Due in April 2007 - Keep this to yourself ...

[EllieKwithabigbump]

had a flash of inspiration from Katy!
and seeing as our usual topics are quite , seemed appropriate somehow

Oh and absolutely no staying visitors here!

Nutty it depends on your delivery how long you stay in. Some people go home that day I have always had to stay in for at least 3 days post delivery and I think that after a csection is 3 -5 days.
Maybe pack for a day or two then your dh can bring in anything else that you need.
Its always a good idea to pack a few carrier bags then your dh can take home washing etc and it wont overfill your bag.

SORPL - yeah I know that feeling well, in fact I am being kicked black and blue inside at the moment, I think he liked the ice cream I just had

flumppootle - good to know I won´t be alone here hanging on at the end...I hope!

Nutty - strangely I was really nervous about the birth when I was about 3 months pregnant and was reading all about it. Decided to have a really clear birth plan, wanted to avoid epidural if poss etc etc. Have barely given it much thought since except to scrap the birth plan, beg for the epidural and otherwise try to anticipate as little as possible!

Re. parents, I reckon it´s well worth sorting out what you want in advance so there´s no weird situations when you are feeling most sensitive. My mother announced she would stay with me for a month after the birth and she lives about 500metres away!! I said NO. WAY. She was offended but it blew over ages ago and I´m glad at least we got that conversation out of the way early on. My sisters will be over asap after the birth but luckily can stay with mum and dad so leaving us space and time as a new family. Good luck!!

Nutty - I am just going to tell them am going to feed - it is up to them where they go/what they do!!!

If I was in my own room would stay a few days but if on noisy ward would go home - it is torture listening to other babies cry!

Hi all. Hospital bags? Am planning to drop this one at home so hopefully won't need a hospital bag! If I do need to go in I'll plan to stay in for as short a time as possible - anything to avoid packing a bag! I guess I'd better get some bits and bobs together eventually, but really can't be arsed at the moment.

Nutty - I never bf'ed in front of dh's family - didn't feel right somehow . God knows why, as I did it everywhere else (middle of the park, yes whap those huge norks out, in a restaurant, yeah, out they come ). Still not sure I'd get them out in front of them this time. It used to really annoy me actually as I used to banish myself to another room to feed dd, when everyone else was sitting around chatting and drinking tea and staying put. I'd think to myself "I'm the one doing all the work here, you lot should all bugger off for a while and let me do this"....

CD - love the cake - will you attempt the fire engine? You must let us see the results.

Have knackered myself out trudging 'round the shops today. Got a few bits and bobs for the baby (muslins, bibs, bottles, bottle brush) and a few really exciting things for me (breast pads, nipple cream) - see I am really spoiling myself! Had to buy a bracelet that was calling to me as a consulation prize!

Better go and collect Emily from school - see you all later.

Hooray, caught up with all the chat! Have forgotten who's doing what, though . Brain is like a sieve at the moment!

My sister is back home now and her little boy is gorgeous. I'd frogotten how teeny newborns are, & all the funny little noises and movements they make. Can't wait to hold mine,now! She's doing really well but can't drive for 6 weeks after the section and lives in the middle of nowhere! Hopefully I can go down a few times to help. It's my middle sister's turn next, she's due in March...then me - eeek!

Have been a bit grumpy this week, I seem to have suddenly got very uncomfortable - am getting loads of rib & back pain & am only really comfortable on my hands & knees. Not looking forward to another 10 weeks of this TBH, thank goodness for Whinge-net!

have been wondering about Pesha too...hope all okay.

re. bf in front of dh´s family, for me it´s my first time and I imagine I will be nervous/ inept etc etc so my plan would be to just get up and go bf elsewhere when I need to if there are visitors around. Make it clear to dh that no one should follow you, that you need to be left to it for the first wee while?

Hiya Liath congratulations on your nephew

BF - I found that there was no quicker way to clear a room (esp ils) than to start fiddling with mammoth bra straps - LOL
Whatever you are comfortable with I would say. I was nervous and shy with dc1 but didn't give a monkeys by the time I had dc3 norks everywhere

One of the reasons (not soley though LOL) I gave up breastfeeding with my first was because we went to a wedding and at the reception it was quite smokey and I didn't know her family - so went in the disabled toilet to feed - it was filthy and had to balance on edge of dirty toilet half naked trying to get him to latch on - was truly hideous and will never forget - so if am going to breastfeed this time, it is going to be on my terms and where I want to do it! I have got a huggababy sling which should make it easier to do in public and a conveniently placed muslin! No more toilets, leaving the room or feeling embarrassed - its my way or the highway - then if I feel it isn't working for us still I know its not because of other people! Does that make sense?! am on a bit of a rant today!

good afternoon folks- what a beaut day out there! i have been out walking to and fro to meetings in glasgow this morning - doesnt everything seem better on a bright day?

just spent an age catching up with everything on here.
10 weeks- loved the nursery - has made me rethink my colour schemes! hope you are giving porridge a go - i have been taking it and depsite feeling like an old biddy - i think it gives me more enery!

dushess - intrigued by the itchy skin on elbows / knees comments - hmmmmmmmmm????

birdiebump how you feeling? taking it easy i hope?

SOPL - not a nice thing to have to "let someone go". glad you held it together tho'. MY last team always said i was a good boss but when they hear "can i have a word in my office plase?" - it sruck the fear into them!

1b3 - loved the thought of yr DTs waving to the delivery man!!

bugmum - i really felt for oyu in that post. we have tons of books as well - our flat looks like a library and we are changing the study into a nursery. we have both cried at some of the books we have had to get rid of / give to free share. normally dust doesnt bother me but when it does - i take a complete freaker. hope you are feeling better xo

eca, GMM and mammyjo - glad the cds arrived. enjoy! last night i lay in bed and listened to mine. dp came to bed - i didnt even hear him but i wasnt asleep! very chilled. he eventually succumbed as well. i have one more copied here if anyone wants it??
maveta - i spend most of my timeon the exercise ball - in the study . eating my dinner , watching tv. love it!

off to 2nd nct antenatal tonight. looking forward to it. rang hospital to ask about classes there. they have reduced it to 2 sessions for couple but were really trying ot get me to go to the afternoon classes - cant manage that with full time work and also want dp there. the woman just couldnt get it - "but why wont you come to those instead/ it would suit us much better"
i am getting excited at the thought of the baby but like nutygirl - the birth scares the heck out of me at times.

hope you are all well and

Ok I really tried to catch up but I can't remember a thing....

I'll give it a go anyway....

CD - Good luck with the fire engine truck, went on GMM's first link and it worked and gave instructions and recipe.... must post photos when you've done it!!

Laith - hiya and congrats to your sister!!! Feeling you on the sore ribs/back part...

Hosp bag - Not doing one this time as opting for homebirth. Last time I packed enough stuff for three days and left hosptial the same day as giving birth. I think my advice would be pack essencials enough for one day and leave the rest in one place so dp can bring them as and when (or if) you need them.

Looking forward to birth? - Labour?? NO!!! More like feeling very anxious and illprepared Don't have anything that I thought I would have by now and am feeling the panic.......

31+1weeks (or 8wks 6days left arrrrhhhhh )
xzx

argh - my mammoth post crossed with others.

staying visitors? we have had a few debates on this. i have no option with my family - 4 in a go! mum stresses me sometimes as she never ever sits down and relaxes so i get tense around her. will be laying down teh law on this visit tho'. wont have MIL to stay - alcholic who smokes like a chimney and had ignored my requests not to smoke around me already. she belives all her kids are fine and she smooked around them. SIL & partner have asked to stay the week after birth - ahem - NO! we are planning our babymoon - no visitors for 2 weeks. live on top floor of buidling - so - will just switch off door buzzer!

WO I would love a copy of the disc if you don´t mind posting to spain??

maveta - i would be delighted to!!
email me at L dot thompson773 at ntlworld dot com with your address and i will get it in the post to you. not sure what the others have thought of it - but hey - give it a go!
any other takers??

Hi all, i have sort of caught up, but i'm just too useless keep forgetting everthing and can't find a pen.

Bugmum- I am so with you one the whole sort of excited but then bursting inot tears with the state of our house.

glad that so many of oyu are getting all excited

I have a really big decision to make, it will sound like I am crazy to even have to think on this but................well yes I am crazy.

We have been offered a brand new house (which I haven't seen yet)
In Uffington near Oxford, but still in the middle of no where, miles from all friends and family.
It would be great to have a brand new house with all stamp and legal fee's paid. With no dust or buliding but the fact is it just seems too good to be true.

They are saying that we don't have to pay anything untill we sell this house, which is no where near finshed, still have a conservatory and 3rd bed room to build, plus doing front and back garden. Plus finish off all the other work, which is in pretty much every room.

Dh says that he will have it done by the time the DT's are 6 months, and as much as I wish that were true I just can't see it happening, if it does happen well it will most probably kill both of us as DH will be doing nearly all the work himself, which will leave him no time for us.

Also I can't work out why these people have offered it to us, DH has said that they have dropped a bollock on it and that to rectify this the house will need more work done on it before we move in, I am just worried that the work won't get done, and DH will end up doing it himself leaving no time for us and if the work doesn't get done we may end up with a house that we can't sell.

Sorry I'm going on I know, your all thinking is she mad take the new house but I just don't know.

And here is the best bit we have to decide by friday, so I'm off down there tomorrow to make a huge decision on something i am so unsure about.

Thanks for all the advice folks. Think I will sort out what I really need for a day in hospital and pack that and a bag for baby, then decide what size bag to take. Think DH would manage to bring in anything else I need.

With the bf issue, I don't want to have to leave the room to bf and don't really see why I should but on the other hand I don't really want in-laws staring & making suggestions about how I should be doing it. I remember shopping for a bra for under wedding dress when ILs were with me (DHs fault!) and FIL explaining my options to me .

Oh and meant to say 10weeks, I loved the nursery...made me v !

Wow 1B3 - big decision. I guess you'd better see the place before you think too much more about it. So are you saying you could move into the new place whilst you're still finishing off your current place?

I think the new place need some remodelling so won't be ready for a while, but I don't know all the details yet.
We can't really afford to do 2 places up as we don't have the time energy or money.

I will have to ask DH all the details of how things will work, either way it will mean doing some serious work on this house, I just don't know how we (I) will cope with DT's, DD and so much building work having to be so quickly.

1b3 - not really sure what to say but it seems like a huge decision to have to make in short space of time. u r going there 2morro? maybe wait and see what youreckon to the amount of work that will need to be done there. it seems lik laot to be balancing, even more so cause there wil be the 2 LO and dh doing alot of it all himself. sorry - i am not much use. i am the kind of person that just sometimes looks for the easy route throgh things. xox

Trust me WO I want to take the easy route through this one!

I Don't know weather I want to like this house or hate it.

Afternoon. WO, I have listened to the first part of the cd whilst waiting for ds to come out of school. I purposely didnt close my eyelids as instructed which is just as well as I reckon I would have drifted off!! Am hoping it works so well tonight! Havent got to the couples part yet. Thanks again for sending it to me.

I am feeling very very guilty for whinging about feeling crap. I was waiting for ds to come out of school. One of the other mums is 19 weeks pregnant and has found out that the baby has died. She is going into hospital within the next couple of days for them to induce her. This happened to someone else I knew too. Its so horrible and I felt guilty standing there with my big belly while she was in tears. I am sure she wasnt thinking anything bad about me (she is lovely) but I couldnt help feeling guilty for still having what she had lost IYSWIM. Makes you realise how lucky you are despite all the niggly pains and things.

Maveta, my lo definitely gets hiccups most days. At first I thought it was just continuous kicks but then realised it was a bit too rhythmic so have assumed its hiccups.

mammyjo-that really puts life into perspective, what a poor woman.

Forgot to say that I have also been reading the having inlaws to stay thread with much interest. My MIL is not my favourite person (nor my SIL) for that matter and the very thought of either of them crowding me soon after the birth sends shivers down my spine. My mum has told me she has booked 3 weeks leave around my due date. This fills me with horror too TBH. She did this with ds too and would just let herself into my house early in the morning to come and "help" regardless of whether I was actually still sleeping or showering etc. At one point when I was trying to get ds to latch on she came over and grabbed my nork. I recoiled from this and she didnt try it again. I get on well with her but we have never been that close and have never been a touchy family so that kind of contact was extemely uncomfortable for me. I didnt say anything last time but this time I will be ready to tell her when it gets too much. Not in a bad way but just so I dont end up resenting her like I did before. She has to feel she is "helping" but just cant leave things alone and it all gets a bit much for me to cope with at times!

1b3, it really does doesnt it. I was brought back to earth with a thud this afternoon and felt bloody grateful to be in the position I am.

1B3 - I would always be tempted by the easier option too - if you do move you've got all the dreaded packing / unpacking to deal with, something I'd be really tempted to avoid (although you can always pay someone to do this for you I guess). Is the new place a long way from where you are now? Would you be happy there? Nightmare dilemma really - I'd be tempted just to sit tight and not do anything until after the dts are born (but I'm a lazy cow ).