Due in February 2017 - thread #9

[twocatsandatoddler]

New thread - hope everyone finds this! I'll try and post the link in the old thread if it will let us go over 1,000 posts.

Yes, well not actual milk- colostrum. A few days after the crying my nipples started tingling & I 'hand expressed' (gave them a bit of a squeeze) a few little drops. Hormones are such a bugger, especially when you're used to being in control. I don't think people really consider the hormonal changes that are going on when they think of a pregnant woman, they just think 'oh she's getting bigger'. For me, the hormones have by far the greater impact.

I don't read or watch the news anymore, all too depressing. I'd rather be ignorant of it all!

I suggest reading some good birth stories for all first timers, don't know about anyone else but all my friends who have children had bad experiences and made me worry like mad. Reading about some good experiences has helped a lot!

After the reading the news I've been crying for the past 2 hours as well - this is not the world I want for my son!

Fanella my DH said the same following the US election result. Being American I stayed up to watch but the tension and stress of it was giving me a rapid heartbeat and backache. I simply refuse the think about it right now as the stress can't be good for the baby. It's just devastating when you see your country reject not only your personal values but many of th basic principles and values it was founded on...

Luna I had a hormone surge a couple of weeks ago as well that left me crying uncontrollably for 2 days. It was triggered by something that without hormones would have been stressful but not worthy of that reaction. Just be kind to yourself!

Ready I think my colostrum came in this week too!

hibernating. If it's any comfort most of the people I know have had great births. Of course I know of a few bad ones but they are in the definite minority.

I feel 100% the same about the US election. Its as if a wave of immorality is sweeping the world just now. When waking up to a few inches of snow here today I started hoping that Aslan might appear and return the world to order!

london - my family lived in the US for quite a long time, and even though we left over a decade ago I am devastated to see this happen somewhere I called home, so I can only imagine how you feel!

Entered the dreaded 3rd trimester today and feel like I've gone back to the 1st! So tired, even though I slept 12 hours last night, and constantly hungry!

Also as a side note...god bless hot chocolate.

Thanks Rose and Fanella Because my husband and I are from different countries the rejection of multiculturalism and internationalism in both the UK and the US (our two home countries) feels particularly personal.

Curiosity when does the 3rd trimester officially start?

So after being off from my school for two weeks due to tiredness and not being able to cope with teaching, I had agreed to come back to just full fill basic duties (ie: just teaching) I just got asked by the maths coordinator to do a presentation to parents about expectations of my year in maths and progression etc. I'm only supply and paid till half four but this would mean working late. I don't want to do it. It's too much pressure. Am I being hormonal and silly or is this a violation of the terms I agreed to with the head?? I had a cry in my classroom after everyone left and feel like a child now.

SBS just say no. One of my colleagues is mostly working from home as she is in the 3rd trimester and she is a Managing Director. If you are only being paid for you in class hours, its way out of line to ask you do work in addition to this! Just explain that you are only being paid for core hours and that you have been struggling in late pregnancy and can't cope with any additional workload at the moment. Your physical and mental health are the most important.

Oh I wish that would work for me london (sounds like you need some time boundaries with your uncooperative boss too) but as you've agreed the terms in advance sparkles there's no reason why you should work late. Could you show some willing by offering some slides or something you have already, but say you definitely can't do the presentation?

SBS agree just say no, if maths coordinator has a problem with that they can go to the head or whatever, it's not your problem. Just have to be firm and polite and remember to let them fill the awkward silence iyswim. I hate confrontation at work and have found practising stock phrases with DH is really helpful. Then I don't have to come up with something on the spot I can just recite a phrase. Sounds a bit daft but it has really helped me deal with confrontation at work.

Should have said you should definitely be polite but also be firm.

London 28 weeks is the start of the 3rd trimester

Sparkles say no. I am getting very good at this. I leave at 4 as that is my agreement these days and I work the rest of the day from home. If someone wants a meeting at 4 I say no. I say no to whatever is not on my risk assessment. I think to myself "you are doing this for the bubba"

Thanks! I told the head I didn't want to do it and she said she didn't expect me to go it and that it was up to me as she didn't want me to feel left out of things. She was really really nice about it. I had mentioned before that I wasn't being told about decisions that affected me so I think she wanted to make sure I knew I was welcome to join in if I wanted. I am so pleased I cleared it up! God what a day!! I'm shattered now! Thanks for advice x

Ahhhh good stuff sparkles.
I am so tired too. 2 more days for the weekend, counting the minutes

Not long back from the hospital, bubba ok, got to hear the heartbeat. Pain across top of my bump and ribs is the diaphragm being pushed up! So painful, so been given painkillers. Just need to stop panicking about movements etc!!

sparkles glad u said no and got it sorted! You need to take it easy and do what's right for you 😘

Yay shell! not yay for the pain though
I am soooo tired when do we get to rest all the time?
My bump is wonky and people at work could see. He likes the right side apparently...

Ever my baby likes the left side! My bump is always lopsided especially in the mornings!

Is anyone else finding it difficult to eat? I have to eat so slowly these days not to feel sick. I think the baby must be crushing my stomach / intestines.

Also, anybody who likes Petit Bateau baby stuff, they have a 30% discount on the Autumn / Winter collection- today only.

Happy shopping!

Thanks for the code. I have too many clothes already though!
It is so quiet on this thread is everyone on facebook?

No problems eating London, apart from eating too much.
But so bloody tired!

Hi Ever, I suspect a lot of us are. If you can log into Facebook then we can add you to the Facebook site if you'd like to join my bump is lopsided too - my little one sits on the right!

I love Petit Bateau stuff. Thanks London!
Evergreen I think most of us are on FB. It's getting very chatty on there too. If you pm me the email address you used to join FB then I can add you if you want? We're not going away though if you'd rather stay on here.