found that i couldnt talk too much about baby things to him then when it came down to it he was fine.... he didnt want this one from the minute i told him i was pregnant thought was gna have a nitemare 9 months with him but told him either like it or F**k off basically he's fine with it all now tho.... (stick to your guns)

Was this reaction out of the blue? Was there any indication of what he was feeling about things?

Oh goodness me Lupins.

Have a huge (((((hug)))))

Take a deep breath. It is very common for men to react this way during pregnancy when they perceive there are financial difficulties. Is it possible that he has been storing this up and it's finding out the gender that has tipped him over the edge? I'm almost ashamed to admit it, but I desperately wanted a boy. When I found out I was having a girl I sat on the bus on my way home from the scan and I sobbed. I said some terrible things to DH in private about not wanting the pregnancy and it escalated and all of my fears came out (especially regarding money, my own ability to parent etc - FSF and LG&T very helpfully reassured me the night it all happened). I think sometimes people don't realise how much you hang onto an idea in your head regarding the gender and how disappointing it is to find out you are having the opposite (I hate myself for saying it). I think your DH is worried and concerned and has bottled it up for too long. What he said is horrible and unnecessary and of course you are upset.

You need to talk to him. Like it or not you're pregnant and he was very much involved in making you this way. He needs to be honest with you about why he is frightened (because he is).

And FWIW, I am now overjoyed to be having a girl and talking honestly and frankly with DH about all of my concerns made all of the difference.

Oh I wish I was near to you, I'd come and give you a huge hug and at least half of my chocolate.

Congratulations on your little healthy boy too. I'm sorry you're so sad, I know how hard pregnancy is for you.